Due in May: the 2nd trimester, more glowing and less throwing

[Yorky]

Before the other thread bursts!
Thanks Miko for the title!

Ooh Ses I love warm ribena

Yes forgot to say before to SirC- I am a veteran of mouth ulcers, always getting them...especially when stressed or sleep-deprived. Get Corsodyl mouthwash it's brilliant.

bluecrane glad you're feeling better but to a quiet December..ours is looking manic. We were just saying last night we need to find a ridiculous number of babysitters if we want to make all our Xmas socials/parties maybe ds will be sleeping in a buggy and coming along!!

cupcake our December's are usually manic too but for some reason November has been crazy this year and December looking quite quiet, which I'm not actually upset about (unusual as well) as I do like to be out and about in a Christmas busy bee kinda way but actually looking forward to snuggling up on the sofa watching the lights sparkle on our tree (when we've put it up!) just chilling a bit more this year [lazy pregnant woman emoticon needed]

Well, now the internets finally working and I have found the new thread again, I will add myself to the new list!

May dates have changed, so am now 14+5 and got my 20week scan on the 29th December! I see I am now due date buddies with cupcakefairy

Am v jelous of the ladies feeling flutterings, I have only just started to get a little podge of a bump the last few days!

1st May - Mikocat #1
2nd May (or 28th April by scan) - Harecare #3
2nd may - DialMforMummy, #2
2nd May - MidwifeWithABump #1
3rd May - Mythical #1
4th May (or 30th April!) - Yorky, #4
4th May - saggybaps #2
6th May - Wrigglebum #2
6th May - Oltob #2
6th May (or 1st May by scan) - LadyMaybe #2
8th May - Dreaming #1
8th May - myweeangel #2
10th May - Marmite123 #1
11th May - Cairnterrier, #2
13th May - musicalmrs, #1
14th May - Montymum, #1
15th May - heidihole, #1
16th May - cupcakefairy, #2
16th May - Failsafe, #1
17th May - MandaHugNKiss #4
19th May - SirCharles #1
21st May - littlesarah, #3
21st May - luckynumber11, #3
23th May - tostaky, #3
24th May - MixedClassBaby, #2
25th May - LimeFlower #1
26th May - GingerLemonTea #1
27th May - SES #2
28th May - Catsycat #3
29th May - BlueCrane #1

Very envious of all the flutterings,

Failsafe I have also developed some podge, but not sure if it is baby or all the food I ate whilst on holiday

I second orange juice and soda or 'virgin' cocktails on evenings out-I guess that if you're in a bar they can give you most of the cocktails without the alcohol, even if they dont have a specific non-alcoholic list.

I'm not tearful, but just really anxious all the time that something will go wrong with the pregnancy. Had my midwife appt (16 wk, but done on 15+2) today and heard the heart beat which was very reassuring. Tried to tell people at work to make it feel more real, they were all lovely and seemed suprised (despite my thickening waistline!) which was nice; but I was sad not to be gushing with joy about it all, I just feel so worried and i'm not really sure why, not normally a particularly anxious person. I feel bad not being more positive and can tell that my negative attitude is getting to DH.....need to try harder, after all, we've wanted this baby for a long time.

1st May - Mikocat #1
2nd May (or 28th April by scan) - Harecare #3
2nd may - DialMforMummy, #2
2nd May - MidwifeWithABump #1
3rd May - Mythical #1
4th May (or 30th April!) - Yorky, #4
4th May - saggybaps #2
6th May - Wrigglebum #2
6th May - Oltob #2
6th May (or 1st May by scan) - LadyMaybe #2
8th May - Dreaming #1
8th May - myweeangel #2
10th May - Marmite123 #1
11th May - Cairnterrier, #2
12th May- Chocolatesparkle, #1
13th May - musicalmrs, #1
14th May - Montymum, #1
15th May - heidihole, #1
16th May - cupcakefairy, #2
16th May - Failsafe, #1
17th May - MandaHugNKiss #4
19th May - SirCharles #1
21st May - littlesarah, #3
21st May - luckynumber11, #3
23th May - tostaky, #3
24th May - MixedClassBaby, #2
25th May - LimeFlower #1
26th May - GingerLemonTea #1
27th May - SES #2
28th May - Catsycat #3
29th May - BlueCrane #1

Aw chocolatesparkle totally understand...it can be hard to suddenly feel excited, especially when you've been trying a long time and had a lot of hopes dashed etc (don't know your story so not assuming anything but you say you've wanted baby a long time...) I reckon once you start feeling baby move you might feel a bit differently- it really is lovely then.

Hi failsafe yay for due date buddies! Though I'm fully expecting to go way beyond the 16th as ds was so overdue!! You never know though...

bluecrane curling up on the sofa throughout December sounds lovely! I can't wait to get some decs up and watch Love Actually (only allowed in December, thems the rules)

Hello everybody,how's things?

I haven't got a clue what to write about,nothing's happening (thank goodness for that) except that I'm jealous like hell.
Informed my work but asked to keep it quiet,now sitting on my bum and waiting for a risk asessment of my position.
No bump,no fluttering,not a hoot.Joys of being at the end of the list.
Retching came back at the weekend after a few quiet days,DP watched my antics by the sink asking how he could help me, he was growled at and retreated to his shed.Weight still the same and to add to my joy just started having some nosebleeds.Fantastic life :(

Looking forward to festive meal with people from work,going to look at some shops tomorrow for something to wear.Knowing sod's law if I choose something tight it will be complete useless in a month's time.Ha,ha,ha.

Bloody hormones,grumpy like hell.

Hello all, had a busy weekend so only read the last few posts.
DP and I are on very rocky ground. He's really unhappy about me being pregnant. Not a lot we can do about it now though.
chocsparkle It's hard to get as excited as people who you tell who don't have any of the worries. It's normal to be worried, it's like a protection in case anything bad happens. Hopefully it won't. You've got ages to come around to the idea though.
pelvic floor

Hi everyone,
Well I had a bit of an "event" this morning. I had to go to an open day at the local primary school, as we need to apply for DD2's school place in the next couple of months.
When I got there it was quite hot, lots of stuffy classrooms etc. We were doing a lot of standing still, listening to the Headteacher, and about half way through (45 mins in) I could feel I wasn't quite right, and wanted to sit down. But of course I couldn't, as we were squeezing into classes full of little children, it was formal event, nowhere to sit anyway. By the time we got to the IT suite, which was boiling, I realised I was about to faint or be sick. So I had to completely embarass myself by getting down to the floor, in front of the Headteacher and all the other parents, before I collapsed. I was coming out with cold sweats across my forehead etc.
Fortunately, my best friend was also at this event, so she rushed to the office to get me some water. When she came back, (and the rest of the tour had moved on, leaving me on a children's chair in the corridor!), my friend said "ooh, the lady in the office said, she's not pregnant is she? And I said no..." And of course I had to say to my friend, well yes, actually I am. And my friend was !
Up until now, I had only told immediate family (as I'm a bit embarassed about talking about it), so at least now the secret's out, and it's kind of broken the ice for me. I can probably start to drop it into other conversations now more easily. I'm also glad my friend was with me, as I did want to tell her first, before she heard it on the grapevine.
Has anyone else had the fainting thing? I'm assuming it's completely normal and I don't need to tell anyone medical about it. I went home for 5 mins and had a cup of tea, but then had to head straight off to work as I was already later than I intended to be. I have felt a bit off today, but I think it's mainly the shock / embarassment!

Hi Harecare, sorry to hear you're still having a hard time with your DP. I know it is difficult and sad when DP doesn't feel excited about the pregnancy. As you know, my DP wouldn't have chosen to be in this position right now. (And I can understand why, given his age and our precarious work positions). Fortunately, he has accepted the situation and isn't making me feel bad about it. (I think mainly because he knows what I went through when it seemed like I couldn't get pregnant before DD1, and he knows I couldn't cope with not having this one). But it doesn't stop the odd comment like "oh, we could have gone to so-and-so next year, but not now we'll have a baby in tow". I do think it is quite common for some men to get cold feet at this stage. And I have heard lots of stories from other people about how the same men have completely changed once the baby has arrived and is real, and become really devoted. It's hard, but try to think of this as a phase that will pass. Thinking of you.

lucky I had exactly the same thing happen when i was in New York the other week and we were on the subway...we had to stand for ages waiting for the train (no seats on their platforms!!) and then there was nowhere to sit on the train as it was packed full of commuters, I could feel myself gettign hotter and hotter and starting to feel more queasy and then the blackness started and I thought...and thankfully managed to verbalise to DH... I have to sit down or I'm going to collapse he said 'don't worry we're almost at the next station' but I was going fast and was just starting to ask the lady in front of me to give me her seat when DH dragged me off the train where I promptly sank to the floor with my head in my hands before I full on fainted! DH had lots of 'helpful' locals asking should they call 911...TBH they probably thought there was some domestic abuse sitaution going on I was totally unaware just trying to stay conscious! I was 11 weeks at the time and have been fine since! Think it's a combination of the standing and the heat as the bloodflow around our bodies is all a bit skewed due to LO's getting their fair share!! If it happens again it probably is worth mentioning to your MW or GP though.

Will catch up better later and must get back to work but didn't want to leave that post unanswered!

Hello people

Well I had a lovely birthday weekend, got some lovely presents (specially fab new coat from dh) and had a gorgeous meal. I also had a bit of a car crash yesterday, with a double decker bus. Got off very lightly really, just clipped it but repairs mean a large excess fee which is a bugger, especially at this time of year.

Not much fluttering here but am only 14+1.

Harecare - Sorry to hear you are struggling with your dp, it is frustrating when you just want them to accept things and make the best of them. My dd was born with my ex and he was really not pleased, we broke up when I was pregnant due to this. He is a great dad now though and has been for years. I know it is not the same as your situation but I think I do have some idea of how you feel... I hope things improve soon. Did he go to the scan with you?

chocolatesparkle - sorry to hear about your anxiety, I understand it though! I am less anxious now than before last scan but still wish I could feel movement already so I can relax properly!

Welcome back failsafe, I am beginning to get a little tummy now too, well actually I've always had a little tummy but it is swelling slightly!

Bluecrane - Hopefully I'm not jinxing it but our December looks fairly quiet too. Busy nearer Christmas but not too much in the first few weeks. I'm pleased as I'm hoping for some nice quiet evenings watching christmas films, wrapping presents and doing craft bits like making stockings and decorations. Was going to sign up to wreath making workshop but after the little crash I think I'll feel too guilty about spending money!

waitingforalittlelamb - Welcome to the thread! Another one with a pre Christmas scan I see, jealous moi? Mine isn't until 4th Jan. I do get emotional here and there, little waves of melancholy hit me here and there, just have to ride them out!

Dreamingofanallotment - Glad your scan went well!

Hello to everyone else, hope all is well.

lucky - I've felt faint this time round, although not to the extent you have! That's an exciting way to let the cat out of the bag at least .

Harecare hope your DP will come to his senses soon.You didn't get pregnant just by yourself.Take care of yourself and ignore him.
BlueCrane and luckynumber sorry for your fainting moments but forget about emarassment and all people around.Heard a few stories from my friends -feeling hot and passing out.

Hello, I know it is a little late in the day for this, but I got my dates a bit wrong and it turns out I am due on 28 May, not in June after all.

May I join you? I have biscuits and Christmas pudding icecream...

Lucky and blue - I've felt like fainting but haven't yet. I'm sure it's quite normal.
Thanks to all for support with DP. He was exactly the same with DC1 so I'm hoping he'll come around. He was even accusing me of not taking the morning after pill properly as the one I took was just 1 pill rather than 2 pills like he has been researching. I knew it was a risky time so told him in time to take the pill. He's very stressed with work and just feels totally trapped. He's even suggesting moving out for a bit after Christmas so he can take time to think. I'm hoping if I give him the space to think he can make his own decision and then won't blame me for the rest of our lives!!!!

Other than that afternoon naps seem to be the order of the day!

Welcome opener. Christmas pudding ice cream?? Really? Wow!

First of all thanks to everyone with drinks suggestions - shall be trying a few of them for sure. "Virgin" cocktails gave me a giggle! :o Also will be sharing these ideas with my sister who I've just found out is pregnant (due July). I'm so glad our little ones will be cousins only two months apart, all being well, and even gladder that I have someone to share sobriety with this Christmas!

dreaming - I read Naomi Stadlen's "What Mothers Do..." towards the end of my last maternity leave when DD was about 9 months old. I found it very encouraging and reassuring. At that stage sometimes I felt like a machine - sterilising bottles, making dinners to freeze, tidying, cleaning, making animals noises and singing nursery rhymes all day long. Needed reminding of my purpose and it did the trick. Wouldn't need it now as my wee angel tells me she loves me every day (after I tell her to tell me of course!)

JEALOUS of scans.. mine's not til 22 weeks and I'm only 16 weeks now. Seems like forever away.

Told my class yesterday. We were on our way to tin whistle practice and I told them, while giving my growing belly a little rub, that my little baby is beginning to hear sounds now so they'd better play nicely! I would swear they were all a little better behaved for the rest of the day....

openerofjars - you are very welcome! Am taking liberty of adding you to our lovely long list of May mums-to-be.

1st May - Mikocat #1
2nd May (or 28th April by scan) - Harecare #3
2nd may - DialMforMummy, #2
2nd May - MidwifeWithABump #1
3rd May - Mythical #1
4th May (or 30th April!) - Yorky, #4
4th May - saggybaps #2
6th May - Wrigglebum #2
6th May - Oltob #2
6th May (or 1st May by scan) - LadyMaybe #2
8th May - Dreaming #1
8th May - myweeangel #2
10th May - Marmite123 #1
11th May - Cairnterrier, #2
12th May- Chocolatesparkle, #1
13th May - musicalmrs, #1
14th May - Montymum, #1
15th May - heidihole, #1
16th May - cupcakefairy, #2
16th May - Failsafe, #1
17th May - MandaHugNKiss #4
19th May - SirCharles #1
21st May - littlesarah, #3
21st May - luckynumber11, #3
23th May - tostaky, #3
24th May - MixedClassBaby, #2
25th May - LimeFlower #1
26th May - GingerLemonTea #1
27th May - SES #2
28th May - Catsycat #3
28th May - openerofjars
29th May - BlueCrane #1

openerofjars welcome.Fancy some gherkins?Crisps already eaten I'm afraid

Harecare sorry about your not so D now P but I just sniggered reading your post."Not taking the pill properly" just a pity he didn't tie the knot on his...

(hug) to you

opener that's not Bridge Farm ice-cream is it? Welcome.

1st May - Mikocat #1
2nd May (or 28th April by scan) - Harecare #3
2nd may - DialMforMummy, #2
2nd May - MidwifeWithABump #1
3rd May - Mythical #1
4th May (or 30th April!) - Yorky, #4
4th May - saggybaps #2
6th May - Wrigglebum #2
6th May - Oltob #2
6th May (or 1st May by scan) - LadyMaybe #2
8th May - Dreaming #1
8th May - myweeangel #2
10th May - Marmite123 #1
10th May - WaitingForalittlelamb #1
11th May - Cairnterrier, #2
12th May- Chocolatesparkle, #1
13th May - musicalmrs, #1
14th May - Montymum, #1
15th May - heidihole, #1
16th May - cupcakefairy, #2
16th May - Failsafe, #1
17th May - MandaHugNKiss #4
19th May - SirCharles #1
21st May - littlesarah, #3
21st May - luckynumber11, #3
23th May - tostaky, #3
24th May - MixedClassBaby, #2
25th May - LimeFlower #1
26th May - GingerLemonTea #1
27th May - SES #2
28th May - Catsycat #3
28th May - openerofjars
29th May - BlueCrane #1

limeflower lol at tying a knot in it! harecare sorry to hear things are tough though and dp talking of moving out :( really hope things start to improve over Christmas. Not very helpful at all to say stuff like 'oh we can't do so-and-so now we'll have the baby'...really they're babies for such a short time and once they all fly the nest I bet he'll miss them like mad and not want all that time to do 'so-and-so'. Un-MN hugs to you xxx

lucky a friend of mine fainted in early preg in a restaurant...the managers asked them to leave cos they thought she was drunk her dh set them straight of course and they were v apologetic but how rude is that!! I would mention it to mw so they can keep an eye on blood pressure/potential anaemia but I think it is v common.

weeangel fabulous news your sis is pg too... I wish my ds had some cousins...we have several siblings married but all dragging their heels about babies!!

Who mentioned crisps?? I am having such major salt cravings this time round...well, it was crisps and olives with my last pg too so maybe it's an another boy!

lol at crisps craving.... i cant get enough of egg and mushroom bagels from Costa and it is costing me a fortune!!! let alone not very helpful for my waist line.

i think i can feel some little movement... im 14 weeks today and my third, im not defenitively sure it is movements but it really feels like it!

im on a hunt for a nice top to wear on friday night. something sparkly, classy and that would hide my small bump. im not looking at any maternity shop cuz i know i wont find anything... any suggestions?

Morning all just checking in quickly whilst waffling my morning toast before cracking on with my endless pile of work that has to be done this week...big deadline looming on Friday, assistant has called in sick thus doubling my workload and my energy levels are pants at the moment, normally I'd be able to work 8-8 or similar to get it all done, can't seem to get in the office before 9 no matter how early I get up as still feeling rough in the morning and it got to 6:15 last night and I felt awful, drove home and nearly spewed all over the car cos I was too tired and hungry no idea how it's all going to get done and I barely slept last nigth due to stinking headache, relented and took paracentamol at 4am and then did get some sleep...

harecare hope things improve with (D)P soon, must be v tough...send more hugs!

Who mentioned Christmas cake ice-cream...that sounds yummy yummy...I made some mini mince pies on Saturday and could've munched my way through the whole batch

Right...back to work, catch you all later!

Hello ladies - hope you are all well and blooming!

Bluecrane if it's any consolation I've started feeling a lot better since around 14 weeks (am 17 now) - hang on in there!

"16 week" appointment with midwife this afternoon, I'm intrigued to meet the 'midhusband', maybe it will be a bit of male solidarity for DH, who has been with me to all the appointments and with the exception of the consultant at the 'fanjo-cam' all the medical professionals have been women.

It feels very odd to be at work with a bottle of wee in my handbag, I keep wanting to tell people! :)