Jue in June 2011 ......the wittering and waffling continues

[moomin156]

I think this is thread 8 or maybe 9......maybe we should take bets on which number we are on in June!!:)

i would like to announce that i didnt cry all day yesterdy and i am very proud of myself.........
I obviously just did need some time away from work and permission to relax. Had some lovely texts from friends/colleagues at work

morning barbie......the bit in OBEM when the young girl just said 'i want my mom', the poor thing, but she did so well with just paractamol.

I am counting down to 28weeks as i have another scan, then it will be 32/34 when i start mat leave, so yes i am definitely stting myself mini goals too

Anyway you must stop MNing and get on with your assignments. I have an excuse i am 'resting'

Ha ha! your right note how last night I said I was panicing at how late they were yet couldnt start them as there was good tv on . Actually I was really sick last night - was like morning sickness returned with a vengenance

Fine now though and in work (MNetting I know - but I was in very early ).

The "I want my mom" thing broke my heart too - I just kept thinking of my dd.

Huge congratulations on not crying for a whole day . Hope you are resting and thanks, glad to hear Im not the only one with mini countdowns

The 37-year old was really great wasn't she? I was looking at the other thread about being 'tricked' out of an epidural that popped up in the Topics menu to the right of this page, and those crazy ladies, they were having a right go.

But that One Born Every Minute mother just showed that a bit of grace and no tantrums and just concentrating on being calm and relaxed and laughing about it even at 6cm, you get a lovely birth, you get your promised epidural, and you get this lovely baby. Wasn't her husband so nice? They were very cute.

Poor teenage girl seemed totally oblivious to the fact that she had a tiny newborn on her chest looking at her, she just wanted her Mum to make it stop hurting. But she seemed to have a brilliant attitude in the later interview. After taking months to watch it, I do love that show! It has taken so much of the fear of labour away for me.

I'm with you on the milestones barbie! Monday's have become a longed for day as they mark a new baby week for me, despite it meaning another week at work! I too am looking forward to the 14th march, as that's trimester 3, and then the 4th of may as thats maternity leave day! Some of the apps are good as they give you the weeks and days left to muse over, and it doesn't seem too far away, about 15 weeks for me which seemed to go pretty quickly at the beginning.

Welcome Lababy assuming you're in the states, how come? Are you there for a while? Welcome to the group it's a great bunch some post lots, some read lots and some drop in occasionally to catch up - it's always worth a read! Do u know what you're having? Quite a lot have found out on here!

Just had a look at our stats thread and it needs an update. Will try my first posting of a link so apologies if it doesnt work.....
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OOh i think i did it :)

Welcome LAbaby!! Congratulations. I have no clue either and I'm sure the rest of us who are first-time mums feel the same way!

Liking the age and OBEM chat. I am 28 and the baby is due a week before my 29th birthday, and DH's grandma keeps telling me I am going to face a 'horrific birth' because I'm so old!!!

I remember when I was 22 and two of my best friends from school came to visit and we all agreed that 28 was a good age to have children (don't worry, this goes somewhere else ha ha). Then at 25 we all remembered the conversation and freaked out and said 'no way, 28 is way too soon!' Now we're 28, I'm pregnant, one is trying, and the other is waiting for her boyfriend to get citizenship so they can get married and get on with it lol

Obviously the '28 is great' convo was a load of old rubbish, despite the fact we're all getting down to it right now. My midwife actually said to me 'that's the perfect age for children' . But I think that was silly. Since I've felt ready to have children (weird wake-up moment at 26) I feel very very strongly that there is no right or wrong age. I've been with my DH since 16 and everybody thought we were way too young then to be in love, and some thought we were too young to get engaged at 20 and married at 22. But it was right for us. And if we'd had a baby back then I know we would be just as happy as we are now and the baby would have been equally well loved and cared for. Same goes if we waited another ten years, or if I didn't meet DH until I was 40, or if I hadn't got a permanent job until later (making it financially more stable and prompting us to start trying) etc etc. My mum had me at 21 with the wrong man (my dad lol ) but she'd never regret it; my DH's mum and dad were 20 and 21 when they had him and they went on to have 3 more and are still together and blissfully happy nearly 30 years later.

People who think there's a perfect age to have children and look down on anybody either side of it are either inexperienced (as I was at 22!) or just ridiculous! On that note, I was getting most annoyed with that silly midwife on OBEM who thought she could 'speak the language' of teenage mothers and kept tarring them all with the same brush! 'Young mothers are like this', 'young mothers are like that' etc. I thought it was patronising. Glad to see the other lady had a good birth though - the forceps didn't even seem that scary compared to last time and she handled everything so amazingly well. More ammo against DH's grandma ha ha!

PS - moomin, so glad you're feeling better :)

Moomin glad you are feeling better too - amazing what a bit of a rest and some time out will do. Glad your colleagues are being supportive too.

LAbaby welcome and congratulations. I'm also overseas and found MN great when I was pg with DS as I didn't know anyone here who was pg so it was a great source of comfort and information as is this thread as this pregnancy is very different from the last one! Are you on the living o/seas threads as well? They can help with some of the other stuff too.

I'm very tired. DS has decided that for the past 2 nights 5am would be a really good time to get up for the day.

I'll be 35 unless she's very early as my birthday is mid-May. For me DS came at the right time as I really wanted for us to be financially secure. I also had quite a lot of MH issues in my late teens/early twenties and don't think I could have coped with motherhood at that stage but that's just me and I agree with TTL there is no perfect age.

There was a good discussion on Jeremy Vine a few weeks back on what was the best age to have a baby....................there was no right answer, pros and cons to all ages. It feels the right time for me now but thats because i have met my husband, i feel happy, secure and loved and fully supported. In previous relationships that hasnt always been the case and i know that my pregnancy would have been very different emotionaly to the one i am having now. My DH is so excited i sometimes think he will burst

Moomin Couldn't agree more.

I'm still being sensitive about the age discussions....just got back from my latest monitoring apt at the FMU and I lost count of the times 'advanced maternal age' was mentioned and thats done nothing for my mood! Of course I am extremely grateful for the support here in our little group, dont know what I'd do without it, but I'm still grumpy! Anyway, there seems to be an issue with one of my uterine arteries so I've been put on 2 weekly checks, so Barbie yes I have had milestones I'm ticking off...and now I've got a few more! There were protein traces in my urine again too so I've got to have alternating MW check ups and hosp growth scans...not sure how I've ever going to fit work around that lot and I've now been advised against travelling beyond 28 weeks (bye bye holiday in Athens) and cant go to Scotland for my mini break either as it clashes with my next scan at 28 wks...
The good news is that bump is still tap dancing merrily, and is on the small side...meaning less pain in labour...right?

More nursery curtain material samples arrived today - looking forward to playing with those once I've got my confidence back a bit. Hope I havent bummed anybody out, sorry to be a moany OLD bag!

Jasmine dont be upset about your age......there is no one on here that would comment.....and you are NOT old. Its not nice on the HCP's to keep mentioning it either. Are you in the UK??
Its good that they are doing all the scans and check ups but bummer about the holidays, at least you get to see bean lots more :)

Jasmine I have got at least 2 more scans at 28 / 32 weeks (for separate reasons) and am looking forward to seeing the baby grow. There is someone on the assisted conception thread who is older than you and is still trying - so think of yourself as young.

On the subject of ages. Had DS 5 whole months before I turned 30 and now am 32 and will remain that age forever more at least until the baby is born.

If baby comes 6 days early (rather than the 6 weeks DS was) they will be born exactly 100 years after my granddad (on my dad's side). So fingers crossed I get that far.

I'm in the 30 brigade too-I was 30 last December. I'm getting sone kicks lower down too. The ones I feel in the middle are still really mild as my placenta is in the way.

I have also become a gaviscon fan (it tastes awful but does the trick!)

kara hope your head is feeling better.

Just a quick pop in.

Jasmine I am super sensitive about the size of my bump as I always expect people to make comments about it so am geared up to attack when they do . The trouble with age and pregnancy is it was all decided long ago when we were all dying off a lot earlier what a 'good' age to become a mum was. Times have changed and the goal posts haven't, like soooo many things in life (just wait till you get a load of the weight charts after the baby is born . . . piffle but it still makes you stress when they seem to be 'dropping'!). I think it's always made worse when it's not a conscious choice you have made. My friend who has suffered several miscarriages is fed up with people asking when they will have another one, they won't but it's not through choice and she is understandably very sensitive about the issue. You are your perfect age to become a mummy and you will be fabulous

Sorry about that! One of my pet hates is people feeling rubbish for no good reason other then others saying some ill chosen words (not referring to us lot by the way, we are all wonderfully sensitive and completely gorgeous!).

Anyhow, after that little episode I shall get off my soap box and do something else!

Hi Moomin yes I'm in the UK so I'm in the best place. I'm very grateful that I'm going to be monitored closely by one of the countries best FMUs and that I'll get to wave at bump frequently...but it just seems that every time I even think about relaxing in this pg, something happens to remind me it aint necessarily easy. I'm spotting again at the moment so have been told to go to bed....again, then to pack a hospital bag in case I have to be taken in at very short notice now that DH isnt here to run around for me. Am finding quite alot of solace in a bag of mini eggs at the moment!
Have been deciphering my mat notes from this morning - it seems that the reading from my left uterine artery is way high off the scale which is a danger sign for low fetal growth and PE. However the practise is to take an average reading of the 2 arteries and once that is done my reading is in the normal range. The right hand one is the one serving my placenta, the left hand one is serving my uterus ie controlling the health of the overall environment and the cons thinks it is a good sign that the right hand one is at least healthy. There is no mention of 'notching' in the trace which she said would be a worse sign.
Can I have a gold star for actually being able to read the cons handwriting!

So how is your relaxing week going? Are you enjoying a spot of daytime TV?

By the way, welcome Lababy - I hope I'm not scaring you away from this group?! I'm not always this grumpy!

Hi all, Just wanted to say hello again. I dropped into this thread a few times waaaay back at the beginning of the Due in June ones, but then life intervened, and you're all moving so fast, I didn't feel like I could keep up.

I'm due 15th June with DC2. I'm 39, so please can be in the 'Old Mum's Club' ?

Finally had my 20wk scan yesterday, even though I'm nearly 24wks now. Everything looked fine, but couldn't tell the sex, so still trawling through names for boys and girls. Ah well. DS is desperate for a sister, DP and I will be v. happy either way.

I've been really lucky, no negative symptoms through the whole thing, apart from needing to wee a lot at the beginning!

Well done for not only reading the writing but understanding what was written , think it deserves a blue peter badge

I am trying to avoid daytime tv as it is so rubbish but instead have become even more of an MN and facebook addict. Seem to be hungry and eating lots which isnt good.
My DH is away mon-fri each week so it is harder to take it easy......the housework, washing, shopping etc still has to be done. So far this week though i have done nothing but do intend to do some ironing this afternoon whilst watching Heston from last night.

I have even found an old cross stitch that i started about 15years ago and has ben hidden in a drawer that i may have another go at......now that is boredom. Wish i could knit......could be doing some booties!

Headache starting to go away, yey!

Have to say my MW not really mentioned my age or my weight, but maybe that is to come? I'm seeing her next Tuesday anyway.

Totalola - hey an EDD buddy and an oldie as well - welcome back! Glad everything is going well.

Moomin - I'm making a new cover for my little baby boucy chair thing...wanna do that for me? I'm supposed to be working and earning some money.. but thats hard when horizontal in bed (?!!)...mind you, so is MNing but, hey, priorities eh. If you want to get into knitting or crocheting, please can I have a yellow cot blanket with a satin ribbon edging?

Hi everyone, and welcome LABaby

I'm 33 so guess this puts my age in the middle somewhere!

I'm also getting tired about comments on how big I am (particularly from my own mother!!!!). I have put on a lot of weight (over 1.5 stone now ) but I was quite slim when I got pg.

Baby is measuring small for dates (which is a worry for me as DD was prem & low birthweight). When I told my mum, instead of concern/ sympathy I got "SMALL!!!! Really are they joking, have they seen the size of you!!!". Honestly I felt so rubbish afterwards, it took many chocolate biscuits to cheer me up

Things are a bit tough here as aswell as my SPD my DH now has a chest infection, making looking after DD a major challenge!!! I am starting to get really excited about baby though. Have a growth scan on Tuesday (I will be 28 weeks then!!)

Well I'm off to have a very long bath (record is 3 hours so far!!! but I did have to get out half way through to have a wee!!! )

kara at my checkup this am, they didnt tutt at my weight and make a comment about 'at the top of the weight gain' charts...yay!

moomin Heston was good last night. The poor kids though, its crap that the staff/ paying customers get much better food than they do. The catering manager is a tosser of the highest order! I had several stays on the childrens ward with DD and the food was shocking. I couldn't complain as adults don't normally get fed (I was breastfeeding so they feed you!) but honestly it was terrible. The only veg was beans and the catering lady used to sneak me in a yoghurt every day!. It was a mass of beige - nuggets, chips, sausage rolls and none of them looked remotely edible