Due in Dec 05 - The wind up to the countdown!!!!!!

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OK, well we've needed a new thread for ages so I've taken it upon myself to start it.

Good luck ladies - we are nearly down to the last month

35 + 2 or should I say "T minus 4wks 5 days"!

s/h sounds heavenly, congratulations on a fabulous leaving do!! lucky you to be so spoilt you deserve it.

george, pmsl over flat packed and nto tree comment. its hard enough isnt it from flat pack sometimes? have you put the cute white babygrows in the new drawers yet? thats the bit that makes me go....omg! its real!! everytime.
today i finished the tropical fish on the wall and have nearly completed painting the big red octopus.........not something i guess everyones having to do.......LOL!
had a photo session to do for my friend today, taking pictures of her and her sister for their parents christmas gift.(its the only slight down side to having done a few more advanced photo courses.....but i dont mind really, makes a change from my usual day!) fingers crossed they all come out well!
sid, babygibbon, wow, thats nice to read actually, whilst it doesnt ease my mind greatly over my birth its comforting to read other in the same situation. mad mad considering the chances are so slim! and sid -i certainly didnt expect this worry after three straight forward pg/births either!!
babygibon my hospital policy is not a day before 37wks.........aside from that its exactly like you. wow! ditto my dh who had to contemplate the fact we might have a baby in about three weeks! he certainly sat up then!
i think my chances are very good of it turning, I knwo the odds are in my favour, its just a bloody NIGHTMARE not knowing or relaxing NOW you know? this whole pg has been a lurch from one worry to another, dh and I think this is our worry baby after all this! you know the kid who breaks his arm three times in the playground? and gives you grey hairs daily....LOL
but please you two especially, keep in touch and let me know what happens for you guys in the next few weeks. i am willing us into that 98%, this will all be a distant memory right?!!
hows everyone emotionally?
I'm all swings and roundabouts. have great happy times then in a flash am sobbing over something (like tonight, just fed up with aches and pains generally so cried on dhs shoulder)please tell me youre all doing that kinda thing.......!

DQ Emotionally I've been more stable than previously recorded in this pregnancy (I had some real mood swings about 6 weeks ago), I think finishing work had a lot to do with that. Although as I'm typing this at 4.20am, sleep is fast becoming my main problem. Especially as DD will be up at 6am. Lovely.

I have no problem getting to sleep in the evening (fell asleep on sofa at 9pm), but wake up at odd hours and can't get back to sleep. Things worrying me - maybe its nesting - so far I've bid on a carrycot on ebay, paid the visa bills online and am contemplating buying a cotbed for DD (will then put new baby in cot after a couple of months in carrycot).

Oh, and scoffed a mini packet of chocolate buttons as well...yum. Don't suppose a sugar high is ideal for helping me sleep though...

Anyone else having sleep problems? (prob a very silly question at this stage). Actually, despite the time I feel great, it's just tomorrow morning I'll feel like sh*t.

Love to all

Oh yes, sleep problems here too. Been tossing & turning most of the night and fully awake since about 4.00am. Finally decided that sleep is not going to happen so just eaten my brekkie.

DQ, don't worry, I had a lovely whinge last night to DP about how blurgh I'm feeling with all my aches & pains. He sat me down with a hot water bottle & bought me chocolate - he is learning!!
My little one is still doing circuits by the way. I thought it had turned but based on babys hiccups this morning, the head is over by my right hip at the moment - they don't like putting their heads down do they!!

SH, your last day sounds wonderful. How kind of them to spoil you so much. Now make the most of the few weeks you have left. I'm sure the time will just fly by.

Well, I'm officially gatecrashing ladies!!
The November thread is nearly over and only a few of us left and as I really don't want to end up talking to myself I thought I'd pop over...
It's not the same anymore, am looking forward to the post natal thread now..feeling like i've been pregnant forever!!

Well, hope you're all well. I'm familiar with some of you from other posts and from this one that I joined back in March/April when my EDD was 01.12.05 (it moved back to 26.11).

ChaCha
38wks xxx

LOL ChaCha. Hello love
It's a pleasure to see your name here but for your sake I hope you're not with us for too long, iykwim

How many of you left on Nov then?

I feel so much better today.
Had Thursday and Friday off work and feel normal again, obviously just what I needed.
About to put all that rest to work now thouhg.
Off to Discover Dogs DExhibitiion to either scare the life out of lottie or give her the afternoon of her life, not sure which yet!!
Then tonight out for dinner with friends and then meeting a huge crowd of mates to bid farewell to a good friend who is off traveeling for a year. Then Sunday my bestest friend, family, aunts, cousoins etc are all meeting for drinks and supper at my step-brothers new bar in Old Street.
Loverlieee, but know it's going to shatter me, but hey ho, I'm not not going to anything!

Apart from the nursery not actually being set up, and not yet owning a wardrobe for him/her, I think I might have everything ai need now.
Once it's all set up in the room I'll be able to think more straight and see what's missing but pretty much organised I think, which is nice.

How are you all feeling and what have you got planned this weekend?

morning ladies
had a sort of lie in this morning......one where mollie (dd2) came and disturbed me every 15mins to show me her book/toy/game, but it was nice to 'slonk' in bed anyhow, even if it wasnt quality sleep. babygibbon, right with you on the sleep issues, as I think most of us are now, I find going to bed about 12/1am helps me, instead of sleeping earlier and then waking at 4! I do try and have a nap during the day, but often dont, but at least have a sit down and do nothing for half an hour moment or two during the day. I am crabby by teatime, and find dinner/bath time routines quite stressful, due to me being so tired by then tho. it will ease. and then the baby keeps you up!!!
george, glad your babys still moving about, have they mentioned anything to you about breech/turning/c-sections yet? I have a hard lump to the right of my belly button, which and I dont want to get my hopes uup toooooooooo much, but I think is cute bottom, as I can feel the back down the front righthand side. this would put me head down so fingers crossed that a) i am right in 'guess the bodypart'
and b) he stays there!!!!
tc, what am I up to today? well.....my digi camera has just died my fault, it got wet in the rain, carried on mostly working..but died last night, so am looking into claiming on the extra accidental insurance for a new one today. gosh I take photos everyday so am abit lost without it....
My 2 big children have gone to my mothers for today, and will be spoilt rotten and bought loads of crap BUT means the house is delightfully calm and quiet for a saturday. just Mollie and i pottering about.

and hello chacha! am sure you wont need to gatecrash but we're very welcoming if you do

Well DH and i are arguing AGAIN!!!!

HAd a chat last night about plans etc for when baby comes. He informed me he had told his mum she would have to take ds to work with her whilst im in hospital cos he has to go to work! This annoyed me in itself as i think DS(5) is going to struggle when baby comes as it is without being palmed off on soemone else nanna or not! He then said he would like DSD to come and stay from 16th till new year, no problems with that really but does mean we have to find childcare for 2 children and sorting 1 child is hard enough! THEN he told me if i have section on 16th (as planned) and am in till 21st that he will work 22/23/24 and i will have to sort out 3 kids by myself! HOW SELFISH! he has 3 week leave booked which he can start as soon as baby comes and i know he wants more time with baby but i hate how he TOLD me i would be at home alone after a section with baby, DS and DSD!!!!! Went to bed without talking.
THEN we were meant to be going out tonight for a meal and cinema as MIL is having kids, he has just told me we wont be going for a meal cos football is on till 7.30! We would then have to take kids to MIL and would just go see film and come home again so ive cancelled it all. If i just wanted to go see a film i could do it by myself but the whole point of MIL having kids was so DH and i could go out for evening and talk! Id rather use the promise of a babysitter when we can go for meal etc. Do i sound like im being mean and hormonal or would these issues bother you too?

also told me that he had told his sister we would go to hers on christmas day afternoon! HAve told him its not gonna happen and that id rather they came to us because
1)would have to lug all baby stuff with us
2) where would i breast feed at his sisters house?
3) am i really gonna be able to do a 40 minute car journey with a new baby and stitches?
and its all the other stuff like being tired, putting alex for a sleep etc that means it would be easier for 3 adults and no children to come to us!

Dramaqueen, I think it was KristinaM who had the ECV I found this, although don't think she's had her baby yet -

The ECV was ok - I mean it was sore like an amnio but obvioulsly goes on a lot longer. But not sore like a big contraction! Just didnt relaise that i woudl be so sore and bruised afterwards. Hospital didnt mention it so maybe its not usual. I suppose its compounded by head descending when i'm still bruised. obviously has a bit to go yet as doeosnt yet feel like its on my back passage!!!

How's Flutterbee?? Has she had her baby yet?

on bonkerz - what a selfish prat your dh is being. I don't think your being mean or hormonal. Your dh has to understand that this is a very important time for you and that you and the baby MUST come first. I think you need to grab him for a serious chat!

Hey Cha Cha, your more than welsome to gatecrash - don't want you feeling lonely

I had a terrible nights sleep last night - I think I saw each hour come and go. I think my main problem was that I drank too much yesterday. I had a few glasses of wine but I made sure I followed each glass with a couple of glasses of water. I was up and down to the loo all night. Dh said I could have a lie in whilst he did the swimming run but the guy accross the road decided to start doing very noisy DIY at 8.30am so that was that for me.

Not much on today - just sorting out the house. Dd is out with MIL so it's nice and quiet here. We have a family get together tomorrow which will be quite a drag - lots of people we've only met once or twice!!

Hope everyone else has a great weekend.

hey ladies. okay the 'really sore' and 'bruising' part of that turn description has scared me!I'm sucha wuss........
tired today, just cant get going properly you know? made myself and dd2 go out and do something, but quite frankly I'd like to be asleep! not much chance of that as my mother is coming down later, she has got the moses basket she bought us and the new patchwork bedding for the baby and is excited to show it off. at the risk of sounding very ungrateful tea and small talk with her and her partner are going to be an effort this tired!!!
bonkerz, no, youre not being unreasonable, but, went thro several of these conversations with my dh not that long ago. he had no idea I was worrying about christmas and dealign with people and places etc straight after a baby. after rowing (which didnt help) we finally sat and talked and came to some kinda agreement over christmas/visitors/catering/gifts/travelling/etc. it really opened dhs eyes as he was a typical man and had no clue as to why or how I felt about it, so i hope your dh and you can speak about it too. tho not tonight eh? football-grrrrrrr
s/h hope you get some rest today too. all that wild partying I dont know......

thanks girls, knew you would all know where im coming from! Have been camped out in my bedroom since 12pm, infact ive been asleep for nearly 4 hours!!!
Dont want to go downstairs and dont want to talk to him because to be honest i cant be arsed to argue! We really do need to talk because im not sure he understands how fragile im feeling right now. He made a comment last night about my sister and her family which at any other time i would have found funny but right now, so soon after losing my mum i found it hurtful and unnecessary! I have been doing all my crying and grieving when DH is at work so its not his fault i suppose but...... oh i dont know... i just really cant be bothered to argue because i think everything will come out and im havent got enough energy for that ITKWIM.

Hi guys,
i am so glad i found this site, its one of things keeping me sane i cant remember the last time i had a decent nights sleep, can hardly walk some days due to spd and sacro illiac pain. omg! i sound really miserable and thats not the half of it lol. i'm 37 wks today, neone else feel as if bub is trying to punch its way through your cervix??? its really sore and braxton hicks are a killer!!!

Hello Lynn & ChaCha

Bonkerz - poor old you. Sometimes I wish we could make men feel what it's like to be us, it'd only take a short time before they'd be so much more understanding...you're not being hormonal (well, no more than any pregnant woman, but more importantly, you are definitely not being unreasonable). I keep reminding DH of how much he'll have to do if I have a c-section. I don't want it to take him by surprise!

I didn't get much sleep today either, decided to forfeit it and look after DD so that DH could paint the nursery. Nearly there...carpet fitted on Wed.

well am still camped out in my room! Went out at 6pm to get chinese and decided to stop for coffee at mates house so was out for an hour, he didnt say a word when i got back! Just ate my dinner in bed and now wondering if i should leave a pillow and duvet outside door so he dont come in cos if he does i know i wont bite my tongue and it will be one of those arguments where i leave!

Bonkerz, I think you should go down and have it out. If you do it now you've got all evening to talk. You don't want to be having this conversation when you are both tired and need to sleep. Also try not to let it spiral out of control and turn into a situation where neither of you wants to give in. It will only make things worse.

My opener would be to go downstairs and say "are you ready to appologise yet"!!

well i just attempted to open converstaion by taking down the duvet and pillow and placing it on sofa. He just stared through me at the highlights of the sport so have come back to bed. Am gonna get up early and go out for day with kids atleast that way we cant argue with them around! Am going to aim to stay out ALL DAY and see if he cares at all!

thing is that if i confront him i know he will turn it around and say IM the one in the wrong and im not strong enough at the moment to deal with that! I also know i will pack my bags and go!

Bonkerz - you're probably out, but any news? Did you talk at all? I can't give you any advice, every relationship is so different. I'm too hot tempered to let anything lie myself, I just end up in a screaming at DH and we then have a big row. A really bad one can go on for ages (we've been known to shut ourselves in the bathroom downstairs if DD is in bed so as not to wake her) and tend to be prolongued by overtiredness, which makes both of us irrational.

Good luck in resolving this.

Had a terrible night last night - I stayed up later than usual (11.30pm) because I wanted to try and sleep through the small hours, then DH came to bed at 12.40am, and DD woke up at 1am until 3.30am!!! I have no idea what was wrong with her but she's just recovering from a cold so we gave her calpol and tried to settle her but in the end had to let her cry it out. Little tyke. Oh well, bound to get worse when there's a newborn around (cheery thought of the day).

Hope everyone else is well and enjoying the weekend.

Hi all, sounds like you had a lovely time sh, and were v. spoilt as well with presents
Bonkerz, any updates, are you and dp talking yet? Sounds like my dh last week with the show tickets & rugby (we're now going to the show next Sat afternoon ) but they seriously don't think before they speak sometimes, and don't realise what pregnancy is like at this late stage either.
dq and the other breechies, don't stress too much about the ecv - I had it last time, and although found it uncomfortable, I wouldn't say it was painful and had no bruising or complications afterwards. I did however go home that afternoon, and my waters broke at 12am the morning after. Will never know though if the ecv helped matters along or not.....
My ecv wasn't successful but I think my dd's feet were so firmly wedged where her head should have been that she couldn't/didn't want to turn by that stage anyway (think I was 38+5 by then).
I had a lovely day off on Friday, pottered around home for a bit then took dd to nursery for a few hours whilst dh and I went to the movies and for lunch (on our own ). Had a midwife appt in the afternoon and everything is good - baby is head down and back on my left hand side, so the way it should be. She said I'm 2/5ths engaged and the head is right down So I'm happy it's doing what it should be. I have a scan on 23rd just to confirm all of this though, but as the pressure down below is so different to my last pregnancy, I think this one is doing what it should be. Fri and Sat nights we were at friends for dinner, which was nice and relaxing & Sat am dd and I had a lovely morning shoe shopping for her, finishing off my Xmas shopping (grin) & sharing a hot chocolate in Costa Coffee, she thought she was such a big girl having her own cup
Only think that ruined yesterday was the horrendous traffic in Farnham, due to badly advertised road works that completely blocked up all the roads. Took me 2hrs to go from Sainsburys to home which normally takes me 10min -& not a policeman or workman in sight - grrr
Lazy day today though, last load of baby clothes are washed now, and everything else is packed away, and dh is cooking roast lamb for dinner - hmmm
On a completely different note, anyone who is vaguely near Guildford, saw something on Friday that looked good to remember for next year. The Odeon cinemas there have a baby morning every Thursday where you can take children under 2 to the movies with you - I know there are a few cinemas in London that do it as well. Could be fun, if not a little noisy
35+1

ladies, do you remember 'our' golden oldie, who had to default to the nov thread as her twins were to be taken early? she has posted shes had twin boys, happily and safely. on the nov thread. isnt that nice.

Morning alllllllll

and so starts the beggining of another week!!

How is everyone, any news on Flutter? Was everyones weekends ok? any other imminent births?

I have the chimney sweep coming at 10, oooopps is that the time now, best go and get dressed, dont want him to run off b4 hes done the job! :0

I rode the bus with this lady who was due 21 December. She was still smoking regularly, though. She had a baby boy last Friday and although he was 5lbs., he is in SCBU for lung problems, poor soul.

expat, thats so sad....
jays how much Is a chimney sweep these days/ keep meaning to book one........
moring all
happy new week to you.