November 2011 Mums-to-be

[DirgeInVegas]

Am I the first? I can't see another November thread.

Ok, my stats, I am 32, have 1 dd (2.1) and edd is 03/11/2011.

I had a mc at Christmas but feel ok about this pregnancy, though I only found out 3 days ago so I may get a bit more panicked as time passes.

Anyone else want to join me in a November baby thread?

Hi again,everyone. I'm so glad you're all being nice! I've had very mixed responses from folk when I told them I was going to try for a baby.One social worker 'friend' tried to convince me it was tantamount to child abuse because of my advanced age!

Chipmonkey and Dirge - Twins would be great, and I have a 1 in 4 chance of that. It would, I admit, be hellish to begin with, but lovely for them to have each other. I'm not at all bothered about doing it on my own - did all the nights on my own for all the others anyway.
Cep I'm suddenly sleeping badly at night too. Up at least twice for a wee which is tiresome.
Dirge and Terrys Ask away! What would you like to know?

Hi Jaffababy!

Reallyuseful I'm sorry you didn't see anything on your scan. It is a little early for scans - my EPU won't scan me til Tuesday (6 weeks), have they offered you a further scan in a few days?

knockedup, there is a poster on MN who had triplets implanted at 43, I think, the reasoning being that it was unlikely all embryos would take and so on. She did actually have triplets!

Everyone is an expert on you, your situation and your body when it comes to children don't you find knockedup? I got completely sick of it. Do you think it might be jealousy? My mum, step-mum and aunt all comment on how they wish they could do it all again.

Ooh, thanks! I would like to know how your other children reacted. I recall my mum telling me when she was about 40, possibly a bit younger, that she and my step-dad were thinking of having another baby. I freaked out at the idea of them having sex really but wonder what it would be like to have a 14 year old sibling now.

I remember being 12 when my Mum announced she was pg with my brother. I don't think I said anything nice! but I do love my brother now!

Reallyuseful so sorry you didn't get better news this morning. x

cep! genius! love that idea. I was thinking more of pouring him a whisky when he gets in to share the news. Feeling more excited about it today and don't think I can wait until Friday evening.

Bumps - Pembury is my local! (in T Wells) if all goes well I might well have to quiz you a little more on that at a later date.

A bit annoyed that I just feel really fat and farty at the moment :( Had a very embarrasing incident when teaching yesterday credit to my sixth form who all pretended they had not heard the squeek from my direction!

Thank you Dirge for leading me back. I was missing you all. Am feeling a bit more hopeful since quite a few MNers seem to think maybe it was just a bit early to see anything. I have a 2nd scan next Wednesday and will have another blood test this Friday to check my hcg levels etc.

I have been doing the sort of worrying that is accompanied by stuffing one's face. Since I can't hose down a bottle of wine, (just in case) I stopped off at M&S on the way home and bought far too many delicious bags of nonsense.

And hello new folks!

reallyuseful I hope you find your way back here for good!

Welcome jaffa and congrats! I went to a fireworks display when I was 8 days overdue with DS and he came the next day!! It was a fitting end to singledom!

knockedup wow, questions. Ok: why did you decide to do this, given you have older children already and your age and why did you go to Spain? For starters!! BTW - I think it is everyones choice what they do in life and IMO 49 isn't too old. My mum had my sister at 45 so I know older mums can do just as good a job! And at least you will have live in babysitters this time!

I am really excited, for two reasons. Firstly I took a CB Digi and it said 3 weeks + (woooo hoooo - in Dec when I MC it never went higher than 1 week!!) and secondly, a lovely lovely lady who I met on MN when we both had a MC on Christmas Day has also just got a +ve test so we will be continuing our journey together. I have pointed her in this direction and hope she turns up for the party soon!!

hi really useful so glad you came back, i read your other thread good to see there were nice stories and they were all supportive helpful ones.

terry's i'm planning on doing another cb digi tomorrow to see if dates have changed. although now may give in and do tonight. Yay for your friend.

pooky not too long now. maybe you can pour the whiskey while he's getting his "dinner" from the oven? you'll have to let us know what his face was like whatever way you tell him.

right i'm off for my bath speak to you all later.

reallyuseful I hope all goes well this Friday, and next Wednesday. We're all rooting for you

Dirge I think some of it is jealousy. They'd love to but have a partner who'd never let them, or they couldn't afford it the treatment. Some people think that because DS1 has autism (tho it is high functioning), I don't have the right to have any more. I did put treatment off because I've mostly homeschooled him for the last two years - he's only in school an hour a day. I couldn't have taught him and had a baby. He's leaving school this year with 3 more highers than his teachers thought he could get i.e. they thought none. I'm arranging for him to try out being a postie, and am hoping that will be him sorted for now.

Terrys Why am I doing it? It's what I most want to do. I've loved bringing up kids. I was a management consultant pre-motherhood, but have been a professional mum for the last 20 years. I'm very fit and healthy, and don't think my age is an issue - no one would bat an eyelid if I were a man becoming a dad at 49/50. I did consider retraining as a lawyer, but it's a sexist ageist world, and most likely no one would employ me, and in any case mothering is what I'm best at.

I went to Spain because there are no waiting lists for embryo donation. They have plenty of young women happy to donate their eggs there. They are guaranteed anonimity, and are paid a decent amount. It's common for uni students of both sexes to be donors. I do hope my donors wanted to help and didn't just want the money, but I'll never know. The eggs and sperm I got would have gone unused had I not gone for treatment. My donors will still have their own kids. My kids are really supportive, and even keener than I am - well 3 are. DS1 doesn't have an opinion, but said "If it makes you happy, Mum, then do it"

knockedup does that mean its not biologically your child not that I think that matters, just wondering!! I hope you don't mind all the questions, I am very nosy

knockedupagain - I think what you are doing is brilliant, if it is what you want to do then why not?! My mum was 42 when my youngest sister was born (there is a 16 year age gap between her middle child and her youngest - my sister is now 14!) and I too shall have a large(ish) age gap between children (9 1/2 years) even though I'm still in my 30s. :)

reallyuseful it's good to see you back. My EPU kept telling me that they can't see anything much, if at all, on a scan til hcg levels reach at least 1000. At week 5 the 'norm' can be anything from around 20 to about 7000 in a healthy pregnancy - it isn't til week 6 that something should definitely be seen. I will keep my fingers crossed for you on Wednesday (my scan is on Tuesday, please do the same for me! x)

Thanks for the welcome.

Sorry to hear that Reallyusefulengine

I bought some pregnacare yesterday, i was taking folic acid but a friend recommended pregnacare.

hi all, ok cb digi scared me earlier, it took 1 min to show pg but the rest of the 3 mins to show weeks i started to think it was going to change it's mind.

query, i have a do to go to next friday, i can't afford to buy a load of new clothes (normal and then mat) don't really want to buy something that i'll not be able to wear for however many months, but am scared if i buy something mat it's tempting fate, what do people thing???

i haven't taken pregnacare, but have been told it turns your wee a strange colour. you'll have to let me know.

Hello all, still no symptoms here. I did the CB digi last night and it says 3+ weeks, so I guess i am at least 5 weeks..

I have a dating scan and booking in appointment set for the 18th so will know for sure then.

I have no symptoms at all, no pain, sickness or hunger... I am starting to think that maybe it is not real after all...

You still taking tests? cep Ive taken two, ive just thrown one away after a week, yes i know yuck but im crazy excited, but i have been checking it still says im pregnant! lol

Yep will let you know, im only on day 2 of taking it!

Pooky I had my other two at the old hospital and the staff are wonderful, infact without the staff ds wouldn't be here..

Now it is the new hospital all the rooms are individual rooms so even better ..

We may be there the same time he he we must meet up when on Maternity leave to check it out x

MissIn Thank you for your kind thoughts! I really appreciate all this support.

Terrys We're all nosy! Some of us are just more up front about it than others. I don't mind at all. Indeed, the baby will not have my genes. My eggs are far too old for success (tho I did manage to get pregnant naturally just before I turned 47, but had a mc at 9 weeks). I have essentially adopted pre birth. I suspect that my child(ren) will be Spanish, but Madrid is very cosmopolitan, so who knows? Well, the clinic does obviously , but they won't tell! They match for phenotype, but that doesn't go beyond blood type, height, weight, eye and hair colour. I feel fiercely protective of my babies already. I was asked whether I wanted one or both of the resulting embryos implanted, and felt aghast at the thought of carelessly creating life only to dump it as surplus. It felt like "Would you like us to kill one of your babies?". "Errr... no thanks!" Lucky for me there were only two, so I had no dilemma.

free i haven't bought anymore just using the ones i already have. the good thing about cb digi's is they show the amount of weeks,cause it measures hormone levels, the fact that it increases is a good sign tht the hormone levels are pretty much going up as normal.

bumps i'm only tired really, don't tend to get many symptoms, plus nausea doesn't tend to start till about 6-7 weeks.

oooh, ive been tempted to buy a cb digi one but have been refraining from it so far! :)