Frisky and Glowing in The Second Trimester on The February Baby Bus!

[BillComptonstrousers]

Well, are we?

Has the sickness abated?
Are our locks shiny and luscious?
Are our nails long and strong?
Are we back on form in the 'ahem' bedroom?

No? Well we soon will be ladies it's The second Trimester*

*billcomptonstrousers accepts no responsibility if this does not happen to you.

Old thread here

I'm not responsible by the way for any raging hormones after you click on that link!

Cold shower time there Bill!

Lilyrose Are second births as a rule not a bit easier/quicker than firsts, as your body has done it before and knows whats expected of it? I don't know, its just such a scary prospect. I actually chickened out of a vbac for my second, and went for an elcs, couldn't bear the thought of labour to end up in another emcs. My DSIL used hypnobirthing for her second and it really helped her, I think...

Oh dear.... shouldn't have clicked that link in the middle of the day...!

2nd births are generally easier than 1st. I do remember when my waters broke with DC2 really panicking as the memory of labour came back. DC3 was my longest labour, but he has a different Dad to DD and DS and was considerably bigger! I found with 2 and 3 that I was much more relaxed between contractions and didn't freak out like I did with DC1 (although that could also be something to do with me being 19 and DS being 4 weeks early)

I have suffered from Post and pre-natal depression and am still on ADs for it. I echo what everyone has said about needing to talk to your midwife and DH/family, it's worse if you feel alone with it. Try not to panic though, hormones can make you feel like this and it may pass in a little while.

Had scan this morning and v relieved to report that all was well :-) Got a good nuchal measurement of 1.5mm and all other measurements within normal range. It was a truly wonderful moment seeing our baby on the screen... got our EDD changed to 27th Feb which fits in more or less with my own dates. Good luck to those still waiting on scans, there can't be many more to go now!

11 + 4

Finally had our scan done, it was brilliant to see a nice lively baby waving and kicking. Had the nuchal fold measurement 1.5mm so that was a relief. Due date brought forward by a day to the 13th but will prob stick to the 14th for now.

innocent I've been feeling quite panicked about everything changing but I think that is normal and I know that in reality we will cope with everything as and when it happens.

esme and xavielli I know second ones are supposed to be easier, but I have all this fear and knowledge from the first and I need to train myself to think it wont be that bad and that I can cope with it
I feel freaked out at the thought never mind when it starts to happen
i have heard good reports from th hypnobirthing and I figure even if it relaxes me in pregnancy its worth the money! :) I can't sustain 6 more months of feeling this worked up
but last night was a huge help already so I feel more positive
bill i dare not open that link at work! LOL I will have to wait until i get home, but am intrigued, or however you spell it!

For first-timers, can i echo what somebody! said above about making sure your reltionship with DH/DP gets lots of attention now? You can't imagine what a massive pressure it is. Yes, it's something you can share, and it is lovely to watch daddy falling in love with the baby like you have over the 9 months, but put lack of sleep, lack of sex, lack of conversation (except chat about the baby ALL the time), and seeing your DH/DP in a totally new role, acting in a way which you may not always like, and vice versa (ie, you want each other to be the perfect parent, and when you see the inevitable imperfections it can cause grief and fights), then it can all add up to massive difficulties, which we never even imagined. This isn't to worry people, but to encourage you to make extra effort now, and whatever effort you can when baby arrives to put DH/DP first, even for just 5 minutes a day, to work on that relationship.

I'm worried about how DC2 is going to affect us, because i don't think we're back to where we were before DC1 yet. It will always be different, but that doesn't necessarily mean it has to be worse!

it's such a...changeable...time. Nice, but different.

Back on to less deep things, just ordered some 36" maternity jeans from maternatall, thanks for the link whoever it was, ages ago, as i found that site when waiting to POAS and couldn't remember what it was called. Tall people, i'll let you know what they're like. They were £32 with free p&p, which is SO different from bloomin expensive Longtallsally, and there was a choice of about 6 pairs, unlike LTS's one! Although, if you want a denim maternity skirt, LTS has them in the sale for £17. I'm tempted but really broke this month (repairs to property, worse than monopoly), so will make do. Went through my box of maternity clothes today and couldn't believe I made it through 9 months wearing ONLY those few things. But, i wil buy NO more. probably. :)

What is the vampire prog you're all watching?

Right, bedroom needs scrubbing, i'm bored, so i might as well go and do it, once the nappies are hung out.

Fun!

woowa its true blood thats getting everyone hot under the collar lol

ah, I see. I gave up vampire programs after a really bad nightmare about 15 years ago, so am totally out of touch :)

off to hang up nappies. Oh, the romance.

Can we avoid True Blood spoilers please? I've only seen the first two series and about to order the third!

I've been signed off work for another week - sitting up for more than an hour still not working, but feeling a lot better.

Seconding people saying working on your relationship is vital. I remember when ds was three weeks old plonking the moses basket behind us and playing a computer game together rather than going to sleep - we were more shattered the next day but that feeling 'normal' and together was so worth it.

I've never seen True Blood....

They're already planning my maternity cover in work. I only "came out" yesterday!

It were me, woowa, what said the said the stuff about relationships. Mainly because mine went spectularly wrong. We saved it, thank goodness, but it was touch and go. Lilyrose knows because I met you at the worst point!

Without meaning to sound scary, I think second babies are harder than the first. As someone said, you're still feeling the shockwaves of the first, and then you have a baby and toddler to deal with. My dd was a bloody nightmare! Colic, first teeth at 14 weeks, spectular nose bleeds, seperation anxiety at 5 months... Plus, I got pregnant about 10 days after I'd stopped feeding ds, so all in all I was pregnant or breastfeeding for 2 1/12 years. So exhausting! (She's delightful now, btw). When DH and I were at crisis point, I started noticing people who were having marital difficulties, and I was surprised by how many had two children, the second one being under 3.

Lilyrose - a friend of mine did hypnobirthing after being traumatised by her first birth, and she can't speak highly enough of it - says it got her through, and she did well with her second.

woowa - I'm going to have a look at your tall maternity clothes link. I'm 5'11".

thanks phlossie I am hoping it will be of benefit its not cheap!

on a totally different subject, when I went for my scan yesterday I was asked about joining a healthy eating group/slimming world as I am classed as overweight :(
I am a bit overweight but very active (swimming waterbabies teacher, dog walker, running round with 3yr old) and a size 16
they are doing a study/research into healthy eating so want pregnant women to attend these slimming world classes, its free cos its part of a research programme so I thought why not? (its only free whilst pregnant)

then I have been thinking about it, no-one asked me about diet at present, I have lost a stone am on stemetil three times a day, and hell if i feel like eating half a teacake with dare i say butter on it then thats what i have been doing.....now if i remember rightly having done slimming world before (and i do like it) you are restricted in milk allowance, and fruit smoothies are syns, yet i had a leaflet the other day saying pregnant women try smoothies to get your five a day in when feeling sick
no-one asked about current health, or hyperemesis, i will wait for the woman to do my assessment and ask her all these questions in few weeks, but what do others think?

Breathes a sigh of relief I don't like vampires, thats one hot bit of totty!

My first preg was a rollercoaster I went from exstatic (sp?) To petrified in swings. I have to agree with the dh thing, but I will add that we have got such a strong relationship now. Dc2 and his problems were our low point, ds had issues and we got no sleep for months :( however we have learnt so much through it all. We have a much better relationship as a result of it all.
Dc3 was a real breeze so now I am terrified that I am nuts to have another :( why does everyone feel it is ok to comment on our choice to have another baby grrr
Off to take ds to speech therapy. Your life is no longer your own after you have kids

Sorry that wasn't meant to be bold!

Excellent advice from phlossie, especially about making time for each other.

Thanks for the pics bill yum yum .

lilyrose. I didn't think it was advisable to diet during pregnancy? I am a little overweight, size 16/18, and nothing was mentioned to me. Size 16 doesn't sound like you need to lose weight and something like slimming world could restrict foods that are good in pregnancy. I know I couldn't cope with it; fruit makes me barf and I've been surviving on carbs and cereal. My midwife said it was better to eat what I could stomach in the first trimester, that the baby would get what it needed from what my body had stored and I could make up for it later on. Basically a long winded way of saying it doesn't sound sensible to me!

woah couple of days to calm down after my last little rant and there's 3 whole pages to read through! My boss is just a, well i don't know what the word is but nothing that leaves her mouth should ever suprise me anymore! There's been more of her stupidity today and one of my colleagues rung me in tears for a rant! Ah well, only 23-24 weeks or so to go. I do have it written down in my diary so i can start counting down!!!!!!!!

mistressploppy please let us know iif the alcohol free wines are any good. I went to Tesco today in search for some and couldn't find any and i walked up and down 8 aisles to find a member of staff for none to be seen so gave up that mission. Are the reasonably priced where you got them from?

Great to hear everyone's fantastic scan news, so are all the 20 week ones booked now?!

Other news i have had a spot outbreak :( I could have cried :( I didn't even get spots when i was a teenager yet my shoulders and back are covered in angry red looking things. DH keeps telling me how beautiful I am but i feel hideous. And he said I can't use tea tree cos my skin isn't at all greasy, it's just hormones. Boo its bloomin rubbish! And i'm in a rubbish mood cos i have to go on an assessment for a course i was on a few weeks ago tommorow and it's in Leeds and i can't be bothered!

melliebobs I feel your spotty pain [sob]. I have never had spots and since about 7 weeks I have had a face full of them.
I didn't have this (or the wretched sickness) first time around so this is a whole new experience. Bah!

Hi everyone!

Woowa, thanks for the tall mat clothes link (I'm 5'11") - I'll have a look in a mo.

I'm a bit overweight too (size 16/18) but no-one's said anything to me; I'm not holding back either

Alcohol-free wine update:

I tried this one tonight; it's MUCH better that the Sainsbury's sickly barf-fest red that I had the other day. It's very very dry (I hate sweet wine) and tastes nice and winey, if a bit watery. Actually it tastes a lot like dry white wine mixed with soda water. It was improved by adding an ice cube to keep it reeeally cold.

Innocent I'm pleased you posted here as well as on the other thread - looks like my "hiding behind the sofa" offer has been well and truly trumped! phlossie and bill and anyone else who offered advice - thanks ever so - has made me feel a lot better too.

Was peed off with DH last night - we have visitors at the moment and yesterday went to a beer festival with them (happy to report no queues at the fruit juice bar!) and for the first time in about 7 weeks I didn't have a nap at around 4pm. Consequently absolutely shattered, and then when we got home after stopping for a chinese, he just announced he was going to bed and off he went - didn't clear up the plates or anything - and left me with drooping eyelids to entertain our guests!!! And then when they went to bed and I came up as well he had the nerve to say "are you ok? what's up?" when i stomped around.

NB have spent some time lurking in AIBU and this is certainly NOT an AIBU question .

Ooooooh and True Blood - yummity yum yum!!!

Hi everyone,
This is only my second post on here! I need to get more involved, although I think I have avoided posting as up until my 12 week scan I felt like talking about it was jinxing everything, stupid I know!

Innocent, I completely understand how you feel. At my booking in appointment my midwife asked me if there was anything worrying me and I sat and sobbed for 20 mins and told her I couldn't wait another 3 &1/2 weeks for a scan. No reason to have been feeling so irrationally terrified but there you go. DH booked me a private scan at 10 weeks but that still didn't help.

The 12 week scan was better and knowing I am low risk and baby seems to be doing ok did help, as did finally being able to tell people. But I do understand why you still feel frightened I do too!

Not sure if that helps, maybe not but just wanted you to know others are in similar boats!

Oh and lastly my due date was bought forward to 14th Feb!

Will amend stats, although not sure I am on there at all yet!

Hi Rushy! Perfectly normal to feel worried, but with each week you'll probably feel less so. I know JUST what you mean about the jinxing thing - I keep saying 'assuming everything goes ok' before every statement to do with when the baby comes!

It's weird, I feel more anxious about this one that about DC1. I think because I've spent so much time on MN, I know more about what can go wrong .

14+5

Hello ladies. Not posted for a while either and catching up but had my scan and all good plus new EDD is valentine's day. Will save OH the cost of a meal if it comes on time :)

Just loitering and reading as been very busy at work and think have over done it and sick, weak and dizzy again since friday pm. Just hanging out in bed. But at least I can look at the lovely scan photo and know what it's for now.

marking spot, LOTS of walking in the countryside, partly with DD in back carrier. Exhausted.

Night!

15+4

Our ds's birthday is Feb 15th, so we tend to spend Valentine's day wrapping presents and icing cakes! (well I do, at least!) I went in to be induced on Valentines day, so we went out for our romantic meal on Feb 13th - a tradition we try and stick to now.

I felt more worried about DC2 than DC1 too.