The 'We are brooking no arguments whatsoever for an uneventful pregnancy and pain-free birth' thread

[Biscuitsandtea]

Ladies, our previous thread was getting full so here is a lovely new shiny home for us all.

I've put some comfy cushions around and plenty of pregnancy safe snacks and drinks. The Segway park is in the corner over there next to the stack of glittery vom buckets (plenty of extra buckets too for all the newbies).

In the corner over here you'll find our library of leaflets including sections on early pregnancy private scan clinics, pushchairs and car seats.

Hope you all like it very much :)

I feel far too sick to eat any breakfast. I'm going to feel awful in work now. I hate my job and dread going in each day anyway but to also feel like being sick constantly just makes things worse. I'm on a 3 month contract with the possibility of it being extended. Part of me wishes they don't extend it but part of me wants to cry at the thought of being there for the next 7-8 months. I can't leave as who would employ me while pregnant and if I hand my notice in I won't get any dole money

Oh Jen how grim. You can't be there for years though, just think of your mat leave. Tired plus nauseous plus hormonal makes it all far worse too... Chin up and try not to puke on anyone!! I have only been sick once so far today, once! Bliss... And yes, not fair, my sickness is just as bad if not worse than with dd

Welcome across Duke!

Jen that sounds so frustrating! Dream is right, the tiredness and the nausea just makes everything so much worse. In a few short weeks the nausea and tiredness will be gone (we are Brooking No Argument about this!) and you'll know where you stand at work. Either way you and miniJen will be fine. Just hang on hun, and we're all thinking of you!!

I'm sooooooo fed up of feeling tired, sick and generally crappy at work whilst having to pretend everything is fine! (I say this after a grand total of 1 week and 1 day back at work! ) Roll on 12 week scan! Then I'll be able to whinge out loud to my heart's content!

p.s. Whilst looking after my cousin-in-law's little boy this weekend was delightful (he's such a charmer already!) I am now EVEN MORE in awe of you pg ladies with toddlers at home. I have always known in theory just how hard you guys are working, but a one day taster has really given me some concrete examples! All the cheeky chubby smiles are totally worth it though!

Hi, just checking in! I worked an extra session at work today, hoovered the whole house and cleaned the Degus. I am having a well deserved sit down while DH makes me a horlicks!

Thanks Scream and Love for your kind words. Did you decide what to send, Love?

Jen, maybe you should puke on someone [evil grin] - it might make you feel better! Echoing Dream re mat leave - just think, in a few long short months you will be off for a nice long break. It may not be a relaxing break (I believe there's a lot of getting up in the middle of the night), but at least it won't be work.

Hi Duke, congratulations!

I am terribly evil at the moment. I made DH cry this evening by shrieking at him when he wanted me to cook. I realise that makes him sound wussy - it was very out of character for him! Is anyone else quite so bad? At least I seem to have moved on from crying myself at the drop of a hat.

@ Too! I also seem to have got in touch with my inner monster. Poor DH. Although I only feel sorry for him when he's not around and I have a chance to think rationally. When he's in the room I seem to be irritated by every tiny thing he says or does. It's completely unfair of me!

I'm feeling generally less teary as well, which is good, but yesterday eve I had a total attack of the blues out of nowhere! It was like PMT all over again, and I had rather hoped one of the big benefits of being pregnant would be an escape from the wretched pmt-blues!

Err, Can I confess to being a total pyscho-bit*h from hell sometimes, when it just comes over me?! I am worried about how snappy I can be... DH is miffed. He is complaining of not feeling loved, and that I don't show him any affection any more. He is missing DTD but I'm so tired, I just want to go to sleep... I know I need to make more effort, but I do generally snap at him when he asks me to do something/ have DD etc etc and I feel awful- but how is he meant to know that?? I know I'm being snappy. I'm also mostly not cooking anything due to the nausea. Did cook a couple of big meals so DD has little portions in the freezer I can whack in the microwave, but not regularly producing an evening meal. Now I'm also worried about him and feeling a bit guilty!! We did clear the air though, and I have reassured him this is temporary, and bring on feeling better- by 20 weeks last time i was miles better. And DTD. He's cheered up...!

Too, there is a phenomenal amount of getting up in the night/ not getting to bed. I got exhausted and more and more shattered until i finally accepted that being a mum was my ONLY important job at that time, and so long as I and DD made it through the day, it didn't really matter. I found all the people who told me to 'enjoy every second' depressing in the first 6 weeks, when I really struggled. I think it is true to say you will have many, many good bits, some very VERY trying bits, some amazing, magic moments and lots of nice/ average/ not so bad/ quite rubbish bits in between. All of that, every day!!

scream, crazy ass hormones, it's a nightmare...

and too,, i reckon i'm worse. I was ashamed of myself when DH said how he was feeling. Ashamed.

Must be something in the water

Had to grovel apologise to DH last night for my snappiness and general grumpy behaviour over the weekend. Oh dear - still got 12 weeks (hopefully) to hold my tongue

At least we are still DTD otherwise I'd be in more hot water I think (sorry if TMI!)

Must be something in the water

Had to grovel apologise to DH last night for my snappiness and general grumpy behaviour over the weekend. Oh dear - still got 12 weeks (hopefully) to hold my tongue

At least we are still DTD otherwise I'd be in more hot water I think (sorry if TMI!)

Oh, I am also all over the place when it comes to general mood and emotions. I find myself snapping at poor DP for no reason which I know upsets him as it is really not like me at all. I have also instigated a policy of not answering any work emails for at least 10 minutes after I have read them as my patience with people at work is suddenly very limited and if I'm not careful I end up getting a bit shirty and saying things I later regret.

I am getting sudden attacks of the blues as well. One minute I am all joy and the next I am horribly miserable over something really silly or for no good reason at all!

I'm also all over the place! Crying at daft things, like someone mentioning it was their anniversary on the radio - madness!

Have also noticed my moods. Lost it much quicker with one of my classes today (though they were being nightmareish!). Also have noticed myself getting wound up about little things with DH - such as him not putting tea towels back in the right place (something I've never cared so much about before!), leaving things untidy etc.

I'm also getting attacks of the blues, Hiding, though I think it's partly because of the non-certainty of what's going on within. Two other people on the "May babies" thread who were spotting have confirmed bad news today. I'm still spotting/bleeding a little, though nowhere near as much.. scan seems too far away!

Haven't felt too pregnant today, which is also worrying. My face, however, is erupting like Mount Vesuvius! Not impressed in the slightest. Still, if it's a good sign, then I don't care how horrendous I look!

I have not had a minute to sit down all day, literally... Just done it and I feel so good. Ahhh!!! My own fault, I used DD's nap time to put the slow cooker on, vacuum the whole of downstairs, hang out the washing etc etc. And just, just when I was going to sit down, she woke up. Doh. Her Majesty just wanders round all day, falling on her head, so I follow her round, all day, every day while she's awake.... Tiring.

musical, i had horrendous spots too, and all on my chest and back too. Definitely a very pregnant symptom. Don't worry too much about the other thread ladies, in the kindest possible way, because everyone is different, and it doesn't mean anything about yor pregnancy of course. I still think when you went for your scan they wouldn't have been encouraging if they weren't genuinely optimistic, from my experience of a friend with recurrent mc- they never reassure her if the scan is dubious...

hawthers, we DTD all the way through last time, I need to make more effort as it's important to DH. And I have . It helps us stay close, it's just the tiredness makes it all seem soooo unappealing initially!!!

musical I've had loads of days where I've not felt pregnant at all and just when I start worrying I can guarantee the nausea or sore boobs will kick off again the following day.

I don't think that being pregnant has not really changed anything with regards to my moods. I don't think I've been any worse than usual. Oh, I've just noticed DH cowering in the corner shaking his head. Maybe I have been a bit snappy...

I spent 3 hours in the hairdressers this afternoon. Blissful.

2nd paragraph makes no sense.

I meant to say

I don't think being pregnant has really changed anything with regards to my moods.

Musical, that must be so hard . When do you next have a scan? I had heaps of spots too, so that's definitely a positive sign. I also don't feel pregnant all the time - it says in What To Expect that a feeling of unreality is common in early pregnancy.

Clearly many of us are alternating rage with tears - I wound up the evening by crying buckets over my new book. To be fair, I might have cried at that anyway, because it had a very sad baby-related storyline.

I have my booking scan tomorrow at 1.30! I thought it was at 9, but it isn't. Yay! Eek! I am not managing to Brook very well and keep getting scared that there will be bad news. Talk me out of it, please!

Good luck tomorrow Too - It is going to be a perfect scan - I wouldn't be surprised at all if the little baby gives you a thumbs up and maybe a while on screen just to show that they are brooking no argument either! :)

Seriously though - will be doing some proper brooking for you tomorrow - let us know how you get on xx

Dumbledore I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I'm sure your scan will be lovely

We can be scan buddies as I also have mine tomorrow. Feeling a bit anxious about it now but DH is very excited.

This is your 10 week scan right Scarlet? morning or afternoon?

Will be double brooking for you both :) xx

10 weeks Biscuits and it's in the morning.

Thanks for the brooking

too, you will be crying tears of happiness over your wriggling bean!!! Nothing will be wrong, it will be happy news and we'll all celebrate with you tomorrow. And I am NOT BROOKING ANY ARGUMENT WHATSOEVER ABOUT THAT

now, i am however, haunted by a recurring panic of going for my 12 week scan Thursday week and finding no heartbeat

Oh, and the No Brooking goes for you too, scarlet, me ole cycle buddy/pregnancy buddy. Will look forward to seeing your news tomorow too.

Ah thanks dream I'm also brooking no argument for you. I know how much you've been thinking about your scan and I'm totally in awe of you that you managed not to cave and get one already.

I can't wait for you to have your 12 week scan and see mini dream.

Thanks scarlet. I can't wait. I genuinely thought about getting a private scan secretly and then realised that would probably do more harm to my relationship when DH inevitably found out than good for my reassurance!! That's how desperate I was... I don't think I get through an hour without thinking 'how long is it til my scan?' 'I wish it was my scan tomorrow!'....

I was sick my whole breakfast so fast after eating it this morning that it looked and tasted practically identical to how it went in... but with some bile on top, after a lot more wretching, for good measure. I described this for DH and he wasn't even impressed. Gah.

Dream you have been amazing waiting so long for your scan - I am in awe of you and really want it to come round quickly for you xx