feb 2011 - waving those pom poms

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just to start a new (and possibly last) ante natal thread - come on knitta

god i dared to put d down in pram whilst i washed and dressed-not even showered-she was hysterical when i came back,is now asleep on me.Does anyone swing from feeling overtaken by baby and really maternal that they need you so much?

absolutely ledkr - my heart melts when she does little things like grasp my finger when I'm feeding her and when she stops crying when i pick her up but then i feel a little trapped when she won't be put down and I want a shower/cook dinner/the loo etc etc. guess we cant have it both ways . hope your dh gets on ok to sort out his shifts.

hello kez

am itching for hv to come and weigh alice after lunch :)

Oh no ledkr :( I know what you mean, it surprises me how quickly I can go between the 2 feelings you describe, and then when dd is peacefully feeding or asleep and looking beautiful I feel guilty for having any negative thoughts. Hope you're ok.

The IL stories reminded me that my IL's don't drink but MIL loves to remind me that I had a few pints and wine when we went out for a meal when they visited last year and I was pregnant but before I knew it. She says it laughing but I know what she's hinting at

nasty cow,i was blindo before i knew with d-well i was 42 fgs,went to a ladies night,few fags too,apparently they dont get affected until they implant later.

D has recovered from her abandonment,i explained that she used to have a slim,well dressed,pretty mummy and it was important that i straightened my hair and dressed in one of the 2 things that fit me i think she understands,is asleep now i will have to put her in the swing cos i need to eat.

i feel really lrt down by my friends at the mo,they never contact me or want to meet up,i feel all paranoid

Yep she deffo thinks she has something on me because she doesn't drink or smoke, but because she says it all in a laughy/jokey way its ok

Glad D is settled, dd has been sleeping for while and I've been sat on the internet the whole time Thats a shame about your friends, I bet its not on purpose but once you notice something like that its easy to keep noticing they havn't got in touch if you know what I mean? I get paranoid that people are ignoring me if they don't text/call me back on the same day You could send out some texts about meeting up, I'm sure they aren't ignoring you :)

Hello! Woohoo, finally getting chance to post! It feels like I never get chance to post anymore .
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Ponyo ignore your MIL! You don't even share a blood supply with the baby that early in pregnancy as the placenta isn't developed yet.

Aww, my MIL would just be wanting to get pissed with you all! So would my mum come to think of it. She's out most weekends but always says, "oh no I don't drink a lot."

Does anyone else feel like they're in a persistent bad mood? I have such a short fuse ATM. Not particularly low but feeling really angry.

Had DD2 weighed today. She's 10lbs 2.5ozs at 5 weeks and 2 days!

Hi all
I definitely go between feelings of pure love for Noah and resentment. I was in a foul mood when I started feeding him this morning then he opened his eyes nd looked at me and it made the sleepless nights all worth it!
Good to hear from you Kez and Wandering! Glad all ok

I know what you mean. Lottie has just started to smile (not often and it takes a while for her to give you one) and when she does it makes it all feel worth while .

Hi everyone,
I've been chuckling a bit at ILs again! Made me feel quite lucky though!

Haven't been posting for a while as the anxiety has been bad (more pacing in the garden at 2am trying to calm down) but feel bit calmer today.

Ben has his shots tomorrow and I'm getting nervous for him. He's been so good lately (even let me shower and put some make up on this morning whilst he laid in his travel cot in the bathroom with me) and I don't want him upset. We went for his appt with the consultant last Friday as they've found his other kidney (had to have loads of scans when pg as they couldn't find it), they think it's okay, just smaller and slightly twisted so he won't be scanned again for 6 months.

I'm having the pn check tomorrow as well and OH is getting excited at the thought of some nookie on his bday (saturday), I kind of want to try but so tired by the time I've put Ben to bed that not sure I can. I'm also a bit scared that it'll hurt as have read some horror stories

love the pics wiggles

Need to, is good to heR from you too. I'm sorry your still feeling anxious, it's an awful feeling isn't it? I hope things are going well for you apart from that though. I'm dreading Noahs injections. Ben was always ok after them so Im hoping Noah will be the same!
Good news about Bens consultants app, bet your relieved!
I was scared to have sex for quite a while after having Ben but would advise a swift glass of wine beforehand and just take your time. I have my check on Monday but dh knows better than to push me for sex, bless him. He knows I'll pounce on him when I'm ready!

I got some ky jelly after my first dc as I had quite a few stitches needto and helped me stop feeling so nervous. Don't wait till you've put him to bed then (I can't remember if you've any others, sorry), any time he's asleep will do! If you are feeling down it might help, as it could remind you of how things were pre-baby, iyswim? Good luck with shots tomorrow, too.

thank you, good to know i'm not the only one! i had stitches too so will get something to help, thanks for the tip! isn't mn great?

Well what a contrast to my last post this will be.....

Took LO to the clicky hips clinic as when she was born she had a slight click to her left hip. He did the usual movement checks and said everything seemed fine then did an ultrasound. He noticed that her left hip socket was not fully in place with a slight gap. We have to give it 2 weeks to see if her hips mature a little, then go back for another scan. If no change, then she needs a harness like hubbards LO.

Spent all afternoon crying. I know its not certain yet, but i know it probably will be the case. I won't be able to bath her, put her in pretty outfits, cuddle her properly. Feel gutted. Trying to remain positive, but just feel its one thing after another.

I need to be strong for her, but just so worried about my little girl x

So sorry Pinkie, hope her hips do mature in time. Maybe you and hubbard could chat?

Oh Pinkie, that's not good news. Will be thinking of you and hoping her hips sort themselves out. Tad is right, maybe you and Hubbard could pm each other

Hello there

Haven been on for a while, have been trying to keep up but there are so many posts I never know what to comment on first and then get side tracked by yelling/demanding kids!

Sorry Hubbard and pinkie to hear about the hip problems, that must be so hard for you. I will have everything crossed for you that things work out and recovery is as speedy as possible.

Good news needto about the kidney, sorry you are feeling crap but agree with tadj that the ole monkey business might help you feel like the old you again, not just a mum. Good luck and god speed!

angels I am another fan of the dummy. As long as it's for nap time only and they aren't lolling it from their mouths aged 5 then it's great for settling them. Ds1 gave his up of his own accord. We just told him the dummy fairy would visit with a gift if he left it by an open window one night. He thought about, decided he was easily bought and so long dummy!

Have just had a melt down as was putting baby to bed (trying, not very successfully - he obv is learning that this is the time he has to sleep on his own and not on mummy) while dh read "one" story to ds1&2... Forward to 40 mins later, they are still faffing so I had to come down to gee them along and there are toys everywhere. Why does no one else give a toss that the place is a mess?!? I seem to spend all my time tidying and them get crap that dh can't find anything because I have squirelled it away somewhere. Bloody put it away yourself then!!!! God am such a daggy housewife.

Have will regroup

pinky sorry honey,i know how it is,i wouldnt crack yet tho it may not happen and if it does try to think what a fab country we live in that it can be picked up and treated,thats how i got thru it,D would have starved slowly with a cleft in other countries. you know where i am.xx

just had minor fit at dh,,hes late again,i have been on my own till late every night this week,poor Ella is late to bed eats alone and has no help with shower or homework.Delilah is such a hard work baby from 4 until bedtime i jusy cant seem to change it for the best.

sorry i haven't been on for a while, i've been having a hard time dealing with everything. I had a very nasty visit from my dads widow and it has made me feel very sad and low. I am trying to come out the other side.
pinkie i know exactly how you feel. I still cry but i'm gradually getting used to the harness. Not being able to bath her is the hardest. It feels like there is constant barrier between us. We have another ultrasound on sat when we can find out more.

and now the normally quick to settle at night dd2 had poohed twice and is wide awakw.had a big cry to dh about Ella and how she is being forgotten about.I suppose its not forever tho is it?
How do you tell the difference between pnd and just have a difficult baby pissed offness?I dont remember being this distressed with the others. 40 weeks you sound like me,i am literally sat in a bombsite,nappies everywhere,kitchen a tip,dirty bottles by the sink etc.I havent eaten since b'fast and still have packed lunch left to make before going to bed for about 4 hours sleep before all the messing about starts.
So sorry ive been so negative lately,i feel like this is the only place i can be truthfull

Pinkie and Hubbard sorry to read about both your DC's hips. As Ledkr says it is good that we're in a country where those things can be fixed.

Speaking of hips - my Dnephew had to go to hospital as my sister and BIL noticed that he was limping but he didn't seem to be in pain and to their knowledge hadn't fallen. They've said that it's his hip but they don't know what's wrong. He has another appt tomorrow. They've said it could be a virus that's attacking his joints or maybe it could be developmental. It's been causing him to fall over .

Needto that's good news about Ben! I hope he gets on ok with his injections - I'm sure he'll be fine. They usually forget about it after a few minutes. Our appointment isn't until the 20th.

ledkr I mentioned to the HV about my moods today. I have such a short fuse and feel in a constant temper a bit like I did before I went on the citalopram last time. I've been struggling to eat too - there's just no time! But it's like a viscous circle as having a crap diet/not eating affects your moods and I'm getting so frustrated with DD2 not sleeping during the day.

wandering,my ds1 used to get hip pain on and off for years,it was called "irritable hip* he used to go on traction for weeks to cure it but it stilll came back,its a condition mostly found in boys snd id fsirly common.hope that helps reassure you a bit-he is fine now 26 and in the army.
Am off to bed now to try and sleep dh is having d bless him even tho he has work,i think that says it all about my mental state

Apparently, he's not in any pain so it sounds as if his leg just "isn't working." I haven't seen him, unless it's hurting him but not so much that he's bothered by it or he's unable to say (he's only 22 months old).

Hope you get a good sleep ledkr.

I'm up feeding DD2.

DD1 is asleep but she has earache again.

pinkie what a tough time you're having since your LO has been born - seems like one thing after another - poor you and hope you're managing to get through all this OK.

ledkr is it worth talking to GP re: potential pnd? I'm glad your DH helped you out last night and I hope you slept OK and feel brighter this morning.

needto great news re: bens kidney :)

wandering what did hv say when you mentioned your moods? Don't know if it's just my hv but all she says is 'best see your GP to check it out' 'I'm not sure' and 'I'm sure that's fine' - she's not always that specific or helpful with her advice but is very well meaning IYKWIM.

Had really tough evening yesterday and had a private meltdown - Alice had been grizzly all afternoon/evening and would not be put down but my bad back was killing me, kept feeling really dizzy/faint all the time, DHs van broke down so he came back in a stinker of a mood and spent the whole evening looking for his driving license to get a hire car to work today but he couldn't find it anywhere which obviously is all my fault somehow . I kept out of his way and spent the whole evening crying and couldn't settle LO. Then, by about 11pm I was feling so rough when I was changing her nappy and she was screaming and sticking her legs about I literally felt like just shoving her in the cot and leaving her. I just didn't care. You know when you get that feeling like you just want to throw things accorss the room to make you feel better? I kept getting that and it freaked me out that I would throw alice across the room, which, obviously I would never do, but, the whole thing paniked me. The ironic thing is as soon as she was asleep and I was trying to get to sleep I missed her and wanted a cuddle .

This morning has not helped my mood as the idiot cat has snuck into our sitting room (he's not allowed without an adult present ), gone on my lovely expensive leather sofa that I am obsessive about him not going near and clawed it - so I now have permenant really obvious scratch marks on it . I am so cross as if you knew me you'd know how fussy I am with my sofa! That cat has been an absolute pain since DD was born - always doing everything he knows he isn't allowed to try and get attention. Anyone else with cats experience this?

Sorry for such a long rant - feel free to ignore it all but it really helped to get that all off my chest and I've got another day stuck at home alone as DH has taken my car to go to work so stuck in this tiny village and no where to go.....again :(

Haven't heard from delia for a while - I know she said she wasn't posted when she was struggling with things so hope she's OK.

pinkie poor you, I really hope you get the best possible outcome in 2 weeks. Must be horrible having to wait but heres hoping.

Hubbard hope you're ok, do you want to post aboutwhat happened with your dads widow? that she has upset you anyway when you have so much to deal with, really hope you are alright.

ledkr hope you managed some sleep, do you think you'll speak to gp about how you're feeling? Like wandering said, I seem to have a constant temper and bad mood but only with dp - probably because I can. Might be down to tiredness but it seems to be all the time, feel like a right cow at the moment

angels sorry about your sofa, we have 3 cats - the older one seems fine with dd and a bit protective of her? But the two young ones (sisters) are a bit freaked out and being generally annoying, plus one of them slept in the moses basket a couple of times which I went mental about. Also, I think its normal to feel like you did yesterday, it is scary but the feeling does go as soon as things are a bit calmer doesn't it? Hope you're having abetter day today. Dp has got the car too today and the weather is miserable so don't know if I'll be venturing out...

Here's to a better day everyone we deserve it :)

Hi everyone

I think the meltdowns are perfectly normal, even though they don't feel it. I get so mad sometimes, that I am the house skivvy, everything takes ages to do and having the same boring chores to do everyday. And the sleeplessness makes it all unbearable so you would need to be some sort of saint to not let it get to you.

Sorry about your sofa angels my cat is looking quite dejected since LOmarrived as evenings were usually her time for a cuddle but now we are trying to settle Mikey!

So ledkr did you get some sleep? And what do you say to the gp? I just can't find the right words or should I just go in, have a total spaz in the office and hope he can work it out ?

Am trying so hard to get M to feed enough in the day so that he oboe needs one night feed. Not happening, and ds2 got into our bed last night so didn't get any sleep really.

On the plus side, have bought sOme spanx and started slimming world diet so hoping to look normal again sometime soon.

Hope you are all ok, thinking of you all