Shagged out Viroid Grads 3...

[ConfessionsOfAnAchingFanjo]

Ha! I made it to the next thread.

yes, it's best to - because there migth be fibres that could irritate, and the fabric might have been washed with bio powder, which also might irritate.

Huge congratulations ttl, I was thinking of you today and wondering if your lovely girl had arrived yet. Beautiful name, enjoy her in all her newness :)

I am also very of no stitches, btw. Well done you, sterling work!

vallinna I didn't wash them all - whoops!

Thanks for the messages :) It wasn't easy nickel, it was fucking painful . We rang the hospital at 10.30 and they listened to me through two contractions and said it wasn't bad enough yet and to call back when it got to one contraction every three minutes and had been like that for an hour. It was almost at that point anyway but obviously when I called the hospital I had a five minute gap between contractions so it sounded less bad than it was. By 11.30 they were still a little erratic, between 3 and 5 minutes apart, but I couldn't take the pain any more and the TENS machine was doing bugger all so I just told DH to take me to the hospital. When we got there DH started making me laugh because he was given a wheelchair to take me to the MLU in and he kept driving it into walls by mistake and wobbling it about everywhere. I thought they were going to send me home because I didn't look serious enough! But they could see how strong my contractions were and that I was pushing off the bed/seat with each one. They didn't check how dilated I was at that point but the pain was incredible - I've never felt anything like it. Then I had gas and air, which helped but most definitely does NOT kill pain - just makes you feel nice and lightheaded even while the pain continues. At 1.30am the midwife had still given me no indication of whereabouts we were in the labour so I was thinking there was hours and hours to go, and asked if it was too early for pethidine. She checked and I was 5cm and said it was the perfect time, and went and got it straight away. I felt really determined to do the best I could with each contraction and the pethidine helped me with the focus - I kept falling asleep between contractions, shouting out weird things from my dreams and waking myself up by yelling, and then even though the contractions were absolutely awful and I was screaming my way through them I felt like each one was getting me somewhere. Had two hours of pushing, which is quite long I think, and the pethidine had more or less worn off by then and I wasn't allowed any more. The midwife kept saying I should allow myself some contractions 'off' and not to push on all of them because I'd tire myself out but I didn't care, I just wanted the baby out. I got very frustrated when I felt like the pushes weren't doing anything but then, just occasionally, I'd feel movement and get the momentum to keep going. I can remember a few of the bloodcurdling screams at that point - I couldn't believe the noises that were coming out of me - but finally at about 6am the head was out and by 6.10 the baby was in my arms. Amazing!

Obviously the worry begins now! She seems to want to constantly feed and doesn't sleep afterwards ... DH is soothing her, which works for a time, but I don't know if she's getting anything when she's feeding. She sucks happily for over an hour at a time though ...

She will be telling your body to make milk - you wait, in a couple of days your cup will runneth over and things will settle down a bit (my non-professional opinion, obv).

Is it a bit odd that I'm now of TTL falling asleep between contractions? I remember at one point thinking it's so late at night and I just want to go to sleep and wake up to find I'd pushed the baby out.

I will get around to typing up my birth story some time very soon. It's all a bit of a lovely blur right now.
My poor bra is struggling completely failing to contain me at the moment so I'm just doing a spot of internet shopping.

PS. TTL our first night Alba feed for 7-8 hours straight, but the last 2 nights she's been much better. I'm sure Isobel will settle down for you too.

thanks for the graphic account ttl i preferred it when I thought it was easy
still, i hope to have forgotten your warnings by November

Huge congrats TTL and welcome to Isobel. Thanks for sharing your birth story - I reckon it pays to be realistic whatever my hypnobirth book says
xxx

Ha ha - still in a baby blur! Sorry if the story was too graphic LOL - the birth really was as good as I could have hoped (and am so grateful to have had a 7lber and not a 10lber!). Yep, it's painful but it's also amazing :) Thanks for the BFing advice ladies - a bit of googling revealed the same so have made sure to feed her whenever she wants and she's been feeding and sleeping very peacefully all afternoon :)

coaaf glad things are going well for you!

Glad it seems to have calmed down TTL

We've just come in from our NCT class. Having been all pro-natural so far (easy to say now I know) everyone laughed at me when I completely freaked out at the idea of the 3rd stage. Just can't cope with the idea of them delivering an icky sticky vernix covered thing onto me which is still attached to the inside of me. The word "pulsating" (as in cord) was used a lot. Someone tell me it's OK. Those of you who've had babies already probably think its a daft thing to get freaked about. Sorry to anyone who hasn't yet and hadn't contemplated it...

Hi Viroids.

Have been reading all the news and loving all the happy updates.

I didn't run off, but I MC'd again so went back to the TTC threads. One day I'll join you for real though :)

SC

Oh Sleepy so sorry to hear. Take care of yourself and good luck for next time.

Esk I've never noticed the cord pulsating, but I did freak out when I saw it on DS (yet wasn't a problem when I saw it on DD). Be prepared for the placenta though. It's the same size as the baby! But basically by then you'll be to busy thinking about baby to much care about all that other stuff!

Sleepy, words are pretty useless at times like these. So sorry.

oh Caz - i'm so sorry :(

big hugs xxx

Caz really sorry to hear that. Hope you have been getting lots of tlc and support in real life.

Oh Caz, so sorry to hear this.

Not much fun here today. Passed out on the way to work on the bus (thankfully seated and only for a few seconds) then got off, called my daddy (as you do at 30...he works round the corner from where I was!) and then passed out again while I was on the phone to him. No one helped me :( Felt sort of OK afterwards so walked to meet my Pa but called MFAU who suggested I head in.

They were fab. I had an ECG, bloods, CTG for bub etc, all within about 90 mins. I did find out that the bloody community MW never called me back to tell me my urine test from 3 weeks ago had tested positive for a UTI . MW suggested I get antibiotics as still protein in my urine. To be honest I had had no further symptoms. Then I had to wait 4 hours.....yes, 4 hours to see the doctors The doctor then proceeded to tell me they had no idea why it had happened (the fainting) - a conversation I had had with the midwife 4 hours previously. He then looked at me as if I should leave. I pointed out the whole reason I was there was for him to write me a prescription....he asked for what . The midwife had written a really good (and brief!) summary of our meeting early and he had failed to read even that! WTF!! Any way, then had to wait 45 mins for the hospital to fill the prescription because you can't take the form they give you to anywhere else!!

Any who, grrrrr.

Fuzzywood - Evan James, 28 Jan 2011
Gormers - Eva Rose, 10 Jan 2011 (at 27 +4wks!)
Frak - Marc
Cowboy - Felicity, 28 May 2011
Brassicababe - Meredith Rose 5.7lb at 212am}
Barnaby William 5.8lb at 213 am} 23 June 2011
ConfessionsOfAnAchingFanjo - Alba Elspeth Anne, 01 July 2011
Takethatlady - Isobel Edith, 03 July 2011
Dynababy - 20/07/2011, boy
aStarInStrangeways, EDD 01/08/11, girl
Macaroonmum - 6/08/11 (but anytime after 15/07 if like 1st!)
Eskarina - 16/8/11 surprise (but prob a girl)
Baby2b, EDD 22/08/2011, boy
Vallinnapod, EDD 04/09/2011, boy
KateeHasABun EDD 16/10/11
nickelbabe, EDD 26/11/11, baby
Bambam EDD ?/2012

Anyone missing, been written in wrong?

Caz sorry to hear about your mc.

Val I hope you're OK - that sounds like quite a scare.

I had a second attempt at perineal massage today and actually found my perineum . Can't believe that I thought the skin flap on the outside was what I was aiming for and when I read the instructions and really got in there (sorry for TMI) discovering the perineum it was quite a shock. THAT can tear???

Oh vallinna that does not sound like fun. Poor you.

Nice list coaaf

Lazing at home today - very tired, think the adrenaline rush from yesterday has worn off! Mainly scary as I was by myself, I can't really travel with a chaperone for the next 3.5 weeks (time left at work - I am not some sort of clairvoyant predicting my birth!!)

Esk - I too was a bit re: what is actually the perineum. There i some very thin skin down there that I cannot see surviving no matter what is rubbed in to it but also some elephant hide that would be rather traumatic!

Watching Americans give birth on some sky channel.

Yay for the arrival of Alba and Isobel! Belated congratulations, I got back from Paris at about midnight on Monday night and this has been my first chance to catch up. [grins] at new baby cuddles!

12 weeks until I'm on maternity leave... can't wait! Squig was very good whilst away, lots of kicks, though unfortunately a lot of them seemed to be aimed at my bladder, so I have seen way more of French toilets than I would have liked...

Nickel, with you on the non-bending front and its not that you're too fat, you have a baby in there! I keep catching mine on door handles

vallinna - am quite at your treatment.
I can't beleive they let you suffer with a UTI fro a fortnight!
no wonder you fainted.

re: perineum. too. oooh this is not going to be fun is it... i thought it was the flap at the top too, Esk . I've already got a tear in that. (god knows how - the nurse found it at my last smear)

Katee hoep you had a lovely time in Paris.
It's weird, because over the past few days, I have gone from feelign like i'm jsut fat, to feeling like i'm pregnant. I think it's mostly because the bump is only visible from the side - it doesn't go any further than the tummy part - no overhanging the hips for example, and that makes me feel less fat.
i think

vallinna also for you at the rubbish treatment you have received. Hope you are having a better day today.

I'm having a couple of lazy days as I have a cold and chest infection. Feel like the antibiotics are starting to kick in now though. Having a cold in the summer shouldn't be possible!

Hi ladies. Sorry I've been off for a few days. caz, like bb says, there are no words for this sort of thing. I just hope you are getting any support you feel you need, having lots of time to look after yourself, and that you're back here in no time. :(

vallinna oh my goodness what a day. And what crap treatment you got from that doctor. I hope you're feeling better today - and I hope you've taken the day off and are doing something nice and indulgent. UTIs are crap at the best of times, let alone if they've been diagnosed but ignored for three weeks and you're pregnant! Plenty of excuse for chocolate, new clothes, take away, or whatever else you fancy I say.

Blissful Monday and Tuesday with DH camped out in our living room with the dining table for a changing station and the kitchen and loo on hand. Then a total freak out from me last night when Isobel suddenly learned that crying is not half as fun as screaming as if in immense pain and seemed desperate to feed but refused the boob. Culminating in a 100% meltdown when I tried to latch her on this morning and a bit of blood squirted out of my boob onto her face , prompting me to make DH call the GP and book an emergency appointment. Isobel is perfectly healthy, getting milk, has now fed and filled her nappy (and peed all over DH :)), and her mum is slowly beginning to calm down and return to something like normality.

coaaf how are you and Alba doing? I am actually finding new respect for my mum, shock horror, who had me and my brother in a really crap marriage with my dad when she was 21 and 24. My dad is brilliant but he was all wrong for her and out every single night boozing it up when I was born and she left him 10 weeks after my brother was born. Can't believe she did this alone! DH has spent every waking second changing nappies, giving cuddles to both of us, reassuring me, taking care of admin and bits we need sorting out, and I honestly couldn't be doing it without him. Anyone who tells you you are beautifl when you're hanging off them half-naked, sweating and screaming because a baby is coming out of your bits has got to be worth their salt

I think you have a good excuse ttl! glad its all going well bar the odd meltdown, which is very understandable!

France was good thanks nickel though food was often a bit of a struggle - the French don't believe in vegetarianism as a general rule, so ended up with pizza twice

If anyone wants to go and visit the Louvre by the way, the best option is to go whilst pg or with a pushchair/young child. Its free entry the first Sunday of the month and the queue stretched for about a mile, in the open, blazing sunshine. I cried. I then found helpful information people at the end of the loooong queue who said we could go straight in, hurrah! Also got through check-in (at the French end if Eurostar) mega-quick courtesy of the bump - was firmly lead to the front of the queue for all the passport checks