October 2011 Baby Bus ... part 3

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That is my understanding confused or to do with baby pressing up against the bumpers. Ive seen people use them more on toddler bed set ups. At 15 months DD still has just a sheet and sleeping bag. Only used the blankets for the first few months when she couldn't move around so much.

I'm wearing a dress and flip flops and notice that I seem to have a pregnant waddle. Surely it's too early for that, I think it's the lack of heel and ankle support of the flip flops

Thanks Penguin.

On the bumper issue, a friend of mine's new baby had problems sleeping and the mw suggested putting towels around him and said it might be the shock coming from a nice cosy womb to a drafty cot. It worked and he went straight to sleep.

I've got a pregnant waddle too, all around my groin area and under my bum really aches at the moment. Anyone else got this?

My DH is also a SAHD and always has been. It's hard financially, I don't earn much at all but DH has never really worked, so if he did he'd not earn enough to cover nursery fees, and I'd rather one of us be home.
I say I'd swap at the drop of a hat, but I do love my job, and some mornings I'm more than happy to go to work. DD and I are very similar, so we do tend to clash at times. :o

I find the hardest bit is having to take a bit of a back seat and letting DH lead. Mostly we agree, but I've got a lot more experience with kids than DH so when I don't agree with his methods, or can see an alternative I make sure not discuss it until DD is out of the way.

happymummytobe We had a Bugaboo with dd2, it has lasted her well. She is 4 tomorrow, and still uses it! We will be using it for the new baby too. I hope you are happy with your purchase.

I will be re using our cot from dds 1 and 2, and it was a hand me down from another lady with 2 children, so it has been well-used! Not given bedding any thought at all yet.

I heard some very sad news today. My friend who was due in September gave birth to her little boy last night at 26 weeks- he was born sleeping. I am devestated for her and can't imagine how she must be feeling. I have only had 2 early MCs before, so don't really know what to say.

Also, I went back to work today after a holiday, and told a couple of colleagues about our baby having talipes, and 2 people said they have had personal experience of it too. That reassured me a lot- it can be quite scary hearing that there is something 'wrong' with your baby, even if it is only minor.

I also got comments of 'where's your bump? Where are you hiding the baby?' etc. I still just have pre-pregnancy cake wobble, no bump yet...

Hello everyone - I'd like to join in please! I'm expecting our first on 24 October, and just had my 20 week scan today. It was amazing, I feel so much more relaxed as I'd managed to convince myself something was wrong with LO! Still not feeling proper kicks either, but definite flutterings and the odd "pop" sensation.

Think it's finally sunk in that there will be a 3rd person in this house come October!

Oh cupofteaplease that's so sad. It feels awful when it's someone who is at a similar stage of pregnancy to where you yourself are.

I'm 24 weeks now, which makes me feel like we are definitely having a baby! It's starting to feel real now, especially as I'm having lots of movement, some of it decidedly uncomfortable as the little blighter kicks me in the bladder quite often :)

I'm surprised at how much weight I've gained - I think it's more than 7kg now, and for the first time in my life my thighs have started touching! It's such a weird sensation, I didn't know what it was at first. I actually thought I'd caught something in my knickers that was rubbing on my thighs. And then I realised it WAS my thighs. We're certainly not in control of our own bodies anymore, are we?

It's great to hear of others' purchases and decisions. I'm currently researching nappies and wipes. We're moving house at the end of the month, and I'm so relieved to be moving to a place with a garden and a washing line. We're currently in a first floor flat with no garden and no dryer, and the thought of the forthcoming winter surrounded by mouldering nappies was not filling me with joy. Now I'm looking forward to seeing a row of little bottom-shaped things drying in the sun.

We're really keen on co-sleeping, so won't be buying a cot or moses basket, or entertaining the concept of a nursery. I'm toying with buying a sidecar-style cot, but then keep thinking if we're going to have the baby in our bed (which we plan to), will it be a wasted purchase? Anyone else co-slept from the word go?

For us it took a while to work up to co-sleeping. The moses basket was handy for when she was asleep and downstairs. It got carted up and down morning and evening. When DH went to work I would put DD into bed. In the first few weeks it was good as I had extra room to work how to get comfortable. Once we were in the US, with their much bigger beds, DH came round to the idea of co-sleeping really quickly. As she got older she turned out to be a baby who needed to be left alone to sleep and would rarely co-sleep. You might want to think about where they will sleep before you go to bed. Even before they can roll they can often maneuver themselves around a large space. However things are so easy to purchase it's not like you're making a decision that can't be turned around. Our cot was second hand and gifted to us so it didn't matter about it's usage. Moses baskets are so cheap as well, normally get one in the sale with all the linen things attached, I recall freecycle having a few as well.

We use Bumgenius nappies. In the first 6 weeks she was a bit small for them so we had a trial pack of 3 nappies that she wore every day combined with disposables. by 6 weeks we had made our decision and she was of a weight sufficient to really wear them. Also how effective nappies are does come down to the shape of your baby a bit as well, so I'm prepared for these nappies to not work well for DC2 but fingers crossed. Either way we'll need to buy a few more.

cupof :( hugs to you as well as sympathy for your friend. Talipes is that club foot? I know someone who was born with this, but absolutely fine now. Was clearly a bit painful for her before her op which was dealt with at Great Ormond Street.

Hi all, just trying to catch up with everyone's posts as haven't been on for couple of weeks. Glad everyone is doing fine, and those 20 week scans are well underway. I had mine a couple of weeks ago and it all looked fine. We did find out the sex, but have decided to keep it to ourselves and make it a surprise for everyone else. It all seems real now, baby is kicking properly and all is good.

Well, saying that, I've ended up in hospital on Friday with severe tummy ache on my right side. It turns out my fibroid was giving me grief and I think I had something called 'red degeneration' of fibroid which is soooo painful, I've never experienced anything like it in my whole life. Obviously I was worried as to what effect this was having on my baby so all in all a bit of a stressful time this weekend. I am getting a bit better, they cannot treat it just have to rest and wait for it to calm down on it's own. I have had to take painkillers the hospital prescribed, Codeine and Paracetamol, am a bit worried about taking Codeine but they said it was perfectly safe.

I hope everyone else is ok, I thought this pregnancy thing was going to get a bit easier and less worrying after the 12 weeks, but I seem to be worse now, just worried if the baby is ok constantly.. Am I alone in this?

Bubalie, you're not alone! I worry when the baby is quiet and when she's kicking, I talk to her and ask her if she's alright in there!

Hope you feel better soon!

edward its so bright and lovely the girls too and the mobile that matches is only 15 quid i nearly fainted!! im not one for the flashing lights and sounds etc drives me mad nice plain and simple for me lol. yeah im in dundee for now :) aw iv never been to the pram centre 200 sounds extortionate was it like one of the american sets or something? ebays fantastic for those types with absolutely everything for the cot for like 50-80 quid

confused iv heard of that yeah they now have the individual bumper things that wrap 2 bars at a time we never used a bumper for DD but with this bab we decided we should my friend had a bab last june and she's had the bumper from birth and my niece has from around 6/8 weeks and their fine with them obv if DC has any probs we'll remove it but to begin with we'll try it out :)

sorry to ramble lol thats fair gone on :) hope everyone is doing well im in a fabby mood as per usual lol i cant believe we took so long to have a 2nd DC cos i love being pregnant just wondering does anybody else feel really overly sexy just now im not normally one to be strutting my stuff but these past 2 weeks iv been really flirty!!

it was italian i'm in work and computers are antique so too slow to find and link to it lol.

i love pram centre but the cheap stuff in it really looks it, and the expensive stuff is far too expensive for "normal" people IMO

i used a bumper from 3months with DS and it wasn't a problem, i also used a quilt etc but let him sleep on top of it with his grobag on. i think the risk is v.v. low with SIDS even if you go against all the evidence, my DS also refused to sleep on his back, would usually sleep on his side and again was fine.

you know from the price it has to be a little bit special made etc aw im sure its gorgeous :) my friends DD has slept on top of her quilt in her grobag iv never used them before everyone says their great so i may have to invest in 1 at some point :). the sids advice is great but all in all every child is different we just do whats best for them i suppose

Thank you mpops :)

cupoftea so sorry to hear of your friend's son. A friend of mine went through something similar last November. It is too, too awful and I really struggled with what to say. In the end I decided to sent her texts that I was thinking of her and her baby, but didn't expect a response and didn't get any for quite a while. She is pg again now so fingers crossed.

Moly I'd echo PA that a moses basket is really useful for the daytime downstairs. A friend who co-slept used a sidecar-thingy until her DS grew out of it. Sometimes babies don't want to sleep with their parents it seems! DD was fine co-sleeping until about 8 or 9 months and from then on she definitely wanted to sleep on her own. Now she won't sleep a wink if we're even in the same room as her It makes going away fun.

We used Motherease nappies from the outset, they can fold really tiny so fitted DD from day one (she was 7lb 4, aah I can't believe it now the great size of her). I just adore looking out of the window and seeing the nappies flapping on the line Not really looking forward to coping with two DCs in nappies mind you

I had a bit of a meltdown this morning, DD wouldn't nap and I was sooo tired, I desperately wanted her to nap so that I could have one too. I ended up shouting at her and bursting into tears and then I couldn't stop crying. Blaming hormones.

Thanks for the advice sconesfortea, I think I will send her an email. We were looking forward to having our babies close together and experiencing it all. It is going to be so, so painful for her I can't begin to imagine.

Wow, went away for a week to Devon and it has taken nearly as long to catch up with everyone's news!

Glad most are well and have had good scans - hope everyone who has been suffering aches and pains is feeling better. I have days where I feel on top of the world and flirty too super! But mixed up with days where I am terrified something bad will happen. Off to UCLH tomorrow for some extra antenatal care that will hopefully help prevent this little one coming early like my ds, or at least reassure me.

So sorry to hear about your friend cupoftea. I'm sure it will be difficult for you to contact her but she will appreciate it I'm sure.

Am psyching myself up for investing in a new buggy soon - have told myself I'm allowed when I hit 24 weeks this weekend. Have also been trying to buy a nice changing table/dresser on ebay, but keep missing out. Why is everything baby-related, even second hand, so expensive?!!

Had the 20 week scan today and all ok-phew! It went so quickly, was all over in less then 10 mins that it was hard to take it all in, felt a bit shell shocked afterwards. We didn't get to find out the sex as bubs had his/her legs crossed and over their head so no way we could see! now the scary thought is that next time we're back at the hosptial it will be to have them!!
still no kicks or much movement detected but feel bit more relaxed about that after today.

sorry you had a rubbish morning scones, I'm sure it happens to the best of us and hope you had a better afternoon,

and really sorry to hear about your friend cupoftea, I also have a v close friend pregnant same time as me and cant imagine how we would cope in the same situation. just let her know you're there if she wants it & it will be appreciated as said above.

cheeky I read that as inventing a new buggy

scones it's OK have some cake. How's the fallout from weaning. I'd say it was at least 2 weeks before I didn't want to cry and I am not a crier. Didn't cry once in those first few weeks with DD and then felt like there wasn't something wrong with me because I didn't

seasalt glad to hear you're feeling more relaxed. Was it nice to have the decision about the sex taken away from you. You might have more scans yet, you never know.

LOL Penguin! If only I could invent one I'd make a fortune...

lol thank god dino nobody else from my mates etc have felt this way i was starting to worry lol :) OH thinks its great but also very worrying as im usually quite chilled and now its like almost gave waaaaay too much information there yeah he's enjoying it lol im so unbelievably jealous of everyone having their scans ive still got a week and a day to go :( feel its a boy this time but knowing my luck i'll be totally wrong lol DD wants a girl OH wants a boy im actually pretty easy ossee just cant wait to find out so i can buy something other than white lol

hello

sorry it has been ages, i have been away (in Italy - it was amazing!). we had our scan before we went and found out that everything is fine, and we are having a boy! so relieved everything is ok, and it is lovely to say he (not he/she/it).

i am 23 +1 and he started kicking just about 20 weeks. it is so lovely, and makes it all much more real somehow. the kicks are getting stronger and stronger. i keep giggling to myself at work as it feels so funny.

apart from that, the main think i am trying not to worry about is my weight gain. i am only small, so expected to put on lower than average, but i have already put on over a stone. the holiday in Italy may have something to do with that though!

It is lovely to read about everyones scans.

one question while we are talking nurserys - i was hoping to put a changing mat on top of an existing chest of draws, but the ones you buy have a rim around the edge to stop your baby rolling off. can you buy that piece seperatly?

Hi all ! [waves to bus] just caught up on all the news. Congrats to all on scans, and so sorry for your friend's loss, cuppa...

emmazed no worries, I am only small too, but have also managed to put on over a stone, and have no Italian hols to blame it on! Am now going with general advice on this thread: PUT THE SCALES AWAY!! Works for me!

Have been thinking about nursery stuff now too: we have been given a Moses basket and some clothes and stuff, but looking at buggies at the mo' (they are soooo expensive). MN recommends the Mutsy 4Rider Light, but it doesn't seem to be stocked in many places (and not in good old John Lewis either!) so can't work out how much it is...anyone have any advice (and costs)?
xx

emmazed We had one of these changing mats last time. It was really good and stopped DD being able to wriggle off. That might solve the problem of needing an edge around things. You can only really use changing tables for a few weeks, once LO gets good at moving it's too risky. We put the change mat on a blanket box in the living room and changed DD there for the first few weeks then all changes were done on the floor. Once DD did start rolling the shape of this mat made it a bit harder for her, and so nappy changes were a bit easier for us :)
It's about the only thing we need to buy again this time round.

Someone said earlier about having 2nd hand things. We had loads of hand me downs. The cot and highchair we use we originally my brothers, he's 38 now. My Mum was also a child minder so we added up and I think 17 children have made use of them at some point. I love the fact they have so much history. :) And they're far studier than anything you can buy now.

I'm off for my scan tomorrow. DD and my Mum are coming too. We weren't going to take DD but she got very upset when she found out we were going to the hospital, and Mum has always wanted to see a scan and this will be her last chance, (barring accidents :o )

my sleep is now awful despite the convoluted pillow set-up, which is rather annoying as DD's sleep has seemingly improved loads. In fact today I ended up staying at home as I just couldn't function.