December 2011 - She Canna Take Much More, Cap'n...

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Betwee 8 and 12 weeks to go...and we're giving it all we've got!

Oh dear, your mum sounds very set in her opinions. Maybe best not to tell her at all until after the birth when she'll be so thrilled at meeting her grandchild she won't care where they were born. Have you even told her the birth centre closed? No need to mention it if not [hwink]

Go to birthtv site where I'm sure you can watch some homebirths without pools & don't worry about not having a pool; I've heard great things about them but I've also heard of women saying they felt isolated in the pool & had to get out to feel closer to their partners. Also lots of pools seem to end up on ebay unused because they didn't get filled in time so you can never be sure you'll get a waterbirth unless you have a heated pool on standby. [hhmm] Please don't be put off by not having one, I'm sure your birth will be wonderful regardless. According to the link you posted it's the equivalent of 8-10 adults, does that sound like a lot to you? I expect your building dept is airing on the side of caution but I have to say it wouldn't put me off if I really wanted one...I AM bloody-minded though [hgrin]

Nope she doesn't even know the birth centre has closed...I will keep schtum as long as I can!

It wouldn't put me off if we actually owned our flat but as it belongs to the school I kind of feel we have to accept what they say. I keep telling myself it's the the flip-side of not having to pay rent, council tax, being able to put in a request to the superintendent if the boiler packs up etc.

Thanks for the link - I will definitely watch some without pools and see what they do!! And good point about unused pools, that makes me feel a lot better [hsmile]

OMG... what a load of crap! I cannot believe that this is available and that idiots would actually buy this!

Honey or Jomouse or anyone giving hypnobirthing a go...
I bought the book and have the CDs but haven't actually bothered to go to classes... as I couldn't get the time off. For the most part things are going well and I have been practicing the techniques at home... however I did have a question... how do you practice with your hubby? What should he be doing (if anything) in our practice sessions?

Excellent...no need to even discuss it then [hwink]

Fair enough, if you don't have to pay for your flat it would be quite cheeky to ask about a pool & then go against what they said anyway, after all what if you had a leak ...it'd be quite embarrassing trying to explain water damage!

I'm hoping to have a pool but our boiler is rubbish, it'll take hours to fill & I won't be able to have a bath while I'm waiting for the tank to heat up, also DP is worried the large volume of waste water will flood our septic tank...I'm back & forth trying to decide if it's worth the hassle [hconfused]

lala DP does light touch massage, also has helped place an "anchor" to make me go deeper into relaxation, not sure where this is in the book...I'll look it up later. We're currently working on the glove relaxation with him bring me under & I listen to rainbow relaxation every night in bed.

If I can get my scanner to work (it's new & I don't know if we have all the wires) then I'll try to get the worksheets that came with my course to you I think there's more on them about what your birthing partner does. [hsmile]

Thanks honey

Tyleperion Really sorry but my comment earlier was meant to be in response to the "pre-packed hospital bag" and I totally missed all the posts re the birth centre closing and mum being unsupportive re home birth. I guess the main thing to remember is that she is probably just worried about you and the baby...after all she is your mum and thats what mums do...right?

Oh I knew just what you meant lala - was my reaction as well to that ridiculous hospital bag [hwink] I'm sure my mother is just worried but as always with her it comes off as criticism and she can't deal very well with people not taking her advice.

Re hypnobirthing practice, DH reads the relaxation scripts to me in a really calm voice and does light touch massage as well. He puts his hand on my shoulder and says "deeply relax" when instructed to in the relaxation script - is that the "anchor" Honey?

Yes, that's it Tyel

I cant believe the witch on eBay is charging so much for such a cheap and nasty bunch of stuff. And anybody who thinks that 6 pads will be enough to last 48 hours post-partum is clearly deluded!

Carry on!

Will be back later when I have got the kids to bed and a mug of something chocolatey in hand

Honey - I know someone who had a home water birth after her boiler broke down by boiling pans of water on the stove! Sounds like something to keep DH very busy though.

Anyone else getting lots of aches down each side of the bump, it seems if I walk for more than 5 mins I get these pulling pains?

Evening everyone. Did try to post yesterday or Sunday but annoying lost it before it went. That would have been a nice positive post about lovely weekend away in Cardiff in super nice hotel, lovely room upgrade and blissful hour and a half massage.

however what a difference 2 days can make heh! Knackered from work, got really cross with DS this evening for not doing as he was told so had to carry him upstairs to the bath, then DH comes in and finds me in a mood with DH and proceeds to try and have a "calm and rational" discussion about how to discipline DS. Which basically ends up with him telling me I tell him off too much and me accusing him of being a soft touch who never disciplines him at all so it is all left to me. Both of which are partially true and now I feel like a shite mum and we are not talking to each other. I know it is mostly due to tireness and hormones on my part but DH will never take that into account.

Also pissed off as normally go to aqua natal on Tuesday evenings and enjoy it but appear to have left my swim suit at aforementioned hotel - ahhhh!

Minor I know compared with what some of you are dealing with but still want to curl up in a ball and cry!

Sorry to hear about your homebirth stresses, Tyelperion. It sounds as though you should tell your mum about the birth centre, and make her read the things about the other choices of places to give birth, which I think you shared with us in the last thread. You didn't sound at all confident in them, and why the hell should you be tied in knots when you are meant to be loose, opening, strong...? If she ties you up, you might just have to eff her off to loosen yourself up again!

jigglebum, that business about being The Enforcer sounds very familiar, but you shouldn't feel like a "shite mum" about it. Being pissed off is acceptable, though, as who wants to always be the mean one?

P.S. That maternity bag business is very funny. I li-ike the naff nylon, in girly colours, too! Gimme!

P.S. I found a very funny spelling mistake in the "Luxury" prepacked hospital bag blurb:

"Big enough to be used as a weekend/ short bread bag once baby arrives."

Crumbs!

For thirty five quid I could do a chuffing superb bag. Not going into business though, too much sleeping to do!

Been a busy couple of days. Feeling the stretches and aches like most of you. Bending is practically impossible!

Going to bed in about thirty five seconds. I feel I need the rest, and more to the point, nobody can stop me

Hope you are all resting well tonight. Tomorrow is another day and all that. Non-MumsNet sanctioned hugs to all:)

jigglebum I'm also the horrible one who gets left with the discipline, what really winds me up is when DH complains that DS doesn't do what he tells him, he can't seem to understand why.

I know I said I wouldn't complain about tiredness but after a week of bad nights with DS I'm close to exhaustion. At least if it doesn't improve I'll be used to sleepless nights already.

Highs
I walked past a tree with vivid red autumn leaves, was really pretty.
We've discovered if we sell on ebid rather than eBay we can make higher profits

Lows
Really struggled cutting my toenails, I feel enormous and so uncomfortable.
My arm is aching after my flu jab.

"jigglebum I'm also the horrible one who gets left with the discipline, what really winds me up is when DH complains that DS doesn't do what he tells him, he can't seem to understand why."

hahahahaha

Shoulders back, flag up!

Flu jab is booked for Halloween, and first NHS antenatal class is tomorrow.

Highs
I had a lovely veg korma and peshwari naan bread for dinner, washed down with milk.

Lows
The korma, milk and naan came up, with interest, about 10 minutes after I finished eating.
DH is working a night shift, and he is not feeling well at all, but apparently may lose his job if he comes home early.

And baby is kicking the crap out of me tonight. Not comfortable, but comforting, IYKWIM.

There are so many things that people waste money on with new babies (designers sleep suits etc), I don't think the hospital bag is so awful - bar the fact they include sanitary pads instead of maternity pads. But yes, I did refrain from buying one

well girls... I agree the maternity bag is a massive rip off! And its ugly! I was shocked by how crap it looks! But figure people really do buy anything... so I decided to make one to flog!! Lol, but it will be a hell of a lot better than that!!! I don't understand why people would pay for something that looks so crap!

On the pregnancy note....

Finished nct classes on Sunday, was a bit annoyed OH didn't take part in the massage practice. He didn't see the point... I got very jealous watching all the other mums to be enjoying themselves!
Coccyx killing, as our hips
But I have had 6 hours sleep a night for the past 3 nights yay!

kri5ty I have no idea how you cope with that little sleep... do you get a nap in the day at all?

Morning all,
shortbread bag mmmm! :) crumbs. very funny. :)
Ohhh good cop, bad cop parenting. I can guess it'll be the same in our house in a few years.
But even more ooooh - I can smell toast. I want toast!
Went to our first NHS parentcraft class last night. Not a bean bag in sight, and she said she didn't do the breathing exercises. The midwives were really lovely. I'm not sure how much I actually learnt, but DH and I enjoyed it. She doesn't stick to a script, she went around the class to find out what we all wanted to know about - and that's our format for the next 3 weeks. Last night we covered the signs of labour and when to call the hospital, and pain relief. Epidurals sounds pretty awful.

6 hours is luxury!! I go to bed early, but toss and turn for ages. And last night was one of those nights where I had to visit the loo about 6 times.