January 2012 - Thread 3

[ParsleyLion1]

And we're back......

Giraffe, why how and where?

Sorry, how are you getting funding for an ou course? I'd love to get more qualifications but can't afford it.

HERE

Not sure how to be honest, when I fill it in with household income and 1 child I'm not eligible. But when I up it to 2 children it states I can claim x amount towards certain courses.

Hey butterfly I'm in Buxton. I've opted for Stockport as, well:

1. My preferred option of Macclesfield is over the Cat & Fiddle, in January...that's just not gonna happen if this winter's anything like last.
2. The Midwife-lead unit here in Buxton's probably going to close...in January...
3. Whilst I don't anticipate anything going wrong with birthng ALL the problems my family have had have happened during/immediatley after birth (blue babies, plecental abruptions and the likes)...so, I just don't want to risk it.
4. Plus I'd ideally like a water birth. Stockport are in the process of adding another floor to their unit. Including more birthing pools we think (MW) so, well... Where are you butterfly? I'm beginning to feel like I'm the ONLY woman in this neck of the woods due around my time. NCT classes are off, MW says she's got a small caseload around my date and there are very few (potential, you just don't ask at our stage) bumps about...lots of ready to pop and newbs, but no bumps

I too am getting sore hips, but only intermittently (usually after a full 5h on my feet), though it does make me want to crawl rather than walk. As swimming is my fav. form of exercise and breast stroke is basically the only stroke I can do sucessfully then I'm hoping it doesn't worsen.

Related to the above swimming (I've tried crawl and this keeps happening): Anyone else finding they can't just drink a full (not even a half) glass of anything in one go?! I can get through about 3 mouth fulls but then I start to get the "argh, I'm not breating" feeling. Driving me nuts...

I too am veering from so tired I just want to be asleep to wanting to sob and then sometimes a heady combination of both. Very little of the 'excitment' people keep asking me about. Maybe when I get to 28wks I'll feel like it's all OK. I'm having to hold myself back at work as the teeniest thing is making me grumpy/plain cross. Thankfully I'm being less of a bitch at home (I hope).

I'm still getting comments along the lines of "You're big for 17wks" to "Wow! What a neat wee bump, you can hardly tell" to all the contrary nonsense about you're x-shape, must be a boy, or 'still being sick' must be a boy...though last few days more people have suggested a boy. Just feel really resentful, if I wanted to know the sex I'd find out at my scans. Even people I've told wer'e not finding out feel it's ok to give me their theories!

Anyway, I suppose I'd better stop ranting and go to work

I know exactly what you mean with the financial issue and wanting/needing to move. We'r in a 2 bed cottage flat. OK size for 3 but a squish for 4. I could earn more if in a house childminding but we cant afford to get a house at the moment. Well thats not strictly true. We cant sell our flat just now as nothing here seems to be selling. Bummer is that there is a 3bed house in the village I grew up in for sale and we could afford it

cakes glad your feeling better. Have you every consisfered selling your cakes? Just a thought.... Or maybe selling Avon...

There is a section on Direct.gov.uk that can help to calculate eligability for tax credits and apply for them also

20week scan: Last time ours was focused on the fact that we had just got the 'high risk' results so the mw and doc were very focused on that so not sure what a 'normal' 20week appointment should be like iykwim

Going for a manicure and swedish head massage this afternoon - belated birthday present. Should be relaxing..

shonnomanom I already work from home so just need to keep doing more of that really - ether that or win the lottery/sell my book!

My coffee morning went really well - we knitted and chatted and I'll hopefully get at least one project out if it, with maybe some copywriting work too which would be amazing. Anything more than that would be a dream as it would pretty much double what I'm bringing in atm! So yes, feeling more heerful. Esp since DH sent me a bossy text telling me he was taking me out for a (free) pizza and trip to the cinema tonight. Thank heaven for Tesco clubcard vouchers :-)

Congrats *Makescakes" - a good day for you then! Enjoy your evening out! We're having a bonfire tonight -the kids' idea of heaven!

Oeisha I live in Poland permanently (Krakow) but I go back to see my Mum once a year or so (am flying over on 22nd Aug till 31st). She lives in Hayfield, and we always end up in Buxton at the Pavilion Gardens at least once when we're over! Stuff of my childhood! Do you remember the ladybird roundabout they used to have outside the Octagon? (I'm assuming you're a local - or do people actually move to Buxton? ) I wouldn't like to tackle the A6 in labour if I happened to coincide with rush hour though! Would an ambulance take you to the hosp. of your choice if it was further than the nearest?

Yeah, 2nd trim energy is definitely a myth. That's fact.

It's reassuring that we're all stressing over the same stuff although practical solutions would be better than anything. I want to give up for a couple of years and take a 'career break' but my dh not keen. I have nearly an hour to drive to work and I went back for 2 days this week (today my day off) and I'm shattered. I woke up with a headache swollen glands and a coldsore so working def not agreeing with me. The office was so hot that I felt sick and couldn't cool down so I ended up working on my own on another floor. I'm still waiting for my lottery win.
Meanwhile I'm doing lots of slowcooker recipes to be frugal and have discovered that pork neck fillet (hardly any fat and cheap to buy) with hoisin sauce is heaven. One fillet gives us enough left over for dh's packed lunch which makes him happy - all part of my campaign to stay home on a shoe-string! I've got a batch of orange and walnut granola on which smells fab but looks like it's going to stick. Will report back...
Beautifulbutterfly we went to Krakow for a short hol about 6 years ago and it was just stunning. I loved the food (ate loads)and the salt mines and have a pink salt lamp on my sideboard to remind us of a wonderful break. When we lived in London we hardly did any of the sights which I regret now, have you been able to travel about much?

Reassuring, but so sad, isn't it, that mums don't feel that staying at home to look after their children is really a viable option in this day and age? I thought feminism was supposed to give us more choice over whether we want to work or stay at home with our families, but it feels like we just have the choice to tear ourselves in half trying to do both.

I voted for the conservatives because they promised to protect our NHS and because I thought they might actually do something to support families and the struggling middle classes. Boy have I got a red face - I have never been so ashamed of my vote.

Oh well - 8 and a half billable hours this week, plus some much-needed paperwork and some positive networking which might lead to something. Doesn't sound like much, but one of the invoices I totted up yesterday showed me I earnt a grand total of £2.50 one week in the first trimester, so this is a distinct improvement! lol

Hope you're all feeling Friday-happy and positive, if not may I offer you all a and a homemade brownie? x

Back from my 20 week scan!!!

Baby A is very healthy, although a little naughty and stubborn! Think it takes after me - sleeping with hands and arms above head. Although typical foetus - feet up by it's face?!? The sonographer was able to take all the measurements but sent me off to the loo and for a walk after much jostling around on the bed wouldn't make it move into position so the heart could be seen clearly. After a FORTY MINUTE scan we eventually got a clear picture and all is fine.

However ...

I had to then have an internal scan and found that my placenta is very low - touching my cervix. So another scan is scheduled for 9th December when I'll be 36 weeks to see if it's moved. If not, it's off for a c-section! On a good note though, only 4% of cases do need a c section. Am not too concerned about it though. I think I was more bothered that peanut was fine!!!

My MW was fantastic. Brilliant sense of humour and VERY organised. I have a glucose tolerance test at the end of September because my bmi is 31. My anti D is scheduled for October and more bloods to be taken the same week as my anti D. The consultant wanted to check my asthma and quizzed me on my frequency of chest infections. She seemed happy when I told her that my asthma was fine. No change. But my urine was showing signs of an infection, although I feel absolutely fine.

Skipping about, singing at the moment that all is good! Oh, and staying team yellow! DH was ADAMANT that he did not want to know the sex whereas I was in two minds. Once I was in, it really didn't matter whether Peanut is a girl or a boy so we told her that we didn't want to know.

butterfly, I think Mac is technically closer, but I'm buggered if it snows/is icy. With the more than likely closure of the MW-led unit here it's Stockport or a home birth (MW was very relieved when I opted for Stockport). Just want all the options available to me with DC1...

Alas, people do move to Buxton. DH's job moved to Buxton (Health & Safety labs) from Sheffield, and everything went rather tits-up with my job, so we landed here. Much nicer than my home town (from Somerset originally), or Mansfield, where I was before (although they have EXCELLENT maternity facilities in Mansfield - high rate of teen pregnancies led to spankigly excellent facilities being installed).
Would love to visit Krakow.

I'd love to be a stay at home Mum, and always used to argue with my feminist lecturers (who though I must have had some kind of brain injury) that feminism was/is a great idea poorly implimented by morons. Initially, good things happened, votes, birth control and sexual liberation, DH not getting MY tax rebates etc, but they massively screwed up beyond that.

Erh, I suppose I'd better go eat something more substantial than grapes.

Hello, I'm new! I'm hoping I can join you all... Here are my details:
Karen1111 EDD 16/01/12 (although am likely to have baby earlier due to gestational diabetes) 20 week scan 02/09/11
Thank you!

Hello Karen! :D
Congrats and Welcome...

Hiya and welcome Karen and congratulations.

Good news and bad news Mum2b sounds like your scan was fun for the senographer, my sis has just been told she has a low lying placenta as well so she also has to have another scan.

I saw my pscyh nurse yesterday, she supports my reasons for a ELCS. She is also referring me for some EMDR therapy-I dont know what that involves yet yet but it can really help isolate a deal with specific traumas. It would seem the birth experience form before hasn't really been dealt with by me at all, I had very little counselling after dd1 because I didn't get on with my previous therapist and by the time it had been changed I opted to decline the appointments as I felt recovered. Well thats bit me on the arse this week and it's all just there under the surface.

I need to change consultants anyway as the clinic mine runs is Monday afternoons and I work then. I cannot afford to miss 3 weeks of a 10 week contract for the growth scans and stuff they want me attend hospital for. So it all looks like I will get my ELCS after all shame I have had to fight for it.

fish that is great news! rubish that ou have had to fight for it, but great that you can have an elcs.

hi karen

fish - good news indeed and I hope this therapy really helps you :-)

Welcome Karen - hope you can keep up with a chatty bunch!

I have a wedding to go to today and I'm watching the weather suspiciously - wet pavements and a silk maxi dress are not a combo made in heaven...

Afternoon all. Still deliberating about finding out the gender over here. Only 5 days to decide!

I am sure I am having Braxton hicks. These didn't start till way past 20 weeks with DS from what I remember, so was a bit surprised. Or maybe it's just that I recognize what they are more easily as it's not my first time. Anybody else having this?

Spag-did you know youre uterus contracts up to 20 days a day normally-you can just feel it more when youre pregnant. So if you are having them i'm not suprised.

:)

Mum2be how did I not spot you post earlier! Gz on getting through the 20wks...even if the lil bugger was trying to evade capture!

fish I've heard of EMDR. Sounds like you're a pretty good candidate for it. I hope it works for you!

Spag I've wondered about this, but dismissed it as 'not'. I swear sometime EVERYTHING is moving/tensing/lurching...doesn't hurt, so have always dismissed BH.

Woke up with a migraine today (3rd one so far during pg) so had to cancel my driving lesson. Bloody sucks as I spent about 5h last night not quite asleep with anxieties as to whether I'd be ab;e to do it. Still feeling like I've had no sleep, though thankfully I'm down to copeable levels of pain. Am gonna go have a nap in a min.

Hope we're having good days!

Hi all - hope you've had good days. I am so tired after not enough sleep (strange hard bed/ noisy friends/ kids up early) but got to keep going for a dinner tonight. Hi Karen I've only just joined too .

I've been thinking I could feel v. early Braxton Hicks too & thought it was a bit odd but fish's post probably explains it. Still not sure if I am feeling baby or if it's just in my imagination though.

Must go, have sneaked off to get five minutes to myself but will have to go and be sociable or help again in a minute. Not sure I can do a whole week of this!!

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uterine_contraction

It's even more than I said-twice a minute :)

I'm off on my holidays 'tomorrow' - a day at a museum (DH's treat as part of our 1st wedding anniversary which was today) and then off to the airport hotel at Manchester. 9am flight on Monday.

mum2be fantastic scan, mine is tuesday - so excited. Hopefully things will behave and you wont need to get section.

fish glad you won your battle for the elcs. Hopefully you will feel more positive about things soon.

cakes glad things are looking brighter for you

Karen congrats and welcome

Had a productive day shopping for Dd, new jacket, shoes etc. Went to M&S to get measured and was right in thinking my chest has not grow any this pregnancy.

Morning all, my how fast this thread moves! Sorry to hear about those with money worries. For what it's worth I think there is no ideal time to have a baby - there's always a reason to put it off. We've just taken the plunge and hope we'll manage! Everyone around us seems to, which is a comfort. Unfortunately not only are we having a baby, but also moving house and have to buy a new (second hand) car! Lots of expensive things all at once, that was smart!

Mum2tobe congrats on the scan. Try not to worry about the placenta, plenty of time for things to sort themselves out!

I'm already getting fed up of people saying that my bump is huge. I can still fit into some of my size 10 normal clothes so I can't be that big!! Grrr.

Husband felt the baby kick yesterday which was a lovely moment. We have also picked out our pram, getting the iCandy Peach travel system, but won't buy it for a few months yet. Love the way it moves and like the fact that we can use the carrycot as a Moses basket for the first wee while.

20 week scan a week on Monday! Will be staying in Team Yellow...

Oh wow Bellkins that must have been a great experience for you both to share.
Enjoy your scan tommorrow, mine is Tuesday. We are also Team Yellow. Our Health Board refuse to disclose the gender. Out of interest how much water were you told to drink before the 20week scan??

you don't need to fill your bladder for the 20wk scan :)