November 2011. Bumps, kicks and less feeling sick.

[Missyraines]

Thought I'd take the plunge and go for it.

Hmm. Not sure I can add much to the positive thinking. Though I am positive I am up for dunking that mother in law. I shall just have to try not to be too negative. Missed a bit, sounds like we have a few boys on the way - I am beginning to think, between you lot and friends, its impossible to have a girl at the moment! We're definitely wanting to find out. I just love knowing a bit about the child before it comes. Which is odd, cause I try not to be to gendered in the way I parents my son (and thus, naturally, appear to have the most naturally stereotypically BOY boy ever) but if sex is what I can know, then I want to know! Pamco, I'm sorry about the dilemmas you're facing. I hope you get some good advice from the consultant. And I didnt know the difference between a babygrow and a bodysuit and a vest and anything else either. In fact, I am still not sure what all those words refer to, I just got a sense of what he should be wearing when.
Speaking of which, a young man in pijamas has just arrived calling my name. And looking not remotely likely to sleep in the next, ooh, four hours. On the positive thinking front though, day two with new childminder and no massive meltdown yet.

My positive thoughts to abrogate my previous whinge:
We had the first thunderstorm of the year up here today - I love a good storm.
DH has been very nice and helpful today and has been searching on the tinternet for a wooden train set for DS's upcoming birthday.
After being hideously tantrummy this morning, DS had a two hour nap and emerged a gorgeous wee poppet. I just settled him off to sleep tonight then eased the plastic toy rhino and dinky toy black taxi from his tiny hands. Quirky wee boy.
And my last one is the scrummy Del Monte smoothie ice lolly in the freezer which I'm about to snarfle!

PMA here from me:

I can cook and eat normal food again - poor dh is delighted!
We had Aussie cousins round for a barby this afternoon/evening and despite it threatening to rain, it was lovely and sunny and we all had a fab time
I am suffering from a really itchy pregnancy rash and lovely dh went to 24 hour Tesco last night to get me some calamine lotion which has really helped

Anyone seen a decent maternity raincoat around BTW? I am thinking we might need one for caravanning this summer.

Hope all well with everyone

Oh my goodness Poppet your MIL sounds like an absolute nightmare and I can't believe your DH doesn't see anything wrong in some of her behaviour! I am very lucky to have a lovely MiL (and FiL) although I think when the baby arrives she may have more to say about how we do things, which could be interesting!

Caz very excited for your blue bump and still loving keeping up with your blog. Glad that yesterday was a happy one for you.

I've not felt any movement to date but at 16+4 it's still early and as it's my first baby, I'm not expecting to feel anything until week 20 so have some time still until that happens. Although I think it will be nice and lovely for my DH once he can join in, I am also a little apprehensive that it might feel a bit alien like

We went to the 16 week midwife appointment yesterday and it was really nice. We heard the heartbeat (was very cool) and booked in for Parentcraft, which is not until October so felt like an age away. I'm also booked in for breastfeeding workshop, which I go to on my own and that's in September. My DH asked for help to stop smoking and they've referred him to the specialist advisor who can help with his plan so all in all was well worth the day off work. We spent the rest of the day doing a couple of errands and having lunch, before making the most of an afternoon at home when everyone else is at work! Lots of snuggling, perfect.

It's rubbish that all of the different NHS trusts have different protocol about appointments and what happens when. SO far everyone I have met (midwife / consultant / phlebotomist) have been really lovely so fingers crossed that is set to continue.

Our 20 week scan is on 2nd July, 3 weeks on Saturday! (although we're staying yellow so no gender announcements coming from me) My Mom is coming to stay that weekend and we are going to a local 'Kiddicare' place to look at prams then my sister is coming in the evening and bringing her maternity clothes for me to borrow so it will be a baby filled weekend!

Pam so sorry you have to make the decision between surgery and constant painkillers I hope you get the option of keyhole surgery, at least you will feel more comfortable with that.

Sorry for mammoth post, a lot has happened in the last few days!

Hi! New to the site! EDD 7/11/11 - first timer! Scary but exciting for me and DH. Had first scan at (what I thought was) 13 weeks, turned out to be 17 (Surprise....1 month down in 10 mins!) Have been fairly lucky in feeling pretty good so far, just mega tired. 20 week scan booked for 24th although going for private one on Thurs to get a better detection NT scan (anyone else done this?) as we were hoping to have the NHS NT scan but due to mix up with dates meant we were way too late and could only have the triple test. Anyone had NT scan and or triple test and results? Also going to find out sex....very excited about that :)

Some positive thinking from me too. I think I am maybe feeling one or two movements (I'm as clueless this time round as I was with my first!) and also I'm going on holidays in a couple of weeks and I am so excited about that. Have my 20 week scan two days before we leave though, and I know I shouldn't be thinking negatively (after all, this is a positive thinking discussion) but it has crossed my mind 'what would happen if we got bad news?'. Arrggh, mustn't think that, mustn't think that.

PMA from this corner:

• I have a big pile of strawberries and cream in front of me - yum!
• My mother is looking to come over from Sweden for my birthday in July!
• My 20 week scan is next week - yay! How fast time is going!
• DP is reading a book: "Fatherhood - The Truth", and is starting to engage with the pregnancy
• I'm picking up my German pram this weekend - £700 pram for £150!
• It's getting so real, and I'm loving it!

Poppet do put your foot down with your dh about your MIL. She may be his Mum but she doesn't sound like the best person to have around a with a newborn.

busyboysmum I am tearing my hair out at the lack of decent raincoats for pregnant women. I have not found one that comes with a hood for a start! It's a raincoat fgs what is the point in having a dry body and a wet head?

Some macs on Bon Prix but don't know if they are waterpoof?

Well I failed my PMA for today - I took a codeine and I was phoned by the drs my liver function is deteriorating :(

BUT turn that frown upside down (a bit) it meant I could go to yoga and it was a great class. Not the usual one I go to but I am doubling up for the ones I missed. I felt great afterwards.

Also in desperation to be positive I've found a green soup that is used by some to treat gallbladder pain, so I had 2 bowls and no pain. Courgette, green bean, parsley, celery, new potatoes and garlic all steamed then whizzed up. Even the carnivorous OH liked it! A MEAL I ATE A MEAL!!!

Tomorrow is a new day just green soup, beetroot & lemon (a type of alternative gall medicine) and apple juice allowed. Plus plenty of water. I WILL BEAT THIS!

Ok, that was my Rocky moment, cue music....

I am loving everyone's PMA lists, it helps me when I'm slipping into that negative mood.

pam it doesn't sound to me that you "failed" with pma - you did what you needed to to ensure you reduced your pain thus allowing you to eat a nutritious meal which both you & baby will benefit from & it allowed you to exercise & relax - another big plus for you & baby!!

Am thinking of you x x

Congrats to caz and knocked up re team blue.
I have been thinking girl but have now switched to boy so hope we can find out on 22.

Pamsco don't feel bad about painkiller as I took codeine last night and today as was curled up in a ball yesterday and unable to do anything. Dh pointed out that my pain makes me stressed which isn't good for the baby so better to take some painkiller. Going to take today as have to get taxi to and from hospital which is going to hurt. At least we will be ready for labour pain when it comes- don't know about you but getting good at breathing through pain and visualisation. I imagine I am doing my favourite dive.

Pma
Less pain than yesterday and also mw appointment.
Dh made me nice cup of tea and put pots on the hob as can't lift but want to cook.
Have ordered tankini so can go swimming once pain dies down.

Less pma
Dh has to go to Germany for meeting o up at 4 am and won't be back til after midnight.

Poppet the most important thing when the little one comes is your wee family. Mum and baby need to be healthy and as relaxed as possible. Maybe speak to DH again?

Pam am so pleased for you! Deffo not a fail :)

My PMA:

I can eat lovely food again
I am starting to blossom
I can feel my little one moving around - how exciting!

Everyone have a brilliant day :o

Welcome Kate wow what a surprise for you to be a month further on!
Wrt nuchal test, I don't think anyone can do the test once past 14 weeks, so double check with the private clinic - don't want you wasting your money. I had one at 13 weeks anmd it was fine. You can still have triple bloods now though - should be as accurate as nuchal as you're further on. The NT can just be done earlier.

I have my 20wk scan on 6 july. Hoping to find out the flavour too. DD was a surprise but I feel that knowing the sex will help me bond. After that, my next mw appt is then 22 august when I'll be 28 wks. Fine by me, leave me alone! You get fewer appts in 2nd pg.
Mw took ages to find hb on monday, but she did. She said it was a real wrigglert. Definately feeling lots of movement, which is great cos I felt v little with DD as the placenta was at the front, so most kicks went to the back.

Oh, and whoever mentioned bf classes, you can take DH if he wants. When you're back home alone with baby and struggling to feed, it's handy to have a partner who knows the basic about latch etc!

Forgot to say, off to Florida for 2 wks, a week on sat. Cannot wait!! Though 9 hour flight with a 2 year old may not be so good!

Right, this is more Pollyanna than PMA.

Threw up my pain au chocolat this morning BUT I can be glad about that as I can have another breakfast later!

Real PMA: My Tiffany Rose dress arrived today. I won it from ebay too so got it cheaper than on the site. It's this one and it's very flattering and surprisingly comfy to wear!

Mrs A, very of Florida!

Oooh chip that is a beautiful dress. MrsA my OH would LOVE to go to bf classes he was asking if he could visit the yoga class just to be supportive - he liked the idea of ladies on all 4s doing pelvic excercises. He is a bad man.

Welcome kate the private scans look great but as MrsA said check you are still able to get the measurement at 17 weeks.

2 days of work left then off for amnio then off for 2 weeks, cannot wait! Though still nervous about travelling with this pain. The beet & lemon alternative treatment is disgusting ugh and I'm not sure it is helping but PMA says give it a chance!

Oooooh Chipmonkey that dress is divine!!! And an eBay bargain to boot, even better. And yes that's entirely the right way to think about the Pain au Chocolate... the fun part was the eating not the digesting.
Had a long talk with DH about his witch of a mother, I have an aunt who treats him in a very similar way and I eplained calmly that when that was happening, a. I believed him right from the off, b. I didn't say he was only looking for the negatives in her behaviour, c. I didn't say it was his fault, d. I didn't try and make ecuses for her and e. I didn't say he was making a fuss over nothing. I think me being calm and not my usual ranty self really helped it sink in. We've now agreed that my dear twin sister will be with us for the first week or so, and thankfully as our house is so small that means MIL will have to hold off on her broomstick flight for a while yet. Hopefully up here the weather will close in again like it did last November and keep her away a bit longer. Speaking of visits and help, anyone with a little one already have plans for their net delivery. We have no family nearby and the hospital has a ban on siblings during labour so are a bit stuck. We have a lovely neighbour whose said she can have our DS during the day but she has back issues and a DD with quite high SEN issues which make it unlikely an overnight stop for our DS would be possible, I'll likely have to labour alone overnight as DH would have to come home.... was wondering about asking my dad if he could get the train up when I know labour's begun, but that's likely to take a good three hours or so and he has young step kids of his own. And my sister is planning on flying/sailing training it in from Orkney so that's a long journey too. Hum I guess it'll work out.
PMA for today: DH has taken DS to the aquarium for the morning so I've had a lie in, quiet breakfast on my own and some lovely faffing time all to myself. Result! In fact I'm now rather starting to miss the pair of them.

I don't have any PMA here. I'm in a weird and tearful mood.

Was working a long long hard day yesterday with lots of running up and down flights of stairs, very little food and then had to go straight out after work. Needless to say I've woken up tiredy and angry and grumpy.

Lost it this morning at work and now feel that embarrassed way, like all my colleagues have seen me in my knickers or something.

I've had to stick my earphones in just to block the day out.

Welcome Kate I'm not usually such a grump! How shocked were uyou and how good was it to tell people that you were 17 weeks and not 13? Bet it felt aces.

Pam I'm loving this yoga chat, makes me inspired to join up to a class that I've been eyeing up for ages but have the fear of going. Are people talking yet? Shit news about your liver, what are they suggesting to help repair it?Can it repair itself?

knocked congrats on finding out you're having a boy!

Poppet well done on keeping it together

Everyone else great PMAs

Thanks mrs A I'll double check private scans. Also very jealous of Florida...especially today while its binning it down, bit of sun would be nice! Had app this morning and mw also had to chase round for hb! Great dress chipmonkey....I've found maternity clothes a bit tricky so far...although got some great topshop jeans at weekend, which is a relief as I was wearing long vests over my jeans undone and always a worry about them falling down whilst crossing road!! Have a ball to go to in sept tho so need to find something smarter for that nearer the time.

hi ladies, sorry i've been absent for the last couple of weeks, have been just really freaking and weird.

Pam sorry you're so ill at the moment, i hope it all get sorted for you soon.

chip the dress is lovely.

poppet why is he so insisted she's there? is he worried baby will have colic again? maybe you should tell him that you'll be the one crying at all hours if she's there at such an hormonal time. She sounds bloomin awful.

Those finding out colours maybe we should update the stats with those who know and those having suprises, what do you all think?

Hello everyone! I haven't posted for weeks. Mostly because I struggle to get near a PC since starting my new job and I am also exhausted.

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow, feeling quite nervous about it actually. We won't be finding out the flavour of our baby, opting for a surprise this time.

Have been doing an antenatal movement class so physically I feel absolutely normal now which I am sure wasn't the case when I was having DD. I seemed to ache all the time. Every pregnancy is different though eh?

Cep I need to update my EDD on the stats list, you've reminded me thanks

Does anyone have any recommendations for maternity jeans or workwear? I bought some bits from New Look (multipack of vests, shorts and a floaty top thing) but I am struggling in one pair of maternity work trousers which I tried to loosen last week only to discover they were on the last setting. Perhaps I'm not a size 8 after all....

Oh, my fainting episodes have stopped (think that was my last post actually) but the midwife doesn't want to retest my iron level until I am 28 weeks so I guess she's not too concerned about my low reading.

Going to try and catch up now....wish me luck!

Folic > Don't worry about your colleagues, you're pregnant, they're expecting to to be hormonal and grumpy!

Hey cep! Was thinking I hadn't seen you around!

MrsA did you go with an independent mw in the end? I am still catching up but remember we chatted about it ages ago

Cep mainly because we needed her so much last time, I had a big bleed after my emcs and after I was released from HDU I was basically bed bound for about a week then massively knackered and anaemic for about a month, I couldn't push the buggy over kerbs for about a fortnight, and wasn't able to walk to the end of the street til about 10 days, even then I was sitting on walls gasping like a fish due to breathlessness because of the blood loss. Plus yes the colic was just hellish and DP had trouble coping with that and me being so very ill that he had to lift me out of bed so I didn't screw the scar up etc. All in all hoping for a bit of a better break this time so I can care for my littlies and myself!