PESH - 3 years of hard won baybees for the over-30's

[AlpinePony]

This is NOT a list:

BESH BAYBEES

dontrythisathome, girl born March 25 2010.
Cheggers, twinz girlz, born April 2010.
FannyPriceless, boy, born June 8 2010.
CurlyCasper, girl, born June 24 2010.
CUNextTuesday, boy, born June 29 2010.
AlpinePony, boy, born 1 July 2010.
Carrots, boy, born July 2010.
IggyPiggy, girl, born July 2010.
Cosmosis, boy, born Sept 5 2010.
Backinthebox, boy, born Sept 7 2010.
Skatergrrrl, girl, born Sept 10 2010.
VAG, boy, born Oct 2 2010.
Silversky, boy, born Nov 1 2010.
SomethingSuitablyWitty, girl born Nov 2 2010.
Honeymoo, boy, born Nov 11 2010.
okiecokie, girl, born Nov 12 2010.
ReginaMonologue, boy, born Nov 13 2010.
Lightspaperstandback, boy, born Nov 14 2010.
Maswera, boy, born Dec 24 2010.
PollyPoo, girl, born Jan 5 2011.
MrsFC, boy, born Jan 7 2011.
ChoChoSan, girl, born 6 Feb 2011.
Ginhag, boy born 11 Feb 2011.
Muser, girl, born 15 Feb 2011.
CluckyKate, boy, born 18 Feb 2011.
Perfect Dromedary, boy, born 23rd February 2011.
Casserole, girl, born 19th March 2011.
Medee, girl, born 26th March 2011.
StiffyByng, girl, born 17th May 2011.
Scorpette, boy, born 21st May 2011.
Rocketleaf, girl, born 23rd May 2011.
TwinkleToes, girl, born 7th June 2011.
Laurielou, boy, born 9th June 2011.
Orchid, girl, born 24th June 2011.
Ginfox, loving the new mega-boobs, due 12th July.
LadyGoneGaga, girl, born 24 July 2011.
Mrbitey, boy, born 29th July 2011.
Macaroonmum, boy, born 28th July 2011.
Owlbooty, boy, born 18th August 2011.
Ocarina, girl, born 6th September 2011.
Mountie, boy, born 27th August 2011.
Truffkin, boy, born 25th November 2011.
Islegrin, boy, born 14th December 2011.

UPDIFFED

BarbiesBeaver, can't quite believe it, due Christmas Day
BrownB, Baybee passport-grabbing bitch, due 22nd January 2012
AlpinePony, Greedy Double-Esh Baybee Boy Grabbing Bitch, due 19th Feb 2012
Rollerbaby, No pink here, expecting boy due March 20th 2012
KitandKat, third time lucky baybee, due 12th April 2012
IveBeenExpectingYou (CockDodger), A very active baby girl, due March 28th 2012
Silver, hoping for an easier sneeze, due mid-July 2012
Starryeyedmole, regretting recently investing in scales

And we're all on beaver watch in time for xmas!

Dor, I know what you mean about the sex, I will be happy with either but I wanted to know for the same reason.

I am 24 weeks today (Tues). Officially viable - only a small chance and I certainly don't want the baby to come yet but it feels like a significant milestone achieved. It's grown loads in the last week and is so lively!

blonde - did you get what you hoped for?

Oh a completely different subject, and this may be TMI, is any one finding the sex thing (as in not the gender bit) a bit odd? Having gone from shagging every other day we are now down to next to nothing. I think the concerns about all the bleeding I had in early pregnancy really worried me and I stopped any ideas of sex. Now, I am thinking it would be quite nice evry now and then but The Mister seems reluctant, and a bit worried about doing it!

I don't want to go 9 months without having sex but I don't want to jeoparise this pregnancy either!

Same here Dor... In fact embarrassing confession time, I haven't been able to do the sechs. At all. We tried but I just panicked. It's not for lack of libido but I think I too got freaked out by the early bleeding. It's not really very ideal.

ps we decided not to tell anyone the sex of the baby as TBI wants to announce it at the birth. I wouldn't mind telling you guys but having not even told my mum I feel like I had better keep schtum... Hope that's not too annoying. But I did feel very guilty about having a preference and denied it as I felt very lucky to be pg at all. But you can't help your instincts I guess. And of course I knew either way I would love and adore it, just... there was this little edge to it.

No that makes sense. I was just wondering whether you did feel disappointed in the end of whether you just felt relieved that the baby was healthy and everything was ok.

Glad it is not just me with the sex thing!

The weird thing I found about the baby sex thing (as opposed to the actual sechs thing!) is that until the 20 week scan, two babies existed in my head with equal possibility. Two sets of names, two little faces (of course they wouldn't look like we think, but you can't help having a little picture). And then afterwards, only one did.

I hesitate writing that, especially on this thread, as I don't want anyone to think I am comparing it to actually losing a baby. Of course that's not it at all. But of the two babies you'd imagined, one of them isn't it. And I still wake up and think about the one that it isn't sometimes. But that doesn't dilute my love or excitement for the one it is - just as having a second child wouldn't make me love the first one any less.

Anyway I hope that's come across how I meant it and makes a little sense.

ps I also completely forgot about that in the scan until the sonographer asked if we wanted to know, it really was about it being healthy, 100%.

No that makes sense. I am quite relieved that I am not a complete oddity. I did feel guilty for having any preference at all but I guess I am just trying to be honest about it and to acknowledge that those feelings are real. I am quite sure it will all be fine though :)

I did too, so thank you for being honest. Or else we are both oddities...

LP she sounds delightful I guess you could just tell the ones you want to tell, and then let nature/gossip take its course...

Regarding finding out, I know exactly what you mean about 'losing' one possibility blonde. I felt so strange and deflated after the scan, although I was not disappointed (we are having a boy, I am possibly in the minority of women in that I've always pictured having a boy rather than girl, but I didn't really care that much). But it also did feel as if something had been 'taken away from me'. The feeling didn't last long though, and now I just can't wait to meet him.

Also, to a certain extend the 20 week scan is the last big 'thing' you have to get through, after that it's just all about the growing, so there was also this sense of 'yay, thank god all is well, we're really having a baby! Oh, wait, there is still 5 months to go...'.

And about sechsing -yep, I'm with you there. We've done it maybe 5-6 times since finding out. I'd like to do it more, but I just freak out, and can't relax as much...

I'm terrified to have the sechs - but I'm hoping that once we get into the 2nd trimester I'll feel more confident. In the meanwhile, so that we have some form of a sechs life, I've tried to be good about...ummm...servicing TOM

Dory I was thinking about a sad, baybee-longing-filled little PM exchange we had last year and I'm feeling lucky that we're both where we are now.

I know LP. I feel very lucky. Even though I keep worrying about everything. Today I am worried about the fact I have pelvic and hip pain which is also giving me backache. I am hoping it is nothing serious.

Hoping it's just run-of-the-mill pelvic and hip pain Dor, and that it won't escalate into something serious. I've got it too, if that helps -occasionally I worry about it, but then it seems to get better, and then it gets a bit worse, and then back again.
My ante-natal yoga teacher basically says it's something you just have to accept, but if it becomes debilitating, speak to your doctor. She also says to move your legs around (in and out of cars, in bed, etc.) 'as if you're wearing a pencil skirt -knees together'. And sleep on your side with a pillow between your legs.

This week feels like it's been loooong! I'm finding it increasingly hard to concentrate at work, and sitting down for 8 hours ever day (office job) is not that great. I might get one of those balls to sit on. But then I feel like a wimp -I'm only 26 weeks -if I'm like this now, what will it be like in a month or two...

My sister gave me one of those Dream Genii pillows which seems to be helping. Also I have been doing a bit more swimming which helps a bit.

I am knackered this week. Could happily sleep for England.

I've been umming and ahing about getting a DG, your recommendation might just clinch it Dor. Feel like an old lady getting out of bed!

I had an appt with an anaesthetist yesterday, he did an ultrasound (sadly just of my back, no baby viewing) so they would be prepared if I need an epidural. Was expecting to be weighed and feel horrible ("we're gonna need a big needle for this one") but yet again my expectations were confounded and he couldn't have been more reassuring and helpful. Gawd bless the NHS.

I want a Dream Genii!

Glad you had such a good NHS experience Blondie - I'm a big fan, too. Especially with all the extra early pg monitoring I've been receiving. I really feel well taken care of.

Only 6 more sleeps til our nuchal dating scan...thank goodness I'm going to be quite busy between now and then. Even have our mw booking in appoint on Monday, which is my only 'free' day.

Just realised this morning that we're in the final two weeks of the first trimester Bring on trimester 2!

Hope everyone is having a lovely Friday.

I have the theraline pillow -it's pretty good, but a bit bulky to sleep with. Think the Dream Genii might have been better, but hoping it will come be good for breastfeeding.

So happy the weekend is here! Things are dragging at work. Yay for trimester 2 LP! :) I'll be hitting trimester 3 this Sunday waaah!!

I've ordered the DG - £35 from the NCT Shop website, still an awful lot for a bloody pillow but cheaper than it could have been and hopefully it will help at night.

Congrats Cakey on reaching the 3rd trimester! It does definitely start to go faster, doesn't it. Lots of exciting landmarks approaching for us all.

Hope your booking appt goes well tomorrow LP. I really have been amazed by how wonderful our experiences have been so far, I expected to feel like I was on a production line at best or be harangued about age/weight etc at worst so I have been overwhelmed at how positive and personal it has all felt. I'll never forget the nurse crying at our early 8wk scan after a bleed as she said it was "the first good news they'd had all day".

Morning all,

Hope the booking appointment goes well LP - if I remember right, it's a lot of questions about your health, and then they pretty much empty one of your arms of blood possibly a small exaggeration

I've also had a really positive experience with the nhs treatment so far -everyone's been great. I suppose we're more likely to hear the scare stories than the normal, good, happy stories though...

One more week of work, and then next week I'm off on a 'last little holiday as a twosome' trip :)

I am due for my 20 week scan and I am starting my menkulling early. Currently I am worrying because I am not feeling any movement yet and it is worrying me! :(

Try not to worry Dor -the normal time period for feeling first movements is something like week 18-22 -so you're still totally within that. Also -not meaning this to be in any way offensive -you've mentioned before that you're a bit overweight -ladies with more padding tend to feel movements a bit later. There's a little bit about it on the here.
When is your scan? You won't really be able to avoid the menkul (I certainly am not), but try to remember the heartbeat you heard a few weeks back! Chances really are that everything is fine.

I had a feeling that my weight might play a part in me taking longer to feel it. It's just frustrating and I am impatient!

Hey Dor, exciting that your 20 week scan is coming round.

When I first felt the baby, it wasn't so much kicks but a slightly squirmy or bubbly feeling that was quite difficult to distinguish from, er, wind.

I could start to feel it more if I was lying on my back, propped up a bit.

I am sure you'll start to feel it but at first it can be hard to tell. Then you get to spend the next twenty weeks prodding your tummy if it hasn't kicked for twenty minutes. Joy!

I am 25 weeks today. Can't quite believe it.

25 weeks! Do you feel well?

We will be going camping when I am 25 weeks pregnant. I hope I feel ok!

Yay 25 weeks Blondie!
Yay 20 weeks Dory!

Have returned from a very very long weekend at the inlaws. Normally it's all luffly between us but I was feeling ver ver grumpy and grimly nauseous (they don't know we're diffed yet). It was a bit funny though after the fact that MIL proceeded to serve no-no foods (that aren't normally on her menus) at every meal! Seriously. We arrived and she'd laid out the largest slab of Brie I've ever seen , then in the morning there were soft boiled eggs for breakfast , parma ham and melon for lunch AND shellfish for dinner

TOM says that we'll have fun pointing out the weekend eating to her when we announce

Only 2 more sleeps to our dating scan!

I have definitely eaten soft-boiled eggs, ham and melon all the way through this pregnancy!