Due in October 2012 - Part 5

[Kyyria]

Just starting us off on a new thread

Hello everyone!

bella your mental month is indeed mental - but the end is in sight at least!!

Scan went GREAT today!! Baby is definitely a boy and he was wriggling about like crazy. The sonographer thought I was a bit dense when I asked how she could tell it was a boy (ie I wanted her to show me on screen) and she said "ummm.... by the penis between his legs...."! So fab getting to see all his organs. He liked to pose with his hands by his face and grab his nose and mouth a lot!

And then I went to work only to be given half a dozen bags PACKED full of baby boy clothes from a colleague!!! Fantastic!! And then the power went off at work so I had to go home (although I am doing a bit of work from home this arvo)!

Had a reminder today though that things don't go well for everyone. At the hospital there was a girl (about same amount pregnant as me) and her partner in the ultrasound cubicle next to mine - they came out and she was bawling her eyes out, and her partner looked ashen. The hopsital's head ob/gyn consultant (I recognised him from pics), another doctor and sonographer took them away to another room. I didn't know what else to do when they walked past me except stare at my feet and bite my lip. She was clutching her belly with both her arms and openly sobbing. Poor poor couple, whatever news they had received had clearly turned their lives upside down :(

Zara congrats on your great scan and team blue. your story of the other couple set me blubbing - lordy this pregnancy malarky isn't a guaranteed joy, is it?

Don't worry londonlivvy I was crying as I typed it! Definitely reminded me that the universe/biology rolls the dice for you - and if you've got a happy healthy wriggly baby you've got to remind yourself how lucky you (we!) are.

Aside from being extremely happy about scan and all my new baby clothes, I have been thinking about that couple a lot today. :(

Lovely news on the scan Zara. The story about that other couple also set me off. Poor things. There by the grace of god go we. Or something like that. Also puts in perspective my news - yes something may go wrong, but it also may not and that sounds like more than that poor couple had to cling to.

Smiley still got everything crossed for you so hope you get to report back in soon.

Yay! Scan all fine, heart and face normal.
Baby still being shy but looks like probably a little girl..... am really pleased and excited but realised as she told us that actually, I really don't mind what we have so will be thrilled if on October 4th it's a little boy that pops out to meet us.
Poor, poor other couple. As you say, a reminder of how lucky we all are.

Great news smiley. I feel the same, don't mind at all if it's a boy or a girl. I've not found out yet though, just need to see if I have the strength not to crack at find out at 24 week scan....

Yay smiley, well done! I too wouldn't be bothered if a girl popped out... although I would wonder about the disappearance of the weiner I saw today....

Midget does your DP have a strong view on finding out the baby's sex?

Livvy so relieved all was well for you It's bloody scary at times this pregnancy business

Congrats to Zara and Smiley on happy scans :)

Also felt so sad for those poor people, made me cry :( It was the way you said about her holding her tummy with both arms, I just thought "That's exactly what you would do." Setting myself off again writing that :( I find I am always touching my tum now, resting a hand on it etc - it's funny how conscious you are that the bean is there.

BP down a bit today after 2 rather scary readings - relief. Have cancelled lots of plans over weekend to rest up though have family do - for my birthday. I will be 35. I am officially an 'older mum' :o

Happy birthday Angelico!!!

Thanks Zara :) It's tomorrow so I still have about 6 hours in my early thirties... :o

zara, smiley great news on your scans! Is that everyone now, or is anyone still waiting? Feeling tearful at the the thought of the couple at your hospital Zara.

We'll I'm sat at the airport about to head to Glasgow for another wedding. In laws will all be there and haven't seen them since I burst in to hormonal tired tears at BIL's engagement party a few weeks ago. At least we're staying at the hotel where the wedding is so I can go and crash if I need to!

Have a good weekend all x

I'm glad to read about all the healthy babies and nice scans, congratulations guys. So very sad about the couple at the hospital. I think we've all imagined being there.

Sleeping very badly and not even quite sure why. Bit achy at night but it's not that. Last three nights slept from about 11pm to 2am. Last night was awake from 12.30. I think it's probably just that that's making me feel so ropey. I got the shakes at work, palpitations and feeling faint, I ended up going home an hour early. I tried to eat more today and everything (I've been suspicious I've not been eating enough recently, I mean I eat 3 times a day but it's home cooked and probably quite low calorie, and I've gone completely off anything rich or sugary, and I don't snack really). Eating more didn't help at all, I just feel sort of sick-y. I think I might give up caffeine entirely (I only have 1-2 cups a day, but having palpitations most days now) Anyway I feel really useless and crap as all my mates at the hospital seem to be working this weekend, long hours hard jobs, so couldn't exactly expect any sympathy at work. I told my line manager I was going home but couldn't face telling any of my friends on the ward as they were all there till 9pm and rushing around like maniacs. I just slunk off feeling bad. Some days I feel like I can manage this pregnancy fine and other days I feel like everyone expects me to work as hard as everyone else and I just can't.

I'm supposed to be going to edinburgh early early tomorrow. train tickets cost a fortune so I can't really not go. train journeys are relaxing at least.

Skinny maternity jeans arrived from asos and fit nicely and made me feel better. They're probably a stupid buy as they fit nicely NOW and probably won't in 2 months but I just wanted something a bit more dressy, I spent my life in scrubs or pyjamas or jeans much too big for me and feel blah. I've bought a few maternity bits off ebay for like a quid each, it's been a bit hit and miss.

I feel awful and want hugs :( Boyfriend is normally wonderful but is totally distracted by the stupid football.

Hi squid, sending you big big hugs.
Hope you're feeling physically a bit better, sounds like you are being v sensible, but if you carry on feeling like this prob worth getting your bloods checked and making sure you're not anaemic.
Please try not to feel bad about work, pregnancy is not an illness (as so many people are fond of saying) but sometimes it really can feel like it! Would it help at all to think of yourself as doing two jobs - while everyone else is just busy doing their normal job you're doing that AND growing a baby in there. So no wonder sometimes it's a struggle.
Hope everyone has a lovely and not toooo tiring weekend. We have no special plans - bliss!

Here's a big HUG and squid - you did the right thing coming home, listening to the hints from your body is really important. Try to rest & enjoy train tomorrow. You do more than enough work - your friends aren't growing a whole new person at the same time so go easy on yourself. We think you're wonderful even if you sometimes don't. Now go kick your other half, football is NOT important when there's a pregnant lady needing a cuddle.
Happy birthday for tomorrow angelico. We need a cake icon with all these gemini birthdays!
So glad you're OK livvy and that scans went well smiley and zara. That other couple - oh my word, even reading it made me go faint and panicky. Will be giving this bump extra loves tonight.

Aw, so sad to hear about that couple, no one expects bad news at this stage, but I know I am still anxious about my next scan, and won't be able to relax until its over.. actually, I think a lifetime of worry begins the minuite we find out we are pregnant.......
Am hoping baby is ok tonight and not too traumatised by all the yelling I have just been doing at the footie.......what a game! But must remember I'm on meds for high bp Haha.
Glad to hear good news from scans.....please all keep your fingers crossed for 2 July for me :-)
Have a lovely weekend x

We saw the baby move from the outside this morning for the first time - not sure whether to feel freaked out, proud, awed, terrified or something else! Watching movements of your body that you are not causing is definitely an experience! Then I had a nobber moment and burnt my finger on the grill so DH had to take over and make the bacon sarnies. Doh.

Poor couple at the hospital - I've been lulled into a bit of a false sense of security I think, scans all fine, feeling movement, bump growing (no doubting that...) - it's easy to forget that things can still go wrong even at the stage. I was 24 weeks yesterday so the bay is now "viable" and has a 70% hcance of survival if it's born now. Amazing.

And the most awesome news of the week... our friends who have been TTC for 5 years, and who we were really worried about telling our news, and who we have been really careful not to talk too much about pregnancy around, and who have been a bit distant (so naturally, paranoid me decided they didn't want to be around us as it was too hard for them) - turns out they have been distant as they have been having IVF and it has worked but she has been feeling really rough, and they had their 12 week scan on Thursday and told us that evening. Totally stoked for them, and also (a bit selfishly) for us as we no longer feel like total shits for being the last of their childless friends to get pregnant. DH is very excited and said "it's made me feel less scared as I have a friend to be an expectant father with!" which is really sweet. I have been feeling really guilty about getting pregnant so easily when they couldn't, and I didn't realise how guilty until they told us and I couldn't stop crying with the relief at not feeling like a traitor anymore . And with lots of happiness for them, as well. She's due in December so we'll be on maternity leave together and it will all be lovely. Their failure to get pregnant was the one thing that stopped this pregnancy from being totally perfect, as we felt we couldn't talk about it too much publicly (eg Facebook) in case it made them feel awkward, and now that has gone it's like a weight has been lifted off.

God, what a ramble, sorry, . Off to be a bouncer at the Centenary Summer Fair now- it's my job to sit in a corridor while the tours of the school are running, to make sure no-one goes anywhere they shouldn't, or tries to stuff one of our netbooks into their pockets.

Have a nice weekend, pregnant ladies

Gah. this stage, baby and chance were what I meant to type there in the second paragraph. Has anyone else found that they make millions of typing mistakes now when they never used to?

Yomping there are some days I'm struggling to write my name! Also forgetting words and getting beginning of words mixed up with others.

Baby brain related moment of the day? Trying to blow dry my hair with a towel still wrapped around my head

Morning peeps :) I am officially an 'elderly primigravida' :o My mum thinks it's hilarious, keeps saying "Ha, ha, you're an elderly prim!" Still, lots of lovely flowers / chocs / gifts to soften the blow and dinner with family tonight (including my sister who is 32 weeks and apparently mahoosive, haven't seen her in a while as we live miles apart!)

Haggis hope the wedding is good - staying in the same hotel always makes it much easier to manage - good idea!

Squid Hope you have a lovely weekend and do go easy on yourself. Smiley is right, we are doing an extra job at the minute. I'm on the verge of getting signed off with BP if I can't get it to go down and stay down. The beans are more important now tbh - as nice BP taker lady told me, "You only get one chance with each baby so you have to take care of you both." Scary but true - so do what you need to do to look after yourself and the squidlet.

Thanks MrsConfusion - cake icon is a great idea :)

CWest hope your BP is getting sorted. Would be really interested to know what level you were at for them to start you on tablets - maybe you could PM me if you don't want to post here? Think if mine is still high in next 2 weeks they will look at going down that route. We have a mad family history of it and though I've never had it before think pregnancy might have been the straw to break the camel's back.

Yomping brill news about your friends - so happy! We have been in similar boat with one of my best friends and I'm completely in awe of her, how brave and dignified and caring she has been. Think they'll be going down that route soon and just keeping everything crossed for them. It does put it in perspective every time I feel shite with back ache etc.

Kyyria :o at the hairdrying fail :o If it's any consolation I still have my hair turban on - must actually go and dry it

Have a good weekend all x

Hi Angelico I was about 3 months when my bp went haywire, but to be fair, I think they only take more notice of it after 20 wks. I have a number of pre existing medical conditions which I think is why they put me on the meds so early on, and I've had to have bp checked weekly at the drs. However, its done its job, my bp has been fine since. Hope that helps x

Angelico. Happy birrthday!

Ps... Hair turbans are awesome!

Happy birthday Angelico! Hope you've had a lovely day today.
I was a grumpy cow first thing this morning - irritable and snappy w dh and dd for no good reason whatsoever. Knew I was doing it and felt guilty but just was horrid!
Had a lovely afternoon though and feeling better again now. Does anyone else have grumpy strops for no good reason! Am hoping it's just hormones!

Happy birthday Angelico. Smiley when not pregnant I am angelic bullshitter currently i am finding myself snapping more than usual and very impatient. -obviously never like that normally

Morning all! Lots of catching up reading there, and despite trying several times to remember who said what, i am not going to try to name all names as i am getting stupider by the day........

Angelico Happy Birthday yesterday!!! I too will be 35 in August and find it hilarious that I will be an 'older mum', still feel like an ill prepared kid!!!

Londonlivvy you have had a horrible time, but so relieved to hear all is healthy and normal, hopefully you are managing to take it easy and feel normal soon.

Zara that was awful for that poor couple, i think everyone has had same reaction of tears. I am so afraid that suddenly all will change and nearly afraid to think it, never mind say it. Poor poor couple.

Squid hope you are taking everyone's advice and listening to your body. No, you are not ill and there is no reason to not work, but you are doing a very precious task growing a little one and you must must do what is best for you and baby. To hell with anyone else's behaviour and what they did or do. You take care of you. X. (i am also convincing self to take own advice!!!!!!!)

Yomping I have had to have a little cry for your friends too! That is the most lovely wonderful and comforting news. Bless them, it is just fantastic, and makes us all realise how lucky we are! Took us about a year and had just started fertility referral process when found pregnant! So i cannot even begin to imagine, fantastic! And so happy you can be happy! I have not spoken to one of my lifelong friends since telling her my news. They married 2 years longer than us and no babies. Kept saying they not trying, but lack of contact and asking how I am, makes me think I have upset them....... Very difficult and I am struggling to know what to do.

And now I have drawn a blank as to who else to reply to! Husband tells me i am getting more forgetful every day, and i think I am fine.....!!!!! But hey, would rather be forgetful and a bit silly than nauseous, fatigued and crying!!!!! Oh the joys!

Oh and have made DHs year by giving him a Daddy fathers day card from baba. Could not have been more pleased! Shame he didnt think same on mothers day!!!!! (ooooh, below the belt!!!!!)

Very glad to report that i have felt pretty well all week, not too tired, not too tearful and reasonably ungrumpy! For now............. Oh but the indigestion is fun!

Very philosophical today, this seems.......

Happy Sunday all,

34, 23+1

Huffle, that is such a lovely idea, i think my bean is going to give a father's day card, too! Wow, lot's of catching up to do - exciting news about yomping's visible baby movements and your friend's pregnancy, scarey times for Londonlivvy, am glad you are ok, so sad about that couple at Zara's hospital, and poor squid not sleeping. I have had such a burst of energy this week, not sure if it's the 2nd trimester energy we're all supposed to have (where has is been for the last 10 weeks) or all the antenatal yoga i have started. I have found 2 teachers i'm really happy with, so plan to keep going 2 or 3 times a week. It's so nice to stretch and move out of habitual postures and have quiet time in a peaceful space to think giving energy and breath and light to the baby. Recommend it to all!