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Due in August 2006

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mumsXMASwish · 06/12/2005 13:37

I think I'm the first to find this out. Am 5 wks pg and an EDD of 10th August, Anyone else wanna join me?

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mojomummy · 13/12/2005 12:21

afternoon ladies

Just got a quick question...I am 6.5 weeks pregnant & have been feeling very tired lately, along with a nice helping of nausea..I'm dealing with this ok, but I'm concerned as in the evenings (mostly) I seem to be having draggy, achey pains on my left side. I've already asked the drs about an early scan as I miscarriaged the last pregancy, so don't want to go back in case they ignore me & I get stressed. I don't remember these aches last time ( sucessful pregnancy) - are they normal ? anyone else got them ? should I seek medical advice ?

Atomicstockinghanger · 13/12/2005 12:47

Sorry gatecrash alert! But just wanted to say hi to Mojomummy!! How are you (you might remember me better as Baggybear ) Didn't know you were PG again hun. Best of luck hun and congratulations

mojomummy · 13/12/2005 12:49

Hi there & thanks - actually i thought you were coathanger ! so you are pregnant too ?

NewBethlehemGirlwithsparkles · 13/12/2005 12:51

Hi everyone!

Excellent news MXW! Really pleased for you.

Mojomummy, first - congratulations!
I've been moaning about getting no symptoms but the last 2/3 days I have also been getting a aching pain. It is in my lower back as though I was having my AF IYKWIM. I have read that aches are quite normal in the first few weeks but I too have had a miscarriage before I conceived with dd so I know how anxious all these aches and pains can make you feel.

Last night I had the most shocking pain in between my shoulder blades. Everytime I breathed in it sent a shooting pain in them. Dh thinks I have pulled something but when it started I was sat down watching tv and I don't have the pain today! So it can't be that.
I am sooo paranoid and anxious it's untrue. January cannot come quick enough.

Atomicstockinghanger · 13/12/2005 12:51

ooo, no mojo, not yet! hopefully soon though. I was just checking up on Mumswish and saw your name! Well done you!

kitegirl · 13/12/2005 14:19

mumswish that's wonderful news - although we'll miss you! 9 wks already! glad to hear everything is ok, look after yourself x

kitegirl · 13/12/2005 14:26

so, who have you told??

we are trying to keep it a secret until 12 wks, but the only friends we have seen since finding out, both couples sussed it out in about 10 minutes. classic - 'why are you not drinking?' and I could have said anything: ill, it's a weekday night, pre-toxing before christmas parties, anything, instead of blushing and giggling like a loon.

one of my best friends has been TTC for a while, now starting 3rd cycle of IVF in Jan, and I don't know how to tell her. Sometimes I feel that it's not fair - my dh only has to look at me it seems and I am up the stick, whereas she is having such a difficult time. How do I tell her?

freddysays · 13/12/2005 14:32

Can I be added to the list? Never done this before, but I used this site with my ds who is now 2yr. I hadnt planned on this one (well not until next year) so I am feeling a little shell shocked-which in turn makes me feel a bit guilty. I was over the moon with my first and I feel bad that I am not jumping for joy now. I am pleased but I hadnt planned on it during the Christmas/NYE season and we were looking forward to trying... Anyway, due first week in Aug (not sure of dates) having a dating scan this week. So date could change. Good luck to the rest of you though. Feeling sick bloated and today really foggy and tired MOAN MOAN

NewBethlehemGirlwithsparkles · 13/12/2005 14:35

I think maybe if you went to see her or maybe call if you don't feel up to it. Tell her and say you understand if she's upset etc.

A friend of mine who I saw last month told me that she was TTC but it was taking a while due to her coming off the pill and it seems to be getting her down a bit. I was really cowardly and sent her a message telling her. She was very honest though and said she was very jealous and a bit peed off but that she was happy for me and dh.

She knows I've been feeling a bit anxious lately but has been keeping in touch and has been very supportive.

NewBethlehemGirlwithsparkles · 13/12/2005 14:36

Congratulations FS!

Welcome to our little club (not so little anymore!)

You must be excited about your scan?!

rockmum · 13/12/2005 14:52

Welcome FS! I also feel really really tired, started on Sunday!! Today I had this ridiculous craving for a pasty, so I went down at lunchtime to buy one, yum!!

NBGS, I hope your pain doesn't come back! I've had a little pain after going to the loo, as if I was holding it for too long but I don't... I think we all get different pains and aches as our body is not used to working extra hard to make a new little life from scratch!

I bought a preg magazine today, any of you bought any? any good?

NewBethlehemGirlwithsparkles · 13/12/2005 14:54

Hiya Rockmum!

I used to buy Mother and Baby and another one I can't remember the name of when I was pg with dd. I loved reading them and especially loved the week by week articles they do.

freddysays · 13/12/2005 14:58

Thanks all for the welcome..Kitegirl..your friends situation puts things in perspective. I would find it really hard but I would tell her news quietly alone. She will be upset for herself but shes yoru best friend and she will be pleased for you. It isnt fair is it. But not your fault. She would feel worse if you kept it from her for longer and would probably feel a bit isolated by it all. Tell her shes allowed to be jealous or have some kind of negative reaction-she is human after all.. just be honest with each other

pucca · 13/12/2005 16:18

Hi everyone. hope everone ok?

Congrats and welcome FS!! {grin]

Mumswish...how fab to be further along than 1st thought!!

Baby magazines...i have read most of them when pg with dd, the best i think is pregnancy&birth.All the others are good its just they only have a small section on pregnancy,

freddysays · 13/12/2005 16:32

Pregnancy Magazines can be really useful but after a while the topics get regurgatated. I work in a baby related company and we advertise in a few of them so I get free copies, if any of you want some back issues from this year please let me know and I will post them to you. They just clogg up the office. I did have a flick today though and M&B had a few useful tips, a really sumptious magazine almost like a vougue for babies is Junior and Junior Pregnancy & Baby it makes a nice (but pricey) change.

pucca · 13/12/2005 16:43

FS...i know what you mean it is alot of repeated info, what i wish i had have done when pg the 1st time was get a subscription as its so much cheaper. I think its about £2.20 a mag, but on subscription its only £12.50 for 10 mags and delivered to your door.

Arabica · 13/12/2005 16:43

Hi and welcome FS. I haven't been able to keep my pregnancy a secret either so join the club! Mumswish, 9 weeks! Must feel a bit strange to be so much further on than you'd thought.
I'm out tonight and have to have a big tidy-up session tomorrow as DS' teacher is coming to do a home visit before he starts school in January. So plenty to keep me occupied before setting off for my scan tomorrow. I'll let you know what it reveals. Am trying to be positive.

pucca · 13/12/2005 16:48

Arabica...Good luck with the scan, let us know how it all went when you get back

trix1 · 13/12/2005 17:38

Good Luck Arrabica for the scan.

Welcome FS, we should do a new list of who is on this thread and when our due dates are?

I am bursting to tell people - a girl at work asked me today if I was and I could not lie so that is another person Ive told, also told Manager as i will be going for an early scan next Wed and had to explain my absense also with my history, i gave him a big hint that I dont need any stress now that I must remain calm to give this pregnancy the best chance possible. I have also told one friend - dh would go mad if he knew i was telling people already - its just that before we told everyone and then had to tell them all about the m/c. oh well im now 4 weeks 4 days and counting.

NewBethlehemGirlwithsparkles · 13/12/2005 20:16

Good luck with your scan too Arabica

FS, I wouldn't mind some baby mags if thats ok. I'll cover postage costs. Let me know and I can CAT you my address.
I think I did read every pregnancy mag under the sun with dd but even though it was only just over 2 years ago since I had her I've seemed to forgot alot of things.

trix1 · 13/12/2005 22:35

FS, I would really appreciate some mags too, I of course will cover postage etc. I had loads from a couple of years ago and did keep them but after the last m/c I dumped them all.

Arabica be sure to let us all know how you get on with the scan.

kitegirl · 14/12/2005 07:48

morning girls, a quick hello - frantically packing as off to Western Algarve for a few days of very gentle surfing before settling down for the long wait and have left everything to the last minute.

hope everyone is feeling ok. We are not so sure - have been spotting a bit since Monday (very very light pink-ish but I have heard it's quite normal in early preg) but last night in the loo I noticed quite a lot of blood with, excuse me now, clots/bits. It stopped and I did not bleed after that although felt a bit crampy in my tummy. I was in floods of tears and certain that I had miscarried, and I still am not sure. As I am 5wks tomorrow I think it's too early for the hospital to check for heartbeat or see anything in a scan, plus I believe there's nothing they could do anyway if it is a m/c. So it's wait and see, I haven't really had any symptoms except bigger boobs so hard to tell if I feel any different. We are hoping that everything is ok, fingers crossed.

God, my last pregnancy was such a doddle but you really can't take anything for granted, can you. hope you and your babies are all well.
xxx

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mumsXMASwish · 14/12/2005 08:17

Just a quick drop-in to say I hope everything is ok with you kitegirl. Have you spoken to your doctor? They can check if your misscarrying through HCG levels it might be worth doing that. I'm sure everything will be fine keep smiling.

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kitegirl · 14/12/2005 08:29

thanks MXW - I'm still bleeding a bit so I'll go and get myself checked out just to know for sure one way or other.

pucca · 14/12/2005 08:55

Kitegirl...i am really sorry to hear that, as MUMSWISH said go to your doctor and get your hormone levels checked, or try another pg test.

Fingers crossed for you, hopefully its just a bit of spotting.

Let us all know how you get on.

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