re car seat, is it £80 for the car seat, or £80 for the car seat plus the base for fitting it into your car. If the latter then thats a bargain. How long has it been used by your friend, one child or more, did they buy it new, and has it been in any car that has had an accident would be the things i would want to know. The recommendations are not to buy second hand as it could have been in an accident and not be safe for protecting your baby but they are good friends of yours and you can trust them then i don't see it being any different to us having bought one from new for DS, and now planning to reuse it for DC2 when he/she arrives in Sept.
I had what they said was spd in first pregnancy, apparently now everything here is just classed as pelvic pain, which covers anything to do with back or pelvis and includes spd, pgp etc. i think having spoken to physio people, i actually had more than just spd last time. From fairly early on i had major discomfort and sometimes pain when sitting down on hard chairs, floors, garden furniture, or sitting for any length of time, such as long car journeys, and as well as pain, would completely seize up and be unable to move. Had to take a cushion with me if we ever went out, so didn't go out much!! This never went after the birth and happening even more now pregnant again. I also had spd but that didn't start till much later on in the pregnancy. Went out one night, went to get up from a table at the end of a meal, and felt the worst pain i've ever felt, felt like my right leg was going to buckle and couldn't put any weight on it and couldn't walk. Happened a few times, and its to do with opening my leg too far. SPD went straight after birth. But it seems to be back, and basically now have what varies between very bad discomfort to a hell of a lot of pain, in my groin, top of thigh under my bum, my bum, my lower back. Drove last week for 2 hours on the thurs, then 30 mins fri morning, then 3 hours sat in a meeting and i was stuck on the chair, couldn't adjust position and it hurt like hell when i eventually got up, then another 30 mins drive, then another 2 hours drive home, and i couldn't get out of the car when i got back. The woman i saw basically said that the tubigrip is meant to help your body support your weight, and do what your pelvis is meant to, which takes the pressure off a bit. I was already trying to do a lot of the things they've now suggested, like a pillow between my legs at night, lying down in the day if it gets bad to relieve the pressure etc but the tubigrip should help a lot they think. They have said that as bump gets bigger, they can give me a support belt, but they don't want to give me one yet as there is nothing else they can do after that other than physio sessions which they've referred me for anyhow.
If i have learned one thing from this, it is that it would have been much better if i'd sought help in my first pregnancy as it can cause lasting damage and means it is more likely it will happen in future pregnancies and happen earlier. She said it wouldn't be as bad now if i'd got help last time. So if anyone else gets any discomfort/pain, please speak to your miwives about it as it is really taking the enjoyment out of this pregnancy, and its starting to affect what i can do with my DS.