December 2011 - Support tights time!

[BeeMyBaby]

Had no idea what to call it, sorry. Just googled third trimester and that was the recommendation...

Thanks for the clarification re breastmilk. I'd probably freeze any milk that wouldn't be used within 24 hours anyway but it's just nice to know the official guidelines and that I won't kill the baby by accidentally giving milk that's been there for 2 days.

I'll join in with wanting to be done with being pregnant. Not that I want her to arrive yet, just wish time would speed up a bit! I feel like I'm being a bad mum to DS, just doing the housework uses all my energy, once it's done he wants to play and I just want to sit down. I'm trying to read plenty of books with him at the moment as a compromise.

Plu are you In the no alcohol in pg camp? I've had a few glasses of wine or shandy over last few months possibly a couple a month on average and has been lovely but then always want more

Hi, I can handle a very weak shandy, and a very small glass of White wine - anything more just gives me a headache.
I'm not against the odd glass of alcohol - especially at this stage - but my body just doesn't like it. It's lucky really, normally I love red wine and martini Rosso (although not in the same glass!), and I don't know how good I would have been at abstaining, but since becoming pg, I can't stand the taste.

plupervert thanks for the advice, what you had does sound familiar and yes, I have next to no core muscles so could be that.

On the alcohol front I have been having half a glass of red wine or beer twice a week. Unfortunately, wine and beer are my only pregnancy cravings weird as I don't even drink beer normally.

msbuggywinkle I know what you mean about being a crap parent, my tolerance levels are at an all time low and DD has been going through awful temper outbursts. All kicking, biting and punching targeted at me, but being an absolute angel at nursery. I think it's partly to do with the pregnancy, sigh this too shall pass.

fusam lots if sympathy for the tantrums, it is so much harder to deal with while pregnant. DD2 has the habit of going under furniture when she doesn't want to do something, and now I can't fit under to get her out!

Post-pregnancy fantasies....pate on toast, a clothes shopping spree, champagne, not having to alter sex positions because the baby objects and less worrying!

I need a bottle of wine tonight....breathe.

Re: wine, for me I think it's just what figgygal said: I want more! I gave up alcohol and coffee for Lent, and it was just ghastly, because nothing is as bitter as coffee, and nothing as sharp as wine. Then I went and bloody got pregnant before the end of Lent - so I immediately resumed drinking coffee, thinking: bloody hell, I need some pleasure in life! I have had a couple of very small glasses of wine in this pregnancy, but it just isn't enough, so I reckon I'm better off getting it out of my system, and then I don't crave it!

About the tantrums, DS's crossness is definitely my neglect, but very luckily, he will be nearly 4 by the time DD is born, so will be able to be very "special" and "helpful". That, of course, could create self-esteem problems for DD as she gets older and needs to feels that she can do things too.... Oooooh-argh. Motherhood guilt, eh?

Evening :)

A definite non active weekend for me... But on the plus side have done a pile of mending and school uniform labelling that needed doing, and have consumed a ton of yoghurt lassi (home made- it's fab for counteracting heartburn and stops me overdoing the antacids!)

I'm not really drinking apart from the odd beer (about one a month) but find that I don't really want booze at the moment. Alcohol free Becks is pretty good stuff (as is Bavaria 0.0 from Tescos). And I do like a nice tonic (G and T without the G!)

Hello all.
Totally into the new house now. Removal people, bro and sis in law and friend helped us get it all done in record time. They are staying over and are downstairs now getting merry on the champers and wine. Had to retire to bed with mega back niggles and extreme Garbo-esque need to "vant to be alone".
I had a half of cider and a glass of champers today and feel rotten for it. Used to drink a fair bit pre pregnancy, but like others have said, tastes have changed.
I am starting to get a little panicky about the birth now, I keep trying to relax and look forward to it but I am finding the whole idea suddenly a bit terrifying. Anyone else?

I'm not terrified about birth, as I've done it twice and am resigned to the pain and so on. It's the fight to do it my way I'm really not looking forward to. Get yourself signed up for ante-natal within your trust and you can bend their ears as well as your midwife's.

Enjoy your new home:)

That is great efficiency, jomouse. Do you think the move was made easier by your pregnancy; that is: because you were pregnant, there was no pissing about, or skimping on the help?

I hope your back recovers with a good night's sleep.

Morning all.

jomouse try not to be too panicky about the birth, remember it's just one day and afterwards you'll have a beautiful baby.

I done a draft copy of my birth plan last night, I just need to finalise and type it out.

seven you asked why my previous birth was traumatic - I don't want to freak anyone out so have to say that this is very unusual and unlikely to happen to anyone else! But it was because DS arrived 10 weeks early, I had been on bedrest for 9 weeks so was totally exhausted and unfit and wasn't able to push effectively. I think he was back to back as well so I had excruciating back pain in between contractions, which were 3 mins apart from the very beginning. The actual birth involved 7 people in the room, including 2 midwives, 2 doctors for me, and 3 paediatricians/nurses and i ended up having to have a forceps delivery without any anaesthetic or an episiotomy as DS was starting to get distressed. Obviously there was a lot of fear as to whether DS would even make it. I found the pain unbearable and felt like I was dying, which sounds really melodramatic but I think I was in shock and kind of floated outside my body!

So I always said to myself that next time I wanted an early epidural as I felt I could cope with anything as long as I wasn't in so much pain. (I'd had gas and air but felt that it did hardly anything to help the pain). Having watched some of the hypnobirthing stuff I am really intrigued about it and think it could really help me so I am in two minds as to whether to try it naturally again or to go straight in for the epidural. Thing is, I don't want to get to the stage where I really want an epidural and it's too late or I have to wait ages for an anaesthetist.

I ended up buying the pregnancy relaxation CD from the natal hypnotherapy place and have used it twice so far. I really liked it and it did definitely relax me.

Feeling a bit rubbish today as couldn't sleep last night as my back hurt so much and i couldn't get comfortable. Have MW tomorrow so am going to try and get referred for some physio.

I'm not surprised you found the pain unbearable having a forceps delivery without anaesthetic, must have been bloody excruciating! I can completely understand your thinking behind an early epidural. I'm sure it'll be the right decision whichever way you decide to go.

Sounds awful Mmmm - I very much hope this next one goes better for you. And for all of us.

Can't believe is so warm today and will get actually hot this week. Normally would be pleased about this but I am loving the cooler weather actually.

Any one have any good ideas for cheap cheap winter coat or coat alternatives? Don't want to spend loads, given it's only for a few weeks, but my usual coat won't tie ... not that I'll need it this week!

Just dropping in quickly to say if anyone is stuck for some boy's names, here are a few I overheard this weekend at a junior colts D's rugby match (ie. 14 year olds):

"Great tackle Monty!" (Monty then got a concussion and nosebleed and had to be taken off)

"Pass it to Mungo!" (Mungo was a small skinny child with stick like legs - couldn't watch as he was tackled and basically crushed by the other boys)

"Noah you have GOT to start finding touch..." (Noah spent the match wandering around by himself looking at the sky and then ran the wrong way when he got the ball)

"Go go go Rory!" (Rory was about as round as a pork pie and lumbered slowly up the field, flattening all who stood in his way)

"Rupert, when he goes left he's really going right" (Rupert had braces, freckles and bright ginger hair like Rupert Grint)

There was also a Ferdie (short for Ferdinand), a Jonty (or possibly Jory?) and two Freddies, all in one rugby match!

Will read rest of the weekend updates now and post properly

Poor Mungo, makes me think of St Mungo's in Harry Potter.

Not that any of them would make my list but they're just adorable for little boys. Wouldn't be able to stop myself laughing though if I met a grown man called Monty or Mungo Seriously though what are their parents thinking? It's one thing to call your baby boy Mungo but to expect him to live with it forever...yikes! Or is it short for something more sensible?

Mary, Mungo, and Midge? Wasn't that a cartoon on ITV way back?

We love Alfred as a possible name, but sadly there are an absolute ton of Alfies and Freddies out there already, so that one's out.

How about Farquarh? (My grandmother used to suggest this whenever anyone talked baby names, she said it was a very effective conversation stopper. Mind you, her middle name was Horatia...)

I believe Monty is short for Montgomery, which is a bit of a mouthful, but more grownup than Monty perhaps.

Mungo is a full name. Something to do with a patron saint of Glasgow, apparently (says wikepedia)

tyelperion - your post made me laugh - very public school names and having worked in the independent sector I can totally imagine the parents shouting away and the kids in a world of their own. we are a bit stuck on names for boys or girls but will keep thinking. I actually really like Rupert but DH would point out (probably rightly so) t hat its a bit posh for us!!

mmm your birth sounds very traumatic and after a traumatic pregnancy as well it sounds - can totally understand your desire for an epidural.

Knackered today too as DS has a cough and has woken up the last 2 nights for water and I can't seem to get back to sleep after getting up to him. Been at work this morning and DS seemed to struggle through nursery ok (bad parent for sending him perhaps - I never know with coughs and colds as DS spends all of autumn/winter with one generally so we would not go anywhere if I kept him in) but now chilliing on sofa with cbeebies and MN

I quite like Montgomery, it sounds serious, suave even...a grown up Monty however conjures up a picture of a tubby, eccentric, cravat wearing heavy drinker (think wild hair & florid complexion)...I have an over active imagination though :o Poor Mungo, no where to hide from that name then...hopefully his middle name is less exciting

To be honest, my list of names is pretty eccentric (think Moon Unit Zappa) but I DP is reining me in somewhat...don't know if it's the hormones but this pregnancy seems to have turned me into a bit of a hippy. If I wasn't due in December I'd probably be giving birth in the garden :)

Isn't Farquarh the name of the prince in Shrek? Didn't realise it was actual name.

Speaking of names, can anyone recommend a really comprehensive baby name book? I've been through a few little books & I know there's loads of stuff online but I could really do with looking through a good chunky name book to give me some more ideas.

jiggle - absolutely spot on - I bet you could even guess the two boy's schools in question. More local colour - dads on touchline wearing quilted barbour vests and faded rugby shirts, wide corduroys (mustard yellow or ruby red) and driving moccasins or boat shoes. Stick thin mums also wearing barbours and enormous Chanel shades (it was raining). Dogs were either 57 variety rescue mutts, or labradors, setters and spaniels (guess these are the "smart" breeds to have!) Planes from Heathrow going overhead every 3 minutes...

Honey you have watched Withnail & I a few too many times - is clearly imprinted in your psyche! Other names from the class list include Vere, Valentin and St John (pronounced Sinjun). I think even the most comprehensive baby name book wouldn't have these...TBH I have been relying on the internet as the couple of books I looked at in the shop seemed too limited for me! (I too am in the eccentric names camp - and have started exploring having a home birth...lentil weaving, here I come! )

OMG Tyelperion can't believe I didn't realise I was describing Uncle Monty Withnail & I was one of my favourites when I was in my teens.