The 'We are brooking no arguments whatsoever for an uneventful pregnancy and pain-free birth' thread

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Ladies, our previous thread was getting full so here is a lovely new shiny home for us all.

I've put some comfy cushions around and plenty of pregnancy safe snacks and drinks. The Segway park is in the corner over there next to the stack of glittery vom buckets (plenty of extra buckets too for all the newbies).

In the corner over here you'll find our library of leaflets including sections on early pregnancy private scan clinics, pushchairs and car seats.

Hope you all like it very much :)

oh ps scarlet i am freezing cold all the time since being preg. Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Dumbledore I think you're meant to go by when you ov'd.

Lovely update Purple. I read the opposite to pomme re the heartbeat. I think it said 140 and above is more likely to be a girl and lower than 140 is more likely to be a boy. But I expect like most things there is conflicting info depending what site you've looked at.

www.ivillage.com/baby-sex-guess-sex-your-baby/6-a-129199

Meconium get your slanket on. I am definitely getting one soon.

Oh, Pommed, how lovely. How wonderful for your DD to have a sister. I am convinced ours is a girl based on nub theory and heartbeat (158) but we're not going to find out at the 20 week scan so it will be a surprise in March!

Sad weekend, some friends lost their baby at very late term after she developed pre-eclampsia. I don't know them that well as they don't live nearby so really just see them at weddings but her DH is a very old friend of my DH. Just such an awful shock, that whole group of DH's uni friends is having babies at the same time and no one has a clue what to do to help. I think we're going to send them a load of wine and chocolate for when she's out of hospital rather than flowers as they will presumably be inundated with flowers but I wish there was something - anything - we could do to help.

Love, there isn't anything you can do to help, but they will appreciate whatever you do. People sent us heaps of flowers, and some wrote us lovely notes, which we have kept. One friend sent us some DVDs in case we just wanted something easy to fill in some time. Anything you do will tell them you're thinking of them, and that's what's important.

Sorry must have remembered wrong on heartbeat.
Love - what a sad, sad story. I second writing notes, even just saying that you don't know what to say but are thinking of them will be appreciated. Just be heartfelt and honest. Maybe a beautiful plant rather than flowers?

LoveIn that's so tragic. I've a very close friend who lost a baby at full term in similar circumstances and it is so hard to know what to do for the best. I know my friend was very hurt when a couple of people who she'd considered to be goodish friends did nothing to acknowledge her loss. Obviously she didn't think about it too much at the time, but I know when she reflects on it now that it bothers her. As long as you get in touch in some way (letter or card) then I'm sure it will be appreciated. Do they have DC already? If so perhaps send a gift for them, a game or something creative (but not messy) to keep them entertained.

Thank you for the messages, especially yours, Too, with your awful experience . I like the idea of a plant - maybe even a tree they could plant in the garden or a big pot? It's their first baby as well. I just feel so terribly, terribly sorry for them. We will definitely make sure we write a nice note whatever else we do.

Love I'm so sorry to hear about your friends, that's just heartbreaking news. Too I'm so sorry for your loss as well, I don't know if I've said that on this thread before but I'm constantly inspired by how strong and positive you are after such an experience. My mother had a stillbirth after me, and I was so young at the time that I didn't know about it for years and years. Around the time I got married she mentioned it to me once, and the depth of feeling she still has about it is humbling. However she got through it and I have two younger siblings, so it has no bearing on future pregnancies.

Meconium I'm glad we get to be scan buddies again! We'll have to coordinate 20 weeks as well!

I've been reading all your comments about feeling cold over the last few days and not really understanding, well it caught up to me with a vengeance this weekend! I spent yday babysitting my cousin-in-law's gorgeous 14 month old, and the whole time he was napping I was huddled under her slanket! Can't wait for my new robe!

Love - so sorry to hear about your friends :(

Can I get involved in the gender guessing please? I'm loving the old wives tales at the moment! So far I've tried the Chinese Gender prediction chart, which agrees with my intuition that I'm having a boy. Please can someone explain the wedding ring test to me, or post a link? So far I've found ten different versions online! I can't tell if you use thread (does it have to be cotton?) or your own hair? Plus is it actually the wedding band or is it the engagement ring?

Sorry have been a bit AWOL this weekend. Out all day yesterday car shopping (zzzzz) and then making ds's birthday cake for birthday lunch today - absolutely pooped then this afternoon by the time I finally sat down! Hoping I can have a bit of a quieter week this week.

Scream - I used cotton thread and wedding band. Own hair?! That's a little too witchy imho!

My friends and I did it with cotton and a wedding band, but used the same wedding band for all of us (I can't get mine off even if I tried!) it did give the right answers for all of us though! Well for me it said 2 boys, so obv right for DS but then we didn't know if it included m/cs, or meant I had another boy to come (this was before my BFP)?

Agreed Pomme! Thanks for the pointers!

Ok ladies are we taking circular motion as boy or girl? Conversely are you taking back and forth as boy or girl? The various websites are all conflicting!

Gosh I can't even remember now!

So sorry to hear the sad news love. All the more.poignant ad dreadful when.you're pg- I'm trying to not be ridiculously sad as I don't even know these people.but shod, how dreadful.

I used ow hair own wedding band for dd- well my colleague did, she did it. Was right..

Sorry for all the.mistakes, on new phone... Struggling with it, if you can't tell... Circular for boy. Back and forth for girl isn't it?

Dream right in which way!?! Circular or back and forth?

X- posts, thanks for the update Dream. I figured that would probably be the outcome. My ring is definitely moving in a circular motion, and so far all signs point to a boy for me. It's fine though, he'll be a protective big brother for my future little girl!

hi all, I've totally failed with my proper update on the pc, back on my phone again.

the Chinese gender predictor and wedding band thing both said boy and were right last time for me.

i haven't got my ring to hand but the Chinese one says boy again. boy's names are hard! better think of one just in case..

Hi all. Just moviing over from the conception thread. Am only 4+3 weeks pregnant, so very early days.

This will be my 2nd, I have a 8m DS who is my whole world. I find it wierd that he'll have to share me soon. Am still breastfeeding, and my nipples are sooooo sore at the moment. Not helped by DS's newly developed teeth - ouch!

Other than that, very tired and slightly sicky feeling, but not anywhere near how it was in my first pregnancy.... yet.

I'll have a look over the thread and catch up on whats going on - especially with all the people who moved here before I 'met' them on the conception thread.

Glad you came over duke

Welcome duke and huge coongrats! My nausea with this one was nowhere near as bad as with dd (hides from the puckers) but I have been so much more tired. Really exhausted still at 17 weeks. Seems to be part of being pg with a little one to look after.
We have a stats thread to catch up on details too.

Glad you've come across Duke - and congrats again xx