Twins Club 3!! All welcome :-)

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Hello to everyone expecting twins!
Join us here for some mutual reassurance

MrsStevo, #1 & 2, EDD 23/08/2011, Lincs, MCDA ID,
Tiggersreturn #2+3 EDD 26/09/11 NW London DCDA - not finding out
silverangel #1+2 Sophie, 3lb3 & Alice3lb1 born at 31+2 on 01/08/11 EMCS
PrincessScrumpy #2 & 3, girls
BB3, #2&3 (#1 DS) DCDA girls born 20.09.11 by EMCS at 37 weeks exactly - Edith-May 5lb 11.5oz and Ayse-Rose 6lb 1oz.

PeelingmyselfofftheCeiling #1+2 EDD, DCDA, Boy and Girl, Born 14 Sept
Twinnerves, DCDA, #2&3, girls Francesca and Isabella, born 18/11/11 EMCS 6lbs 6 oz and 6lbs 9.5oz
xkatyx , ID girls, DC 8,5,9months, EDD 21/12/11
Quempin #1&2 EDD 27/1/12, ID surprise
Ravenlocks DCDA, #1&2, EDD 28/01/12
Tabbycatt, DCDA, 2 boys, DC 2 & 3, EDD 30/1/12
Claireinmodena DCDA, Boy & Girl, DC 3 & 4 (!!), EDD 23/02/12
Dreamfeeder, DCDA, DC 2 & 3, EDD 12/4/12
BigBoobsAtLast, MCDA, DC 2&3 EDD
CarrieInAnotherTWOBabiTWINS DCDA DC 2&3, EDD 28/06/12
Caesnake, DCDA, DC 2&3, EDD

Hi all

Dream - how's dd? Doesn't sound like post mmr side effects to me in fact it sounds a lot like ds before he was admitted to hospital with a chest infection that developed into bronchitis and needed 48 hour oxygen support. It's really not my place to say this but I think she does need to be seen again and given something to help fight it as I don't think her little body isn't strong enough to fight all the bugs off on her own. This winter has been awful for viruses and they just won't go away (Karahan is still very bad with his) - it has taken adults to their beds for days so these poor kids must be having a hell of a time! I hope she's managing to sleep and her temperature has come down. Are you managing to get any rest? I know there's not much you can do but you will need your strength for the last stages of pg! (. 27 weeks?! Can't believe that - It has come round so quickly (not to you I'm sure) you really are in the last stretch now!

Standing on you head? Crikey the size I was I would have toppled over!

Claire - panic (along with pain, tiredness and general fed upness) is completely normal x please don't worry - Cs (for me) was a dream, and once your babies arrive you'll cope just fine. Yes there's times they're both screaming and you want to rip your hair out and yes it's hard but you'll have two gorgeous little ones asleep in your arms and it's the best feeling ever. And you have two pretty fabulous girls already who I'm sure will be a great help x

Right. Must. Sleep.

Night ladies xxxx

Sorry is able to cope, not isn't able! It's clearly too early for me x

And I've just demonstrated that again - take out 'able' and replace with 'strong'.

I think baby brain is worse with twins...

Morning everyone. Dream, please update us on your DD. Poor thing. And poor you. It is hard enough when they are poorly if you are feeling 100%, let alone when you are so tired and feeling rubbush yourself. Let us know how she is today. May be she has had something that she has been fighting all this time and now it has come to a head as it were - lets hope this is the final stage of her poorliness before being back to her usual self. This is a rubbish time of year for illnesses and you are right, things doing always seem to get better as we move in to spring.

BB3, having the time and nbergy to post on here is a good sign for the rest of us, and I think we can forgive (didn't even notice!) the spelling mistake! Sounds like you are really enjoying your babies, even though mega-tired etc etc!

I join you everyone else on the panic front Claire. Worried about coping with two (although like you dream, whenever I get the standard reaction from people which is 'poor you', 'oh dear', 'you will have your work cut out' etc etc I reply all sunshine-y saying oh it will be fine I am not worried - but I am !) as well as DD, what a CS will be like and what the recovery will be like - the thought of not even being able to bend down to the floor to change a nappy fills me with frustration already. And my current major worry is money. We are not skint and are lucky in many ways in that we have a big-enough car and a big-enough house, but by the end of the month we always have ZERO left! And my pay will obviously go down, we will still have nursery to pay for for DD, and then when I go back to work we will have THREE lots of nursery fees to pay for - which means nearly all my wage will go on nursery fees and we will have to live on DH's wage alone for everything else. PANIC! I keep burying my head in the sand about it but I really need to look at some figures and think of options (interest only mortgager for a couple of years is one thought...??). And I need to look in to tax credits but I find it all rather confusing (and I work in the advice sector!!). Anyway, thats enough of that - heads going back in the sand now.

Red - great you got your pushchair. Is that the mountain duet? Thats still are fave but holding off ordering just yet. We did order a tumble dryer yesterday (woo hoo!) as that was a Xmas present from my parents - oh the excitement of new appliances!!?! (seriously, I am excited!).

How are you goingmad? Only two days till your scan!

Well, me and DH continued our name conversation and I think we have decided on one first name but thats it - we discussed it in bed before we went to sleep and the conversation ended with us both in a grump.... this is going to be hard! At least we seem to have one. Not sure whether to post it or not....think I will wait a few weeks if you dont mind, feels a little early

Morning ladies :)

rednellie how exciting getting your new pushchair, we brought ours a couple of weeks ago as a friend was selling the one we wanted cheap, i will sell it if anything was to happen, its at dh grandads out the way

dream how's dd this morning? How awful for you i know i feel rough and would not cope if one of ds was ill, i hope you managed to get some rest ((((hugs)))))

Claire not long now how have you been feeling?
bb3 baby brain is something that i fear!! Although i think alot of spelling mistakes are down to predictive text!!!

bigboobs Im doing ok very excited about scan mil is coming with me so she can see babies as dh is at work. I've started feeling sick at night so struggling with eating a mainmeal :( still loving bananas and good food so that's a good thing and different to my previous 2 pregnancies :)Im sure money will sort itself out we never seem to have enough who does????

Have a good Sunday Im off to take ds1 to his football match :)

Hello twin-ladies, I'm nervously hoping that there might be room for another twin-mum-to-be?

I'm nearly 13 weeks with DCDA twins that are the wonderful (but slightly overwhelming!) result of our second round of IVF/ICSI.

Thanks to going and a few other of the ladies who I met on the pregnancy board for suggesting I join you here. Hopefully I catch-up with all your stories in the next few weeks.

However, quick congrats to quempin, tabby and raven on your recent arrivals. raven I think we may have taken a conception bus or two together in the now quite distant past and so pleased to hear of your (double) success!

welcome teds so lovely to have you join us :) 13 weeks wow doesn't it go so quickly. how have things been have you been to see your consultant yet? Im so pleased you have decided to come over we will be able to go through the journey together x

Hello all,

Dd is not so hot today- 38.5 when she woke up. Chest still really rattly so we'll see how she is when she wakes up from her nap. I hope she doesn't get as bad as your poor ds bb3 surely couldn't have two children that poorly on this thread! I feel much better after some sleep- dd slept til 8:40 after a few disturbances.

Two days til your scan goingmad, exciting times! I take it you get on well with MIL? Must be a bonus. Hope its a bit less cold and windy by you for watching football...

Welcome teds77 It's lovely chatting to other twin mums to be. Congratulations to you!

bigboobs, I am still at the sticking my head in the sand about money stage...

Welcome Teds! And congratulations!

Hello Teds, great to have you along for the ride. Congratulations as well!!! Really exciting news. And yes, this is a great place for us twin mummies.

Everyone who asked - the mountain duet is AWESOME!!! (Can you tell I live in North America?). I've only been pushing it around the local area, but it's bloody brilliant. I am, however, comparing it to the rattly old chicco single pushchair I have for DD which I can't maneuver without two hands and practically have to lift around corners, so, you know, the duet was bound to be an improvement. They seem to have changed lots of the specs since it first came out, so most of the complaints people had about it have disappeared. I just like the fact it's so simple - a lot of it is just mechanical and so there's less to go wrong iyswim. It is HORRENDOUSLY expensive, but seeing as we'd got away with never buying a buggy till now I've sort of justified it to myself (and the IL's are paying). It's weird though how thin it is, because it doesn't look it - like the opposite of the tardis, looks big but fits through incredibly small spaces. I went towards a shop door yesterday thinking, there is no way I'm getting through that, but I did, one handed. WHOOP!! Can you tell I'm pleased?

I'm a total cheapo bigboobs, we've been on one salary since we moved to Canada as my mat leave had finished by then (what there was of it, working for a charity I only got the statutory) and getting a job in a new country with a 9 month old just seemed a bit overwhelming. Especially as we didn't know how long we'd be here and childcare is ridiculously over subscribed in Vancouver. Anyway, two years down the road of being a SAHM, I love it, but we do have to be very careful about cash...It's very boring, but it has made me incredibly good at finding creative ways of not spending money!

Boys are definitely on the move - I'm being kicked in about fifteen different directions and can feel heads/bums/elbows in all sorts of places. Makes it so exciting, I'm starting to almost be able to picture there being two...Got a measurement scan on Monday so really looking forward to seeing them. Good luck with yours goingmad, glad you've got someone to go with you, it'll be lovely for your MIL to see them too - my Mum was amazed by how good ultrasound is now, kept squealing every time she saw a foot!

dream, just sending you loads of hugs, I'm sorry your DD is having such a rough time. Do make sure you look after yourself.

Sorry - long post! Baby brain not only leads to bad grammar and spelling, it also leads to self absorption and rambling

Very busy here today!

Welcome teds nuce to meet you this a great place to be snc share your paranoid thoughts about twins!

Thanks for all your encouraging messages ladies , especially from you bb3 who are already on thr other side, it means a lit to hear your experiences and to see that you are still sane! As fof baby brain, K have a friend who has this theory that every baby destroys 25% of your brain! Big boobs and I are well and truly screwed now !

dream so sorry to hear about your dd being ill again! Lets hope shes going through a few years' wortg of bugs and she'll be illness free til she's 10 at least!! I do hopd its nothing serious and shd gets better soon.

rednellie good news about pushchair I cant try it on the road yet but do play with it at home, cant wait to go out and show off my babies in it! (until I gey fed up with the constant stopping by strangers that is)

The girls have their new wardrobe built and we spent the morning throwinv away their junk tidying up, I then went out fif lunch with dh and a friend if his which sooo lovely after all thd bedrest, but now I'm totally shattered!!

Have hospital app to book me in for cs, take bloods etc etc, so I guess I'll get another chance waving at waving at the babies. I have to say I am quite ready to havd them now, I am really struggling physically, I feel so much worse than I did at 41 weeks with dd2. Having said that, they HAVE to wait til wed at least as dh is away from tomorrow and back on wed, I do not want a cs on my own!!

bigboobs I'm like you on the worrying, I hate it when peopld look at me with pity, but slso if they dismiss my worries (they cant win with an hormonal woman) !

LOL at rednellie upsidedown! I couldnt do that at the moment, I can barely walk! I struggle with the cat pose too.. I have been trying a homeopatic remedy from spinning babies website, never used any before, but like you said, it wont do any harm...

Oh and Dh and I are definitely also hiding our heads in the sand! One extra baby was going to be a stretch anyway, but two (at the same time) add a completely new level to it! I have been thinking about our summer holidays and its really depressing... Trying to combine thr needs of two older kids, two babies, my need to escape thd stifling heat, and do all if this at the height if season (I cant possibly spend august here, with the heat, humidity mosquitos and everything being shut, it drives me completely mad!) its very depressing!

Ok enough about me me me, good luck with scans!

claire, now you mentiuon it I'm exactly the same- hate it when people say 'oh, it'll be fine' like it'll be a walk in the park having 3 under 18 months, but also can't stand the 'oh, poor you, how will you cope?' comments too!

I'm keen to get organised now- hurry up and arrive my cotbeds! I ordered the mattresses today, and may order some sheets in a bit. I can't shake off the early-buying nerves that something'll happen to a baby though. Irrational I know.

rednellie, the Duet sounds awesome as you say!!! . Are you getting carrycots, or liners or anything for newborns in it? I'm debating sheepskin liners or something so the babies can use them through summer, as neither of my buggies are very padded and cosy looking. What's anyone else doing? (I know you have lovely donkey carrycots bb3)

I have defintie babybrain- and it's getting worse, and definitely never fully recovered after DD so I agree claire, I will have lost 75% of my brain capacity, stuffed

Oh, DD wants some attention, so best go (she's perked up a bit)

And hope CS booking in goes well claire, the babies surely wouldn't put you to the inconveniene of arriving without DH!!!!

I'm nervous about my next growth scan already- next Thursday. It's all worsened by twin 1 going quiet quite regularly. I keep scaring/torturing myself he's died or something dreadful is going on. Hope your Monday scan goes well rednellie and they're growing like good 'uns! Plus that twin 1 has got himself head down for you with all this wriggling around he's doing.

Right, let's all take a moment to admit all the scary things we think about having twins and what can go wrong and all the fears, physical discomfort and panic that is involved..

And breath.

Right, now let's all be amazingly thankful we've got two beautiful babies growing inside. They are all loved so much already and cherished and we're incredibly lucky.

And breath.

OK, I feel a bit better, anyone else?

Seriously though, it's good to admit the scary big bad thoughts and then just let them go. We're not really in control anymore, I learnt that when I smugly went for my 13 week scan and saw two babies and my heart stopped. Five year plans all up the swanny (not that I had any, but if I did etc).

dream, didn't get carrycots as they're pricey and DD was only in hers for about five minutes last time. Apparently the bugaboo bee and p&t cocoons fit in them and you get them off ebay for cheap...I'm going to play it by ear. Don't think I'll be leaving the house much for the first few weeks!

Btw, when I said 'standing on my head', what I actually meant was me kneeling precariously on the steps on our landing whilst being held back from impending doom by DH. All 90kgs of me (yes, got weighed at the docs, blimey). Don't know if that's funnier or not! Certainly adds a certain something to the evenings...

Hey ladies

Dream, so glad dd is perkier and you managed to get some sleep. Fingers crossed she's on the way up x your fears are normal but and I was the same with t1 (edie) but she was just naturally quieter and hiding. Now she's here she is more placid (unlike her sister who certainly let's you know when she is and isn't happy!)

Teds - huge congrats. Welcome! What a lovely surprise for you!

Claire - good luck with booking in appointment - so exciting! Babies stay put please until daddy comes home!!!

Rednellie - you've summed up the fears and positive perfectly.

You know I was really scared about money - dh is self employed and was in the process of starting his own company and while he technically earns the same as me it's not 'regular' income and and as such I'm the main earner. We have a fairly big mortgage as we chose to pay the build off in just 8 years and I work for an agency so we only get stat pay so after 6 weeks I thought I'd be back at work really soon. However it's not as bad as you think. Start up costs (buggies etc) are expensive, and when they first arrive you spend alot on basic clothes / toys etc because you can now they are here and you know (if not already) what they are (I also went shopping to make myself get out the house). But then you don't really spend all that much more until the next growth spurt 2-3 months in. Christmas was pretty bad but that's because I felt guilty ds had so much and I practically bought the entire humpreys corner range in the sale in mothercare!

I think come two months time with weaning, more interest in toys and clothes etc I might see more of a difference but it's not too bad so far!

Good luck for upcoming scans etc.

I've given in tonight and have both the girls in with me. They wouldn't settle so they're snuggled in our bed currently resting their hands on each others head, almost like they want their own space but need to touch each other somewhere. am pretty sure before the night is through we'll have 5 in the bed as ds has a hacking cough

Just to alleviate some of your fears and replace with positives of what you have to come - today between the tears (which you always get!) the girls have held hands for a good 15 minutes on the floor, actually talked and gabbled to each other like there was no one else in the room, Edith-may is almost rolling over and when we asked Ayse if she was going to try she just lifted her legs up, farted and laughed at us. Both girls have been giggling away all day and they both like to grab your face and squeeze your fingers and they are currently sleeping like little angels. Today, I've managed to do dh's tax return, clean out the garage, have a roast, take the kids for a walk, do two loads of washing (oh thats something that increases dramatically), and the ironing.

Please don't think everyday is like this - some days I'm not dressed til lunchtime and the girls tag team tears and tantrums while i take my mood out on a challenging ds but days like today, when the sun is shining, are great!!

oh and for those mummies to be of boys, next and sainsbury's have some beautiful bits in for little men, I was cooing over them yesterday, really lovely bits. My fried was due a singleton on the 19th and I'm praying it's a boy so I can go shopping...

Thanks BB3 thats a fantastic post... I was almost sniffing imagining your gurls babbling to each ither!

And rednellie too

It was lovely - one of the first tines they've acted like 'twins'. They were clearly having a good old natter (probably telling me off for something ). Was really lovely to see. And ayse's been trying to hold edie's hand all day

My friend sent me a beautiful note about twins when I was panicking about it all. I'll post it tomorrow but made me put all the fears in a box and lock them away xx

How you feeling?

Two lovely, lovely posts from rednellie and bb3
Rednellie, that's exactly it. The fears come from how much these babies are loved and wanted. And it is just so good to hear your positive experiences bb3, especially tempered with the glimpse of the not-so-good days, so when we all hit them too we'll be able to say 'this too shall pass' with more confidence!

And yes, the image of your girls together made me nearly cry, so sweet, must make it all worthwhile

When I was pg and scared, two friends sent me the following link and this list of things that is great about twins...

1. Knowing that you are only going to have to go through the birth process once to end up with two children. 



1. Enjoying the fun of choosing two baby names that fit together perfectly. 



1. Being able to hold one baby in each arm and feeling a huge rush of love and pride. 



1. Watching your babies sleeping peacefully side by side. 



1. Having to establish only one routine. 



1. Getting all the sleepless nights over and done with in one go. 



1. Watching them carve out their own identities as they grow. 


2. Knowing that they are going to have a best friend in each other for life. 



1. Enjoying the attention that twins inevitably attract. 



10. Feeling confident that they can help each other on their first day of school. 



11. Discovering all their amazing little differences. 



12. Watching them create their own secret language and games. 



13. Knowing that they will never be lonely. 



14. Loving the fact that they are constant playmates and can entertain each other. 



15. Feeling special because you've joined the exclusive club of twin mums. 



16. Only having to buy one of every must-have toy and not having to give baby number two (by a few minutes!) hand-me-downs. 



17. Only having to bake one birthday cake and throw one party a year. 



18. Seeing them learning and encouraging each other to reach their milestones. 



19. Watching them taking care of each other when one is upset or hurt. 



20. Knowing that their shared history means they have one of life's most unbreakable bonds.

Trying again!

Thanks BB3, I like that! It is sooooo exciting, but it is very hard to shift the worry all the time - it does just hit me sometimes, but I am quick to push it aside when I start the think how amazing it is going to be to have my 'gang'!

Your girls sound lovely, and reading your posts help a lot. I am not kidding my self that it will a walk in the park but it will be so amazing as well.

Rednellie, I feel the same about carrycots - in an ideal world we would have them for the Duet but DD did not like being in hers as of about 6 weeks (as she wanted to see what was going on so we will save our money - and like you said I am not likely to be out and about that much in the first few weeks, especially after a CS. However, I do like the idead of snuggly sheepskin liners / footmuff things. Have you already got some Dream? Were they v expensive.

I hope you are right about money BB3, and things will HAVE to work out wont they? We have some savings to buiy what we need and my parents are helping us out - it is just the month to month usuals that I am worried about. But nothing I can do it about now eh?!

Hope you are feeling better Dream? And how is DD?

Is it your apointment today Claire? Let us know how you get on - and yes, must must wait until DH is back!

Good luck for tomorrow Goingmad

I have a midwife appt. tomorrow, and will be good to hear both heart beats. Like you Dream, I really only ever feel movement on one side (right). Left baby is breash so may be thats why I am not feeling him as much?? I asked the consultant last week about feeling each baby move and he said I would not be able to tell which baby is moving at this stage - but all movement definitely feels on my right.

Well I have made a decision to go on the hen do in a couple of weeks. A friend of mine who is also due in May is going so we can be sober together - and back to the house and in our PJs before everyone else! I am looking forward to it now I have decided to go. The hardest part will be leacing DD as I have onyl even left her one night before - but I know she will be fine with DH. And after the hen do I will only have 2 weeks left at work! Woooooooo hooooooooooo!! You must have nearly finished Dream?

Hello all

finally back home. Its been a long morning that went on onto the afternoon. I was in hospital from 9.30 to 2.45, but I was ctually seen by someone for maybe a total of 20 mins...

So in ALL this time I had blood/wee/strep B test, someone took my medical history (which they should have on file since my last admission [hmmm] but obviously notes are all handwritten so it HAS to be done again!

Was see by dr who asked (AGAIN) what meds I'd been on, what medical procedures I'd had, allergies, hereditary illnesses etc etc and signed consent form for cs

The I had a scan, literally 3 mins, (took me longer to uncpver bump and cover up again), she confirmed positions, checked heartbeat and amniotic fluid and I was off to book my cs.

there I was given instructions on what do the day before cs and on day itself (got to have a full brazilian -ouch- ). plus a laxative the night before. No nailpaint, no metal bits blah blah blah Do they do all this faff in the UK???

I still have to go back to speak to anesthesiologist in a couple of weeks...

I didnt even get to see the bbaies as the bitch she didn't turn screen towards me and actually finished the scan while talking to some other dr, grrr

Still deluding myself hoping that t1 turns around....

that's it for me today!

BB3 that link was hilarious, thanks for sharing that and your friends tips!!

Hope your app was ok bigboobs

Hi everyone, sorry I havent posted much - usually have a peak when Im on my phone then get distracted by the boys. Im loving the baby names, tips and shared fears but espec the lovely posts from BB3 - great to hear the updates about the girls.

Claire - im sure you are exhausted after this morning at the hosp - fingers crossed T1 turns but glad you have date all sorted for cs and you will have your beautiful babies soon.

Good luck for tomorrow Goingmad and Bigboobs - I also have my 20 week scan tomorrow - feeling a bit nervous but excited.

Hello Teds - its such an overwhelming but exciting time - I still feel like im in a dream.

I know Ive missed loads of people out but my brain just cant take everything in at the moment ...... hoping everyone is well though :)