Due July 2006 - Part I

[HumphreysCorner]

Have been dying to start a thread so here goes!

Got a BFP on Wednesday so if all goes well I will be due on the 1st July 2006.

Have 1 DD who is 2 years 3 months and am finally PG again after a MC in June.

Come and join in the fun!

xxx

Sorry to hijack ladies but just wanted to say to Spub that I am so pleased for you HUn!! A Week doesn't make much of a differnece TBH, I wouldn't worry about it I am so happy that all is good - I'm sure it will continue that way xxxxx

Stockinghanger>>
Fingers crossed we'll be having this chat re you sometime soon.

Lets hope so lots of love and {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

And good luck to all you ladies xxxxxx

Congrats xmaspud so pleased for you , guess your body was playing tricks on you!

Sickness seems a lot better at the moment although kept having dizzy spells yesterday, too much rushing around at work I think. My back is better at the moment instead I now have sciatica originally in my right leg, but last night in both , very painful/uncomfortable night. Can't win!!! Got some exercises from the doctor to do but seems to be worse since starting these.

Muppet let us know as soon as possible how your scan goes we are all here for you.

Jersey, Thanks. Hope you feel beter soon.
Muppet???

Hi all. Had a private scan this morning as my symptoms had been gradually declining, and as I suspected, I have a blighted ovum. I'm very disappointed obviously, but surprisingly not too upset. Maybe it will hit me later, who knows.

Does anyone have any experience of this? Can anyone advise what might be best - should I wait to miscarry naturally (will it just be like a heavy period?) or should I see the doctor and see about a D&C?

Oh CK1, I'm so sorry.

I don't know if it's exactly the same thing, but my first pg ended in a missed miscarriage at around 6 weeks. By the time I had the scan I was a little over 7 weeks. I didn't want intervention, so went home and waited to see what happened and a few days later when it all kicked off on it's own, I went back to hospital for drugs as it did hurt a lot more than a regular period.

I must confess, I was really upset when this happened to me, I'd not told anyone I was pg and couldn't really talk to anyone except dh, to get any support. I think because if feels so much more personal for the mum, dh couldn't really understand how upset I was. You know that there are loads of us on MN who will support you if it does hit you later.

If everything else is OK and you feel up to it, I understand that the advice is normally that you can start ttc again after one normal af.

All my love and hugs, I'm really sorry this has happened

oh ck1 - so sorry to hear your news, how sad. you might find you're in shock and it will hit you later. I hope you ahve lots of support around you. It is totally upto you if you wait to miscary naturally or have a d&c, bear in mind it could be weeks before you miscarry naturally and may be better for you mentally to have it over sooner rather than later. I would ask your doctor what they recommend. If you miscarry naturally (i've had 2) it will be like a heavy period and may last longer, mine both lasted 2 weeks from start to finish. You will feel extremely drained and empty, and emotional and it is well worth having some time off work if you work at the moment.

Sorry you don't know me, i've hopped over from the due in june thread, but i couldn't lurk wihtout responding to you ck1. so sorry, if you need more support there is a fantastic miscarriage support thread here although its titled ttc after miscarriage everyone has been through the same as you, and not everyone is ttc at the moment.

Sending all my best wishes for you

CK1 - I am so sad for you.
Like Jinglediddle says, the m/c thread is full of truly lovely people who may be able to offer some advice based on experience.
big hugs

i popped on actualy to see how Humphreyscorner was doing, how are you matey, everything ok. 8 wks aren't you? fab

CK1 I am so sorry, I'm afraid I don't have any advice for you but there are lots of people on her who have. Good luck for what ever you decide.

I'm so sorry CK1

The scan showed that the embryo is just 3mm - putting me just 4 weeks pregnant. Which, even on the lower end of my dates (which make me at least 7 weeks), would mean that I tested positive before actually being pregnant - i.e. it's not possible. The sonographer didn't want to talk about the likelihood that the embryo just didn't develop past that point. Instead, they want me back for another scan in 10 days to see if it's grown at all.

Which doesn't seem very likely, tbh.

Oh muppet and CK1 . I hope you're both getting good support from family/friends.

Got to say I'm fairly convinced I shall be in the same boat as you after my scan tomorrow - my symptoms have been steadily declining for several days. Personally I find that 'early warning' helpful as it allows me to adjust my expectations but still will be disappointed...

muppet3 and CK1-I am so, so sorry to hear your news-it is truly heartbreaking and I send you lots of love. ((((xxxx))))

I had already stated to MC so let things happen naturally and it all passed within 2 weeks-yes, it was painful at times but I just took paracetamol as I didn't want anything to mess up TTC again ASAP.

xmasspub-v. glad your scan went well-I'm really dreading having one as I don't think I could cope with a MC again especially as a girl at work is 13 weeks PG so only 5 weeks infront of me and my hairdresser just 3 weeks infront. Not in a union but phoned HR again today who promised to send my contract. Watch this space.

jinglediddle-I'm fine thanks hun-yep 8+3 and everything crossed. You are due the same say as my hairdresser so you must be 11+3. Hope you are OK too-nearly into that 2nd trimester .

Love and hugs to everyone

Off to get tea ready so bye for now.

xxx

Gizmo-do hope everything goes OK tomorrow for you hun. ((xx))

Thanks for all your lovely messages. Like muppet, my sonographer also recommended coming back in 10 days. But I am certain of my dates, and with my declining symptoms, I am sure this is not a viable pregnancy.

Oh Muppet, I'm so sorry.

Do please explore how you're feeling. I don't necessarily mean right now, but don't bury it like I did. I've just realised that I'm still dealing with my missed miscarriage - five years on. And I've had two ds's since then. I was so cross with my body for a) not looking after my baby and b) not even telling me when it had failed. Yet CK1's sad news earlier reminded me that it's nobody's fault if you miscarry. Some babies just aren't meant to be. I know I've thought that before, but that residual feeling that my body let me down is what overwhelms me. I never talked to anybody about this, and I wish I could have done at the time.

Sorry if I seem to have hi-jacked this. I'm crying for you both tonight CK and Muppet.

Best wishes for tomorrow Gizmo.

Oh muppet I am so sorry, can't imagine what you are going through at the moment. Take the time to grieve it will help in the future.

Good luck what ever you decide to do.

Good luck Gizmo, please don't let this be another one.

Finger's crossed for everyone.

Thinking of you today Gizmo ((xx))

i can't even breathe properly, or ring work to tell them i can't get out of bed for crying. how can you ever go through this again when it's hurt this much? or been this alone. can't face frineds, hadn't told family, DH has gone to work

muppet im not going to give you all the spiel that it does get better with time..... just sending you lots of hugs i know what your going through xx

Muppet

You poor thing. Are you close to your family? Could you get over to someone's house for a cup of tea and a chat? I'm sure it will help if you can just grieve properly with someone close to you, even if this comes as a shock to them.

This is probably scant consolation, but my theory is that a your grief now is a very healthy reaction. You obviously have a lot of love to give - what a shame it couldn't have been this time around.

A bad conjunction of messages, this, but for those that were wondering: my scan shows a live, but very early (5 weeks ish) embryo.

Trainee sonographer at first couldn't find any signs of life, so went to get experienced sonographer. Left alone for 5 minutes while she was away, I experienced a bit of what muppet and CK may be feeling. A lonely business, sometimes, pregnancy....

Congrats Gizmo its about time we had some good news on here.

Just got my booking in appointment with the midwife for 6th Dec, mentioned my early strong positives, expanding stomach, sickness at 3 weeks, etc. in hope of an early scan. Didn't seem too convinced so will see what happens.