feb 2011 - waving those pom poms

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just to start a new (and possibly last) ante natal thread - come on knitta

woooo! pinkie are you high?hehe.
I was teaching ella double time steps today i was absolutely done in,cant believe how unfit i am since my practically static pregnancy.
Talking about rude things people say i have had more than a few remarks re Delilahs name.Today a dirty greasy haired old trout woman asked how old etc and reccounted a story about her dcs who must have been geriatrics tbh as she was so old.I humoured her even tho i was out for a walk to get her to sleep.She then asked what her name was and i told her,"poor little thing" she cackled, grrrrr how rude.
Me and my mate then fell about laughing as we discussed how her dcs were probably scared of her and how at least Delilah has good personal hygiene I am going to start saying something to people it so rude.

ha ha....no i'm not, nor drunk!!1

Just had a power to the mums moment

Yay Pinkie! I second that!

jane lovely news, massive congratulations to you both, what a wonderful thing to do.

pinkie thanks for that! even if it was under the influence of alcohol it would not make it any less true...

I'm finding it very weird that I don't feel 'mum-like' at all, i thought I'd have this motherly emotion but I don't, on the other hand, dh thought he would not like the baby, and would not want to carry him in the sling and he can't get enough of both! that makes me happy, of course, but would like to feel this incredible sensation for myself, perhaps with time?

Congratulations Jane! Hope you have a lovely day wonderful news!

Amen, Pinkie amen!

Knitta that's exactly how I felt with DD1! Don't worry, it comes with time. I felt like she wasn't mine and I was just looking after her. It's a strange feeling being a mum for the first time. This time has been different as I was already a mum, there's just an extra little person, iyswim.

where are wiggles and debka? knitta i am planning on pm you later,sorry for the delay.

Sorry- I'm here! Can't believe how much time my girls take up!! I really ought to wake DD1 up, or she won't want to go to bed tonight but I'll write a quick post first.

All ok here, S is growing- think we've hit the 6 week growth spurt as she's been feeding every 1.5 hours today, just hope she slows down tonight! HV comes on Weds, I'm looking forward to getting her weighed as she seems to have got even bigger- she's nearly grown out of 0-3 babygrows now. She is as strong as her sister was, holds her head up perfectly now, loves trying to stand up, and is finding her hands too now. We get lots of lovely smiles and coos now too, much more rewarding.

Right, will have to get DD1 or it'll be 4 o clock before I know it.

PS knitta with DD1 I didn't feel like a mum until I got the results of her heel prick test through the post, then I knew she was really mine! Weird but there we are.

delilah is 10lb today,she is 8 weeks.such a little dinker,lots of smiles here as well and little noises,is not very tolerant of bath,nappy or wash tho or getting dressed,i tried baby massage last night,she went ballistic just likes to be unbothered haha

ledkr Sabine was more than that at birth!!!

DD1 up now and eating prunes and apricots in front of Beebies. Just asked her if I could have one and she looked all affronted and said NO! MINE! Can you tell she turned 2 last week???!!!

isn't it wiggles sisters famous wedding tomorrow? Maybe she's stuck in something wedding related.

Whoever asked me re: nipple confusion: think we had probs as we had to introduce bottle really early at every feed for top ups after breast feeding, so, it's not suprised LO got confused! I think if you started now it should be fine and you can get teats that are harder work for LO to get milk out. we are pretty much touchwood ok but sometimes it takes a few attempts for dd to latch on, but, i don't know if that's normal or not.

off to gp in min for potential csec infection

debka my 2 yr old ds's favorite words are mine (toys and food) down and stuck (when i try to cuddle him) and shut (shut up if mummy tries to sing)
Good luck tomorrow wiggles.
Meeting a friend of a friend tomorrow whose daughter is also in a pavlik harness around the same age as freya. Even though hers is for clicky hips it will be nice to talk to someone who is (possibly) feeling like i am. Went to playgroup this morning and think i had to repeat why freya was all strapped up about 20times just wanted to curl up in a corner and tell them all to myob. I know they mean well but it just gets really irritating.

i know deb she isnt like her mother who is still struggling to wear a size 16 never mind the bloody pre baby size 12-14,i have so much flab!!! Has anyone started exercise yet? My tummy muscles hurt when i walk a long way never mind sit ups,i am going to try davina post natal but either d is awake or dh is lurking about and i dont want him gawping at me-maybe i should go on the pil fitness holiday
The clock change has upset my baby she is now asleep and certainly wont be having her normal 8 pm bedtime.Has anyone given up eating at a normal time?We find d really difficult around tea time so we often eat after she has settled.I got rid of some of the newborn clothes today dd1 has claimed half of it for her dolls so my clear out was short lived.
angels hope they sort it out,they gave up on me in the end but its ok now.

Oh yes meant to say,pil appeared to have bought stuff when they went to the shops,a cake,some cheese and some other bits,i saw it all in my fridge,i thought oo a breakthru at last,they have bought some stuff for dinner......They ate all our food and took theirs all home
dh spent a fortune on dinner,wine etc cos i presume they were too tight to go to the resturant as i suggested,i have decided that next time i will cook something really basic like pasta or fish fingers.
Can imagine me saying oh its our treat night tonight we are having ravioli

Ah Hubbard thats tough i know, i dont mention Delilahs cleft as i didnt want it to be the only thing about her (i know you cant do that with the harness) people straight away glare at her face to see if she has a hair lip too then say "at least she hasnt got the lip" i feel like shouting yes but she has a massive hole in her gob,cant feed properly,has reflux and chance of pneumonia again,may have hearing and speech probs and wonky teeth oh yeah and has to have surgery at 7 months....but at least she hasnt got the lip yeah
Gosh i never knew how mad that made me til i wrote it down haha.

debka my 2 yr old ds's favorite words are mine (toys and food) down and stuck (when i try to cuddle him) and shut (shut up if mummy tries to sing)
Good luck tomorrow wiggles.
Meeting a friend of a friend tomorrow whose daughter is also in a pavlik harness around the same age as freya. Even though hers is for clicky hips it will be nice to talk to someone who is (possibly) feeling like i am. Went to playgroup this morning and think i had to repeat why freya was all strapped up about 20times just wanted to curl up in a corner and tell them all to myob. I know they mean well but it just gets really irritating.

Can't people just say that they are beautiful? Sorry you have to hear that all the time.

Im with you tad, people tend to look at the negatives not the perfectly beautiful little babies!
I ventured out today locally and i couldnt stand all the gawping and whispering aimed at me, yes my baby died but that does not make me a social leper!
I am not looking forward to starting back work (im a childminder) and picking the kids up from school. I will be like a leper in the playground!

ledkr i would love it if u all could dust off your hats for my wedding but its low key with close freinds and family. (80 guests) If i had my way we would bugger off and get married ourselves and then have a big party. BUt no DF wants it a bit bigger

Thank you all for the support. Things are looking up, I've managed to track a health nurse to come and check out our latch, on Wednesday and have plucked up the courage to go to drs re post birth problem. OH has also stood up to the MIL and said we are having a weeked just the three of us this weekend (which we've not had since LO was born!) - she has spat her dummy out and said we need to think about the families needs (sod ours, hehe) oh and she blamed me!! I wasn't even with him as he was still at work, but of course it must bo me .

knitta I'm really sorry if my labour thing looked like a trump thing, it really wasn't, it just spilled out, but at the wrong time!

Hubbard I'm sorry F has to be in a brace, I hope you find some lovely things for her. Mothercare did have some nightdress things 'bundlers' I think they call them?

Deb Sounds like S is doing fantastically. We are also growing out of 0-3 length ways, which is crazy as they have only been wearable for 2 weeks! He will be 7 wks wed, time has flown!

wiggles hope the wedding goes well!

angels Good luck at drs tomorrow, hope you get it sorted. Is A still displaying reflux signs?

ledkr we are also eating at odd times as LO always have a sticky patch around then. He wants to eat or be held all the time between 6-8 and i can't resist!

jane I'm sorry people are treating you that way. I sometimes wonder if we are actually living in one big playground. How are you?

tarlia sorry to hear you had such a rough labour but im sure your little bundle makes up for it. at your MIL too!
I am ok, taking each day/hour as it comes. Today was a bit rough as Zoe would have been one month old today but i got through ok.

MY fil is in at the minute still doing my head in, lost all respect for him with his carry on over the past month!

Hope everyone has a good nights sleep
x

jane,yes imsure people will be like that,why dont you approach them and talk about zoe,she is still your dd she still exists,as for all this quiet wedding nonsense i think df is right,make a fuss be a bridezilla,have a bloody ball you have earned it,dont forget we want to be kept up to date on the plans especially wiggles

I agree with ledkr, jane. You do deserve every happiness.

There are some right in-laws on this thread, aren't there? Sorry you are having such a rough time with your MIL too tarlia. I imagine the name you have chosen is lovely and very European. DD is Anna because I wanted a name that would be pronounced the same wherever she went, then we moved to America and the a is different!

Hope everyone gets lots of sleep tonight!

tad dd1 is Ella this is the same world wide and in spain it means a kind of "come here,or look" so when i call her people look round.
My pils behaviour the night i came home and during baby's illness have contributed to my low feelings i think,at the moment i feel like ill never forgive them but who knows?Shame tho cos i did warn dh if they fucked up it would have a lomg term effect on mt relationship with them.
Night all,i estimate about 3-4 hrs until im summoned,does anyone know whats on tv at 3am haha

I know how you feel ledkr. My MIL was awful to me when I had PND after ds1. She told me all about hers then never once asked me how I was, or what I thought might make me feel better, even thought it was all right to shout at me. I'm not sure I've ever forgiven her, though she's better now and I don't feel I want to tell her how I feel about anything ever again. It does damage your relationship long term, doesn't it? I hope D sleeps well for you. Night!

i don't want my fil near me after the threats i recieved at 36weeks. I was told i was trapping his son (we've been together 4years and have 1ds already ). His son was a prisoner in his own home and i should go see a dr if i'm tired (tired 36wks duh) and quit complaining if i couldn't handle children i shouldn't have got pregnant then threatened to sort me out.
I never thought much of him to begin with after ds was born he complained about dh doing stuff for me and me being anti social (emcs and pnd) he's an arse and i have no time for him. Please don't allow il's to impact your life in any other way but positivly.
Jane try and avoid your fil as he is not what you need right now. People get scared and worry they will say the wrong thing to you, which means they whisper. I second what ledkr says and try talking to them first and i'm sure they'll come to relax and the whispers will stop.

we too seem to be having to eat at odd times, and, no matter what time we eat Alice manages to have a screaming fit just as we start eating . DH and I have started eating in shifts as one of us kept having to eat cold meals (usually me )

tarlia I hope we don't have reflux - it seems to be nothing comapred to some people here and has settled a little anyway. I googled that when babies have growth spurts they can breastfeed much more than usual in the days before and projectile/posset up the excess. Some sort of way to ensure the milk supply is sufficient for the upcoming growth spurt so am crossing fingers that's all it was.

at PILs, esp huibbards story. This really seems to be the time where nightmare PILs really go for it in the bad behaviour stakes isn't it? My PIL have been driving me mad, but, nothing compared to some of your stories (maybe should count myself lucky!).

GP has given me anti bios for infection in csec scar so hopefully all sorted and I've been given the green light to drive at last . GP also gave me a leaflet on post baby contraception and was to see it said breastfeeding = can't get pg (so long as exclusively feeding in first 6 months). My mw made a big thing of saying this wasn't true so now I feel a little

anyone know how to limit dummy use? DD seems to be relying on it mroe and more as a settler and will cry and cry until she gets it frequently every day. Don't want to have probs in future weaning her off it but not sure what else to do.

angels i have a disgustingly relaxed attitude to dummies im afraid,mine all had them till quite late-2ish-they used to put them under their pillows in the morning and have them for bed.No buck or rotten teeth here and they all gave up themselves without drama,kida are hard work,if somthing makes that easier why fret?Mybe if you re worried just use it at night,personally i wouldnt worry,if she sucked her thumb you couldnt limit it,could you? I wish D could have one but her suck is too weak,i have to hold it in