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The We Will Brook No Argument for a totally boring and uneventful pregnancy, in which we shall bloom, and a pain-free birth thread, part 3!

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dreamfeeder · 13/11/2011 12:56

Hands around a mixture of V-shaped pillows, pregnancy pillows, and re-arranges the glittery vom buckets ready.

Gets the jelly snakes going, along with some Cadburys for good measure, and a strategically placed fruit bowl to disguise the unhealthy choices.

Flicks the duster round, sinks down into a comfy sofa and awaits the rest...

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pommedechocolat · 15/11/2011 22:01

Bartlett I am so so sorry to hear that. Sending deepest condolences to you and your dh.

NinjaChipmunk · 15/11/2011 22:02

bartlet I'm so so sorry to hear that, my thoughts are with you and your family. I don't know what else to say but I shall be thinking of you x

PurpleWithaBlueBun · 15/11/2011 22:18

Bartlett so very sorry :( :( Brew Thanks ((Mumsnetty hugs))
Feel free to post again I am sure we would all love to hear from you. I don't really know what to say, I hope you have lots of RL support and just know we are still here for you. :)

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dreamfeeder · 15/11/2011 22:25

Awful news bartlet, I am thinking of you and your Dh. What a terrible loss. I hope your family and friends can help you through it. Xxx

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jaggythistle · 15/11/2011 22:55

really sorry to hear your news Bartlet. :( i don't know what to say at all. take care of yourself and post again if you feel you can, we'll miss you. x

CupcakesAndCocktails · 15/11/2011 22:55

Oh Bartlet I am so sorry to hear your news. Will be thinking of you and your family. Lots of hugs to you all. Thanks for all your support to us on the brooking thread, you have always been so helpful and kind. Keep in touch xxx

Biscuitsandtea · 16/11/2011 04:36

Oh Bartlet, I'm so so sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you and your family, and I hope you and your DH have lots of RL support to help you though such a difficult time. We are all of course here If you need us xxx

BeedleTheBard · 16/11/2011 05:22

Bartlet I'm so sorry to hear about your baby, I hope you and DH have plenty of RL support. Take care of yourself x

musicalmrs · 16/11/2011 07:12

There are no words to say how sorry I am Bartlet. Thinking of you and your family at this horrendous time.. I hope you have lots of support around yourself and your DH, and that the medical team helping you are as supportive and wonderful as possible.

Imps7 · 16/11/2011 08:03

Bartlet I am so so sorry. Sending all my thoughts to you and your family.

jenfraggle · 16/11/2011 09:06

Oh Bartlet I was so hoping that this wouldn't happen for you. I'm thinking of you and hope that you can take a small amount of comfort from us

tilder · 16/11/2011 09:44

Bartlet am so sorry. I hope things go OK over the next few weeks, or as well as it can, and you have lots of support through this.

hawthers · 16/11/2011 11:54

bartlet i'm so sorry to read you news. take care of yourself and much love to you and all your family. h x

scarletfingernail · 16/11/2011 12:23

Bartlet I'm so so sorry to hear you've had such devastating news. I really don't know what to say.

Wishing you strength for the weeks and months ahead. Love to you and your family.

TooImmature2BDumbledore · 16/11/2011 13:23

Oh Bartlet, I am so sorry to hear that. I know there's nothing really to say, but anyway. It is horrible and nightmarish that these things happen to anyone. I hope you and DH are being well looked after in RL with lots of support for both practical and emotional things. You may not be ready for it now, but there is some great support on here for mothers who have been through similar experiences. Thinking of you lots.

farfallarocks · 16/11/2011 15:14

bartlett you poor poor lamb. I am so sorry to hear what has happened to you and its just so unfair isn't it?
Huge hugs and we are ready for you on the conception thread whenever you are ready :(

jazzy283 · 16/11/2011 18:13

bartlett so sorry to hear your sad news i cannot imagine how you are feeling love to you and your family xxx :(

MeconiumHappens · 16/11/2011 19:19

Bartlett Im so so sorry that your news isnt better, wishing you and yours lots of strength over the next difficult few weeks. We'll all be thinking of you.
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Wants3 · 16/11/2011 20:21

Bartlett :( not much more to add that hasn't been said. Thinking of you and DH and your 'little angel'

scarletfingernail · 17/11/2011 09:24

How's everyone today?

I've had a busy couple of days. Made quite an impact on my Christmas shopping already which feels good. I've been feeling a lot less anxious the last couple of days so have managed to relax a bit more at night.

Still not feeling anything more than a tiny bit of squirming every now and again so having the doppler is very reassuring. I'm 18 weeks tomorrow so hoping that it won't be too much longer until I'm getting kicked properly.

I met up yesterday with a close friend of mine who's a midwife (very handy for all the mentalling). After speaking to her I've decided that once I can feel regular kicking that I'm going to ditch the doppler and just go by counting the kicks alone. I'm going to order one of those count the kicks bracelets today.

Bartlet if you're reading, I hope you don't think me insensitive for posting as normal. I've been thinking about you lots.

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dreamfeeder · 17/11/2011 10:24

scarlet, I'm 18 weeks today and feel them each night when i get into bed, and at points in the day but no definite daytime pattern yet. I am getting kicks Dh can feel. Having been on the count the kicks website and thread here I have scared myself even more about not telling them apart and not realising if there's a problem with one twin. I'm worrying about how I'll tell later, whether I'll be so worried I keep ringing up and getting labelled as the girl who cried wolf!!! Should i get a couple of bracelets? Would that help? Think you're right about the kicks not doppler later, from the thread and info I read yesterday. Very jealous you're on top of Xmas shopping, I've not started!

I'm on phone mn-ing at work, so should go and do some...

Seconded by me bartlet, I'm thinking of you too, and hope my trivial post doesn't offend. Xx

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tilder · 17/11/2011 10:26

I was a bit unsure about posting again after Bartlets news - not the newa that anyone would want to hear and I just hope it goes as well as it could. Am also hoping am not being insensitive for posting.

scarletfingernail do you know where your placenta lies? if it is at the front then you probably won't feel as many kicks. I think mine must be towards the back again, as the kicks are pretty strong now and I can actually see my tummy move. If you are worried about not feeling enough kicks (they should get stronger from now on) might be worth finding out where the placenta is as that will have an effect on what you feel? Am told that the patterns of movement now reflect awake/sleep patterns after they are born - mine unfortunately likes to get active after 8pm and frequently in the night. So I look forward to that!

scarletfingernail · 17/11/2011 13:01

Tilda I'm not sure where my placenta lies, I will ask in a fortnight at my 20 week scan. I'm not at all worried yet though, I know it's completely normal to not feel proper kicks yet. I was 21/22 weeks when I had DS before I felt kicking. Most of my excess weight is around my middle anyway so a tiny 2 cm foot isn't going to have much of an impact yet! I can feel some squirming now and again so that's god enough for me for now.

Grin at dream buying 2 bracelets. That's going to get very confusing.

Gah! Just looked at DS's face and hands and table. Why oh why did I think it was a good idea to give him a bowl of tomato soup for lunch? Shock

jaggythistle · 17/11/2011 13:20

been thinking about you too bartlet :(

Grin at the tomato soup scarlet! DS had some a few days ago and ended up looking so comical i had to get the camera out. he quite enjoyed it but was in some mess. it was in his eyebrows FFS!

I've been thinking I've felt a bit of squirming for a couple of weeks, still not sure how much of it is wind. thought i did feel a wee tiny kick while i was watching tv last night.

i get the joy of taking DS to his toddler group tomorrow, eek. i manage to skive most of them due to working. the mums there are nice, but i still feel a bit of a spare part sometimes for some reason. at least I'll have something to talk about as i think DH told them our news when he was there last week.

Biscuitsandtea · 17/11/2011 13:36

Also thinking of you lots Bartlet xxx

Placenta / kicks wise I'm starting to get reasonably frequent tickles I think, so hopefully might be getting full on kicks in a few weeks. I'm 21 +2 today.

I also carry weight round my middle Blush though so am sure this is not helping matters.

The poor old bean on the scan photos from last week looks like the placenta is right up his/her nose! It seems to be almost pushed up against it - hope it doesn't cause some great aversion to something or other when it comes out Confused. Not quite sure what that would be.....

Dream - I can't imagine having to allocate the movements to one twin or the other. I could never even tell if it was arms or legs with DS! I guess you would need 2 bracelets! I've had my bracelet for weeks now - just no flipping kicks to count! I am sure though as they get a bit bigger they won't be able to swap positions or move behind each other as much so maybe you will be able to get an idea of which is which?

How often do you think they'll scan you? Do you get extra scans after the 20 week one? Because that might give you an idea of which one is where for a few days? Other than that you just have to be brave and be that person who keeps rocking up at the maternity unit if you've got any doubts at all. It just simply isn't worth the risk in my opinion.

Hope everyone else is well?

How did the nappy free night go Ninja?