November 2011. Bumps, kicks and less feeling sick.

[Missyraines]

Thought I'd take the plunge and go for it.

lizzy hope you're resting your foot & that it heals quickly x

chip sorry you are having the worry & having to make difficult choices, my only advice would be to chat to dr about it as they can help you weigh up the risks & the benefits!! May also be worth thinking about whether the results of an amnio would affect how you continue, I know some people prefer to know definite either way to prepare/have the relief but it may help in making the decision whether to go for an amnio.

Sorry to thoose who are also havin difficulty with dealing with other DCs, imy advice would be to chat to your MW about it if it is constant and not inproving as they can help with finding ways of managing it all!!

My MW phoned today to say she hasn't had any luck in getting additional advice re: antenatal depression for me (why are both people off at the same time??) So I'm still stuck in limbo which really isn't helping mood :( day 4 this week of feeling really crap, have a headache as well which = ms retuning. Am hoping to leave work early today (really don't want to be here- nnot a goos attitude to have I know)

Anyway on a PMA note, have aqua tonight (although even that feels like a chore due to the drive there)

Well, ds spent the night being sick. Well, three times between 8.30, when i think he got most of it out, then 12.30, then 6.30. He did eat the childminder's spagbol yesterday which is probably richer than he's used to but there are also bugs going round. Most of my anxiety problems centre around vomiting, so i'm in a right state fearing we're all goig to catch it. Partner has had to stay home. This follows from a week where i had a client with high suicide risk and a family in crisis who threatened to lodge a formal complaint against me, and are so fraustratingly closed to help even though they beg for it. Fed up. I know, in thescheme of things, it going to be ok but i'm tired and stressed and have had about 17 panic attacks and not much sleep since last night.

Lizzy I winced reading your post as well. Hope you have a speedy recovery.

Chip Sorry to hear about your results. I personally would have further tests but that would only be because I would be worrying about it throughout the rest of my pregancy. The other way to look at it is you flip a coin 189 only once would you get 'heads'.

Congrats Gold on your scan news. glad everything was ok.

It's my scan today. DH is off work as he has a bad headache, sweats and chills. Hoping he will be able to come to the scan. Do you think I'm being selfish bringing a ill person into where other pregnant women will be?

He's not sneezing or coughing and it seems to be worse at night. If he feels ok, was going to leave him in the corridor until my name is called so he's not sitting with other pregnant ladies.

Juststarting Oh hun, sounds like you are having a crappy week

I hate being sick and also am worrying about when our family will be hit by a D&V bug. Though no point worrying about something that may happen in the future. I do remember DD used to have amazing projectile vomits. One time it was pooled in my bra - so gross but luckily just milk!

Have you tried yoga or pilates? I find these really relaxing and soothing. Sounds like you have a hectic/high pressure job and it might help to have some 'me' time once a week - if you can of course.

Good luck for scan Moosey I Know what you mean about DH. You want him to be there but are weary for other ladies. Just make sure you both hand gel well and sit away from the others. FX for him too!

For everyone having bad times, I hope you see light at the end of the tunnel soon. HUGS all round.

I was a bit worried as I went to the IOW festival at the weekend and got caught in the moment and was jumping quite a lot to some amazing bands. I forgot I was pregnant for a while then thought, shit, what if I've hurt junior? Do you think they'll be OK as they are surrounded by water. I still haven't felt any movements (17+3) I'm trying to be calm but do get waves of guilt.

Also another tip - make sure you ladies are getting enough calcium. You probably already know that but this is a crucial time for baby's bones! I'm trying to have a healthy banana milkshake every day. Can supply recipie if you'd like!

Morning all!
Lizzy - nightmare! hope the foots not giving you too much pain.
Chip - sorry you got results that are worrying....probably a good idea to ring dr/mw just to chat through things even if youre not going to decide what to do until the next scans done?
Bump - hope your week's picked up a bit. Seems to be a lot of ups and downs for everyone at the moment. Flipping hormones. I seem to be getting more and more tired all the time - thought you were supposed to perk up in 2nd tri!
Just wanted to say thanks to everyone who's been doing the lists - Im going to start compiling my own and buying a few bits to spread the cost, so look out for probably loads of questions from me on basically everything!!!!
lk - is it tomorrow or next friday for the wedding? very exciting, you all sorted?
missy - i wouldnt worry - i think there's a lot of protection in there...I didnt feel movements that were recognizable really til 18/19 weeks and its only now I'm feeling quite a bit daily but everyones different so dont think you should worry about not having felt any yet. In fact I get more wriggles when theres music or having a bit of a dance.....like to think I'm cultivating early music tastes....yours will probably just become a festival goer .
Thats all for now....better get some work done!

juststarting your job sounds very stressful. are you able to do something less stressful over the next few months? or are you self employed?

missyr i think jumping is ok for the baby. if however you had fag in one hand can of booze in the other while you were jumping maybe a different thing. (as well as being messy).

moosey sorry your dh is unwell. Has he got a high temp? i assume if he's sweating he does, is he doing anything else like vomiting? if he feels well enough to go and stays away from the other ladies then i would think it would be ok.

LOL - no fags or beer were consumed. It's funny, but I don't even miss booze (I've never smoked) Although I do admit to drinking my sparkling water out of a wine glass of an evening as it makes me feel like a grown up

Missy Good idea - will take my hand sanitiser in case they don't have any (don't remember seeing any there last time).

cep No other symptoms, bit weird really. He's just driven to my parents house and he says his eyes are hurting now (they hurt when he moves them). Think it's just a virus.

Only 1.5 hours til appointment! Just put DD down for sleep so my mum has some easy baby sitting to do

Right best get on and start getting ready.

Caz thinking of you, hope that you and Jon find a way through the next few days

Moosey, thanks, it has been a hard week. Thing is, the work stuff fades into the background next to the vomit stuff! He's been fine all day today, actually quite bonny. Seems to have developed a baby crush on my friend who is visiting today. But I am just waiting for myself or my partner to start getting ill. I keep trying to tell myself it may not even have BEEN a bug, and therefore not be contagious, but the fear is mounting as the light is fading.
As for the job, no, kind of stuck with it being this stressful to be honest. Though not every week will be like this one.
So, how was the scan?
As for the jumping about, I think if you'd caused a problem you'd know about it by now. And I'm coming up to 17 weeks and I'm not feeling movement. Had a few things I havent been convinced are wind, but nor am I convinced they're not, but thats it.

Scan was fine, baby is developing well and is pretty much bang on average for all measurements. I'm Team Yellow

Can't believe that was the last time I will see baby until I give birth. Seems ages.

Who's the next scanee?

Thinking of you all Caz

Hi all!
What's happened with Caz sorry for being dense but I've reread the thread from where I've left off, or so I thought, but can't see anything. Argh I hope everythings okay. Thoughts with you and fingers crossed.
Bumpisaacsmum I hope your horrid few days ease off. Depression and aniety are so sodding ehausting, sending you lots of good vibes.
Well a trying few days here as my supply seems to be dwindling so getting boobmonster DS off to bed is taking longer and longer. He's also getting quite anious and clingy so my nerves are evidently rubbing off on the poor wee fellow. Still he finally fell asleep tonight after 40 minutes or so, clutching his new favourite toy, Peppa Pig, as if his life were depending on it. I do wish the pregnancy wasn't impacting so much on BFing - which has been since birth probably his favourite thing in life.
Still we're talking about the bump more, mainly me pleading with him to stop with the wrestling moves and flying feet when we're supposed to be having an early morning cuddle in bed! Interestingly he's adamant that the bump is a sissie and not a brother. I don't know if he's psychic, biased because he gets spoiled rotten by all the girls we know, or just limited in vocab.... but me I'm not sure by the minute what were having so can't wait for our scan in two weeks time.
Cookie I had an anterior placenta with DS, I got far less of the painful annoying kicks than my friends - none in fact - but it took a while longer to feel anything too. The only other downside is it does slightly increase the risk of a back to back labour, because the baby likes to face the placenta at the end of pregnancy. But then DS got wedged sideways so it made no difference to him whatsoever.
Also the Amby cot, we used a Miyo baby hammock which is v similar when DS was small and it was miraculous. He slept 10-12 hours straight regularly, and if he stirred at night I poked a lazy foot out of bed, rocked it, and most times he'd doze back off. The only downside was you needed about three hands to get DS in, I think because he was a whopper, and for that same reason he outgrew it at 4 months, not the 7 is said it should last too. But he was 98th centile for boy's height, and I know the Amby is said to last longer.
Staceroo nice find on the dentist, last time I was preggers my dentist wouldn't even give me a clean while I was a non fee paying type!!
Juststarting vomiting bugs are my absolute nightmare too, stemming from when my DS caught one off my cousin when he was 8 months old. It lasted for about 2 weeks, was just horrendous - nappies from Satan, new sheets most nights, projectile vomming and for the first two nights, me up every two hours to feed him for just a minute or so at a time (longer and he puked it all back up) then having to comfort him when he wanted to keep feeding but wasn't allowed. Just awful. I now freak whenever someone tells me a bugs doing the rounds. This pregnancy our sodding plumber gave me a vomming bug after coming to our house just hours after puking her guts up - but thankfully DS didn't get it and this bump was fine.

Caz am a silly, silly woman and really should remember important dates like today. Will light a candle for your lovely wee Annabelle Violet. Happy birthday little one. Caz I hope today hasn't been too hard for you and Jon. Grief isn't linear it goes in spirals round important dates and anniversaries. I hope the rawness of your grief is easing.
Such a strange thing that today, my friend has been admitted to the hospital for her cs. Last time I could check at 2pm she hadn't had it yet, but has been in since 8am, but it depends on how many emcs they have to do I suppose. Her wee one has also turned 32 weeks hence their decision to go for it, a whole month since her loss, and after discharging herself after a week - because she was getting so awfully distressed by the stay - she's had dopplers every two days, and proper MRI scans every three, and her little one looks to be on the 75th centile for weight for a singleton baby so has done astoundingly well. She'll be in my thoughts til I hear the news. Fingers crossed.

justsmiling I hope that it wasn't a bug and you stay weel. Also hope you have a less stressful time at work!!

moosey YAY for good scan news :)

poppet sorry to hear pg affecting BFing so much, good on you for persevering!!

caz hope you walk goes well tomorrow & that the lead up to Belles angel day isn't too stressful. I think you are doing an amazing thing with the way you are raising money, thoughts are with you x x

Didn't manage to leave work early, are patients decided they needed me more so had to struggle through (though hate feeling like I'm not giving them 110% as I normally do). Thankfully I have training tomorrow... I say thankfully but I hate catheters & really don't want training to be able to do them when I'm not feeling great anyway

Morning all. Caz, thoughts are with you and your family. Keep strong x

Hope everyone else is doing ok/better? FX for no horrid bugs for people!

Ive been awake since 5.30, no need, bright and sunny before the predicted rain that is forecast for today and tomorrow. Ah well it might be an excuse to have a clear out of the mountains of paper and books etc that seems to have flooded my front room. Been really busy at work so havent been online much this week. Did get some lovely news that my mums neighbour has finally had her overdue baby - everyone cross legs - he is a 10 pounder! My beloved just went 'oh is that big?'! EEK!

20 week scan on Monday and MW on Weds, busy baby appointments start here. Have the whole of June and most of July then it is growth scans, ante natal clinc appointments, anti d injections etc and my busiest time of year for work what with it being the summer hols! Pretty much decided that am going to go on mat leave at the very start of Oct. Still waiting to hear the outcome of the MA interview.... keeping my fingers fully crossed about it!

Hope everyone has a good, restful and as none stressful as possible day.

Thank you for all the thoughts ladies. xx

Yesterday I was just too exhausted to post anything. I can't believe a whole year has passed since Belle died, I went to work and it was probably the best thing for me yesterday, but I felt so heavy like I could barely stand up by the time I got home. now to get through Fathers Day and her birthday (which is the 21st - it took 5 days after she died to get me into labour, but when I did get there she was born in 5 hours!)...

Walk tonight - people have raised amazing amounts of money. We're so touched and grateful and overwhelmed. Can't believe Anabelle has inspired all of this really. On the justgiving page alone we've raised £935 now, quite looking forward to adding together the walk money and everything from her angel day fete and getting a final total. I think it is going to be amazing!

Haven't got time to read back the thread very far this morning but will try and catch up tomorrow night. hope everyone is ok and having good scans etc! xx

Morning. Caz, i know it helps not a jot but i find myself crying for you and the losses you're so bravely living with today. I just wanted to say thank you for being so open about it and not keeping the loss of a baby and the realities of that taboo. The more people like you are able to talk about those losses, the more people who might struggle to talk about it will feel able to. I hope the next few days/weeks/years are times of strength and love and not just sadness.

My thoughts are with you Caz.....sending hugs. How fantastic you've raised all that money....what an inspiration...hope the walk goes well x

Caz Hope the walk goes well today. My thoughts are with you, DH and Belle. Congrats on raising such a huge amount of money.

Hi all, we're in the hospital atm. Had our 20 week scan this morning at 9. Sadly they didn't have good news for us... I'll the pieces of the puzzle fell into place when I saw the head only measured 16 weeks and they then said the heart had stopped. I had several attempts with my doppler the last week and couldn't find it but wasn't that worried as the MW had difficulty finding it at 16 weeks.
Will have to come back on Sunday to give birth to our angelbaby!

Thinking of you today Caz

hugs Bluetinkerbell I'm so sorry for your loss - no words really seem adequate. I hope you have a lot of support at this time.

Oh blue I'm so sorry for your bad news. Huge ((hugs)) and wish there was something more useful I could say. My thoughts are with you.

Caz thinking of you too and best of luck with the walk tonight, what a great achievement to raise so much money to support Sands. Well done!

Bluetinkerbell I am so sorry. I am sure your baby could feel how much you loved them. Thinking of you.

Caz I hope the walk goes well. You and Anabelle are inspirational.