The 'We are brooking no arguments whatsoever for an uneventful pregnancy and pain-free birth' thread

[Biscuitsandtea]

Ladies, our previous thread was getting full so here is a lovely new shiny home for us all.

I've put some comfy cushions around and plenty of pregnancy safe snacks and drinks. The Segway park is in the corner over there next to the stack of glittery vom buckets (plenty of extra buckets too for all the newbies).

In the corner over here you'll find our library of leaflets including sections on early pregnancy private scan clinics, pushchairs and car seats.

Hope you all like it very much :)

Heavens dream! get ye to a doctor woman!

You are clearly being very sick and it's not good for the baby if you can't drink or eat. Please go and see someone tomorrow or we will all worry and you shouldn't be causing us that sort of concern in our condition. :)

ooh, but update!! I have eaten 2 pieces of toast and haven't been sick yet!!! And feel SO much better for it Honestly, if the cyclizine had helped more last time I'd be more inclined to go!

Well done, dream. As I am sure, DrDream will tell you, there are other drugs they can use for hyperemesis other than cyclizine.

musical, sorry to hear about the bleeding. Hope it all settles and everything is fine.

Hi :)
Saw a heart beat!!! Turns out im not as far as i thought. I thought 8 weeks by ovulating on cd 20 but she thought more like 7 weeks. Initially she thought 6 weeks but then got a better close up of the little prawn and decided 7 weeks. That explains the late positive wee stick! Crazy! Some seriously late ovulation!

Great news Meconium! I have been checking regularly for an update today :)

Yay Meconium - heartbeat = excellent news

me too meconium, hooray!!! a 7 week little prawn. Just lovely

Finally, i can turn off mn and go to bed. My 2 pieces of toast were the height of my achievement today. Maybe that is why i am lacking energy (or because i was up on and off from 3am with mornign sickness...)

Either way, i should go to bed

Oh, great news, Meconium.

oh dream you poor thing, you must feel like poo. Nice early night for you, we'll get straight on the brooking tomorrow for a nice puke free ish day. :)

Congrats Meconium! That's excellent news! Glad it explains the late pee stick as well. How lovely to hear the heartbeat.

Dream you do sound very very unwell. I hope you'll see a doc and try an alternative nausea medicine, even without all the exercise this time round the first trimester is always going to be harder whilst looking after a little one! (I imagine!) Whatever you decide I hope you feel better soon!

Musical I'm so sorry to hear you're still bleeding a little - it must be so incredibly stressful. We will all be putting in some No Brooking overtime, and I'm sure you and the bean will be completely fine. All the books say that a little bleeding doesn't have to mean bad news (although I imagine that doesn't take away the stress!) I just hope it clears up quickly so you can get on with your long, boring and uneventful pregnancy!

I'm still feeling horrible over here, but counting down the hours until my scan on Sat! 37 1/2 hours to go...

Menconium, that's fabulous, congratulations! That must have been so exciting :)

Dream - Congrats on the toast! Hope this is the beginning of an upward trend in your ability to eat!

Eeek, Scream just encouraged me to work out how long until my scan - 12hrs 20 mins....

Sorry for those who are still sickly

That's soooo exciting Biscuits! Will be thinking of you tomorrow :)

musical I bled at weeks and 16 weeks with DD1 i went on to have a healthy 9.9lb baby girl! apparently in something like 60% of women have ectopic womb tissue which basically protudes a bit below the cervix it is harmless and due to your updiffedness the blood supply is also more than normal = a bit of bleeding i hope this helps and try to relax sending you an unmumsnet cuddle and a rocky road from starbucks

feel absolutly exhausted today had a nap and everything but work tomorrow so I will be super busy. Me and DH worked out 5 paydays until baby is here and we have xmas in the middle!!

Fantastic news Meconium about your scan

dream I hope you have a better night than you did last night.

Biscuits so excited for you for tomorrow. Did you and DH decide what you're doing about nuchal fold test? It was you who said your DH wasn't sure wasn't it?

Thanks, meme. I've read that it's very common, and read loads from people who have had bleeding. I felt a lot calmer after being in A&E yesterday, but then not so calm after they just did bloods etc - what I really hoped they'd do was a scan to prove everything was in the right place (a TV one I presume, and I'm not sure there'd even be a heartbeat yet, but I spent most of the day terrified it was ectopic).

The bleeding has been less than my "implantation bleed" (which I thought could have been a very light AF!), so I'm trying to keep it in perspective based on that. I'm a worrier though, and naturally its all making me go a bit mad! I've had a bit of abdominal pain, but to be honest that could be due to constipation or bloating, so I should stop trying to read too much into it! There are so many things it could be...

My hCG level was 9000 yesterday, which sounds good at least.

Rant over - thanks for listening ;) (or scrolling past!). And thanks for the cuddle and rocky road - both greatly appreciated.

The number of paydays until baby is here are scary! Luckily we have quite a few..!

Scarlet yes it was me re the nuchal fold. When I finally pinned down DH to talk about it, it became apparent he had got it confused with the amnio, which is of course v different with v different risks, so we're going with it now

Musical hope you get some reassurance soon. Are they doing a repeat blood test or anything? Are you planning to have an early scan?

Night night everyone xx

Biscuits, not as far as I know. It was a one off in A&E. I haven't even been 'registered' as pregnant or whatever you do - my appointment with the doctor isn't until next Friday. Will phone up the surgery tomorrow and see if I can get in directly with the midwives- or see if the doctors would like to see me sooner and sort out bloods or an early scan or something. As much as I'm trying to put on a brave face (esp for DH) I'm going a little mad with worry!

But, at the same time, as I said, the implantation bleed was heavier. So I should be keeping that in my mind!

Good luck with the scan! :)

Musical how many weeks are u u should be about 7 with a hcg of that ring up the early pregnancy unit at ur local Hosp they will prob see u for a scan all ladies that come see us get an appointment and scan- cuz that's how we roll lol much love xxx

Soooo tired and feeling icky and to add to it, I think I might have thrush! I haven't had it for years. What can I do about it, DH doesn't like the idea of anything going "up there" at this early stage!
Sorry to hear about all the vom,lets hope toast is the miracle cure!

Ahh, thank goodness for knowledgeable people! meme, my CBD said 2-3 last Friday. If that was right, I was 4-5 then; 5-6 now. I'll phone up the hospital when I get home this afternoon and see what they can do! Even if they'll just give me another blood test that would be fabulous, just to check something's happening hcg wise :) Feeling rubbish but happier today though - everyone's brooking no argument has clearly had an effect - thanks!

What have all you lovely ladies got planned over the weekend? I have to staff an open day at a bell ringing tower tomorrow (bizarre!), and Sunday I'm at my FILs. Glad my step mother in law isn't there as she's been nagging us about having kids since we got married (2 yrs ago)- would be hard to keep it under wraps with her nagging at full pelt! She is lovely though, even if she did ask us a year ago "Well, are you at least practicing?!" ...

[hmmm] @ are you at least practising. What a question to ask!
wants i think caneston cream is fine in pre, ask the pharmacist. Thrush really common in preg.

biscuits best of luck for scan today, VERY exciting :) In fact she is prob guzzling water as we speak and on her way!

musicalmrs hope you get some more reassuring info soon. It does sound okay as its less than implantation, you maybe just have a very juicy womb lining!

We've got both set of parents coming round for sunday lunch, was planning to tell them then. But for some reason, now i have a picture of a tiny little prawn, Im not as confident about telling them. maybe its because im not as far as i thought, or that its still early days and it was so tiny. I dunno, i just feel vaguely fraugulent to be telling them with this undecipherable picture rather than whipping out a 12 week baby scan with an actual identifiable baby on it. But its difficult to not tell anyone, for practical reasons too like not drinking, not decorating, not getting involved in the heavy gardening etc that we have planned. Hmmm, dunno how i feel about it now.

When and how has everyone else told their parents/close friends?

biscuits good luck today, I had a nuchal on tue and get results back today so will take a few days to get definitive results.

Trying to keep up with everyone's news as have had MIL here so not been online much. Great news about scan meconium.

Canesten cream fine in pregnancy, thrush tablets aren't.

Bleeding in pregnancy incredibly common, when I worked in A&E we saw several women a week with same and huge majority went on to have normal viable pregnancies.

Thinking of all the ladies with scans today, keep us posted!

P.s dream, I second everyone's advice to get different anti-emetic if you can, there are lots more. Not worth suffering like this.
Hope you feel better soon

I really can't make a decision about whether to tell my parents or not. On one hand I really want to. As you all know it's hard keeping a secret this big and we've kept it a secret for a month now already. It would be nice to tell them now we have a photo and it would be nice to have help with DS if I'm having an off day. On the other hand, telling people makes it seem so much more real. Once it's been said, it can't be unsaid and while I'm still worried about mc the thought of telling people worries me it might jinx things. Ridiculous I know.

I also don't want my in-laws to find out yet. Although we get on ok mostly, we have had our "moments" over the years. If I were to have another mc I can't bear the thought of them talking about me behind my back and them trying to diagnose what might be wrong with me, or it must be because of this or that. So, how do I explain to DH that I'd like my parents to know but not his? Difficult. Plus the fact his mum absolutely cannot keep anything to herself. This has been proven in the past when we've told her things in confidence.

We certainly don't want extended family or friends to know until after 12 weeks. So it would be nice to share it with someone now, but I know it seems so mean to DH to tell only my folks. The only way I can explain my reasons to him is to say if it all goes wrong, it's my body that's caused it to go wrong (which would be fair to assume after 2 previous) so it's too personal a thing at the moment. I just don't know, help!