Bursting At The Seams February Baby Bus 2012

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Yay, new thread, old one here god you lot can talk

clarinsgirl that is very sad for your friend, you sound like you are sensitive and tactful enough to tell her while still considering her feelings, I'm sure her overwhelming feeling will be that of congratulations because she loves you, but of course hearing of another lady getting pg while she tries will sting a bit, I don't think there is a lot you can do to make her not feel the way she does, its natural for her, hopefully she won't let her feelings overshadow your excellent news. I think your friend will be happy for you.

To all the others who have gotten scan dates I am very jealous but I still am only 6+0 and in Ireland so I'll have a nice long wait...

Thanks Sugarkane. I'm quite a direct person so it should be no problem to get straight to the point Thanks for the advice. I just keep remembering our last chat and the look on her face when I said that we were going to start trying.

Thanks PamBeesly. I think you hit the nail on the head, basically I know that there is not alot I can do to make it easier for her.

So tired and sick today kids have been very patient, hurray for cbeebies and nice weather!

Doc appt today. Booked in at Whittington and will get scan dates and spots through through post soon.

Appts not spots

Sorry to just jump on here and vent but I'm soooooo frustrated!

My boss rang me today and told me I need to cancel my midwife appointment because I need to go to a meeting 3 hours drive away from my house. I told her I couldn't re-arrange as I'd already checked this with the midwife so she suggested I use a different surgery! No way! I can't believe her! I thought as a woman she would be more understanding! She's given me until Monday to come up with a resolution that means I can attend the meeting!!! Grrrr

......deep breaths.........better now......

Hope you're all having a good day, just about to read what's been going on on the thread today!

Tough break louby I don't live in the UK (I'm presuming you do) is there a law that ensures that your employer has to allow you time off to go for ante natal appointments? There is in Ireland, she doesn't sound understanding or nice one way or the other.

louby I'm pretty sure your boss can't do this! They do have to allow you time off for appts and if your mw has already said they cant move it then tough. Maybe you should tell your mw what your boss is trying to do and see if you can get a note from the doc insisting that you have to make this appt?

clarinsgirl I have a friend who had been ttc her dc2 for ages, the got preg, but at the dating scan there was no heartbeat. This was only a month or so ago, so I knew it was going to be hard for her when I told her I was pg - like you, it's pretty much an instant thing for me. But she was very sweet about. You can be tactful and considerate, but it's not your fault, so you shouldn't feel guilty. I do, though, so I know where you're coming from. I hope it goes ok.

Shitty day today. I was sick in a hedge on DD's school trip, and now I'm so unutterably shattered, and DH went out straight from work tonight. I've got two jobs (three if you count mothering) - one day job, and one freelance - so I work from 7.30pm after the children have gone down until about 10.30pm. I have a massive load of work with a Monday deadline, the house is a shithole because I haven't got time to clean, the neighbour's cat (they're on holiday) is going to have to go hungry for a day because I haven't got time to feed her, and I have a really sore throat. And I have to work on Sunday morning, so no lie-in either. Waaaaaaah.

Hey gang. Bad news RE my cousin that I mentioned last week. She had her 20 week scan last week and the saw fluid around the heart. Tests showed that the heart had formed but the chambers hadn't. It was kinda 50/50 if this was just some freak of nature abnormality the pregnancy could go ahead, she could have a normal delivery and the baby would have an op at 6 months. Apparently there's 400 baby's a year with this and the survival rate is 85%. Flip to the other end of the scale, if the cause is chromosomal she would have to have a termination. Which is what they've found out it is. :(

Absolutely lost for words. Aweful doesn't even describe it. I'm glad I told my mum yday about mine and dh pregnancy otherwise I'd be so scared/guilty to raise it :(

melliebobs that's horrible. The same happened to a friend of mine, and she had the termination at 23 weeks and it was devastating. She went on to have healthy twins, but imo before she'd had time to deal with the grief of losing her ds. So I hope your cousin gets lots of counselling and help. All best wishes to her and your family x

melliebobs I was so hoping your cousin would have a positive outcome :( My friend also had a late termination for medical reasons after weeks of repeat scans to try and work out if it was definitely major problems or not. It was so tough for her, and still is. She is now involved with a group called Antenatal Results and Choices (ARC) www.arc-uk.org/ and I know she found the people on their helpline a real comfort when she was going through it all and afterwards. Perhaps they might be helpful for your cousin if/when she needs some extra support.

Awful news mellie poor girl x

I'm really suffering tonight, tried some sickness bands earlier, but to no avail.

I actualy threw up for the first time, instead of just feeling nauseous, and feel like shit.

Got to work tomorrow, no one to cover for me, so god knows what I'm going to be like

Need to vent, got in earlier from being out... A woman said to me, 'congratulations, what are you 4 months' ?!?!?!?!?!?! I replied '6 weeks' She did not know where to look!!

Oh mellie thats so difficult :(

I am going to have to tell people, I just can't hide this bump now :o

:( Mellie.

Innocent-The same happened to me the other day, a woman asked if i was having a girl or boy! I kind of stuttered that I don't know and pratically ran off, had just eaten some chips though so was a bit bloated, but still.

mellie that is going to be so difficult for everyone involved :( my thoughts are with you

clarinsgirl again an awkward situation, but remember she is a friend, and she will understand... She would prefer it i think if you went to her to tell her, rather than her find out round the houses, further down the line or have to ask herself because of a bump etc. Put yourself in her shoes... Would you rather one of your friends told you directly? You will have to do it sensitively, but you need to tell her. Hope that helps.

louby86 - Your employer has to give you reasonable time off... This appointment was booked before you knew about the meeting... Legally she has to let you, provide written proof from your midwife - she may ask you to produce your MAT B1 which you may have to do, but what she is doing is wrong!!

Oh Crazy It's awful an so embarrassing!!!! Worst thing was I hadn't ate... :(

mellie, your poor cousin, what a terrible thing to happen.

oddeyes I was with the Whittington with dd- they have a brilliant homebirth team, if you are interested at all.

mellibobs, sorry for your cousin and you too.
Needle, i do like them, was there for ds and dd. I don't think I could do that to my poor neighbours though, plus have to have doc present at birth due to history of pph and as my babys are large (10lbs4.5oz at 40wks, 9lbs8oz at 38wks) they both got a bit stuck, (ds-head, dd-shoulders) and needed help!

melliebobs what an awful thing for your cousin and the rest of your family to face. I hope they get lots of support. Feel so sad for you all .

Had my booking in visit today which was great as being a Saturday I didn't have to make any excuses to work and DH could be there. It is also done at home too - I think Dorset are pretty fab actually! Hoping the scan date will come through soon so I can start to let myself enjoy it all and make plans.

Hope everyone has a lovely chilled, nausea-light weekend with lots of sunshine .

Hello all, I'm back from hols and jut caught up with the threads.

Sorry to read all the bad news and learn a few more people have left us but at all the early scans and strong heartbeats.

Tiredness kicked in on hols but I managed to sneak a nap in when DD had hers. Not sure how I will cope when I go back to work.

Nausea is worse too, so far it is better when I eat but I've got some sickness bands just in case.

Just put DD down so might join her for a little snooze.

6+5

Are you in the UK louby86? Your employer has to give you time off for your midwife appts. Midwife appts are usually given, you don't decide when to take them, so I would nip this in the bud now. SPeak to someone in HR because she is being really out of order! When it comes time for 12 and 20 weeks scan you won't need this because those scans have to take place in a specific time frame to be accurate. If you ring these guys they can also further advise you www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=1461.

I had some issues during last pregnancy and I spoke with ACAS who advised that any issues regarding maternity leave or appts etc were classed as sexual descrimination. You would be suprised how quickly my employer saw things my way after I mentioned those two magic words!

Good god I hate working on a saturday! been sick twice and just want to go home to bed.
I have a family party straight after work which I have to show my face at, everyone is going to be tipsy and loads of buffet food and having a good time, and then I'm going to turn up with a face like a smacked arse

Hope the weather stays nice, its starting to cloud over in Durham now, but was lovely and sunny earlier.

What is everyone up to this weekend?

I'm off to sulk about all the lovely northern party food I'm missing out on < dreams of grans corned beef pie and ham and pease pudding sanwiches> extra big sigh.......