The 'We are brooking no arguments whatsoever for an uneventful pregnancy and pain-free birth' thread

[Biscuitsandtea]

Ladies, our previous thread was getting full so here is a lovely new shiny home for us all.

I've put some comfy cushions around and plenty of pregnancy safe snacks and drinks. The Segway park is in the corner over there next to the stack of glittery vom buckets (plenty of extra buckets too for all the newbies).

In the corner over here you'll find our library of leaflets including sections on early pregnancy private scan clinics, pushchairs and car seats.

Hope you all like it very much :)

Too that must be such a shock! You poor thing. I promise I will be Brooking no Argument for you non stop, I wish I could just give you a real life hug though. Purple's advice seems like the best idea, posting on a thread with other people who've got though this situation will hopefully help. Also there are still sooooooo many more chances for everything to be fine, 9 in 10. It must still be such a shock though, you poor poor thing. We'll stay positive for you until you've had a chance to absorb it.

Will you be having more tests? If you haven't decided yet, or if that question is too personal, please just ignore it.

brooking hard for you Too. :(

Brooking for you Too. Thinking of you, and hope you're doing ok.

Oh Dumbledore what a shock. I hope you and DH are ok and you're being looked after. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I suppose you need to decide now whether to have further tests or not. Whatever you decide we're here for you.

There is a 90% chance that all is well. I'm thinking of you and sending positive thoughts and wishes your way.

Hello, I have been trying to catch up- have had a horribly busy fortnight or so with work and illness.

Too, I am so sorry to hear you have had such strssful news. I will be brooking very hard for you. As Scream says, there are still many more chances that there is nothing to worry about.

It is two days until my scan and I am starting to get really nervous that I have imagined everything! I met with a midwife last week for some blood tests and form filling in. I felt like I came out with more questions than I went in with! She wasn't able to tell me much about VBAC/ repeat section or what the pattern of antenatal care would be for someone like me. Hopefully the people I see on Wednesday will be able to help.

I haven't told anyone yet (not even my dm!) and am really quite nervous about telling my childfree friends- two of my closest girlfriends are single and don't have children. Pre-DD we did a lot together but since DD I haven't done any of the things like weekends away. Two young children is going to make this impossible for a good while yet, plus my priorities have changed, but I don't want them to ditch me either! We have been friends for a long time.

Anyway, I hope everyone is doing ok and that there is only an entirely manageable amount of vomiting going on.

Just popping in from the rat smacking thread to send extra strong Brooking vibes to Too. I have absolutely everything crossed for you my love - even my legs given that I'm not in the prime rat smacking window.

grr lost my msg AGAIN

too brooking ever so hard for you over here. 90% chance of it not happening are really high but i realise that is no consolation for you and it is so difficult not to focus on that 10%. much love. hugs if appropriate or a pat on the back if that is perferable.

dream and other scanees will also be brooking for you all this week.

too - brooking here for you too. What scary news. A friend of mine was given 1:8 chance of downs and on the amnio was given the all clear. I also know two people who were told their baby would have a genetic disorder at this point and both continued their pregnancies and had perfectly healthy babies. It's not an exact science.

Thanks for all the good wishes and Brooking. I've spoken to the Fetal Medicine MW this morning and I think I'm going to wait until 16 weeks for the amnio. I could have had a CVS now, but it's got a 1 in 50 mc rate (amnio is 1 in 150) and that's just too high for me. It's only a week and a bit to wait, and then the results will be back in 3-4 working days. Now I just need to get an actual date for it as close to 16 weeks as possible.

I have a friend at work who was given a risk rate of 1 in 2 and her baby was fine...I'm trying to cling to stories like that! She had placenta previa, which caused the abnormal blood results. I don't know if I have that. Grandma had it with her third pregnancy and lost the baby at 28 weeks, but that was in the 60s when they couldn't diagnose these things in advance.

Purple, I've posted in Antenatal Tests/Choices and there are lots of hopeful stories on there. I'm calmer now and resigned to a long wait for answers. I can't say I'm prepared for the worst, because I don't know what I will do, but at least I'm better able to cope with the wait for now.

So glad you more positive now Too. Hopefully, they should give you a close date for amnio it isn't the sort of things they can put off.
Are you finding out the sex? The amnio will be able to give you are a definite answer, could be a positive to think of?
Brooking hard for you :)

Dumbledore good to hear you're feeling a little calmer and more informed. I'm sorry you're going through this, especially when you've already been through so much.

I hope the next couple of weeks go quickly for you and you get your good news as soon as possible.

Too have been thinking about you all day - and brooking of course! Glad you've got an idea of timelines at least to go on. I know there is little 'real' reassurance we can give you but we can do a great line in support and hand holding.

Hold on - need to go back and re-read your post....

Ok, got it.

Have you spoken to your consultant yet? Hope they are looking after you. After everything you've been through you need that extra extra level of support and compassion and I hope the staff working with you remember that. If not send 'em my way

Anyway, thinking of you and wishing I could could rush up to Scottish land to give you a big squeezey hug and maybe bring a casserole or something xx

I did speak to the consultant and she went over my options again. A couple of things really stuck in my head, though - she said that it was a really quite high risk factor, which keeps playing over and over in my head - and that if it wasn't Down's, she would want to know what caused the abnormal blood results. It might indicate an abnormality with the placenta.

I made up my mind about the amnio and tried to phone the MW back to book it and it was 16.03 and they had closed on the stroke of 4! Grr. So I will have to wait until tomorrow to book it. I don't think that MW knew anything about my past history. She certainly didn't say anything to indicate that she did.

A casserole and a squeezy hug would be lovely, Biscuits, especially the hug.

Have been away and not read thread properly yet, but Too, am brooking vvvvvvvvv hard for you. Thinking of you.

Too, i hope it's just a wierd anomaly they can never really find the reason for, or they do and can fix it if its your placenta... If its any use my SIL had a 1:3 risk with both hers (she was 38 or her first and 40 for her second I think) and both came back normal on amnio and both are fine. I really, really hope this is how it goes for you. Add my No Brooking to the list. I'm thinking of you.

I saw the mw today, and got re-booked into the system and am finally there so all on for my scan thurs. She said if the mw rag up in front of me (which she did) then its all booked and fine.

So, who didn't drink anything extra for their scan? was it ok? She told me I needed a full bladder, hmm... Its first thing in the morning (well, 9:40, peak vom time) and is suspect a lot to drink will just make me puke anyway.

Hi all! I thought I'd pop my head in to say hello. I got my BFP a few weeks ago and have just felt dog rough since then. Today I am 6 weeks exactly and I puked!

Its my first 'proper' pregnancy symptom! I puked like a good 'un with my DS for 2 months, so I probably won't be celebrating soon, but for now, I'm happy as all seems to be going as it should be. I've had a tiny bit of bleeding on wiping 3 times so far, so am brooking away!

I have been lurking and wanted to say well done/good luck for all the recent/upcoming scans. Very exciting! I am toying with having a private early scan just to put my mind at rest.

And sending a big hug to Too. Look after yourself and keep brooking.

Hello duke, I agree, really glad when the symptoms started (I started vomming bang on 5 weeks to the day...) and now am ready for it to stop!!!!! Chin up, it'll pass, and then you'll be that bit closer to the baby!!!!

I am wondering how I will cope with 2 today having watched a friend struggling with a properly tantruming toddler with baby in bbybjorn...Last seen trying to physically drag him into her house... Plus DD was up from 12-2:30 last night, I'm exhausted, and that's only one night. She's not eaten or drunk anything before bed so I'm not expecting a peaceful night... No idea what's up, she didn't respond to calpol/sore mouth theory. Just wanted to lie on my chest. Not beside me in bed (without scratching/poking/writhing etc), not anywhere else, not daddy, just mummy. Chest frog baby. Tired I am.

Sends a bonus hug to too and hopes she's not worrying herself sick all the time, just most of it

oh too thats still a 90% chance of no problems, plus the combined screen has a false positive rate of about 3% i believe. Good luck for how ever you decide to proceed. We are brooking so hard it hurts.

i feel a bit crap posting this next thing but hope too will understand. (huge hugs)

I had to pop in and share this little gem....
I just heard baby mec's heartbeat :) Clear as day on doppler at ten weeks. I could not be happier :)

dream feeling your pain re sleep. DS was up from 12.30 - 2.30 last night and we're just exhausted today. DH did point out that its only 3 months until we're doing it every night - should be interesting...

dream feeling your pain re sleep. DS was up from 12.30 - 2.30 last night and we're just exhausted today. DH did point out that its only 3 months until we're doing it every night - should be interesting...

Meconium, that's lovely! Is it a home doppler you have?

Dream and Hawthers, hope you catch up on sleep soon!

Hi Duke, congratulations on the BFP and the puking . Hope you get your early scan.

Have the amnio booked now - Mon 17 Oct. I should get the results by the Friday of that week at the very latest and it might be by the Wednesday.

Glad you have a date Too (although of course sorry you have to go through this at all). I do hope though that the next two weeks (until results etc) go as quickly as possible for you. I know it's going to be stressful and I'm not sure what to suggest but we're all rooting for you.

Do take care my dear xx

RANT ALERT

I am F**king Fuming, last year for xmas I got tickets for Rihanna in london, supposed to be for me and DH but he couldnt get time off so my neice bought the ticket off him and me and her were going, my neice has rang her mum to ring my husband to tell me she doesnt want to go, tomorrrow... I have paid for train tickets, hotel and everything to find out I am either going to have to go alone or not go at all, i have never been to london. so annoyed. if I cancel I lose all the money and I am skint, really skint atm. I dont know whether its my hormones cuz i would usually have been annoyed but not fuming grrr... and now I feel sick. poor lil shrimp.

meme on your behalf. I would be fuming about being let down like this pregnant or not. How old is your niece? What's her reason for cancelling? What does her Mum say about it? If her reason is just that she no longer wants to can you insist that she still pays her share? I know it still leaves you out of pocket if you can't go at all, but at least you'd only lose half as much.
Is there anyone else at all you can go with? Even if they don't pay you their full share for everything? Please don't go alone.

Great news about the heartbeat Meconium