December 2011 - She Canna Take Much More, Cap'n...

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Betwee 8 and 12 weeks to go...and we're giving it all we've got!

Morning!

We're having a lazy day today, DD1 kept having nightmares last night so is feeling a bit fragile today. I'm trying to work up the motivation to run to the shop, but it is pissing down and I don't want to be cold and wet.

I have a higher need for sleep since having DD1, 6hrs used to be perfect, now I need at least eight...ironic really. Still, DD3 has been informed that under no circumstances is she to be as crap as sleeper as DD1 was so we'll be fine. [living in hope] [hgrin]

oi the classes sound good, great that she is basing them on what the people there want to know.

Morning all.

msbuggy I'm the same re sleep, I used to manage fine on hardly any but I can't anymore.

DH is hopefully putting the door on the nursery for me today, I also need him to swap the furniture around then I can finish putting up stickers. We still need to get a rail for the built in wardrobe and put on the cupboard door (there's an old one that fits in the garage but it needs some tlc) then it'll be finished --at last-

Another 1 here feeling sleep deprived havent had a problem until the last week or so but now waking up a lot in the night with hip pains as all my weight seems to be baring down on them in bed. We have a memory foam mattress and i have always hated it it feels like sleeping on a board and i swear its making it worse. Have told DH i am sleeping in our crappy spare single bed tonight as it is soft and i think i will sleep better. Also overnight loo trips have increased to 2 a night which is unheard of for me when i am asleep that is me until morning normally.

Had 3rd antenatal class through nhs last night quite disappointed with them as not sure learnt anything new that havent learnt from books or on here and the couples in the group are really quiet so not feeling like i will make new friends there. Luckily i have a very active sure start childrens centre near me so will have to use them for meeting new people i think.

I'm happy this morning- tons of housework being ignored but Iiiii don't caaare! .....
And went to Mothercare as they have 20% off lots of buggies, plus a further tenner off if you get their instore baby magazine (called Gurgle or Puke or something twee like that). So my £200 rrp Maclaren Techno XT (from birth, people, highly recommended!) came in at £150 (£152 if you're a purist and include the price of the magazine). Bargain!

My knackered old 6 year old maclaren XT from the DDs is getting rehomed to a friend, so I treat DC3 to a new shiny just for him (mostly as it's a fab buggy and everything else is 2nd/3rd/4th hand this time around!). Yey.

figgygal hopefully your DH won't drag you round bed stores for a new mattress as mine did yesterday, forcing me try try numerous beds to find the firmist possible bed. I seriously think all the lying down and getting up could have started pre-term labour.

Also had 34w MW appointment this morning - now not due to see her until 38 weeks even though I had DD at 37+4. Although my health is good I'm measuring a week big and she started talking to me about this being a big baby and freaking me out a little and generally it wasn't all that helpful. I'm starting to understand why I was so unprepared when DD was born.

Today is manic but just had to chip in that I love our new bed + mattress - we bought it a month ago and it's seriously been the best investment we've ever made. I got a waterproof protector and nice new fitted sheets as it is my PFB (perfect first bed) as I have never had a bed of my own before - always slept on a futon mattress on the floor or a tatami mat. We bought the sienna pocket spring mattress and it is bliss!

bemybaby 6 hours sleep has been great! I have insomnia and pre pregnancy I had lovely tablets to sleep which obviously I had to stop taking, so recently I have only been getting about 3 hours of broken sleep.... nope I can't nap in the day :(

Sorry another question re hypnobirthing ... In the book there is this section which includes a birth companion's reading is that the relaxation script... or it is just something ommitted from the book?

If so... I was thinking I might just get a different relaxtion script off the internet and ask DH to read that to me... and incorporate the anchor with that. Thoughts?

hi - glad to see I'm not the only one who has to play the bad cop role. Also pointed out that it is easier to play the nice cop when you only have an hour a day with them and are not trying to do the housework etc whilst looking after them but think it fell on deaf ears!

Haven't even thought about the birth yet , apart from vaguely along the lines of it was ok ish last time so hopefully will be again, so no wise hypnobirthing words i'm afraid. Wish our nursery was finished and sorted but we will get there.

Pregnancy hormones have some benefits. our builders left the place in a right mess yesterday so fired off a stroppy but polite email last night and they were v apologetic today and cleared up well!

Oi my class sounds like that too. Didn't learn much but was still good.

I really feel for single patents out there...

I'm really low tonight, its really getting to me feeling like I have no emotional support in pregnancy. OH works a lot, so I know he is always tired. But I can't talk to him about how I'm feeling as it seems to annoy him, or he doesn't pay attention. If I mention about how tired / in pain I am, he doesn't say anything, it annoys him and he thinks I'm moaning. If I'm sat down (looking unhappy), he just says 'whats wrong with you now?' I'm prob being over sensitive, but I just feel like he just sees me as moaning, I just say nothing is wrong now, as last time he asked I said my pelvis was really sore, and he said 'well you best ring the midwife', I tried explaining about spd, and he said 'well you knew what you were letting yourself in for'. Just now (i haven't seen him all day), I just started a conversation about buying a gym ball so I could try and help my hips etc, but he carried on playing on his phone. When I said I was trying to talk to him, he just said 'i heard, you were moaning about not knowing where to get a ball from'.

I know he has a lot going on, as his sister is going off the rails a bit, and he is really worried for his dad because of it. I just really need a hug or something from him. Or even just sympathy. I feel really pathetic now I have written this as it sounds so petty. Guess it must be hormones... but I just want to feel cared for, or for him to imagine how I'm feeling

Hello all!

Just checking in. I'm hearing you on the sleep deprivation, think I went to the loo 6 times last night, sheesh!

Am really feeling the strain at the mo. Went for a long walk yesterday and have been paying for it with pains in lower bump ever since. Hoping it's just ligament pain...

Is anyone else thinking about music? I'm planning to take iPod to hospital with me and thinking about the ultimate playlist.

So, come on ladies, give me some inspiration. What would be your top song(s) to give birth to?!

kri5ty sending you a big (((hug))). So sorry you're feeling down, it sounds like your OH has a lot on his mind at the the moment.

Aw Kristy, I really feel for you. They have no idea how tough it is carrying around this extra weight, but your OH needs to try it, and then try sleeping with it!
I don't know what to say, you need to pull him in for support - without him pushing back more. Do you think he's a bit scared of the prospect of being a dad? Or has the full idea not hit home yet?
Hugs to you. Xxx

pully first song is Yazz and The Plastic Population, "hold on" for stage 2, and the Salt n Pepa "push it" for the finale. [hgrin]

DH says "breathe" by The Prodigy. Followed by "I'm comin' out" by Diana Ross.

How about "can you feel the force-eps"? Ouch!

Or "love will tear us apart"? OUCH!

kristy you don't sound petty at all and I'm not surprised you're feeling low. I don't know what to suggest but you really need his support right now. And we're all entitled to a moan!

Today's highs
DS's foot seems much better and he's been walking around almost normally again today.
Having a door on the nursery.

Low
The laptop I ordered which was meant to arrive today didn't so I have to wait in again tomorrow.

kri5ty I'm sorry you're feeling down, but it is completely understandable. What is with the 'you knew what you were letting yourself in for'? Did you go batshit when he said that?

Agree with sorelip on that one, I'd have hit the roof at that statement. It was still on my mind when I woke up this morning.It's difficult to really know, without knowing him, but it may be that he's a bit scared of becoming a dad. But I'm sure he'll be fine as soon as nugget shows the first signs of an appearance. YOu'll be fine - I just don't know what to suggest until then, sorry.

Back to music, and also on the subject of what to do, on the radio on the drive in this morning was Thw Who - "mama's got a squeeze box" so come on ladies, squeeze those boxes pelvic floors!

(Terrible grammar! "On the radio, on the drive to work this morning, was The Who...") Thank you, please.

Really sorry to hear that kri5ty. I think we are entitled to have a moan and should receive some sympathy - this is really hard work. I guess as it's not happening to him he just doesn't quite get it. I fear you are not alone there, I know a few people with partners who just don't seem to quite get a) that's it bloody hard work and b) that we need support. I moan a lot too, and although my partner is very supportive I guess it's hard for him because there's not much he can do about it, but having said that all you want is a hug and some sympathy isn't it? Hope it clicks with him soon and that you feel better :(

Oh had been doing pelvic floor in shower every morning and forgot this morning - doh! Better do them now.

Exhausted. Had to wake up so many times to go to loo.

Hope everyone has a good day!

kri5ty all of us need support and someone to listen to us moan, especially from partners. Would he read a book for expecting dads or something so he can get a better understanding of pregnancy?

How are you guys planning on playing your music, are you taking CDs or mp3 with headphones?

Think will take speakers, as headphones will cut me off from my husband.