November 2012 - time for gender guessing?

[StuntNun]

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1. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1412456-Nov-12-babies
2. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1432039-Due-in-November-2012-part-deux-no-cringy-thread-name-here
3. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1438916-November-2012-Duebies-Part-3-insert-cheesy-name-of-choice-here
4. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1449640-November-2012-bring-on-the-second-trimester
5. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1460598-November-2012-the-boringly-named-fifth-thread

Evil - That does sound like a kick! :)

Ohhhh...... I want another one!
Evil

DD thinks its a boy.... Although she seems to think all children are boys as that's all she says first!!

Thanks stuntnun. .Interesting. . I have a lot to think about. Had a lovely day at a wedding yesterday.

I am 16 weeks and 5 days and I have been feeling kicks and wiggles for more than a week now, it's so exciting. It's not all the time, but just every now and then. This is my favorite part of pregnancy because it's all so exciting!!

Thanks to those who welcomed me:) I am getting impatient waiting for my scan, but I've started to feel some movement now which is reassuring! I must say I'm having a very easy pregnancy compared to how I was with DS. I'm a little tired and my feet are a bit puffy with the weather, other nthan that i'm having a great time and enjoying my pregnancy:) How are others coping with the heat? Stuntnun, whereabouts are you in Norn Iron? I'm in the North West.

Have just ordered a load of maternity linen/cotton trousers & t-shirts & vests. If there's 1 thing guaranteed to jinx the weather, its buying your summer wardrobe!! I figure, if it gets cold again, I can layer it up, & when we approach the autumn-winter stretch, I can use vests under my maternity shirts from first time around (which was almost exactly the opposite seasons rather typically!!!). Well, I can hope right??!!

I have laryngitis and so this is literally the biggest talk I will have today. My DS2 keeps asking where I have putr my voice as if it is hiding down the back of the sofa :-)

Rant time: why do shops put maternity clothes in the basement or on the top floor like we are lepers? DP's, topshop, new look - don't they understand we don't want to go up two or three sets of escalators or is this just Liverpool? Online shopping from now on.

Major bump so loving my normal maxi dresses. After two DS's I think this may be a DD as I have been a lot sicker but not a very scientific theory!

I am off to sit in the sun and sod the housework.

That's if they still have a maternity section - at Bluewater yesterday (I.e. one of the largest shopping centres in Europe) M&S & John Lewis have no maternity section, DP, Next & H&M are really poor, and Mothercare seems to think you have lost any sense of style or taste as soon as the bump appears!!! Rubbish. I hate online shopping though, cos I end up buying size 10 & 12 in everything just to see which ones fit, & having to send loads back...

Yeh I find a lot of shops don't even have a maternity section. I have had to buy some online because the choice on the high street was so poor.

What a beautiful day again today. DP is at work so I'm sitting in the back garden with ice cream and cold drinks watching the dog run around.

FuckerSnail (love that name btw) I'm in Ballyclare so having DC3 at the dreaded Antrim Area Hospital. I had a terrible time there with DS1 but not too awful for DS2. This time they're threatening to let me go home 4 hours afterwards FC so hopefully I won't have to put up with the bad food etc. this time.

Donna you have plenty of time to weigh up your options and make a decision. Elective section and VBAC both have their pros and cons, e.g. with the section you can plan for the date of birth, with a VBAC your recovery time is faster. I suggest you have a good look into the risk of uterine rupture as it's not as scary as it sounds. For one thing the risk isn't actually that much higher after a section. For another if a rupture does occur it's usually an opening of the scar which can sometimes be left to heal on its own. You also need to consider whether you may want to have any more children as you probably would be advised not to after three sections.

Absoloutely stuntnun thanks and yes because we would like more i am quite set on vbac. Butconsultant has scared hubby with talk of death from blood loss etc.worst case senario i know.

Adding to the maternity clothes rant, most shops don't even seem to have signs to their maternity section, you have to go looking for it. The woman in Brent Cross M&S said none of them stock any maternity in store now, only online. Helpful.

Just been swimming for the first time since last summer/autumn. Blimey. Only managed a few lengths and went completely light headed. Changed to slow lane but only managed a couple more. Usually do 20 in the medium lane with no prob. Felt a bit pathetic but better than not going at all I guess.

It is better than not going blonder. . Well done you. Ive got bump ache today i did so much dancing at wedding last night.

Hello ladies! How are we all today?

DD has just gone down for a nap so i'm chilling out, I am super super hungry today, thinking of baking some cookies! White choc chip american style.. Mmmmm.

As for maternity clothes, I haven't even thought about getting any yet, last time I didn't have any but will probably be bigger this time, and most likely buy stuff online instead of trawling round the shops in the heat

So glad I'm not the only one having clothing problems. I used to go shopping and suddenly realise I had wondered into the mat section - they were huge and there were loads of them. I can't find any in our town and when I went to the nearest city Next had 1 rail with 4 items on it!! What happened? I don't really know what I need wrt mat clothes (size, style etc) so really wanted to try some different things on before shopping online. grrr

Blonder I went swimming and was shattered so quickly it really made me think I must have got so unfit suddenly. I kept going (only once a week) and it has got better and I feel good once I've done it.

Evil that's so exciting. I can't wait till I start feeling movements. I've been trying to look out for them as my book says you might feel them now without realising but no sign so far.

I think I have a very strong baby in there!

I've just been sat here (a little hunched) with a full bladder and a full tummy, and suddenly started getting these kicks just under my boobs, so strong that it made them wobble slightly! DP put his hand on the area and felt it, and we could just see it too!
Is that crazy for 16 weeks? I am certain it was baby, what else could it have been?!

You are lucky Swiss if you didn't need maternity clothes. Even though I hadn't got much of a bump til nearly 20wks, I couldn't do up my normal work trousers quite early on with DD, and even earlier with this one. I normally have quite a slim waist, so maybe its the sudden change in shape. Having said that, I think my boobs have caught up bit now, so I look more like a slightly plump/curvy size 12-14 rather than a size 10-12 with a FAT stomach... Currently wearing a lot of my post-DD summer clothes, particularly those with low waists, or that can go 'under bump'.

Also, could be a very strong baby!!! To be honest, since having DD, I have had wind that has felt like baby kicks. I mean, I have not been pg but have put my hand on my tummy & felt 'limbs' fidgeting around. It can only be wind but stimulating those nerves that got used to feeling baby, as it were, & my brain interprets it that way. It's a bit bizarre!!!

Hope everyone is well. Apologies about the quick post.

Had a private gender scan today and we are having 2 little GIRLS!! So chuffed with my little ladies!

gardenpixies that is fantastic news!!! Congratulations!

Firstly congrats gardenpixie, how lovely!!
Next apologies in advance for coming on only to moan (again ) but on the recent vain of crappy behaviour by DH/DP's I have had a real day of it with mine. Anyone who doesnt feel like reading my mammoth moan feel free to skip!!
First off I was REALLY upset this morning to find that the large bin bag of my normal trousers which Id bagged up a week or so ago when I grew out of them and put them out for him to put up in the loft ( in the vain hope id fit them again next year) had actually been thrown away There was literally hundreds of £££ of clothes in there, from my skinny jeans in to smart trousers, shorts dungarees etc etc and some real faves which are irreplacable I think. I couldnt believe her could be so stupid and shows how much he listens to me as I told him what i was doing and asked him to put them up in the loft so how they got put out to the bins I just dont know. Gutted. As if THAT wasnt bad enough at least it was an accident but then rest of the whinge is a different matter. We are a second family, I have my 4 DD's who live with us, he has his 3 DS's who live with their Mum but come and stay every 3rd weekend (unusual I know but weekend are shared between us, Mum and Gparents) He has been very reluctant to tell them I am pregnant as he feels guilty about all kinds of stuff and was worried theyd feel pushed out and as if they were being replaced etc. All of which I understand but at 17 weeks my belly is rather large especially with it being no5 and we had quite a large disagreement this morning about his reluctance refusal to tell them as I have spent all weekend feeling really uncomfortable and self concious about my noticable bump and trying to hide it/suck it in without much success. I felt really put out about this and that he had been very inconsiderate of my feelings and also that he was being deluded if he though they would not notice, they are 11 and 7 FGS so unless they were completely blind or simple they surely must have noticed that since last month I looked like id swallowed a bowling ball!! Anyway words were said, he overuled me, my opinions and feelings on the matter sticking to his idea that he would tell them next time at 20 weeks. So I left in a huff to drop off eldest DD at dance rehersals only to get a txt from him saying, right told them, they took it well!!! [shock shock] I was fuming he had cut me out of the conversation and that I wasnt part of the telling, yet again he decided on something so major and went ahead with it without any discussion or joint decision. I txt him back saying, well thanks for including me, to which he replied I did what you wanted and thats still not good enough, I cant do anything right. But surely something as big as telling the kids and/or main family should be agreed on and shared not done without the other and more to the point - done in spite after an argument?? Im fuming and have ignored him all afternoon. He is feeling sorry for himself and thinks (probably correctly) that Im just being a hormonal cow Sorry for the rant but it seems its the season for DH's/DP's to behave like complete twats

Pixie Wow!!! Congratulations! Two little princesses to look forward to! :)

shanelle - Men can be arseholes, can't they?!
Firstly, I would be very pissed off if DP had done the same, and you have every right to be a 'hormonal cow' as he puts it!

I wouldn't back down over the clothes, he knew full well you wanted them put away and wether it was an accident or not he should be very sorry for that, as like you said there were 100's of pounds worth in there and now they're gone :( I think he'd feel the same if the shoe was on the other foot.

As for the kids knowing, they were going to find out sooner or later and I think it's unfair of him to have left you out (considering you're the one carrying his child) so he should apologise for that too, but if and when he does, I would just accept it and move on, as that argument could go on forever if you hold a grudge over it, and you have plenty of time to talk to the family about the new arrival by yourself. Don't let it get to you, as if he did do it out of spite, he'll want you to be upset by it and if you're not, it will probably make him realise it was quite a childish way to do it.
That's just the way i'd do it though, and also make sure he includes me in the future.

I do hope you manage to sort things out with him, as it's supposed to be a lovely time for you both to look forward to this baby that you've created together. It can be stressful and there will be arguments, but the sooner you (and the rest of us) can overcome them the better. The stress is not good for you or the baby, or the rest of the brood for that matter!

Don't worry Shanelle my DH was an absolute twat yesterday (couldn't be bothered to write it all out on my fone) but trust me, although we were both a little mistaken/at fault, his total overreaction, stubborness & general refusal to accept he may have been at least a little to blame left me fuming, so much so that at 2am, after DD woke me I spent an hr on the sofa fuming & crying in frustration & the unfairness of it all. I'm wrong, that's ok for him, he's wrong, I'm a hormonal cow. You are not alone (unfortunately)!!!

Lovely news gardenpixies :)

Congratulations pixie that's fab news

shanelle I think I'd feel a bit put out about that as well. I'm not surprised you are annoyed.

I have a few mat jeans and things from last time, but I struggled to fine decent jeans for when I have a proper bump - I tried a few pairs and spent the whole time hauling them up. Not looking forward to that stage this time, it was so annoying. I have bought a few longer tops to wear with leggings, but just normal sized one with a bit of stretch in them.

Congrats gardenpixies and shanelle and chunky hope DPs are now being suitably apologetic.

Really fed up of being hot today and I swear I am starting to waddle a bit already. Can't find my old maternity clothes anywhere (well, DH can't - they got put in the cellar and that's his domain) but also finding a real lack of stuff on the high street and not entirely sure what size to buy on-line cos of loosing a bit of weight. Someone reminded me the other day that Red Herring at Debenhams used to do some nice maternity stuff. Not sure if they still do, but might have to drag myself into nearest city to see.