November 2011 - more hand holding, scans and 2nd trimester chat coming up.....

[Katiebeau]

New thread chatty girls.......

Don't much like this "having to" wear hats etc to weddings. I hate hats anyway, they accentuate my round face and as I wear glasses fulltime, they just make me look odd.

'Accessorize the fuck out of the other guests' Genious.
And yep I'm well out of my comfort zone too. I don't own any form of a wedding hat, unless miraculously a bobble hat would count, and I had to google what a fascinator even was, so needless to say I don't own one of those either. Still haven't heard back from the groom if a toddler is okay to come (simply from just how fancy it is I'm guessing no) but given our complete lack of babysitters if it's a no then at least it will save us a trip to the opposite end of the country... and if it's a yes I may invest in a single feather from a haberdasher's and call it a thingummy.

Hi chatty ladies and so many new 'faces' on this thread, is great to see. I have been keeping a low profile as have just felt rubbish for about 4 weeks now, I've been sick every day (my record is 7 times in one day, having to wake up in the middle of the night as well - yuk!) but agree with some other ladies who have said that relaxing and catching up on sleep over the weekend really helps with calming it down. Have managed only once today [bugrin]

I had my booking in appointment last Sunday and the MW was lovely, although not the one I will see for the rest of my appointments. My only moment was when she said she was referring me to a consultant due to being asthmatic but am hoping that they will see me and be convinced that my asthma is very well controlled and has not been a problem for years and refer me straight back for MW-led care!

Our 12 week scan is on 7th May and we have a packed weekend planned visiting people to make our big announcement. My Mom is bursting to tell people (especially her best friend) and I know my sister and grandparents will be really excited for us so it will be a lovely (but tiring) weekend, all things going well.

We were at a wedding at 6 weeks and I got by with one glass of wine with dinner then soft drinks, but did have a couple of bottles of Becks blue in the evening. It's actually not bad and I thought tasted quite like normal lager. Haven't tried anything else as cannot stomach the idea of alcohol at the moment! Have really gone off tea as well, which is really not like me at all. Am hoping that comes back soon.

I love that website for glam maternity outfits too! We have 3 weddings whilst I'm pregnant (the next in July when I'll be 5 months and the last just 4 weeks before my EDD!) so will need to get creative if I'm to compete with the other glamorous guests. I am expected to attend a decent amount of social evening / lunch events with work as well (although am hoping I can tail them off slightly more than usual) so will need to have a few options for dressing up - eek!

Hope everyone is enjoying the long weekend, the weather has been absolutely glorious here and we've been for a couple of wanders plus I've had a bit of time sitting on the balcony getting my daily dose of vitamin D! It's so nice just to have a relaxing time with a lie in and no rushing around worrying about work. Am hoping after the bank holidays are over my sickness will have stopped (fingers very tightly crossed indeed) so I can get back to full steam at work and start to glow!! Enjoy the rest of the bank holidays, then only 3 days until the next one - yippee!

Hello ladies,

What an amazing weekend of weather we're having, long may this continue.

On non-alcoholic beer I had the Becks one today and it was alright, quite genuinely beery, although that did make me feel pseudo drunk and weird after drinking it.

Told my family this weekend, am down visiting them in Portsmouth. My mum looked visibly (and vocally) upset bless her, I'm the baby of the family in her eyes and she's been trying to make me put it off for years (I am 31 btw). Told grandparents, aunts, cousins etc in a big champagne moment in the afternoon and that was much nicer, plus my mum had warmed to the idea by then and got over the initial shock.

Told my other grandparents yesterday who were also underwhelmed - 'we told you you could be the rich sister, that's not going to happen now!' They're funny, I knew they'd be like that so I was fine but I think DP was a bit taken aback!

Now we just have to tell DP's family via skype coz they're Danish and our friends. I think DP's family will be excited, I think friends might be less so as we're one of the first to go and we'll be ruining the party vibe!

How's everyone elses big reveals going? I'm dreading telling my best friend who lodges with us as she's obvs going to have to move out. Going to tell her tomorrow, gently..

I feel ready to think about equipment and stuff now which is nice. I think we're going to get a Maclaren XT sport thing!

self absorbed post sorry!

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Hey all - brand new face!

So good to find a space away from all the doom and gloom Google searches out there!

DD on 4th Nov - have had 3 scans at 5 and 6 and 7 weeks already, as I was panicking over nothing - first pregnancy, PCOS and bricking it!

12 week/NF scan is on Wednesday - so scared something will have gone horribly wrong, but I'm still hating the smell of onion and needing a wee every 5 minutes, so it's looking good :D

Welcome Caliphora!

I told ds3 and ds4 today. Ds1 and ds2 had already guessed from the puking!
Ds3 didn't seem all that phased but as the day went on, kept saying "I can't believe you're having a baby!" and "I hope the baby's here soon!"
Ds4 didn't seem to take it in at all but has suddenly become obsessed with my boobs Today he asked if he could smell them so I am wondering if they are beginning to smell milky. He was bf up to a year ago.

Hi Caliphora!

Was a beautiful day here (yesterday)! But by 2:00pm I was too sick to enjoy it. Have been feeling really well for about a week so foolishly thought I was done with ms. Did spend the morning with friends though (who are also pg, 2 weeks behind us) so that was great.

truffkin so to hear you have been so sick!! 7 times in a day!! Hope you will feel much better from now on!

smiling its nice to have told everyone, isn't it? We told the rest of our family on friday at a big easter dinner.

Can anyone else feel their uterus? I have a hard (firm) spot now! No real bump appart from bloating but its really neat (might just be me being a geek)

morning all.

welcome caliphora and congratulations

smiling i'm near portsmouth. [bugrin] i'm sorry your mum was a bit unwhelmed as well as your grandparents. (rich sister???) but glad cousins etc were happy for you. my parents and brother will be chuffed, not to sure about mil although i imagine she'll be happy, but bil's will make nasty comments so will tell sil's and let them tell dh's brothers.

chip i told ds a couple of weeks a go in the hopes of stopping him jumping on my stomach. if you ask him what's in mummy's tummy he'll say baby, but hasn't told anyone. but he wants a girl so not sure what he'll be like if its a boy.

gold i keep thinking i feel a hard bit but as i have a lot of flab everywhere is kinda difficult to be sure, i also keep thinking i can feel a movement but i'm scared to believe that as last time i thought i'd felt one as well but it'd already died by that point.

truff how far are you? normally starts slowing down about 12 weeks.

hello, 1st post for me! due date is 28th november - well according to my calculations!

moving house on thursday, and gp said to wait to get midwife apt until after i've moved to new area. currently in the middle of packing up the house and feeling exhausted and as sick as a dog.

oh is nowhere to be seen, he already lives down in london, and has managed to come up for 2 days in the last month and given me 2 hours of his time to take some stuff out of the loft, before going off to stay with his mum...

anyway, rant over. i'm sure i will get everything done before the removal men arrive on wednesday!

Welcome, missvague

That sounds stressful! What is your OH, doing buggering off to his Mums? I think you need to have stern words especially as you are feeling so ill.

This is the first morning in aaaaaages that I didn't puke at all! My brown bleeding seems to have stopped altogether now as well Still feel nauseous but there is light at the end of the tunnel!

missv welcome and congratulations. Are moving to be with oh? this is definately a lot to handle on your own when suffering with ms.

chip yay for not puking and no brown blood.

who's is the next scan and when??

Welcome missvague. Don't know what your set up is but if you and OH will be living together once you move, he needs to pull his finger out a bit!!

I am so sorry for those suffering from bad ms. I have been incredibly lucky in that with DD and with this pg, I have only had mild bouts of nausea and no actual vomiting. Still feel rubbish occasionally, especially this weekend but I keep on telling myself that I'm not suffering compared to some.

I have told DD that there is a baby coming (she is 2.5). She said she wanted to teach it to eat and read and when I asked her whether she wanted a girl or boy baby, she said 'just a baby'. Later she said she would buy the baby a willy and a fou fou when it arrived

We're planning on telling everyone next weekend (though have some mummy friends over later today and one is 20weeks pg, so it may slip out!). Hoping it's not too early to tell everyone. With DD I had my 12 wk scan and she was dated at 13weeks, so felt OK telling people. With this one, I've been dated9/10wks so feel a bit early, even though we saw movement and a clear heartbeat.
I'm not scared by stats - anyone know what the chances of a mc are once you've seen a heartbeat/jumping bean? Just don't want to jinx things.

Oh soi much to do before November now! Got to decorate and furnish spare room so DD can move in there before baby arrives, so she doesn't feel pushed out, got to do DP's accounts for 2010/11 as I don't fancy doing his tax return with a newborn and a million and one other things , plus shop and pack for 2 weeks away in June. Oh and almost forgot, hold down a ft job too.
All good stuff but a bit overwhelming atm when I feel soooooo tired.

Problem is, I feel shattered all day, then at 9pm I seem to get a second wind and wake up so end up going to bed later!!

Sorry, long post.
Enjoy the sunshine.

Welcome MissV and agree with the other ladies that your DP needs to pull his finger out a bit if you are feeling rubbish!

Thanks for sympathy on sickness everyone, it's calmed down a lot over the weekend to just once or twice a day and just feeling sick for the rest of the time, which is a huge improvement. I definitely think the extra rest / sleep helps it stay under control. Am 10+3 now so am hoping with the long weekends it will stay manageable and by the time I'm back to 5 day weeks it will have stopped as I'll be 12 weeks!

My scan's not until 7th May so a week on Saturday. We must have some between now and then to get excited for

Hi all, bit of a whinge from me.
I'm not a newbie to the thread but rarely say anything - I read and lurk, in general! I'm 12+3 and feeling wretched. I'm only vomiting saliva but lots of it, sometimes (TMI) without much warning, which is awful. I've a heavy cold which is unhappily reminiscent of the pneumonia I had in January :( not as bad, but chest pains and total misery! I cry ALL the time. I've spent most of this morning sobbing. I'm just too tired. I didn't get well before I conceived in February and I'm back at school tomorrow, with no idea how it's going to happen. I feel like I'm going to let everyone down. I haven't done all the work which has to be done by tomorrow - I don't know if it's even possible. All I do is cry and feel sick and have NO energy. Going upstairs to the loo makes me cry.
I'm only teaching the first lesson tomorrow as I have my scan - so hoping it all goes well! I'm so grateful it's a short week. I don't know how it's going to happen.
I'm thinking of all of you suffering with sickness. I feel like I have an evil hangover 24/7 - it's the unending aspect of it,isn't it? No respite.
But fingers crossed for happy scans all round :)

Thanks for that - can't tell dh all this again, he must be getting so sick of me!

Aw, crackpot, you sound so down! Do they know in work that you're pg and having a hard time? Could you get signed off sick? You don't sound well enough to work at the moment.

localcrackpot that sounds rubbish! Here's to a short week at least, to ease you back into things. Hope you start to feel better soon.

Just come home from a weekend with friends, who got their BFP just a week ago. They've been trying for ages so it's great news, and I have all my fingers crossed for them.

Truffkin my scan's not until 10th May, so it's starting to look like there's a gap between the "early" and "late" November EDDs...

crackpot I agree that you should take some time off if you can, esp if u are sick on top of ms you need to take care of yourself! if you absolutely can't then just do your best! And I totally agree that its is the unending aspect of it that is the worst. Like having the flu for 5 weeks straight! At least at the end (birth) it is much shorter (trying to comfort myself:)) Good luck for your scan!!

Hi missvague! Hope OH helps a bit more esp with you feeling sick!

Hi ladies, hope all are well.

I'm 11 weeks pg and have had a rubbish week, full of spotting and bleeding which ended up in me and DH dropping DD off at my mums and heading for a& (this was on Thursday night).

Have a scan tomorrow which my gp managed to obtain from me when I had a telephone appt with her on Thursday morning. 12 week scan a week tomorrow. Am veering between terror and well, more terror actually. Sometimes I feel quite confident that all is well with the baby, but mostly I try not to think about things, for worrying.

Hopefully I'll be able to report good news tomorrow. Fingers crossed!

LWW, hope all is OK. Sorry you've had such a crap week.

Many thanks, ladies. I'm going to tell the MW all about it tomorrow and see what she says. I feel bad for hoping to be signed off as I don't look as ill as I did earlier in the week and there's not long left with the y11s in school.
LWW fingers crossed for you tomorrow.

Hiya all, i have been lurking now for weeks! I havent really had any news, my scan is on wednesday and im so nervous. Welcome to all the newbies and hugs to all those who have had crappy weeks and recent times.
Good luck LWW

thank you ladies, so nice to have a whinge and get the right sort of sympathy! just managed to eat some pasta, so hopefully energy levels will perk up a bit now, and i'll get some more boxes filled...

i think OH's theory is that he will be with me all the time once we move in on thursday, so he should enjoy his last few days of freedom!

i just can't wait to get into the new house and register at gp so i can finally get mw apt and scan date and hopefully feel like normal pg person, instead of stuck in cardboard box/ms limbo.

much sympathy to the other ladies feeling vile, only a few more weeks before we're supposed to feel better fx. [buhmm]

Afternoon all,

not had much to report recently either, but just wanted to say that I hope all those who feel pants get better soon, I've had a couple of horrible days and my heartburn kicks in every now and again, acidic fruit (which I adore, ie pineapples and oranges) are just a total no no now.

Have my scan on Wednesday morning at 9.40am. Am sure it will all be fine, but can't help having those nagging little thoughts that there might not be anything there after all. Can't wait till the bean is big enough to be able to feel, although don't doubt the kicking will get right on my nerves!!

Thats the same for me, i have this fear that theres nothing there! Mines at 11.20am. I even got a txt from the hospital today reminding me! Like i would forget!

crackpot i would definately get signed off even if just for a week, to give you some relax time.

lww good luck for tomorrows scan.

good luck for all the other scanners this week.