Jue in June 2011 ......the wittering and waffling continues

[moomin156]

I think this is thread 8 or maybe 9......maybe we should take bets on which number we are on in June!!:)

I agree TTL and i know i definitely do it at work but not publically. The second midwife was lovely though and really handled her and her fears well....she was so scared, that that in itself was scary.
I was a forceps delivery and mom said she really didnt remember it being too painful ( without an epidural) but the Dr was braced against the bed pulling......she also remembers the comment 3 pushes and it will be over and mom said it was

yep am happy to share my list - will add it later, then maybe those with experience can let me know if they see anything glaringly wrong with it!

why oh why is work hard to be motivated about. I actually counted the number of shifts to do before i start mat leave last night. Would love to just be a lady of leisure

ooh you prompted me to have a good count - I have six weeks left after this week before I go on maternity leave, yay

Am on maternity leave a little earlier than planned because I'm still training and change placements every 6 months, so I have to stop in either April or September! very much looking forward to being a lady of leisure, although will have to spend first month of maternity leave writing my thesis so that I don't have to do it after DS has arrived! Its better than getting up early and being on packed commuter trains though..

17 weeks left! Assuming I can stick it out until almost the end. I'm already feeling out of breath when I walk to the IT dept (other side of road, but hardly in the Himalayas). So from March I think we're looking at slightly more flexible working hours - perhaps a couple of hours at home first, then come in to the office, then home early to do a couple more hours. That way I still get 'seen' every day, and no one starts to think I've left already, but I don't have to fight rush hour traffic.

And as people keep reminding me, the second time is harder. First time around I was allowed to take it a bit easier. But DD's having none of that. I'm still her mummy, and mummy duties must still be fulfilled, baby or no baby!

continuing to find it hard to concentrate today! have been browsing decorations for the baby's room and came across this amazing wallpaper (link below) - bit pricey but I figure we could just do one wall and paint others to match.. anyone else thinking themes for their rooms?

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I love the wallpaper CMH! Its fab!

DH just gave it his seal of approval too

Love it - I like the Quentin's ABC one best.

Just one wall would be fine otherwise I think it would make the walls look to cluttered, IYSWIM?

NoToast only the other night when Mimi put her baby in the cupboard with the veg on Shameless DP joked that will be us :) He went to kiddicare with the mums yesterday whilst I was stuck at work un til 8.30, I was in a grump all day as would much rather have been there. He did get my nursing chair though so can't grumble too much.

mrs I can't wait til bubs gets hiccups (assuming s/he does of course!) my mum claims I had them loads and I still get them lots now.

moomin when I get an evening to myself I will share some of my list too if it will help. Some of it's not strictly necessary but I want it all the same :) Managed to do my food shop for the week on £20 this week. (my purse was stolen so a lack of cash cards meant I had to use what cash DP left me, thinking I just wanted money to buy lunch at work for the week!) So am realising I could cut back and save a bit more in places if really necessary.

TTL I'm glad it's not just me that thought that MW was a bit of a cow. She came across as quite patronising too. I'm terrified I'm going to get someone I don't get on with..I can be quite, what's the word...opinionated at the best of times!

moomin I have to admit to counting weeks last month. 13 left for me plus a week of holiday in 2 weeks time. Like Lisa I am cutting down from April. I'm having at least 1 extra day off each week, if not 2, all Mondays and Friday to stretch out my weekends and have done it all around the weeks I'm not working on the Saturday. Some of that's bank holidays and then I've used up 5 days of holiday. Thank you very much Kate & Wills for the extra BH I must say :)

CMH We already have a feature wall in our room so will be painting that to match the other 3 cream walls. Then I'm thinking of getting some wall stickers as we don't know what colour bean we're having yet. We figure it will be easier to re-design if we stick to something simple that is easy to remove. Jojo Maman Bebe have some cute stuff. I'm loving this and these but I loved Elmer as a kid! Love that Quentin characters wallpaper but I can't stand having to do the wallpapering and DP isn't much better!

CMH love the wallpaper. We have fabric swatches stuck all over the walls at the moment for trying to chose curtains - our theme is 'bright and seasidey' so the fabrics are all deckchair stripes. I had to decide quickly because DH with his miltary background was all for doing everything in camouflage!

I've been planning out my maternity leave too. Luckily I've got lots of annual leave to take too, so should be able to leave a few weeks early without cutting into my actual mat leave... Can't wait but hope I don't end up going crazy with the waiting once I haven't got work to distract me!

I've surprised myself by watching OBEM - didn't think I'd want to but I've been fascinated by how differently people respond to labour & birth. Of course, in my mind I'll definitely be one of those dignified, calm ladies taking it all in their stride... Hmmm... We'll see!

finally got my scan tomorrow - been quite worried since the bleeding at the weekend so really hoping the scan is going to show that everything's ok... Keep your fingers & toes crossed for us please!

Apparently my mum just missed her bus stop cos she was cross examining some poor woman about her choice of buggy! :o

Am going to ask DP his views on wallpapering tonight! I have already chosen the turquoise birds one .

DS got hiccups all the time when I was pg with him, but only from around 7 months. I loved it at first but it used ot get annoying when it kept waking me up at night!

I'm shattered today - ds is going through a phase of waking up at just before 6 . DP does 4 mornings and I do 3, but I find that if I'm on early shift all I want to do is snooze by lunchtime. I have got to 21 weeks without taking any time off work sick, so may sneak off home soon and go to bed for a couple of hours before pcking ds up .

Still no concrete news on the work front - we should know by the 21st if we have been awarded extra funding from the council. If we are my consultation period will be extended because they are going to have to restructure people's jobs, because the council are asking for more for their money - more than 1 person (i.e. me can do). This means they are not sure what job they will be offering me and with what conditions.

They also won't know by then if they can afford to keep on another of the advisers , so they may have to find her some hours too. It's all a nightmare and is starting to shred my nerves, but I suppose the longer I can keep a job the longer I can wait until I go on maternity leave and the longer I can spend at home with bubba on the other side .

X posted Citizen - best of luck for your scan

Thanks 8rd - must be horrible having such uncertainty at work at the moment.

Thanks Citizen I thought I was doing okay, but I had a consultation meeting yesterday and afterwards I felt really strung out. I'm very tired and weepy all the time, and seriously thinking of an extended sickness period (ooooh of about 2 weeks), just to try and chill out a bit.

Not surprising you feel that way 8rd - I feel anxious because I don't know whether there will be enough money around to cover my maternity leave properly, and that's pretty minor compared to your worries!

Even a day or two off might allow you to recharge your batteries. I've been working at home this week and just avoiding the commute (sleeping 2 hours extra instead!) has made a difference.

Hi all,
Hope you're well, I've been reading not posting as things have been ticking along nicely but this week am really feeling the pressure at work. My boss (male) as completely changed his attitude to me since I've been pregnant.

One classic comment about getting something sorted - which doesn't need to be done since august next year - 'otherwise, you'll be sitting at home rubbing your belly and not giving a shit' So snide remarks like that occassionally and generally just becoming very picky over my work, tracking my time in and out of the office etc, things which have never been an issue before.

Its so frustrating as I work bloody hard and I can just feel him putting the boot in so that I don't come back from maternity leave as he doesn't think I will be able to commit the same as I do now. It's true and i don't actually think I will be able to go back to my role, however treating me like shit after 3 years of dedication is so out of line.. I don't particularly want to take it to a HR level as it seems fairly pointless however if it continues I'm going to have to say something.

Oh well, 10 weeks to go, I've decided to bank my holiday in the weeks before my maternity leave so I can get out asap, as I just can't be arsed with the stress.

Sorry for me, me, me rant!

Glad everyone is doing well and we are zooming towards the third trimester. Time is flying I think! 23 weeks now so it's really starting to hit home that there's a baby on the way. Kicking the crap out of me, but so very welcome to (famous last words!)

Is anyone else in Chichester, Sussex?

Misshooha your boss sounds like a real wanker challenge. I would have to say soemthing to someone above him if I was in your shoes; I get angry about such misogyny. I'm glad everything is ticking along nicely with baby today though... that's the most important thing!

I had to nip into Mothercare today and couldn't resist the sale rail in the baby clothes department . Got some really really sweet non-pink stuff... yay!

agree with 8 - misshooha your boss sounds like a knob difficult man to work for. Good plan to get away as soon as poss, that way he can't contaminate you with his toxic nastiness!

thanks for all wallpaper comments - have just sent off for a free sample to check its not too crazy in 'real life'. don't even have to pay postage so good result (DH's idea to get 100 free samples and stick them together to save some ££ is being ignored)

hiya everyone hope you are all feeling great :)

i dont want to put a downer on topics but has anyone had any spotting recently?
i have an awful cold and sneezing fits im hoping that is all it is just wondered if anyone else has had anything similar i can feel bubba moving and kicking lots so no he is alright just my mind playing tricks i think! got 22 week scan tomorrow so looking forward to that :)

Misshooha What a creep. If you can arm yourself with one legal line from the employee handbook/government rights for maternity leave, that should scare the nastiness right out of him.

I found this online, and here's a relevant bit about the 2007 changes in Equal Opportunities law on harassment for pregnant women from it:

'?[There will be] A new liability for employers who fail to protect an employee from third-party harassment where the employer is aware that an employee has been harassed on two previous occasions and there has subsequently been a failure to take reasonable steps to prevent further acts of harassment.
? [There will be]An amended definition of discrimination on grounds of pregnancy or maternity, which removes the need to name a comparator.'

Your crappy boss deserves to get a fright. Even just a casual reference to it on record in an email, so that while you are away if he guns for your role being changed in ways he knows will make you not want to come back, he might be too freaked. Casual bullies like that are easily scared because they are so insecure. Plus, shittiness like the stuff he's chucking at you is the real side of harassment, not somebody grabbing your ass as a joke.

He sounds a bit like Gareth from The Office. Hope it gets better.

Bravo Jer79, just what I would have suggested last night if I wasn't so brain dead tired and unable to form a sentence properly, let alone research stuff!

Ohnomummy sorry to hear about the spotting - it is more than likely something very harmless, I'm sure your midwife should be able to check it out and set your mind at rest?

misshooha what an absolute pillock your boss is. Definitely think it needs to be nipped in the bud before it escalates.

ohnomummy I'm sure the spotting will be fine - quite a few of us have had it on here and we've been okay, but I say go and get checked. It's always worth it just for peace of mind :)

You can all uncross your fingers - just had the scan and all is well (after the bleeding at the weekend). Such a relief! Couldn't believe the detail we could see - all the ribs and kidneys and heart chambers etc. And we're having a boy! So exciting, and so relieved.

ohnomummy Hopefully your scan will have confirmed everything's OK with you and your baby too. On 2nd thoughts, maybe everyone should all keep their fingers crossed for you too until we hear :)