August 2011 differs.......eating, puking and weeing our way into the 2nd trimester

[Hersetta]

New home for us ladies!!

Hi there,

Good news first - scan went well, very good nuchal measurement so have declined blood tests. It was so great to see the baby again, makes it so much more real.

Less good news is that I'm being admitted tomorrow morning for the abscess to be operated on. It'll be under general anaesthetic and I'll be released on Monday morning. Apparently they'll do a scan of the baby before and after the op, so I'll get to see him/her again. Good to hear yours is healing so fast, annie

Will be back on Tuesday!

Enjoy your thai never, very love thai, SIL is Thai so we love going to theirs for dinner, pizza and Rugby here tonight!!
Wales v England, hmmm I'm going to support whoever is winning. We're English and live in Wales lol, but bubba will be born and raised in Wales, and DH'd granddad was Welsh so got a bit of both sides :)

As you lot seem to be baking, I thought I'd share a recipe
Muesli flapjacks:
100g butter/marg
100g sugar
50g honey
200g muesli (or half muesli, half porridge oats)

Set oven to 190
Melt butter, sugar, honey in pan, mix in muesli, wack in a dish greased with butter, chuck in oven for 20 mins, let cool, done :)

mmm yum! My granola's in the oven now, and think the Muesli flajacks might be next.

Thai sounds amazing too (wow I'm hungry AGAIN). We're in tonight also watching the rugga KLou - DH would do ANYTHING not to miss this match. I have a lot of Welsh friends, some going to the match, so I think there'll be a lot of friendly text banter through the night.

I want Thai food now neverlookback !!

Crikey Ladies, I can't keep up, you don't half natter!

Tokeyo so sorry for your loss big hug x
Thanks Bryher I really appreciate your concern...DH is much better as he has told his line manager and they are being supportive.

Today my oldest son (nearly 3) looked at my belly and said, "mummy whats that in your tummy?" I said, "what do you think it is?" He said "Silly mummy, its just my baby sister" and he went off and carried on playing! We have not even told him directly about the baby although he must have heard us talking,but I was shocked to say the least! Not so much that he said about a baby, but SISTER? I didn't know he even knew that word! He has a brother! Weird.

Anyone else got any older children becoming aware of the impending new arrival?

Take care ladies

Hi all,

I've had a busy week at work, so just caught up on around 6 pages of chatter! it's lovely to hear everyone's news. Mine is good news, had the combined test on monday, scan and bloods, nuchal measurement was between 1.4 and 2mm (depending on position) they think baby is due earlier than my LMP date, but i'm ignoring this as i think it'll turn up when it does and as two friends were almost two weeks late each, I'm not going to start to fret about abything else! i called the hosital today, as couldn't wait for a letter, and they confirmed that with bloods, that chance of downs was around 1 in 4455, and as someone else has mentioned they don't suggest doing anything else until you get to 1 in 150.
I've been inspired to hunt down a tankini, and have also taken the opportunity to order a dress or two, we have a couple of weddings coming up. i'm also feeling inspired to cook flapjacks, although fear that too much flapjack will make getting into the tankini less appealing!
my lovely DH and i are watching the rugby (or rather he is whilst i catch up on the news here).
as for rapidly expanding etc, my boobs are certainly bigger than normal, thansk to carrie i bought a bravado bra from john lewis, although i think also available on the NCT shop, and as so so comfortable bought two more. they come in small medium and large and have lots of back anc strap adjustment opportunities, so i'm hoping will last throughout. as for my stomach, it's suddenly in last two days got huge, I thought possibly just bloated, but having 'solved' (apologies TMI) that problem i'm still looking quite pg, so think having now got positive news will have to tell people at work, i'm not just on the pie diet, and that there is a reason for my ever expanding waistline!
sorry for long post...

Good luck for your surgery, bunnyfrance, hope it all goes really well and you are feeling much better when you get back to us on Tuesday :)

littlemisslozza - did you have the ELCS because of the forceps delivery or for a different reason? I'm pretty sure I could get some good help if I do have an ELCS (DS will be 20mo), my MIL will be very helpful and I have a very helpful good friend close by too. I just feel a bit stuck between a rock and a hard place... I am being offered major abdominal surgery because of the potential of much worse damage to a different area of my body... part of me wants to ask for option 3 please, the baby magically appears in my arms with no damage to anything :o

Have put scan pics on profile now :) Bit of a difference between 8 weeks and 12 weeks!

Wouldn't that be lovely lifeofkate!!! I had an ELCS because I had shoulder dystocia with DS1, there's a significant enough risk of it occurring again and the consultant felt that with me being quite petite (and DS1 was a big baby for me) I had a good chance of being one of the unlucky ones it happened to again. It was ultimately my decision and DH and I agreed that a VB was potentially more risky than an ELCS (which carries lower risks than an emergency one if you are fit and healthy). We felt lucky DS1 was healthy, not worth chancing it a second time. ELCS was brilliant, I was never in any pain during or after. Slightly nervous for the spinal but they keep you talking. Felt normal after a week, driving again after two weeks (same as after DS1's birth). Had to be careful not to lift DS1 for 6 weeks, or over do it but could get on as normal really. Damn shame not doing the hoovering for six weeks though.....! DS2 breastfed with no problems from the start, compared to poor DS1 who was so battered and bruised it took the best part of a week to get feeding established. It is a tricky decision, I didn't take it lightly but it turned out to be one of my best decisions. Lots of advice on threads on here about it too which may help.

(Hope I haven't scared any first-timers, sorry, shoulder dystocia is not common, it's unlikely to happen to you).

wheresmytractor we haven't told DS1 (3.5) yet. We plan on telling him soon, it just seems such a long time for a 3 year old to wait if you know what I mean? A few of his friends are having new babies over the next couple of months so we've been discussing it a bit. I asked him if he'd like a new baby brother or sister, and he said yes, he would like another brother, and he would call him Daddy! Hmmmm. Then he said, actually I think I'll have a sister next, so I told him that you can't choose which he was fine about thankfully!

I think I say this every time I get on here, but OMG - what a busy thread! I've just had to read 10 pages to keep up! Aren't we going to have to have another new one soon? Best start thinking of titles...
So many congrats on good scans everyone. Just had a peek at yours, LifeofKate - awesome!
I hit 12 weeks this Wed just gone but still have to wait until a week on Monday for the scan - this is killing me. Definite small bump there though now, and boobs the like of which I've never seen (am v flat chested size 8 usually... DH is loving it. Spemds most of his time prodding them!). Don't know why I keep being terrified that they'll tell me it'll be an mmc when I get to that scan though as all seems to be progressing as it should, and my mum says her first pg with me was exactly like I'm experiencing. We're having the nuchal and bloods as I just could not cope with a disabled baby. We're also definitely finding out the sex as well, I'm the most impatient person I know anyway! We're convinced its a boy anyway. DH came up with Napoleon as a name last night !!
Good luck to everyone with scans this week. Will continue on long slog to our date... this last 12 weeks have been the longest of my life!

JenniL1977 I know exactly what you mean about feeling terrified that they'll say it's a mmc. Like you say everything seems to be progressing just as it should be but as my scan gets closer and closer (Tuesday pm) I'm just getting more and more scared.

Thanks sleepyowl it's just doing my head in that I'm being such a stresshead about this - I'm normally so "que sera, sera" about everything. Then I stress myself out that the stress hormones aren't good for the baby, and I end up in a spiral of anxiety! Honestly.

JenniL1977 and sleepyowl - I'm with you. My scan is also booked for Tuesday PM and I'm getting progressively more nervous as time passes by. One of my closest friends and someone I work with both had mmcs, each finding out at the 12 week scan, which terrifies me. I wish when you get pregnant that memories of other's experiences were miraculously wiped from your memory! If only!

Definite little bump now though, which I can see when in my swimming costume and even DH agreed he could see last night, which makes it so so much more real and exciting! Can't wait until Tues.

Littlemisslozza - Ah, shoulder dystocia, I think I would have made the same decision in your situation! Will be having a serious think over the next few months.

We won't be telling DS as such, as he's not even sure what a baby is at the moment, he'll just be too little to be able to get his head round it. I did indulge in a really lovely book though, it's called There's Going to Be a Baby and I have to admit to a few tears when I read it

Talking of tears, is anyone else very emotional? I'm not used to this at all, I'm normally very level headed and was the total opposite of emotional when pregnant with DS. This time it's a different story and I have now cried at a range of things on the tv, including a scene of some wild dolphins jumping about in the sea

Hello everyone, I have been about lurking and reading some of people's posts, lovely to hear the good scan news and everything.

I received a letter today telling me my ESA benefit has been stopped, so I need to appeal. I'm tired, I'm scared of back pain (sharp pains that are thoroughly painful and nasty) and upset. Angry too, but there is nothing I can do. I'm sick of dealing with those people, and just want to complain to them.

I have visitors over today but don't feel up to it, although I'm glad they are coming.

Feeling sorry for myself today so hopefully I'll have something more positive to post about later! I've been gently prodding and stroking my bump a lot, hopefully the bean is doing well in there.

hello ladies, thanks for all the baking ideas. I.ve gone for brownies and they are currently baking away. However i had to wrestle the bowl and spoon from dd who is now covered. :) lifeofkate my dp was like yours the first time i was preg but when i went into labour he was fab and can.t get enough of dd. He told me he felt out of his depth last time as there was nothing he could do. So i used to give him tasks and ask for help. Which i never do and he has been great since.

sorry just realised you were talking about your ds not your dh lol

I had shoulder dystocia first time too and was able to have a normal delivery second time around. In fact I was even supported in planning a homebirth (although I ended up going in because my waters didn't break). Both my dcs were exactly the same weight (9lb7oz) and once my waters had broken the rest was easy. I was home within 3 hours because I didn't have to wait for the postnatal checks as my GP was already planning to do them as part of the homebirth. Just wanted to add another experience, to show that it doesn't have to be ELCS after shoulder dystocia. Obviously everyones circumstances are different and we all have to weigh up the risks. I was pretty convinced that mine was because I laboured on my back with an epi first time and I couldn't feel to push, so I was prepared to take the risk.

just wanted to ask has anyone else got like a downwards pressure kind of feeling, to the pelvis area? i feel this is ridiculously early to be getting any of this but i walk alot and sometimes am noticing this
i had it with my 2nd but towards the end, so i presumed due to weight of baby etc (cos he was big) but i dont remember having it with my 1st even at the end, and now at 13 weekish the baby is tiny so doesn't make any sense
is it just me or anyone get what i mean?

Firawla could just be your pelvic floors??

MrsVidic - I was a little confused, DH has no trouble getting his head around it and has probably got a better grip on things than me :o

Firawla - could it be your pelvic floor feeling like that? As in, it has got a little stretched with each pregnancy, so is taking less weight to feel funny with each pregnancy?

Do excuse me, about to have a little argh!!! moment! Have just posted scan pictures on facebook to announce pregnancy and they'd not been there half an hour before an old school friend commented on the album, asking if it was planned or not So she's not only asked quite a personal question, but asked it with an audience of about 100 of my friends and family!!! I haven't replied yet, somebody please give me a witty reply to put her back in her place (bearing in mind that I have both parents and 4 aunts as friends on facebook!) :o

I would just ignore her :) obviously jealous :)

So rude of her!! If u wasn't happy about it u wd hardly be posting ur scan pics on Facebook would u. Altho someone asked me the other day am I pg ( yes I'm showing that much that it's v obv! ) n next q was are u happy abt it :s
Hmm maybe it is pelvic floor Mayb I should do a few more of the exercises to strengthen

I'm def not posting on bookface just in case I have to untell everyone :(