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foolserrand · 03/04/2012 08:57

ROLL UP, ROLL UP! STEP RIGHT THIS WAY!

The one where Trope has her baby, possibly the rest of us too!

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foolserrand · 04/04/2012 16:43

Anyone fancy offering suggestions on how to stop ds licking me. It's only me and its all the time. He doesn't quite understand some places are private either, so doesn't help. This is the only "naughty" thing he does but I may throttle him soon. It's at the point now where he licks and the instantly apologises. I suppose getting to 3 without having to really discipline him is fairly impressive but its left me buggered now.

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TroubleAndFyfe · 04/04/2012 18:03

fools this is my field, I suggest:

Explaining to him that sorry means you'll try your hardest not to do it again, many children don't realise that and think it's just something you say after you've been naughty.
Intercept the licks with something more appropriate to redirect him eg. High five! Make a big fuss about this but ignore when he licks as even negative attention is attention and can be quite pleasing.
give lots of praise when he makes appropriate contact "good boy hugging mummy!" - label what it is you like, rather than just saying well done.
gradually eliminate the licking by counting how many tones in a day he does it eg. 10 then making a reward chart where in week one he gets a token every day that he manages less than 10 licks and reducing this bit by bit with daily or weekly prizes.
tell DH in front of DS what he has done that is great "guess what DH, DS hugged mummy today instead of licking her, how clever/grown up/cool?"

Obviously I don't know him or enough about the behaviour and when/why it presents so some of those may not be at all suitable...not suggesting you do them all.

TroubleAndFyfe · 04/04/2012 18:04

Times not tones

TroubleAndFyfe · 04/04/2012 18:05

Eh? Where'd the come from? Wasn't me!

aBundanceOfTime · 04/04/2012 18:16

< BONG! >

Trope got kick arse and threatened to either go home or to a different hospital so they came to a compromise; she's now in a private room on the post natal ward and will have access to the birthing pool when it's available (which it hasn't been so far today).
They've apologised for not discussing plans with her and for the inconsistency between shifts and have promised to do better. Fingers crossed they mean it!

They're going to reassess her tomorrow morning "and no doubt we'll start the whole "let's break your waters/do a section" nonsense again, but I'll cross that bridge then!".

She's understandably been very emotional today but is feeling better than she was. And she says "Thanks for all the support"

Contractions picking up again so looking good for a positive evening ahead

Thanks for stopping by :-P

aBundanceOfTime · 04/04/2012 18:20

Great advice Trouble! Much better than I was going to provide! I'll stick to my new day job news reporter extraordinaire

foolserrand · 04/04/2012 19:26

Thanks Trouble! Slight crossed wires though, by he only licks me, I mean he doesn't lick anyone else. I do get lots of hugs and kisses too. So, what did you do before Fyfe?

Poor Trope. If you're reading this, you are doing great. Well done for standing your ground. It may be hard now, but will be so worth it long term. At least you've got a lovely private room, post natal would make it peaceful, right? No screaming banshees?

Bun, I'm going to get you more sign offs!

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TroubleAndFyfe · 04/04/2012 19:27

Think you and I may have similar backgrounds though bun...

TroubleAndFyfe · 04/04/2012 19:30

No, understood fools! Just mean praise when you get the other behaviours and ignore the licks! I've supported and managed services for people on the autism spectrum for 16 years, autism friendly approaches work for anyone though particularly those under 5!

foolserrand · 04/04/2012 20:08

Ah! Will definitely give it a whirl. Used similar methods to train the dogs! Thanks, Trouble.

Who is on draw something? I need an opponent but I kinda suck. A lot.

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TroubleAndFyfe · 04/04/2012 20:13

Yes, me too re dogs, not so different!
What's draw something? Where do I find it? I have lots of time during feeds!

aBundanceOfTime · 04/04/2012 20:14

Really Trouble? How so?

Fools not on it I'm afraid, don't have a smart phone, love the look of that game though!

aBundanceOfTime · 04/04/2012 20:16

Xposts with you Trouble, meant how so wrt backgrounds

Draw Something is an app for the iPhone or Android phones (I think) bit like Pictionary

elliebug · 04/04/2012 20:18

Agh, can't keep up with you all!!! And I can't remember who said what!
Kayzr good luck tomorrow enjoy,

I'm on draw something!! Not very good either you all have some lovely baby names my girls name was Heidi (not told anyone else) but as baby is a boy bit stuck now! Btw if anyone else wants to borrow feel free none of this own a name nonsense here ummm what else, oh yeah, April 6 8lb 5oz
My friends children used to give licks kisses where they'd come to give you a kiss and stick their tounge out so you kissed that! Lovely!
I'm having a bit of a panic about what you do with boy bits, ie how do you keep them clean etc, OH was circumcised as a child so doesn't really know either (he will kill me if he ever reads this) any tips?! Sorry if I forgot anyone

elliebug · 04/04/2012 20:19

Omg, how many posts did you guys do while I wrote 1!!!!!!

TroubleAndFyfe · 04/04/2012 20:41

You said you had a care background once bun.
Thanks re draw something I'll have a look (will be rubbish too I'm sure!)
ellie, my cousin is called Heidi, nice choice. Boys names are harder I think! Re boys bits bun, kayzr and davina will be better placed to say but from what I've read you don't have to do anything until they are about 4 as the foreskin is very tight until then. You shouldn't pull it back to clean them. By the time it is loose enough you teach them to do it themselves so nothing to be worried about!

TroubleAndFyfe · 04/04/2012 20:41

Ooh, and fools!

foolserrand · 04/04/2012 20:48

Boy bits are easy! Don't worry. Heidi is a stunning name!

Draw something is indeed a smart phone game. I drew a furby for one unlucky person! Anyone wanting to play me, I'll pm you my user name.

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foolserrand · 04/04/2012 20:59

Just realised how less than helpful I was then. Sorry, ellie! Lucky Trouble came through.

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MammaInTheMaking · 04/04/2012 21:04

I'm on draw something! My name is PUNKY POD so come and find me!!

TroubleAndFyfe · 04/04/2012 21:05

I'll play you as soon as my phone stops telling me it can't connect to the app store

elliebug · 04/04/2012 21:22

Punky pod, I've drawn for you!!
fools when his little willy drops off from lack of maternal care I shall remember your words of wisdom my nickname is Ellie s so original!!

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elliebug · 04/04/2012 21:27

I lie, my username is elliesbabybug

ghosteditor · 04/04/2012 21:44

My boys name list had Henry, Theo, Miles, Jacob, and Max.

Other little boys I know right now - Rupert, Teddie, Freddie, Oscar, Cosmo, Tomas, and Leo. Anything there?

elliebug · 04/04/2012 22:00

I have just sobbed through OBEM
We have a bunny called Henry I like Jacob, trouble is working with kids means lots of names have bad associations. I love William but it just can't be!!

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