Jue in June 2011 ......the wittering and waffling continues

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I think this is thread 8 or maybe 9......maybe we should take bets on which number we are on in June!!:)

at 'bazongas'

Now you've got your rack fully supported, maybe you can use them to rest your plate on at the salad bar :)

Sorry for the me-post but just back from MW appt. Have trace of protein in my wee and bp is up (diastolic up from 60 to 83). MW said it could be early signs of PE or a urine infection. I really thought I would avoid PE this time as last time I had it with the DTs I just assumed it was because they were twins. 21wks is bloody early to start developing PE Can't tell my mum because she will start to panic and so I'm off-loading here. I have to go back in 3wks for another check.

jasmine I am much the same as the others on food - don't eat pate, blue cheese and shellfish (but do eat fish) but pretty much everything else I eat. I know in the US they say deli-meat is a no-no but I think they are over-cautious there. Still eat pre-packaged salads. I'm not keen on mayo dressings so those kind of salads wouldn't appeal to me at all. Sorry - not much help!
I really hope you enjoy the spa without worrying too much about it.

After all your DIY (or lack of) stories, I think my DH is actually not as bad as I thought. Still waiting for jobs to get sorted out but they are not as fundamental as boilers or washing machines.

louey sorry your MW appt was scary - what is PE? Hopefully this is just a urine infection and will all be cleared up soon. Sorry I can't offer any specific advice, but I've got my fingers crossed for you.

Ladies we clearly need to empower ourselves and stop expecting men to do 'man' jobs (Mine does most of the washing (when we have a machine) and cleaning, so really he gets the worst deal ).

LOL 8rubberduckies love the idea of you using 'vv' and suddenly sounding German!

I'm so sorry to hear people are feeling down. I'm similar, although I have good and bad days. I think everything just seems more difficult doesn't it!

We were a bit like motherofsnortpigs and have only just got a TV after a couple of years without one (after a lot of pressure from the DSC's!). It's just too much of a temptation to sit and watch rubbish all the time. Although that only applies when you're not pregnant of course, at the moment TV's an absolute necessity!

Not sure how you're managing without a washing maching though takethatlady!

Jasmine51 I'm totally with you on the salad bar thing. I am sure that the vast majority of the time they're absolutely fine but I really do understand your worry and I've been avoiding all kinds of things I don't know for certain are completely fresh. That said I have become completely neurotic since becoming pregnant and am driving everybody, including myself, mad with it! I think you're right to try to be relaxed about it unless you're going to worry about it afterwards.

Has anybody else got very painful ankles? I can hardly walk today, they're not really swolen, they just hurt!

TTL my man now expects me to stop doing man jobs, after I nearly killed myself, our unborn child, our pre-born child and several neighbourhood children on Saturday, with the comment "of course the (4 storey high) tree will fall in the direction I intend it to" as I sawed manically through the trunk.

Ooops, hand saw now officially locked in the shed until after the birth. 'Bad mummy' badge retrieved from wardrobe and displayed on forehead at all times as a warning.

X posts Louey. Have you been given antibiotics in case it's a urine infection? 3 weeks seems a long time to wait, fingers crossed for you that it's not PE.

hi all, have been reading and catching up after a few days away. change of scenery was just what I needed and actually managed four nights of uninterupted sleep, pure bliss!

Wanted to gauge people's opininons re making plans in June - we have been invited to a couple of weddings at the end of June, beginning of July (my due date is 21st). Both weddings are about two hours away from where we live. My friends think I'm being dramatic saying that I can't go, but I figure if the baby hasn't arrived then I'm not going to want to go so far when I'm a week plus overdue, and if he has arrived we might not be up to (read organised enough) to travel / organise someone to take care of him etc when he's so small..... trouble is, I'm first of my friends to have a baby so none of us really know what to expect! any ideas?

CMH re your weddings, I think you need to make decisions that you will be comfortable with and deal politely and firmly with friends who have no experience of the issues. I also have no experience but I am not comfortable committing to stuff in late May,June or early July until I am feeling absolutely confident in myself and my new little one. My friend kindly bought me a ticket to a concert (Yes TTL, it was to see our boys!) in July and has also called me overdramatic for saying that I cant go. My MIL has asked that I take the LO to see her a few days after he is born as she cant (wont) go to the hospital - I have said I will take him when I am ready but cant commit to travelling that early...cue lots of harrumphing and snorting. I refuse to feel bad about that, I dont need the stress....and neither do you.

mummy If they are retesting you in 3 weeks I would have thought that was a sign they are not overly concerned. If you have no other outward signs of PE then just take it easy and stay vigilent. I too had a protein trace but they went through all the signs for me to look out for and sent me away. No protein was found the next time.

Hello all,

just trying to catch up but have missed loads so probably won't be able to! Glad to hear scans have been going well.
goodvibrations it's sounds like you are being well looked after and fingers crossed things work out okay for you. How premature was your last baby? I know it must be hugely worrying for you. Try to relax as much as possible (I know that's sooooo much easier said then done).

Barbie congrates on your results, mucho impressed with the huge brain you clearly have :)

Jasmine Being a lover of all things spa I have never even considered not going near the salad bar! I have been twice in the this pregnancy and have fully stuffed myself both times. My thinking is that for it be a decent spa you need to have decent food hygiene, so as long as you aren't going to one attached to the local flea pit you should be okay (obviously your choice though, see me clearing myself of any responsibility!)

louey2b3 sorry to hear you might be developing pe. Fingers crossed it doesn't turn into it and all goes away and leaves you alone for the rest of the pregnancy.

TTL pe is pre eclapsia and when severe can lead to premature birth as it's potentially very dangerous for the mother and baby. It's the reason you have to take a sample when you visit the midwife.

CMH1st hmmmm, tough one. I would be tempted to say no and you'll turn up to the ceremony if you can. As you say, being over due is no fun and you won't want to go anywhere plus if you have had the mini one you don't know how the birth is going to take it's toll on you. After my first I was a mess (emotionally and not so great physically) for about 3 weeks living on antibiotics that made me feel rubbish. My second, I stopped off at the supermarket to pick up dinner on the way back from hospital 3 hours after having him! As you will soon find out when you have your first, no-one knows what to expect until it hits them !

There was sooooo much more to say but my brain is mangled so am going to disappear again. Have a happy thursday!

CMH1st re the weddings, I agree with the other comments that you need to do what you feel comfortable with and that you won't know what that is until you get to June / July.

I was on the opposite side this summer. One of my really good friends was expecting her second baby 3.5 weeks before our wedding. She lives just down the road from me which is 2 hours drive from where we got married. He was only a few days late and so was 3 weeks old at the time of the wedding so we all (including her and her husband) thought that they would be able to come, but she found it much more tiring than with her first and her son wasn't very well initially and so she had to cancel the day before the wedding. Of course this was disappointing for us and for her, but we completely understood her decision. Our venue were great, we had pre-warned them that this couple were expecting a baby very close to our wedding and they may or may not be able to attend and they just asked us to keep them up to date and then gave us a refund for their meals, reception drinks etc after the wedding.

To help my friend feel part of it other mutual friends videoed key parts of the day and sent her the videos and then when we got back from honeymoon we had an informal get together at our house for everyone who had been invited to our wedding (but especially for the ones who weren't able to make it) where we finished off the left over wedding cake and looked at each other's photos.

Hopefully your friend's venue would also be flexible so that if you don't feel up to going she doesn't need to worry about the financial side and if you can't go perhaps you can do something with her afterwards when you do feel more up to it.

Thanks everyone for feedback re weddings. I think we'll say that we can't go, and that way won't risk our friends losing money etc if we're not up to it..

louey - they found a trace in my pee too and did an additional test for a urinary infection, as they said that was the most likely cause? Turned out it wasn't even that and the MW concluded -warning TMI coming up - that the sample had been contaminated by discharge.. My blood pressure is always fairly normal and was at that appointment so maybe that's why they didn't consider PE? Am sure it's nothing to worry about if they're not following it up for a few weeks so try not to let it bug you...

BTW - wallpaper update for those of you that commented, we have ordered the quentin blake one with pictures of animals and a green background. Now just need to find the inclination to start clearing out the junk

Thanks everyone. I think it was the combination of the protein and the bp increase that made the MW say it could be early signs of PE (plus my history). She has told me to phone the hospital if I have any other signs before my next MW appt. I am hoping it is an urine infection as I've already had one of those this pg and it sort of feels like I'm fighting it off IWSKIM. No antibiotics but my Drs are very good and if something does develop over the next day or so they will see me very quickly. Going to try and drink lots of cranberry juice and see if I stop it getting worse.

CMH Given how close they are to your due date, I would probably not go to the weddings unless it was a very close relative or my best friend. Kind of depends on how flexible the venues are about when they need final numbers. Can you talk to your friends and explain - if they will lose money if you don't turn up then I would say I wasn't going.

IWSKIM = IYSWIM gaaah pg brain!

Afternoon everyone, lovely to see lots of messages today. Had a bit of a better day, 1 little tearful moment but just watery eyes not proper tears...........Didnt sleep brilliantly again but that can be normal with a quick shift changeover.
Jasmine i am very proud of your neurosis with regards food. i have been completly laid back and hardly avoided anything.....pate and blue cheese i think ( and i even had a smidge of cheese at christmas). I love food so much that i couldnt bring myself to avoid it.
I agree that the quality of the place is important and if it was a dodgy kebab van then i may avoid it, but they will have high food standards as they would not want to lose money with a food poisoning outbreak.

I was supposed to go to a wedding 1 and a 1/2 hours away one week before my due date but obviously fore warned bride and groom. For the evening do. As DS was early we never made it but was just going to take my notes and go. Its different for an evening do as it doesn't cost the happy couple as much.

We are off to a christening 4 weeks before EDD........3 hrs drive away and staying in ahotel. Just planning on taking notes and going with the flow. DH is godfather so cant really miss it. Think they are getting their own back as she was nearly 8 months pg at our wedding

Even went to (SIL) wedding when DS was supposed to be 4 weeks (was 10 weeks though) but had my mum there so she took him away when he was unsettled during the ceremony. We were sleep deprived and DH couldn't do the speech (his dad passed away so he was "father of the bride"). It took SIL a while to forgive him for that. long story but she got married in the building where the hospice was (posh stately home place) so was a bit shaken anyway.

Revenge is sweet a year later she had a colicky baby and probably a lot better understanding of what DH was going through. RANT OVER.

Anyway if you are close to someone its worth going or if its really close but maybe decline the main meal and turn up for what you can.

As for salads Jasmine it didn't stop me in Harvester the other week!!

moomin choked that you are proud of me and my neurosis! I just had some pastrami...how daring am I?!

Back to watching the video tour of local maternity unit...zzzzzz

jasmine how was the video tour?
I wish I could have done that, I dragged DH around 3 maternity units & decided to stick to plan a after all that lol.

Ive started aquanatal & pregnancy pilates, really missed the gym & this is the 1st time I have felt upto doing anything.

Been watching tummy moving tonight & had a little chat with it, how amazing is this?!

Anybody else off to the Baby Show at Excel this Sunday?

moufflon bland and boring...but better than actually making the effort to go there I guess. As ever, you only get the real story from real people like MNers and the MWs. I havent got any choice re where I go but thought I'd watch out of curiosity and to see how out of date their decor was!

Good news you have managed some exercise - do you feel better for it?

Love the idea of talking to bump - mine is kicking all over the place but I cant really see anything moving externally as I am probably a little..errrr padded for that

Jasmine - I too would err on the side of caution, i got food poisoning from some dodgy egg mayo sarnies when 7mths pg with DS and it was very unpleasant. I do eat runny eggs though. I have had stuff of the deli counter, I didn't realise that was a problem! But not a rabbit food salad eater anyway!

CMH - I wouldn't go. I would send my regrets and a nice pressie. I bled heavily for 3 weeks post birth with DS and I don't think I would have felt comfortable with that and a 2 hour car journey, plus DS was feeding constantly first few weeks. You'll just have to accept if your friends don't have kids they may not understand

TTL - you and your DH sound just like DH and me, we are equally crap at DIY!

Louey - hope everything is okay, am they don't want you back for 3 weeks, I guess they don't think it is too serious at this stage?

We put the pushchair together, and it is all complete with no broken bits :) Few extra bits that I haven't as yet worked out what they are, will figure it out lol

Sorry I've not been on in ages - been working every night on the 2 years worth of photos on the hard drive to try to get them sorted, and order prints to put in albums. Wonder if this is the start of nesting...

Anyway, I'm off to catch up on the thread now

Evening all. Not been on here for ages, and there's no way I'm going to catch up with all the posts over the last 10 days, so sorry... but hope everyone is well and happy.

We had a week in the Canaries as last holiday as irresponsible non-parents. Not that there was much irresponsibility happening (for the first time I really missed my beers and wine!). Anyway, it was nice to see the sun and laze around for a bit.

Little monkey kicking about all over the place but DP still not managed to feel it - every time he puts his hand there she acts all quiet and innocent!

Onwards with the big house re-organisation this weekend, all the rooms being moved around to make space for a nursery. Anyone else having to do a lot of shifting about?

Have a great weekend everyone.

CMH - i wouldn't go either. You just don't know how you'll be feeling or what you'll be doing so close to your due date. I have a wedding on 24 July (I'm also due 21 June) and I've told them I can't commit until much closer to the time. They understand though as the groom's sister is in exactly the same position (but she'll have to fly in as she lives abroad - very optimistic in my opinion, but what do I know?!).