May 2011 - The Home Stretch!

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Old thread here: The Rosy Glow Before the Storm

Stats thread here: Due May 2011

Hi All!
As.still on my phone i'll keep.this brief!
Jbells - glad.you're feeling better... I had d+v last night which was very unppeasant (even.more so.for.the midwives and nurses on duty). However Dp had the same thing a few days ago so knew it was infection rather than anything baby related (unless, Dp is heavily pregnant, which his belly has iindicated for some time!). Good thinguyen being in.hospital was.that they hooked me up to the monitor first thing in the morning and did blood tests which showed.everything was.ok...

Hi all,

Jbells sorry to hear you've been through the wars but glad you're feeling rather better now and are out of hospital.

Re breastfeeding, I fed DS until he was approx 9 months, when he gave up of his own accord (sort of - he had suspected swine flu and was rejecting everything, including breast milk for a couple of days - as I was due to go back to work the following month, I didn't push reintroducing it when he was better and he never sought it out again). I don't remember being overly concerned about BF in public - maybe once or twice at the start, but generally found it reasonably ok. Several mums I know bought those covers you put round your neck to cover the baby/boob - I bought a couple but never really used them. This time, a friend of mine has recommended "breastvests" - basically vest tops which don't cover your boobs, which you wear under normal clothes so when you lift your top up, your tummy/side is still covered but your boobs are accessible. I've bought a couple and they look promising: www.breastvest.co.uk though it's obviously a bit hard to tell with such a large bump!

Saw MW today - she came to the house to discuss homebirth. I'm now officially booked in for a HB and she's left various bits and pieces here. But baby was oblique when she got here - she's clearly very active! MW pushed her round a bit and she was quite malleable and left her head down, but goodness knows if she stays that way. We've left it that if I go into labour, I'll call the hospital immediately, they'll send a MW out to check the baby's position and if she's head down, then HB it is, but if she's not, then I'll go into hospital.

Jbells Good to hear it was all easily taken care of and you and bump are fine.

Oh... don't get me wrong. I drank a Guinness or stout or beer for that matter while pregnant and BF, just spaced them out... that night I had 3 in about 2 hours and it was such crap beer, I didn't even get the buzz I was after. First pregnancy, the only thing I came off of was coffee, in fact, that was how DH knew I was pregnant. I said "NO!" He said, "We are buying a pregnancy test today"... sure enough. This time though, we were on a flight back from Ontario and DD was restless, climbing, giggling and needed to chill out, so I just popped her on the boob, and she took a couple of big slugs, came off fast with a look of, 'what the hell' and I popped her back on, then she fell asleep. That was the last time she BF. TBH, sort of. Two days later I woke at 5am and said to myself, 'fuck, I'm pregnant.' It was though I sensed the moment that little beggar sperm bust through the egg. I was hoping for some BFing time free before starting again... just to have my body back for a wee bit. This time I have no food or drink aversions and happily will have a prosecco or guinness while out and wine with dinner on DH's day off.

Never had piles, but I experience them regularly from the running commentary from DH. Right now he has a butt zit/ingrown hair. 20 years together and our relationship culminates to me having a pee on the toilet, him walking in, shoving his arse in my face, spreading his cheeks and asking, "Is that a zit or ingrown hair? It hurts like hell!"

Never got around to a birthing plan either as I thought I still had time with DD, but in the end, it all went fine anyhow. It was just me saying, 'I feel like a bath now... I'm going over here now... I'm going to lay on the floor, moo like a cow and stay under the duvet and you two, (MW and DH) can do whatever the hell you want. But bring me some ice water please! Now!'

Thanks everyone.

Goart. Lol at the ingrowing hair dp has still never farted in front of me

Rollercoaster. Thats gud news hopefully she will stay head down now :)

Vicbic. Will u b cumin home from hosp or staying there till.u give birth i can only imagine how fed up u must b

loopy thats wot i.thought even if i only manage a few days its better than none but hopefully i will manage ok. It must b quite a task pleasing 3 girls on a day out

yorkstar. How did scan go?

yorkstar same here with piles. Had them for a week now for first time ever and equally nervous about birth. Been using germaloids, oh the joy. Not too uncomfortable in general apart from cleaning after going to loo.... have had a bit of bleeding from them too, nice, and had to double check where from. :(

On another note, tummy feels a bit uncomfortable today and he has been moving around loads which is aggravating my heartburn (something else I'm not normally prone to). Think I've had a few Bh's too. Had them earlier than this with DS, not that it means anything as he was finally induced and born at 42 weeks. Hoping this one is more obliging..

Need to read up b4 posting more as on phone and don't want to risk losing this lot...

Hi Jbells. .. It seems like i'm in here for the duration now... However they have said they'll prob induce at 38 weeks (if i get that far without any emergencies!) which takes me to the day before the wedding! Is there some sort of law that i would have to call the baby Kate if it's born on wedding day?!!

gotart sooo glad dh doesn't choose to share that much, find it gross enough when he sits picking his nose! YUK! I usually throw a box of tissues at him and huff.

loop I can report back that the chunky kitkat Easter egg didn't last long and was scrummy! [Grin]

Jbells Not a single fart!?! Amazing!

Vicbic lol at Kate... I love the name Pipa and DH and I were considering it, but then he came home last night to tell me that Kate's sister's name is Pipa... guess those two names will fly fast up the popular list in the coming years.

Cazzr I hear ya on the tissues too.

Heartburn central over here, right now even. Oh god, its awful. Bah!

loopy had worries overnight that things were starting too EARLY for a homebirth! Had low down sore tummy a bit like period pains through nice and is sore to lean forward on tummy if sitting up, if u get what I mean, bit like the baby was squashed down in bottom part of tum. Hoping it's just a muscle strain or general tenderness as only 35+5 today, assume earliest hb is 37/38 weeks?
Ironically, mw is coming today for homebirth check so will mention it, tho super paranoid it'll turn out I can't hb or something! Still not opened the birth pool box that arrived on weds as paranoid bout jinxing things..

Anyway, need some breakie so need to nudge dh awake to get me some .

Bonkers. Sorry i missed your last post. Y is it that some men lime to sulk a slope around and make everything about them do u think.its a jelousy thing that all attention is on the woman while she is pregnant? Even when i came bk from hosp my dp gad done nothin not even tbe 3 dishes in the sink he had left his wrappers on tbd dide not took the bins out and left dd's toys all over the floor so i got bk to loafda cleaning to do :( then when he got in he sat there lookinv all misdrable and complaining he had toothache. Grrr ive given up i font even bother to hav a moan anymore as know its not going to get me anywhere.
Is there anyway another talk with your dp mite help or will it b in one ear out the other?

Goart. No not one single fart and untill the last year hadnt burped hes a freak of nature lol and he will quite often point out to me that i was farting in the nite i blame pregnancy haha

JBELLS I know what you mean about men......Dh is still doing stuff around the house but in a very MARTYR type way....its more look at me im helping kinda thing!
I had an awful night last night. I have 2 assignements and my final exam essay due in by 21st may and wanted to get it all sorted before 10th may obviously. Tutor emailed last night and basically all the goal posts have changed and short story is it looked like i had failed already so was obviously stressed and in tears. DH came in and didnt even notice, didnt ask and then tried telling me about his rubbish day and i literally told him it wasnt all about him and he needed to take his head out of his arse.....i then stormed to bed. He came up about 11 and asked for a cuddle and i said NO. he has gone to work and i havent seen him......gonna be a great weekend!
Tutor emailed this morning and said all goal posts back and i can still pass so am calming down slowly.
DS has broken up now so i have him home today and am trying to keep him busy so he doesnt kick off.......he is currently making cakes in kitchen under close supervision from me. I will then let him loose in the garden with some compost and seed and that should see us through till lunch when it will be DVD time and then school run!
DSD arrives tonight so i go from 2 kids to 3 for the next week! could really do without this THANK GOD chocolate is abundant in our house this time of year!

oooh we are all getting a bit fed up of being pregnant!
anyone else feel like they need a poo CONSTANTLY??
Assuming it is because head is beginning to engage but I am only 34 weeks!
Luckily no piles for me, it sounds horrible - poor ladies... at least it goes away after the baby is out!?
I am trying to work at my desk at home, but it gives me such backache.... going to go for a walk to the shop I think....
She is making so many movements at the moment, my whole tummy is doing ripples!
DH a miserable git - unhappy about timing of this baby, (even though it was planned, we have just had a bad few months), so is dwelling in his misery instead of allowing himself to get excited. I am seriously thinking of getting a doula for the birth instead of him as he has shown no interest, and I feel so disconnected from him. Gah, men...
Hope u ok, Jbells, maybe the message was for you? xxx

God it sounds like some men (I say some as I don't like to generalise too much) need a royal kick up the ass!!
I'm fairly lucky with my DH but he could do much better if I'm honest.
It's almost like they think equality means we should just 'deal' with it, tho I KNOW if they had to go through it my GOD would we hear about it, and thats even BEFORE labour!
I know it's hard for them to understand what it feels like but hey, we are GROWING a new person, thats pretty astounding, why can't they see that we might need a bit more care.
For instance the other night DH mentioned he had had a sore shoulder and side, now he's not one to moan about aches etc much, so I showed sympathy, asked a few questions to see how it might have happened and suggested what we could do to help him feel better/help it heal (essentially volterol gel/rest/hot water bottle).
Now, I have had spd and quite a bad back/pelvis since 20 weeks, now have joyous piles (yes he knows), heartburn and feel like a whale. I ask if I can have a cup of tea/bowl of cereal in bed and get the reaction like I'm asking him to carry me around the house or something!!
Oh, he does get me it, I think he realises it's not worth the agro to not do, but why the reaction? Why not be the one to suggest "No dear, you take it easy, i'll get you a cuppa/breakfast in bed, is there anything else I can get for you? You do sooo much around the house even tho your tummy resembles a beach ball. You look after us all the time, let me look after you for once?!"

shakes head oh well.

Rise above it girls, remember, we are the superior race!

As for me, still feel odd today, tummy doesn't feel sore soo much now but feel quite clammy/sweaty, tho no temp cos I checked... Neurotic? Me?! Nooo!!
Trying to just finish tidying the place up before midwife gets here at 3. Dh should be here about 1 so need to get stuff ready for him to do, mainly the lifting (not me), moving stuff etc

ANyway feeling hungry now, need food. :)

I guess I meant superior sex rather than race....

I know i shudnt but im smiling reading the last few posts its nice to know theres a few men out there who r moaning children who dont hav a clue how to treat a pregnant woman ;)

my mum has always sed we r the stronger sex lol

Last day at work and just a couple of things to do (will spread them throughout the afternoon)....It's a contract so the job itself ends today - so proper goodbyes and moving on without a backward glance.

Dh also gets me to squeeze spots and stuff - and has in the past got me to spray savlon in his bumcrack to help ingrowing hair. Yep kills the romance but I remember when we first got together how relieved he was that I farted in front of him as it meant he felt he could relax too!

He's struggling - a bit of a cold bless him. I'm not terribly sympathetic. He was laying it on thick how tired and struggling he was last night and how much help he could do with sorting out bathtime etc....still by late evening he redeemed himself with unprompted tidying, emptying bins etc

Hi all. Just a quickie

37 weeks today woooo... And i had a bit of a show last nigt and this morning. Tmi but looked like snot with a bit of blood.

Im well aware it could still be weeks but pleased to have some progress and hope that maybe Ill be a bit early this time! Really struggling with spd and Ava - shes about 23lbs now and carrying her around it getting painful!

I still havent packed my bags for the hospital uet so i think maube I should get a move on!

Sorry to hear about all the rubbish DH/P's out there, especially yours jbells. I think men generally are totally oblivious to household stuff and the cuddle 'apology' thing REALLY annoys me too. My big bugbear atm is v petty but annoying nevertheless. DH tells me off for carrying things up and down the stairs so I leave them at the top/bottom for him to do (as instructed) and he just walks past them until I have to tell him to move them or do it myself... grrrr!

Exciting about the show PP hope that bag is packed now!

Cazzr hope you are ok and its just things getting moving before you get to HB time :)

Bonkerz how crap of your lecturer, stress you don't need indeed! Hope you managed to keep DS entertained today. Will DSD and DS entertain each other for the next few days?

ginger hope you are relaxing after your last day

loopy how is DD now, hope she is better

qwerty doula sounds good and make DH pay for her too :) and yes to feeling like needing a poo all the time!

DH out tonight for his last 'Dad's night' before the baby arrives. They usually have one a month - guess how many equivalent 'Mum's nights' we've had since they started these up a year ago...

I am watching Mamma Mia and contemplating eating one of the two Easter eggs I've bought!

loopy at 100 tablets. Am getting seriously scared now...

So, last night. Was in a deep sleep and the phone rings. At 1:30 am! It was a SMS message from a city councillor asking for help delivering leaflets. . And then couldn't get back to sleep. Grrrr.

Anyone planning their post delivery meal? Traditionally, DH cooks food from the 'forbidden' list. Last time it was stilton, pear and walnut salad, prawn something or other and wine . Think this time would be happy with oysters and cava