Jue in June 2011 ......the wittering and waffling continues

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I think this is thread 8 or maybe 9......maybe we should take bets on which number we are on in June!!:)

jasmine lol at your padded comment. Hun, I have padding too Yes, feeling slightly better from exercising altho still big & fat & bloaty.
I actually got excited about doing the tours, altho I dont thing DH shared my feelings lol

CMH if the weddings were in your town it would be different but a 2 hour drive!! To make if worth going you'd need to stay over and that sounds like a lot of trouble so early in the pregnancy (or just before you are about to drop).

I enjoy the odd the Morrisons salad bar, they are yum. Never really thought about not eating them- ah well been fine up until now so...

I bought a little Custie travel cushion last year and its been great for sticking under my bump at night. Wish I could have a night where I slept right through though.

My bump has just grown loads this week!!! Anyone else?

Half term next week- woo hoo, I need it so badly!

Clarkiee - i had one of those cushions but had to chuck it as it ended up with loads of fresh and regurgitated BM on it, and they can't be washed!

BPrincess I'll be sharing your pain this weekend. We're swapping the bedrooms around, having realised ours lends itself more to being a large shared childrens room. I'm dreading it. Our wardrobe will be the killer - massive 3 door monster that will need to be completely dismantled.

Thanks knackered - I know about pre-eclampsia I just didn't put two and two together and realise PE stood for it. Doh.

lisa woah. Yes, killing half the street with a hand saw and a tree is probably a sign that DIY is not your thing

bprincess our baby is the same! DH felt her once basically the first time I fully felt her kicking, but ever since then whenever she's kicking like mad and I'm certain she'll keep doing it I put his hand on my tummy and she quietens right down. Last night we went to the cinema and she was leaping about all over the shop until DH put his hand on my tummy. Then when he gave up she went crazy again for another half an hour! He thinks he has special baby-soothing powers now. We'll see

Morning all!

Warning that this is a me, me, me post

Apparently I do big when pregnant, verging on beached whale by the time I drop. This hasn't bothered me the last 2 times in the slightest. This time however I seem to be oh so not relaxed about it. I'm concerned about my back (which was destroyed after ds) and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a bit concerned about the extra weight afterwards as I didn't lose it all after ds, 4 years ago .

These things in itself are not a problem, I can deal with them and console myself with chocolate biscuits when I feel I can't :) What is a problem and really beginning to get me down is other people. I've already had 2 comments this morning on the school run about how big I am. On an average day I seem to get 2-5 people telling me how big I am already. I have 15 weeks left and I'm going to have to put up with being told I'm big for every single day of them :( I always smile nicely and say they didn't see the size of me with my other pregnancies, big is just how I do it. What I want to do is tell them all to f* off and stop being so bloody rude (although I know they don't think it's rude).

Anyway, sorry to moan to you all. Just needed to vent before the next person tells me I'm huge and ask if I'm sure there is only 1 in there . . .. . .

Clarkiee our half term is this week. I can't believe how much I miss having DS at playgroup for 2 mornings!! How am I going to survive summer with a brand new baby and a very active 3 year old?!

Please no one mention potato salad anymore. My baby brain is starting to formulate a potato, bacon, mayo plan that I'm not so sure I want to go along with.

morning all.................nearly 12hrs sleep with only 2 wake ups, how much better do i feel this morning ( that combined with a day off)
knackered sorry to hear people are so rude......dont have any suggestions on how to cope sorry.
I dont know how im going to cope with a baby on its own let alone you lot with toddlers. i am hoping its a lovley warm (not hot)summer

Morning, waiting for GP to call me as I think I definitely have a urine infection. Will probably put me on antibiotics but TBH rather that than it being pre-eclampsia.

knackered poor you - try and ignore them as much as you can. I have the opposite (oh you're not very big are you!). You can't win, someone always comments.

moomin 12hrs sleep sounds bliss!!

nomorechoc I'm glad we're having summmer babies - at least you can send the older kids into the garden to play...

TTL and bprincess yep - mine is the same. Hides away as soon as you put your hand on your bump.

kara yay for a working pushchair

We're going to be sorting things out htis weekend too. Have still not put the xmas stuff in the loft and then need to find all the baby stuff and get it down. There is tons as we had 2x of lots of things. Our loft is very low - I end up going up their as DH just can't move in there and I bump my head lots so its always a painful experience!

Yay for the urine infection louey (well, you know what I mean ...) I had one at the beginning of pregnancy which turned into a kidney infection, which wasn't pleasant, but a good dose of antibiotics and it was all gone.

Potato, bacon, mayo ... not sure if that's what I want. Have just eaten my thousandth Malteaster since they were released again (malteser bunnies - anyone had them? Oh my god they're good ...) and haven't brought lunch to work, so I'd better go and buy something disgusting delicious from the canteen.

knackered it's such a shame you can't just knee-cap some people and be done with it, isn't it?! I am sure you look absolutely bloody gorgeous pregnant and they think they're paying you a compliment. Am also slightly about the odd person who seems to equate pregnancy bump with general overweightness, and suggest techniques I might have for 'hiding' it. As if only size 6 is pretty these days, and as if pregnancy is an unsightly thing! Glad to see Holly Willoughby expanding at an exponential rate and still looking brilliant though. Sorry, am rambling. I hope you feel better soon and that these people who think they're being nice decide to shut up!

Anyon else got to see GP / seen Gp at 25 weeks. My MW told me to make sure i go as they get paid for antenatal care!!!!! No appointments except with a GP student so i want to go with the knowledge of what they are supposed to be checking.
Can anyone help?????
I will take wee sample, guess they may do BP etc.....do i need bloods ( none done since week 12)

Hope it is an infection Louey (???!!!), I suppose the better of 2 evils I hope your ok though, threatened PE must be very, very scary.

Knackered I understand completely what you mean. I get absolutely huge during pregnancy (as I've said about a million times ) but people seem to think, because Im pregnant, its ok to comment constantly on how fat I am. Guy at college thinks its hilarious - forever making comments, last nights was "my God, you've put on sooo much weight!!!" , just now at coffee break in new place of work, one woman asks (doesnt mean to be offensive bless her, but its not nice) how far I am now, I say 25 weeks and she says "oh dear!! you must be feeling very very uncomfortable already with how big you are!!, I mean carrying all that weight!".

I've no advice, but just want you to know I understand where you are coming from and how annoying it is but remember we're fat for a fabulous reason and we can loose it after, some people will always be ugly.. (although, Im sure you are not fat - see, your even getting the comments here )

I know Im being a bit of a stalker here but Im really worried about NurseSunshine has anyone heard from her?

Moomin how are you feeling today? still blue? I hope the (goodish) nights sleep has you feeling better.

Im soooo tired. I did have a long day yesterday though - work and then college last night - wasnt home until 10.30pm. Have my uncles 3 girls for the weekend after work today (but they are fab). Feeling weepy and sad too and had a row with dh this morning.

My mother rang me (from OZ) this morning, I know this sounds ridiculously pathetic at my age but I am absolutely pining for her and just cant wait for her to come home. (2nd March), I felt like crying when I heard her voice but hid it as I would hate to upset her. , I know thats embarrasing to admit at my age.

Oh, does anyone know what a low blood count means? I had a check up with GP last week (I changed to female doc after all your advice) and she wanted my bloods redone as she was slightly concerned that iron was low. Anyway, she rang me yesterday and told me that blood count was low and iron was dangerously low although not quite anaemic yet - to start taking 1 galfer a day immediately and she would be keeping an eye on it. I meant to ask what low blood count meant but was in work and distracted by damn office phone ringing...

barbie at those comments!

Moomin cant help as system appears to be completely different here than in the UK. Ours is all consultant and GP led care (although generally, midwives deliver the babies).

I see GP one month, a consultant the next (and then weekly/ forthnightly at the consultant at the very end). GP weighs me, checks urine sample, checks blood pressure, fundal height, discuss any concerns etc and both take a set of bloods for screening.

barbie i can understand you missing your mom, im 39 and dreading the fact that i will be moving away this year, which feels like an almighty wrench at this time in my life when i may need her most. I lived away for 12 years and been back within 20 min reach for the last 9 years. Like you i cant tell her too much as i also know she is equally upset and we will both be rubbish :)

Moomin - where I am all my appts including the 25 week one is with the MW. Though I am having mine at 26 weeks!!

Fat comments - yep, get those. I think you are allowed to lamp people who make them

I've been wondering about NurseSunshine as well, I checked and she hasn't posted since end of November
Really hope she is okay.

I am back in fully operational "W and paragraph land" (work, that is) , so can post again with breaks, and fully formed words etc. Has taken me about 20 minutes to read all the posts since Wednesday... are we getting worse?

TakeThatLady me and my dp are both completely incompetent around the house... I am trying to get better to save money, as I know how much it costs to just replace something whenever it breaks, or call someone out to fix it. I think it's because we've both rented all of our adult lives, so you just call the landlord when something goes wrong. Thing is that now we are renting family homes they tend to be unfurnished, so we have to sort our own washing machine etc out. What makes me laugh is that dp has a massive tool kit / drill etc., and all he uses them for is to put pictures up . DS thinks his Dad is Bob the Builder, which makes me laugh. He will one day discover the truth.

CMH I second everyone's advice about seeing how things go with the weddings. We had a family wedding to go to 2 weeks before I was due with ds; we didn't go as it was about a 2 hour drive away and I was petrified of going into labour away from home. We shouldn't have panicked, as he was 2 weeks over his due date, but I don't think I would have enjoyed it at all if I had gone. Two close friends had their wedding 2 weeks after I had ds (4 weeks after due date). It was only about 15 minutes drive away from Bristol, and we said we'd be there. We ended up cancelling as it worked out I had only been out of hospital a few days and was not feeling confident or well enough to go. Play it by ear. My sister's wedding is in July, and a very close friend's is early August, but luckily they are both in Bristol. I also have another wedding to go to soon, in April. Am panicking about what to wear... will a sack do?

Jasmine, my one bit of advice is to insist that if anyone wants to see the baby in the early days, they have to come to you. You will have enough on your plate without having to plan long journeys in the car with a newborn, and I believe that anyone with half a brain and half a shred of selflessness will agree with this. My Gran is a right old harridan stubborn thing, had not visited me at home or rang me in over ten years (that was my job), but made it to Bristol from an hour away to see her great-Grandson a week after he was born.

Moomin, I have a pregnancy pillow (the Theraline one) and it is my new best friend. I am thinking of dumping my DP and moving it into his side of the bed, as it makes for a much-more agreeable, malleable and pain-reducing bedfellow .

No other news. Feeling a lot better after going to the chiropractor - apparently my right arch of my foot has collapsed, which is twisting my pelvis out of alignment, which is making all the pregnancy-related stuff worse. She has promised she will "make sure I am at least able to walk" until the baby is due... this sounds ominous... there may be trouble ahead .

Hi all,

Calling those going with the baby jogger city had a look at it yesterday and so chuffed with it - easy to push, so easy to fold, love the sun canopy too.

Are any of you getting the carrycot to go with it, I think I'm going to seeing as you can then have the bubba facing forward. I realise you can get the compatible car seat things but I know your not meant to leave the baby in them for too long. Do you have to get the babyjogger carrycot or are any of the other brands compatible?

Moomin I'm so glad you managed to get some better sleep. It makes all the difference doesn't it. I'm also alternating midwife and GP appointments. Is that what they do in areas where there are less midwives? I've also got to see the consultant once a month on top of that. I'm not really sure what the GP will do to be honest, but I was told to take a urine sample. BP I suppose, maybe check heart beat? I wouldn't have though they would do anything different to what the midwife does. Or the consultant really for that matter.

Knackered People are so rude aren't they. It seems that when you're pregnant people feel they have the right to say what they like to you.

Is anyone else still struggling to eat proper meals? My MS has more or less gone now, I'm not actually being sick any more but am feeling sick a lot of the time and still have the occasional retching session! But I still can't even look at meat or cheese and am just not enjoying most other food. I'm much better than in the early days when all I could eat was peas and cucumber but it's really doing my head in now!

Barbie I suffer from low iron as well, and went quite anaemic during last pg. Basically, as I understand it, normal haemoglobin levels should be about 15, although it's quite safe (when not pg) to drop to 11. However, if during labour you lose blood, this then means that your levels drop even lower. So if you started with 15 and drop to 12-13 due to blood loss, that's no problem. But if it's only 11 to start with, and a bit of blood loss causes you to drop to 9 or below, then a transfusion becomes necessary. Which is why if you have low levels at around 30 weeks, you'll be told you have to deliver in a hospital. Because I really want to go to the MLU this time, I've been taking iron supplements since about week 15.

I frequently get turned down when I go to donate blood because my levels are too low (when they put a drop of my blood in the little test tube it floats at the top - the iron is supposed to make it heavy enough to sinkto the bottom). Again, I think the reasoning is that the loss of blood through donation would take me below the safe level.

Laughing my arse off at 8's bob the builder FIL.

Moomin thanks for that, I dont feel quite so silly now . Thats going to be hard for you though, isnt it? .

Lisascat, thank you so much for explaining that so well, makes much more sense and I understand now. My ds was born in Jan 2010 and I bled for a long time after (sorry everyone!), I then went on to have a post partum haeomarrage when he was 8 weeks old and was hospitalised. Obviously my iron levels were quite low following that, but I was taking 2 galfer tablets for over 2 months. At my booking in appointment with this pregnancy, most were quite surprised I hadnt had a blood transfusion afterwards. I probably didnt "leave it" long enough between pregnancies...

(And being completely self obsessed) sorry Lisa, meant to ask - when will you know if you can go with MLU (30 weeks presumably)?? oh fingers crossed...

By this thread it seems like i am lucky that my DH is quite practical and good around the house. He is not very good at organising and i dispair sometimes when he says he'll do something and he doesnt. I am an organiser and lister......plan everything and need to have a plan! so between we are pretty good. When he gets round to it though he does a very good job!
Just been to Morrisons and bought some baby toiletries. I know its early, we dont even have a pram, bedding, cot etc but at least the bean can have its bum wiped and a nice bath

Barbie MW will take my bloods again at next appointment (which I think is about 30 weeks) and will tell me then.

But then DP made a comment the other day which indicates he'd rather I go to the JR. He's known all along I wanted the MLU, he knew I wanted it the first time, but now it seems he'd prefer me to go to the hospital because "it's just safer". Yes, it is, if there's a problem, and if there's any sign of needing extra care (low iron levels, early/late, bleeding, slow heart rate from baby, etc) I'll be the first to say "get me an ambulance". But if everything's going smoothly, I want the MLU. It's mainly so he and DD can visit lots (much closer to home, plus very flexible visiting hours), but also I just felt a little bit forgotten about at the JR. I know it's because I had no problems after the birth itself (DD latched on straight away, my health was fine) so the MWs had more serious cases to attend to. But I'd just like to be one of only 2/3 women that the MW on duty has to tend to, so I know I won't be forgotten.

But now I just feel like DP's not going to tell me what's really concerning him, because he's worried I'll just talk him down. But I really do want him to tell me so I can talk him down reassure him.

Stoopid men!

Lisa i think you really do need to talk to your DP as he is obviously worried. Remember that men feel totally out of control and he is just so worried that something may happen to you and wants to make sure that you are in the safest hands ( to him it obviously means hospitals with doctors). It doesnt mean he isnt supporting you he just needs to understand why you want a MLU and know at what point the decision can be made to move if the need arises. He needs to know ( by being told clearly) that you wont risk anything just so you can be at a MLU. Remember men need things told clearly just dont presume he understands......as you say men can be so stoopid, they should be mind readers :)