November 2011 Mums-to-be

[DirgeInVegas]

Am I the first? I can't see another November thread.

Ok, my stats, I am 32, have 1 dd (2.1) and edd is 03/11/2011.

I had a mc at Christmas but feel ok about this pregnancy, though I only found out 3 days ago so I may get a bit more panicked as time passes.

Anyone else want to join me in a November baby thread?

ooooh, chinese sounded yummy! Shame you feel sick. We have spaghetti bolognaise in a bit! yummy

Hey, deemented!

cep, when I was pg with ds1, I could only eat my chinese food cold!

hello there everyone! So sorry to hear that so many of you are having spotting and worry. I really hope it's just all part of the settling in and am very glad to hear you're getting the support you need from the doctors.

Hi there deemented.

I think I'm just about 4 weeks now ... boy that is SOOOO early on isn't it!!? It's going to be a very long first few months.

Evening all! I got hold of the gp and she's referring me to epu next week. I still have more there when I wipe but it's more like (sorry) browny-EWCM. Not much.

Cep I just ate dinner and feel absolutely sick too. Yet, something in my body is saying "eat more, you'll feel better". Wish we'd had Chinese though.

I'm going to try and be more positive until I know otherwise.

Plans for the weekend everyone? We've got the inlaws coming this weekend. We're not telling them. I'm dreading seeing them, SIL really dislikes me - we had a huge fall out a few weeks ago and she said some horrible things (she disapproves of breastfeeding a toddler and that we don't leave DD overnight yet). I am dreading the atmosphere.

Anyone got anything nice planned?

Thanks for the welcome

No, not my first - this will be number five! I have three living children, DS2 is 6, DD is 2 and DS3 has just turned one. And i also have a stepson who's twelve later this month. But this one will definately be the last - manshape will be going for the snip, as soon as

I'll just go and put my details on the stats thread.

Dirge - Brown is good, brown = old blood. I know that's not very reassuring, but hang in there, eh?

Thanks deemented, I think my evening bout of post dinner nausea has helped to lift my spirits!

dirge that's great, glad they're getting you in so quick. is it about the 6wk mark?? What the hell has it to do with your sil whether for bf your lo or not?? (do you mean leave dd in own room overnight or at someone else's) why are they coming round if it makes the atmosphere so horrible, especially when at this point your so tired etc. can't you or dh suddenly come down with something?? glad you're feeling a bit better

i had started to worry that i wasn't as tired as i had been, but tonight i'm exhausted, don't know if it's cause we've had 2 earlier than normal mornings though.

We have dss round tomorrow night, he's 8 1/2 and i love him to bits but he is going through a teenage attitude stage, omg he's a moody brat. i find it really frustrating cause his dm has raised him differently than i would and although he is a very nice child, he's a absolute wuss, won't go upstairs by himself even though he's slept here every weekend since he was about 4 1/2. my 2 1/2 is running round the house in the dark, and the 8 1/2 won't go down the corridor from bathroom to bedroom (both doors off same wall) on his own even though everyone is upstairs with him.

Evening all.. Hope you are all ok and spotting has stopped..

I went on my worm hunt last night and there was nothing at all. going to check tonight as well but fingers crossed it isn't that.. She was fine last night as well so I have no idea what was wrong.

I think i must be 5 weeks today and still no symptoms here.. I really fancy a glass of wine though if that counts hehe

Welcome to all the new ladies

bumps glad you couldn't find any worms. good luck for tonights search. i really fancy wine as well, last pg as soon as i knew i was pg wasn't fussed this time really missing it already.

Haha! He sounds like my half-bro. He's lovely but such a coward - he's 14!

SIL is a nasty piece of work. We cosleep with dd so I feed her to sleep and we all sleep in our kingside bed. She hasn't stayed overnight without me although I went on a Christmas do after my mc and my mum had dd. She just took herself into my mums spare room, told her she was going to sleep, lay down and fell asleep. I came home at about midnight and was there when she woke up. I haven't left her for a full night and SIL thinks that I'm a weak parent. She sneered at me, actually sneered and made comments like "they all cry when you leave them, she has to get used to it" and "how do you know she's not ready to be left overnight of youve never even tried".

I wouldn't have batted an eyelid at any of that if she a) had genuinely asked instead of aggressive and b) had kids of her own instead of being a an expert based on...er...nothing.

She also told DH that she'd arranged the seating plan at her wedding to piss me off - me on a table of old people and DH on top table next to her bridesmaid friend who she was trying to pair him off with. Why would you do that to someone? It's his brothers wife btw, not his dsis.

I invited them all for DHa sake, we never see his family and I suspect they think it's because of me. The truth is my family is huge and it's always me that has to organise seeing them. I begrudge arranging to see the inlaws too but dh never does so I do it. At least it's on my terms.

On the bright side I am teaching a lovely bunch of pregnant mums to be this weekend and they always cheer me up!

Hey everyone, I hope you are all ok. Hello to the new people on the thread.

I've had a bad day - started bleeding at work and had to come home. I spent a while on the sofa and it seems to have settled, I've had a slight dull ache on my right side. If it is still the same tomorrow morning I'm off to hospital, I suspect it's another ectopic :( Hopefully they will scan me straight away instead of waiting til Tuesday.

I really don't think it's going to be good news, but fingers crossed anyway! :(

dirge omg that's even worse. (i always feel like an american teenager doing omg) she hasn't even got any herself. she sounds awful, what did dh say when she told him that? i take it she was with her dh before you met your dh then??? (does that make sense) or was she trying to split you with the bridesmaid. you're a better person than me to keep seeing them. I certainly wouldn't, if my dh wanted to see them he can arrange it, i wouldn't stop him inviting them round but i wouldn't arrange it. What's his db like?

Pg ladies sounds nice, what do you teach?

is that the full 20 yet?

oh and ds is 3 in May and he hasn't spent a whole night away yet. arranging first time in April, dh and i spending a night away for anniversary if he gets around to planning it. Am a bit nervous about it, ds is going to be with my parents.

oh no missinvincible fingers crossed for you

dirge I only left dd when I had ds and have never left him yet. people always know better dont they.

oh heck missinvincible i'm sorry i missed your post. i'm so sorry you're having bleeding as well. fx for you, will be thinking of you tomorrow. keep resting, i hope you're wrong.

Am spotting, bright red though

lucy oh no, so sorry you're spotting. take it easy lie down and rest. if still bleeding in morning go to hosp.

Oh no missinvincible I am sorry, puts my SIL-whinge into perspective. I hope they scan you this weekend, it would be pretty crap to make you wait until Tuesday. Does your private healthcare cover this still?

Cep & bumps thanks for that, I don't think it's that weird not to leave a toddler overnight. I just think it would distress her and as much as I'd love a full nights sleep, I don't want it enough to see DD upset for it. She seems to think she knows dd better than I do. Cep I imagine by the time dd is 3 I'll be able to explain a night away to her and she'd understand. Have you mentioned staying away to your ds? I think by 3 DD will be ok, though recall when she was 1 saying that about when she was 2.

She's been with DBIL for three months longer the I've been with dh. They got married 4 months before us! BIL is ok, a bit drippy. She was his first gf when he was 31.

I'm an antenatal teacher. I only teach 3 times a week, I'm trying to build it up enough so I can leave my day job and be with DD (and the next one fx). Its lovely though, not at all like a job really.

Off to watch embarrassing bodies soon... It's vile but I can't stop.

it's not weird at all. we've mentioned staying at nana and grandad's and he said yes, but havn't really mentioned it since, a bit too far away yet. will start talking about it as it gets nearer (assuming it actually happens.) Being an antenatal teacher sounds lovely.

MissInvincible and lucy keeping fingers crossed for you that all is OK.