November 2011. Bumps, kicks and less feeling sick.

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Thought I'd take the plunge and go for it.

blue Sterre is a lovely name. Hope you get home soon and can rest.

moosey I'm reading June's as well (or whoever is giving birth) I like the stories and even the births that didn't go to plan the mums still seem happy and totally in love with the new babes:)

juststarting had a good laugh at your helicopter description!

Glad to hear the scans are going well!

I had my 20 wk scan this morning and am glad to report that all was as it should be. Was such a relief. I had worked myself up into such a state over the weekend worrying about it that by yesterday afternoon I was having pains in my chest and everything. Only realised that it must have been worry when they miraculously disappeared after the scan was over and I was clutching my picture in my hand, with the words 'all looks ok at this stage' ringing in my ears.

But three hours of walking on air and I eventually came down to earth with a big crash when I was confronted with my super competitive SIL announcing that she is pregnant too. I feel crushed - our DDs are the same age and I hate the constant comparisons, and I had been so happy that this baby won't have to go through his/her life with the same competition going on, and now I discover that he/she will, and I feel like curling up in a ball and crying.

Moosey - I'm too scared to look! :o

Hiya. Blue, that is a beautiful name and I am astounded by how calm and strong you are. I hope that you are able to go home soon. My thoughts are with you.

Congrats on all the scans today. Good to hear the news!

I have also been reading the june pages as well, feels like so long since I last gave birth that I have nearly forgotten what happens (I wish!) but it is good to read how people experience it as it gives you more knowledge to deal with our own.

Scan went great today. Dates all perfect and size all matches up. We found out the sex...... and are team pink! Baby was very helpful and posed at all the right times for measurements and pictures. Lovely!

Glad scans are going well ladies! You are doing so well!

I'm finally home and able to type on the netbook instead of on my smartphone, which makes replying to messages a lot easier!

I had to go into theatre to get placenta manually removed (sorry for tmi) was under general anesthaetic for about 5 mins. Anesthesist was incredibly funny! It still makes me smile thinking of those moments.
All the staff, midwives, doctors, surgeons, dinner ladies were absolutely wonderful!
I will be bringing them some Belgian chocolates in a few weeks to thank them for helping us through this sad experience.

I am on antibiotics now, midwife will come and check on me tomorrow.
I also feel like a needle cushion, as they had to get an anesthesist in to get my bloods done. They needed a lot of tubes and just couldn't get any out. Think I've been injected/stabbed with needles like 10 times if not more

We had some time with the baby (still don't know boy/girl) as it was too tiny to determine. But we thought Sterre was suitable for both. I loved that name for a girl before I met DH but it doesn't really work in English, but DH agreed it was very nice for our angel baby.
They couldn't do any foot or handprints, as the baby was too fragile, but we have some nice pics.
We decided to have our own funeral arrangements as we didn't feel to hospital ones were personal enough.

There we go... think that's all I'm gonna bother you ladies with! If you still have questions please inbox me, I'm very happy to talk!
I will be following here still and wishing you all good luck! Will keep you all in my prayers, that your pregnancies may go as they should! x

Blue I am astounded by your strength - my thoughts are with you and your family. Beautiful name x

Oh Blue that's such a beautiful name. Don't feel like you can't post here although I'll understand why you might not want to stick around.

I'm glad you got some lovely pictures, they'll be something to treasure.

As for understanding why it happened, I felt the same about my ms after a few weeks. It made sense, my baby would have been due in a few weeks but I can see now by fate chose for us to have a baby later in the year instead. I hope that doesn't sound cold, it wasn't an easy time but I can see how fate had other ideas. It's a comfort of sorts.

Thinking of you tonight and I will have you, your family and Sterre in my prayers at church on Sunday xxxx

Blue your strength is amazing, and I wish you and your family all the best. Although I'm aware that must sound a bit flippant - I really don't mean it to, but I just don't know what else to say.

Blue sounds as though you have had an eventful day, glad that the hospital staff treated you well (despite feeling like a pin-cushion!!). It is good to hear that you have made some memories between you, your DH & Sterre (such a beautiful name, so apt). I hope you manage to rest and the MW continues to treat you well. You, your DH, your DD & Sterre are in my thoughts x x

juststarting I love your idea of helicopter....

So happy to hear some good scan news :)

I'm 20weeks today - the half-way point, less than 7 days until my scan :)

Had a phone call from my MW today, she had managed to speak to the people she knows with greater knowledge of antenatal depression. They have advised to try talking to someone prior to medication, if talking doesn't resolve things then to look more into meds but my MW would like to do that under the advice of a consultant so that my mind is at ease re: guilt. I feel so much happier with this plan of action & it all kicks off next Friday with my first talking therapies appt.

Having spent the weekend doing baby/family related things I started this week feeling the most positive I have felt since starting this pregnancy journey; having this call from the MW meant today was also a good day :)

Has anyone else looked into hypnobirthing at all?? I have got a cd that I have started listening to which is really relaxing and I'm finding it helpful, along with reading a book as well - would love to do a hypnobirthing course but money won't allow it at the moment.

Blue wow I'm in awe of how you seem to have coped today. It must have been so hard. I'm glad you have managed to form some good memories and seem at peace with what has happened.

Good to hear results of scans. Makes me feel better about mine which is Thursday- I am counting the hours until we have it!

Snoozle sorry that you are feeling sad. Even though this baby will be our first I do sort of understand how you feel. My sister gave birth 3 weeks ago and even though I'm completely delighted for her it does seem that whatever I say about my pregnancy there are constant comparisons, both from my sis and my mum. I have started to worry that our baby will have a sort of second grandchild syndrome and never have it's own proper identity (obviously totally overreacting here, but just to say I do understand how it feels). Of course though your baby is your own, special little person and can't be compared with your SIL's - anyone who tries to be competitive with their children is just ridiculous (in my own, naive and so far childless opinion!)

bumps I don't have antenatal depression but have had really bad depression in the past and taken all sorts of different meds. GP is keeping an eye on me, but all fine so far. I'm a bit concerned that post-natal depression might set in, but we'll cross that bridge if it turns up. My SIL had bad depression all the way through her pregnancy and did take her meds, things got worse for her when she tried to reduce them -she was told it was absolutely fine - and she has a really beautiful and healthy 1.5yr old DD. Good luck with your talking therapy appt.

Blue, I can only echo what others have said about how strong you are and how fantastically you have handled such a sad occasion. Thoughts with you all.

I'm so pleased others have had god scans today, seems to be a good mix of pink, blue and yellow. So long till mine on 6 July! Never mind I have a busy 2 weeks at work to keep my mind occupied and I've started driving lessons with the ambitious target of passing my test before November...

Blue I think it's wonderful that you are able to see beyond what has happened, and we all wish you the very best next time around. Please don't feel that you can't still say hello when ever you like!

Dee so pleased for you (if you are still lurking!)

Congratulations on all the happy scans! Mine is 2 weeks away yet! :-(

Getting a little worried about it now, the closer it gets. Would feel better if I started to feel the baby move. Think I felt it 2 nights in a row about a week ago, but nothing since. I'm 19+2, have other first timers felt lots of movement by now? If so how regularly? Worry more as I've not heard the heartbeat yet, as mws here don't do it at 16 week appointment. Just want to know my little baby is OK, especially as I'm showing now.

Also, how much weight have people put on? I've put on about 7 lbs by 19 weeks.

off to nosey at June thread!

Blue, i too have been impressed by your coping, i just wanted to say if you ever come to need to tell another side to what happened, thats ok too.

smiling & juststarting they're all genres using good ol' stereotypes to make us think we need to fit in a mould!

It's starting to get serious in my belly now - lots of decidedly noticeable movement - no kicks, but lots of fidgeting!

Happy Birthday beautiful angel Belle.

folic and moosey you are clearly better shoppers than me! :)
Thanks so much for the info, may now have to run everything past you guys before I spend faaaar to much ££.
Cheers my dears.

I hope everyone is doing well today.

My PMA for today is:

I have a punnet of cherries and tea at a good friend's to look forward to.

See y'all tomorrow.

xxx
Ziggi

Happy birthday Angel Belle. Caz Thinking of you and your DH today.

Glad I'm not the only one having a peak at other antenatal threads. Like Voodoo says, it's good to see what others are experiencing and what you would do in that situation.

Blue I'm also in awe of how well you coped yesterday. Hope you are recovering well both physically and mentally.

Good to hear all the good scan news.

Staceroo I'm beginning to feel baby movement more regularly at certain times of the day. Feels like muscle twitches to me. Could be your baby is facing towards your back or maybe you have an anterior placenta. If you are worried could you make an appointment with your mw or gp to check heartbeat?

Happy birthday angel Belle! Thinking of you and Jon today, Caz! love and hugs!

Blue hope you are bearing up. Glad the hospital staff treated you well. Everyone who reads this thread will be thinking of you and sterre.

Happy birthday angel baby belle.

A bit of positive news my Dh felt the baby move a couple of days ago. I think because of the pain I haven't been able to feel him or her but can now with my hand over the bump and felt a bit better last night and felt a few kicks. I am getting quite a bump now so am a bit worried my dates are out and I am further along than I thought. Either that a it may be a big baby. Gulp! I am currently 19+3 and first timer. Scan tomorrow so a bit worried.

Just found this website for baby names. If you like a certain name, it will find others similar: www.nymbler.com

Happy birthday angel Anabelle, thinkng of you caz & your DH

Blue what a lovely and fitting name for your angel. Can only echo what others have said about how fantastic you seem to have coped...hugs.
Staceroo - I'm feeling more movements now daily, started from about 19 weeks but I think it depends on position etc....some say its more on a night when lying down but I find it happens more when sitting still, car/cinema/watching tv. I think I may have a dancer as music seems to get he/she going!!! DH was well pleased the other night, he got to feel it as it started really throwing some shapes when we were at a do and some loud music came on! Not what I'd say are definite kicks but more a kind of rolling, wriggling feeling though in the main still! If youre really worrying though...could you just pop to GP and get them to check heartbeat....just to put your mind at ease?
Got scan on Friday aft....fingers crossed, going to find out blue/pink so will keep you all posted!

blue glad you got some lovely photos.

caz happy birthday to Angel Belle, I hope today goes as well as possible.

snoozle i know how you feel about the comparisons thing. My dn was born a yr before ds, and the first thing my db said when he held his nephew for the first time at less than 1 wk old was, "he won't walk as early as dn because boys tend to be slower than girls" we've had that since, he won't be able to do this as early as dn or that. etcetc. I just laugh at him, if he feels his life is lacking enough to need to compare that's up to him. He my mil's 3rd grandchild and neither him nor dss is as precious as the grandaughter who's the eldest at 12. She loves them don't get me wrong but gd will always come first.

bump glad your feeling happier and that progress seems to be being made to help.

stace i've put about 4-5 lbs on so far and reckon that's all fatty eating rather than baby, i don't really need to put weight on as i'm so overweight anyway, just can't seem to stop eating and eating bad food at that.

Congrats on fab scans. good luck to those coming.