January 2012 - Thread 3

[ParsleyLion1]

And we're back......

oeisha My mw said the headaches are just part of being pregnant. Take paracetamol when needed, keep fluid levels up and only take iboprufen only if I feel its appropriate, but not too often. She also said if it doesnt shift after a few days then to call. Hope this helps you x

Yeah, I've not been that worried by the headaches, they don't seem to last long, but are frequent. MW said to expect them (she mentioned it afer taking my bp, it's low). I'm keeping hydrated and still avoiding all my migraine triggers just to be sure. Just mainly very grateful only 3 have converted to migraines so far.

The temp thing worried me, but it's fine now. It was just all the symptoms together that had me concerned.

My SIL had a boy, then a girl and said boys were easier (nappy wise) as there's less to worry about cleaning...or less 'hiding'. Having changed many nappies, I'm not worried at all. At least girls really struggle to wee in their own eyes.

I think DH is more worried about teenage years. But then, I'm here, and I'm a girl (though I didn't really do being a teenage girl - couldn't be bothered with the hysteria over boys and bitchiness that seemed to be required), so I'm sure we'll be fine.

Girls are a mystery to me as it's all boys in both our families! Don't think I have ever changed a girls nappy, and all the pink stuff is a bit alien! But it would be a nice change, I do get slightly fed up of everything being blue or sludge-coloured and with cars on the front.

I do not believe that boy nappies are easier. Random hose-pipe behaviour resulting in wet hair, wet curtains, wet walls or general soaking of outer garments tells me otherwise.

Feeling a bit nervous about scan on thurs. We don't have a happy record with scans, they make me very anxious and I don't look forward to them. So I'll be glad when they hopefully tell us all is well. Till then we are focussing on the team b/g/y question, still not fully resolved. But taking my mind iff the worry a bit :)

Antenatal clinic at hospital tomorrow so a week of waiting rooms for me....
Good luck with all the other scans this week folks, hoping it all goes well, and come and tell what you're having if you choose to find out!

Team b/p/y obviously. Not aware of a team green :o

I really hate that stereotype that girls are bitchy. I was on the receiving end of nastiness from boys and girls at school and both genders can be horrible when they want to be! I guess the thing for me is that my baby will be their own person and knowing the sex won't tell me an awful lot about their personality but it will help me to get a headstart on stereotyping

I agree, also the one that boys are rough. Yes DS is a boy and yes he is very boisterous. But I also know some quiet boys and some very lively girls! Stereotypes are not helpful at all. Have just given DS a doll, trying to cultivate an interest in babies :)

I just want to know so that if it's a boy I can stop stressing about names, as we have that one covered. if it's a girl we have some serious work to do and it probably will take about 20 weeks to choose one we both agree on.

Plus I just want to know something about my baby, about what sort of person they might be. I'm usually all for delayed gratification, but not so much with this...

In other news I had a run in with a lily today (hate the damn things, they smell like corpses) and not have an orange freckled arm and hand So clumsy.

makescakes were the same-boy's name more than covered, girls name we simply cannot agree on any.

Were finding out if we can-2 weeks tmrw.

My sis maybe having another boy and thats made me want a girl, my mum loves little girls and I really dont want my DD to be the only spoiled princess granddaughter in amongst 3 grandsons. Silly reason I know, but my mum already ruins her! She would also be the only grandaughter on DH's side, although DH dads grandson is now 21. I know MIL ruins my DD because she is her only related grandchild. Be nice for MIL to have one of each I guess.

I am the oppostite - girls names covered! But boys names, just can't find 'the one'! Was the same when having DD, big long list of lovely girls names, and not many boys names that we liked.
Def finding out the sex at 20 week scan, then I will start concentrating on finding the perfect name for little snuggs!

Also, it sounds weird, but I feel like if it's another girl, I need to prepare myself. DD and I are very close, have a great bond... and another girl will affect this more. Obviously, no matter what it is, as long as it's healthy that's all that matters, we will love just as much and be over the moon no matter what... I just feel like I need to prepare...if that makes sense?

Gosh well done you lot on the names! We haven't remotely got it sorted. I think we're aiming for a short list of a few so that we can decide when we meet the little one.

Anomaly scan is tomorrow and I think we've decided to find out the sex if we can. It's mostly so that we can concentrate on picking names, but if it's a girl I might want to get a head start on encouraging people not to buy pink stuff. I'm not especially a fan of pink! The whole colour thing baffles me - I love blue and pretty much always have. But then, I was into horses and outdoorsy stuff as a kid and not princesses and fairy-tales and the like, and that had nothing to do with what my parents were expecting. They never took me to dance classes as I was always too grubbing around in the mud somewhere

lol @ghost - give it two years, max, then you'll have no choice! If she's into pink then pink it will have to be - apparently my mum managed to steer clear of girlie pink stuff till then, but after that I put my foot down and insisted on pink

Part of the reason I want to know - so I can make the most of girlie pink stuff now just in case I get a little tomboy with her daddy's interest in aeroplanes and getting dirty! :-)

cakes I know, you're absolutely right, and I'm resigned to the idea that there may have to be some pink - I just sort of meant that it can't be controlled in the long run but at least I can put in some groundwork with other colours!

I do remember that I had a friend when I was little who had Sylvanian families to play with - I remember thinking that it was a girlie toy when there were two boys in the family (we must have been about 6 or 7). Now I think it's a brilliant idea! When I was growing up in the 80s I think gender stereotyping for toys (and the advent of plastic tat) was probably already very developed. In any case, in our household, children of either sex will be expected to like running around and playing with bikes and kites - and if they're into creative artsy stuff then DH and I will just have to learn with them!

Gosh, I'm so excited about all of this stuff! Can't wait!

I know - both DH and I were tearing up the other day at the thought of experiencing all those firsts and the chance to be so crucial to shaping someone's life - it just feels like such a privilege :-)
Soppy buggers that we are!

Dd has cars and dolls she has pink and blue toys but intrestingly when I put out her cars and dolls she goes for the doll. And when i put out her pink balls and blue balls she will always pick up her pink ones first then play with the blue ones, she picks up skirts and dresses if I show her some clothes and she is just 9mo.

I secretly want a ds, but I'd be happy with another dd too. my mum had me and my sister really close, I'm number 2 and am very close to my mum but dsis isn't and ive always wondered if it was because she had 2 dd's so close, silly i know and if I do have another ddill do things slightly diffrently, but secretly I think I'd prefer a boy.

Has anyone else been watching 'Underage and Pregnant' on the beeb? Usually I'm impressed by how well the young mums are doing but this week I just wanted to throw something at the screen! There was girl who had a baby at 15, broke up with the father, met a new boy three months after the birth, and got engaged within three weeks and just sort of shrugged and said "I can always get divorced if things change" . She just seemed so so immature and fragile - awful.

Also - and do tell me if I'm getting my judgeypants in a twist over something completely normal here - but please tell me it's not ok to give a ten month old baby a bottle of tea every morning. That can't be right, surely??

Some of the teen mums on the series have been fabulous mothers but this week seemed designed to inspire cats-bum-face sort of disapproval...

Hi all :)

Just had my MW appt - finally got to listen to the heartbeat, though a bit brief as squigglepants kept moving! Got a couple of short bursts but MW was happy so I'm happy.

I thought hb sounded like a train but MW thinks more horsey - I'll go with her assessment as tbh I'm not really sure what I'm hearing!

I think we will find out the sex if we can - I suppose it depends if it is revealed to us on the day...

just ordered my doppler. fed up. can't feel anything and the mw here won't do it. still, they sell well on ebay so won't end up costing that much really.

ghost - nah - the brother of a friend of mine had to go and have eleven of his baby teeth and three adult tooth roots removed at a specialist dental hospital because his mum had been giving him sweet tea in his bottle... oh yeah - and occasionally Ribena.

I think those judgeypants deserve to be hoicked even higher!

I think I felt an actual kick or punch today amongst the wriggles - love it. I just break out in the biggest smile each time it happens!
x

Ghost I've been watching it, but what is really annoying me is that when I have a hard/bad/hormonal day, I ring my mum, mil, random friend and ask for help, baby sitting, just to rant. But its almost diasproved of if these teens ask for help? Their parents tell them off, say they arent doing enough. The same goes if they don't manage to get dressed in the day, something me and dd are only just starting to crack!
I felt sorry for the girl who was 'engaged' last night after 2 weeks (i thought dh and i were quick getting married 11 months after we met, 10th after we started seeing eachother!) I couldn't help but wonder where her parents and 'positive relationship' models were in her life

cakes that's awful! Obviously more common than you think though. I grew up in a tea/coffee addict household but I definitely remember not really being allowed to drink it until I was quite old. And now I'm a regular caffeine-addict, though I only need one cup a day to keep headaches away at the moment.

addicted absolutely, I felt sorry for her too; she just didn't seem to expect anything from life at all. I know what you mean about the portrayal of the mums too - but I do think they mostly have the standard teenage self-centredness and expectation that things are owed to them - which of course is normal for teenagers but probably needs to be shelved when you're a a parent (that's another topic though!) It must be really hard trying to learn to be a parent while still living with your own parents (I know I would never have had the grace to accept I was doing something wrong at that age - and definitely wouldn't be told by my parents that was the case!). There have been some fab mums on the series but I am so, so glad that I'm a bit older as a first time mum. I'm actually much more eager to seek help and advice at this stage!

parsley that's fab - bet you're grinning from ear to ear!

supa sorry to hear that; hope it works ok for you.

ow ow ow - fuckity fuck - I'm getting stabbing pains in my breast. Fucking ouch. What the hell?

Ouch! Not sure - muscle spasm behind the breast tissue maybe? Sounds horrid, poor you. Is it easing off?

did your baby get lost?

is it in the breast or just above? could it be the milk glands?

We had our 20 weeks scan yesterday and it's a girl! So no excuse for the rotten time I've been having - everyone says it must be a boy this time but nope, it's a gal making herself known. We wanted to know for organising reasons (whether to chuck dd's clothes etc) and are really thrilled. My sis and bro-inlaw each have two boys and so far we reckon girls are less boisterous but that might just be our lot. We didn't find out last time and it's odd knowing what's inside!
I got signed off until the end of Aug as my coldsores were so bad after just two days work last week, I felt dreadful for days and had to keep dozing to keep nausea at bay. My GP ticked 'workplace adjustment' and at last my manager is going to let me work locally. I could have been saved the exhaustion if he'd compromised earlier but he's finally coming round to distance management over me sitting at home.
I feel so much calmer after the scan and btw I was allowed to go for a wee as my full bladder was squashing bubba up too much. When we told Dd she was so excited and said 'did you find out what the name is?!'. We explained that we pick the name and she instantly suggested Hannah. No idea where that came from and we both like the name but we just can't get past the memory of a truly awful Hannah that we worked with years ago. Dd was also concerned by the colour of the scan picture and it took some reassuring that we aren't having a grey baby!
Beef biriyani in the slowcooker today and that granola did burn and took ages to get off so wasn't worth the effort.

Try not to worry Supa, my Dd didn't kick much throughout compared to this one - hope the doppler is reassuring.