Shagged Out Viroids Volume 4. Over here!!

[nickelbabe]

ooops, got a bit carried away there.....

sign in everyone!
let's hope we get some new graduates on here too!

That we do!

BH can change over time, I used to get them where the bump just went solid (usually when walking anywhere), now its more of a tightening at the bottom like everything's being drawn in to one spot? I bet yours is Isbn headbutting you though! Pretty sure you'll have had loads of BHs without even noticing

I'm feeling sorry for myself today, hips hurt, am coming down with a cold, and to top it all off I ended up with piles this weekend (oh the glamour!) so not feeling a happy bunny.

On the plus side, I think I have bought a new (secondhand) pram this morning and only have 2 weeks left at work, yay!

oh, poor you :(
big hug and

thanks Nickel

squiglet has just spent last couple of minutes popping up and down at the top of the bump, looks very odd

i seem to get that a lot too!

I've been doing a new window display today, and I've managed to exhaust myself.
It's not even finished because DH seems incapable of remembering to get the bunting out of the loft!
(i've only asked him 3 times, on 3 separate occasions)

Hi everyone. How are you all? It must be lovely to be feeling all these really strong movements nickel and katee.

I had my scan yesterday. It looks like a boy, and everything is fine. I got really upset, as I had been so sure it was a little girl, and now DP thinks I am a heartless bitch who doesn't want our wee boy. It's not true, I will love our son. It's just that (I know this sounds loopy) through all the months and years of TTC, I thought we would have a little girl. She became totally real to me, so that I had a picture in my mind of what she would look like, what her name would be etc. I feel now like I'm mourning the daughter I never had (and probably will never have as we couldn't afford another one). I am grateful that my baby appears healthy, and I actually thought I would never have a second child, so he is a real blessing, but I still feel so shell-shocked about it all, and sad that DP just doesn't seem to understand. Please tell me that somebody here understands.

see, Bam - that's exactly the reason that I didn't want to find out what it was! :)
My sister had exactly the same feelings as you, you know, and once she was over the shock she was fine about it. Because you've built something up in your mind, it's more shock than disappointment.
Give it a few days, and you'll be so excited about having a boy. My sister was, she just needed time to adjust. :)

Thanks nickel. It's good to know that someone else went through the same experience. It really is a shock, but I'm glad to know now, rather than at the birth! I absolutely adore my DS, and I so wanted a little sister for him, but I know that once I am used to the idea of a boy there really won't be any difference.

DP was still quite frosty this morning, and I hope we can get back to normal tonight. He said he was disgusted by my attitude yesterday, and I felt really hurt. All I wanted was a hug and to be able to explain how I felt.

men just don't understand, do they?
It's all hormonal, i'm afraid

Nope, he doesn't understand at all. He just got really furious and said he thought I'd be happy either way. I've been trying to tell him (and my mum) for ages now that if the scan showed a boy, I would really need time to deal with it and get used to it, but they obviously either weren't listening or else didn't believe me. My mum says I should just be happy too (says she who had a boy and a girl). I really think DP thinks I'm a total cow at the moment, and that's just not helping me feel better at all. If he doesn't give me his usual lunchtime phone call I'll know he still hasn't forgiven me.

Ruddy hormones!

it's unfair that he expects you to be able to adjust to big news like that straight away.
and it's unfair that he doesn't understand that you wanted a girl.
It's alright for him, I'm sure he's really chuffed it's another boy.
I do think you need to explain it to him (write it down if you need to)

Part of me wishes that we'd found out the sex when we had our scan - I'm worried that if it's a boy, finding out on the day will be bad for bonding and for the baby blues. At least you've got time to adjust before he arrives.
You've got to explain to your DHP about the hormones and emotions behind it, or he might continue to see you badly. Men think everything's so black and white - they think "baby, coems out, it is what it is" but we build up pictures of perfect babies,and dressing them, and namingthem, and being best friends with them. I think it's so much mroe of an emotional thing with us.

You're right about the differences between how we think about things to do with the baby nickel. I know that DP was hoping for a girl, but that he was delighted with a boy. I was away ahead of myself, imagining things months and years ahead, and I feel so strange now that the whole world I had imagined is gone.

I know what you mean about wondering "what if" about finding out the sex. I am sure you will love whatever you have (I didn't find out with DS, and I was delighted) and in some ways I think if I had just kept an open mind and waited I would have felt the same way again. Because I really had my heart set on a girl though, I'm glad I found out so that I can adjust.

Are you really set on a girl? Does your DP have a preference?

I'm trying not to be set on a girl!
my little sister has 3 boys, my big sister now has one of each, and I want a girl!
I'm sure i'll be happy with whatever comes out, but like you, i have done the imagining the future thing.
DH really doesn't mind, but he has said a little girl would be lovely. But then, he's also said that a little boy will be good!

From my experience with DS, I think that labour is so intense that you really are just happy to come through to the other side with a warm wee bundle to cuddle, rather than really being that bothered about the sex. It's so hard not to have a preference though, but I think if you haven't found out the sex, then it's just a lovely surprise, provided you haven't got too much of a preference!

I am starting to feel a bit better about things now. DP tried to call, but my mum was on the phone, so he just sent a text instead. Damn! I really need one of those caller display phones for times like this!

I hope that's the case - one of the reasons why I thought it would be good to wait - the hormones would overshadow any feeling of sex preference.
Glad he's not still pissed off at you. :)

Well I hope he's not still pissed off nickel! I've made a big pot of soup and am trying to think positively, so hopefully we will be fine tonight. I just wish my mum hadn't phoned and I could have talked to him. The baby feels like a thorny subject just now, and it shouldn't and can't be that way, so hopefully we can talk later. It's annoying that DS doesn't go to bed until 8-8.30 so it's hard to talk before then, and then we're both knackered!

Those hormones will kick in for both of us when we have our little bundles, I'm sure, and we'll both be smiley mummies!

Nearly time to go and collect DS from school. It's awful weather here today. He also has loads of homework to get through for Friday. I'm sure we never got that much homework in P3!

How were things Bam? I had sort of the opposite problem in a way, in that I desperately wanted to find out as I thought I would freak if it was a boy (had my heart set on a girl as I felt like I wouldn't know what to do with a boy!) - DP didn't really want to know. We found out at the 20 week scan and actually it was a boy (though not telling RL friends/family) and I was fine with it. I think because I had talked it all through first, and I even had a dream the night before that it was a boy, it didn't seem like such a surprise iyswim?

I'm sure your DP will mellow soon, and realise what you're on about - we pregnant people are not the most rational at the best of times anyhow!

MW appointment this morning - BP up a bit so going back next week to have it checked. Baby 1/5 engaged, so heading in the right direction, yay!

oh god, that's not good!
both of you wanted girls and have ended up with boys - i'd better steel myself for a boy!

and ooooh! for your engagement!
(sorry, i missed it cos I got a customer )

and Bam - you're not the only one

Hi everyone!

Brilliant news on your engagement katee! Hopefully you will be able to breath easier now, although doesn't it make you need to pee more again?

Yay for customers nickel! Did you manage to get your window display finished?

Thanks to nickel's lovely words of wisdom yesterday, and my own mummy hormones kicking in, I am feeling fine about having a boy today, and have been thinking back to DS as a baby and getting quite excited! Also, I was out with my mum this morning, and had a good chat with her, and I think she could understand why I felt a bit sad at first. She bought a lovely wee blue cuddle toy for baby, which I will give to DS to give him. I really feel positive now and keep looking at wee boy stuff on t'internet, so I have definitely got over myself!!

I don't think its down enough to make too much of a difference yet (still 4/5ths above the brim) but I think and I may be speaking too soon... the heartburn hasn't been so bad for a few days. YY to the extra peeing, I ended up going three times in the first half an hour of going to bed last night! Only getting up once in the night though, so not too bad

Glad you're head is in a better place today Bam - and good news you had a customer Nickel

Right, better get some work done, only 8 working days till I finish now and lots to do!

I did, but I can't take a picture of it! Yesterday it was raining, and today, the sun is so bright that the camera underexposes the shot!

see, knew it would all be fine :)

Your head, not you're head. Bloody baby brain!

I left my scissors on a bookshelf earlier.
thank fully, it was in local books, and even more thankfully, noone had been in that section inbetween...

Glad you didn't leave the scissors in the crime section nickel!

I think it's my DP who has the baby brain in this house. Last night he went to mash the potatoes with the cheese grater!

Glad you're getting more sleep katee. I'm still up at least once every night, but I think it's because I feel thirsty a lot, and drink gallons of water. I never used to drink water. Ever.