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Due in Dec 05 - thread 10. The one where we all become friends!

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sweetheart · 03/10/2005 16:40

A new thread for all us friendly Dec ladies

We sit and we type,
And we stare at our screens;
We all have to wonder
What this possibly means.
With our mouse we roam,
Through the rooms in a maze;
Looking for something or someone,
As we sit in a daze.
We chat with each other;
We type all our woes;
Small groups we do form,
And gang up on our foes.
We wait for somebody
To type out our name;
We want recognition,
But it is always the same.
We give kisses and hugs,
And sometimes flirt;
In PMs (IMs) we chat deeply,
And reveal why we hurt.
We do form friendships -
Yet why, we don't know;
But some of these friendships
Will flourish and grow.
Why is it on screen,
We can be so bold?
Telling our secrets
That have never been told.
Why is it we share
The thoughts in our mind
With those we can't see,
As though we were blind?
The answer is simple;
It's as clear as a bell.
We all have our problems
And need someone to tell.
We can't tell real people,
But tell someone we must;
So we turn to the computer,
And to those we can trust.
Even though it is crazy,
The truth still remains:
There are Friends Without Faces,
With odd little names.

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ebbie22 · 12/10/2005 20:22

I had my done sept,and thought that was bad enough....Sorry but got to go to bed.....Take care all,sh let us know how tomorrow goes,post a pic.......pls dont worryxxx

dramaqueen72 · 12/10/2005 20:56

ebbie, sometimes its not what you are eating but what the baby is taking-iyswim!. so you need the supplements to fix it.

ei23monster · 12/10/2005 21:35

ebbie, wow you must have been feelin rough as your iron level is alot lower than the basic amount that you need for you to be ok!! BTW everyone should be around 11 or higher on their red blood count to be considered at a normal range!! ask your m/w for an FBC test if u aint had one done!! (a bit of nursey knowledge to donate to the conversation!!) anywho glad theyv got u sorted now tho ebbie and you expat! have they put you guys on iron tablets?- eat lots of the dark green veg aswell as it will help boost the iron levels (an help fight the dreaded constipation if you are on iron tablets)
is anyone around?
theres nowt to do around here- dp's watchin supernanny and iv already seen the episode!!
glad you had a good day DQ!!

ei23monster · 12/10/2005 21:52

iv set up a thing on expectnet! yay so everyone feel free to have a wild guess at the flavour/weight of the bub!! the game name is bigtig05 so there ya go!!

ebbie22 · 13/10/2005 09:16

can someone do the link for the epectant thing?Still fel well rough but dd up all night with a cold.....think we are going to have a lazy morning...How is everyone else?

kangel · 13/10/2005 09:18

So the an class has REALLY freaked me out BIG TIME!!!!!!!!!!!! If I was scared before I am blumin petrified now!!! Oh my God I cannot do this!!!

Spent the evening crying - I can't do it! DP took me out to dinner to try and take my mind off things but I ate too much felt sick and then carried on crying!

Why on earth did I get myself into this mess?! Sorry am just so freaked out, hope I don't manage to freak anyone else out!

ninah · 13/10/2005 09:23

kangel, CALM DOWN! you can do it! cos if I can you certainly can. IT@S NOT THAT BAD! the an classes are v cold blooded about it and yes that can freak you out. you WILL BE OK.
Now. what is it you are particularly worried about. The pain? you can get great pain relief. Honestly, the drugs are a real plus in childbirth. The unknown? you will be in good hands with experienced midwives and your dp. Let us reassure you!

sweetheart · 13/10/2005 09:30

yes, lazy morning here to.

Feeling down today also - prospect of scan, hormones, and the fact that dd has been a total little b**ch of late and I'm running out of steam to cope with it!

Had a cry last night too - could do with going back to bed this morning I think!

Kangel - I know the prospect of giving birth is really scary and you don't think you'll be able to do it but you can! Your body is designed for this purpose and it's amazing what it can adapt to cope with. It is truly amazing and you'll be so proud of yourself afterwards.

Thats babies gotta come out and there's really only one way. I promise you will be fine, look at all of us doing this for the 2nd, 3rd and 4th times - I bet we all said once we wouldn't be able to do it to!

It's totally natural to feel worried, but don't worry hun. Your body will take over - you'll just be along for the ride

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kangel · 13/10/2005 09:33

Ninah - it was the whole thing that freaked me out, the tearing, the do's and don'ts. How do women go back for a 2nd time? I must seriously be a wimp!

I have this thing in my head to where I have to be as good as giving birth as DP's ex was (stupid I know) as hers was straight forward with just gas and air. I'm so stubborn that I will refuse anything but gas and air coz if she can do it so can I or I am a failure (not meaning to offend anyone).

Listen to me I sound like a complete twat!

ninah · 13/10/2005 09:43

I never had tearing or anything like that, and I was induced. Friend advised me to rub almond oil into the perineum for a few weeks before but have to say I never got round to this cos p bought salad oil instead lol. Take arnica tablets for a while before to minimise bruising. and childbirth is NOT a competition, if you need whatever it is, have it and don't think twice. dp's ex is just that, an EX! once you think about the moment your child is in your arms all those thoughts will melt away, it simply won't matter. It DOESN't matter! really doesn't how he or she got here. And yes, if it was SOOO awful, we wouldn't be back for more, would we?
are you feeling a bit better?

sweetheart · 13/10/2005 09:43

kangel,

You won't even feel the tearing, there are no real do's and don't - pretty much anything go's and as for your dp's ex - you'll be so focused on what your doing you probably won't give it a second though - and believe me, if you need the pain relief - you'll have it!!!

I survived on gas and ait though and alot of women do so you don't need to worry about that.

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ninah · 13/10/2005 09:44

I mean look at dq, is she a masochist? don't think so! she is on no 4!

ninah · 13/10/2005 09:44

I had lovely, lovely pethidine and could do with a shot right now

kangel · 13/10/2005 09:45

SH - I'm sure your scan will be fine - I was really nervous about mine on Tuesday only to find out that there was no need for another one in the first place and that the woman who done my 20 wk scan was being padantic! Just think you'll get to see him (85%) again and get a much better picture.......and hopefully confirm that its 100% him!!

They told us yesterday the signs that things are going wrong and how we would know that things aren't right - talk about break us in gently - NOT!!!!

I didn't like the fact that its all down to us (me & DP) and they leave us to it until the end and its first come first serve so you get left with a stranger............Maybe these things wont matter when it happens as you just want it out and don't care.

Sometimes knowing too much is worse than knowing nothing.

kangel · 13/10/2005 09:51

Thanks guys - I'm trying to tell myself that it can't be that bad as like you said you wouldn't go back and do it again.

I am still petrified Ninah but have no choice as Santa isn't leaving it under our tree wrapped in pretty paper! I have to do this but I sooooo don't want to go back for next weeks class - one of the other girls looked like she was about to burst into tears there and then.

I could do with a stiff drink right now, milky tea and choccy bics will have to do.

sweetheart · 13/10/2005 09:59

kangel,
I expect they meant they leave you to it if you labour isn't progressing very quickly. They don't just stick you in a room and let you give birth on your own - and if it's anything like my labour they were in the middle of training mindwives and about 100 people had a good old gander at my nether regions!!!

If you don't think the anti natal classes are helping then don't go. You can get all the info you need on line or ask your mw. I only went to 2 of my classes because being so young I felt totally out of place. No one can ever properly prepare you for your labour because it will be totally different to anyone else's!

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ninah · 13/10/2005 10:10

I totally agree too much diffuse information can be a bad thing. Like browsing a medical dictionary - scary! and mostly irrelevant

ninah · 13/10/2005 10:10

I totally agree too much diffuse information can be a bad thing. Like browsing a medical dictionary - scary! and mostly irrelevant

kangel · 13/10/2005 10:15

Exactly Niniah!! I am a worrier at the best of times!!

SH - 100 people!!

Thanks guys you are helping me calm down!

ninah · 13/10/2005 10:16

so agree! if an classes are freaking you out, don't go! the only one I found useful was the tour of the delivery suite, so I knew where I was going. Rest - roleplay involving a cushion as the placenta - was daft tho I did enjoy seeing p being made to act the part of a Caesarian patient

ninah · 13/10/2005 10:17

yes, her nethers are famous
they put a plaque up afterwards ....

Nemo666 · 13/10/2005 10:18

aww kangel hun. I remember feeling like you when expecting adam. I was petrified but when it comes down to it its amazing how your body takes over. I was induced with Adam and had 'grazing' but none of it mattered because here I am 2 yrs later getting ready to do it again. The one thing I would recommend is going to the breathing classes it got me through quite a bit of adams labour as it was something to focus on. If you are not comfortable take any medication they offer...lol

honestly though it is a strange but lovely experience.

SH hope you are relaxing a little and scan confirms 'he' is ok..lol

kangel · 13/10/2005 10:29

Lol Ninah!!!

Thanks Nemo, they don't do breathing classes anymore, apparently they are useless as women spend most of their time hypaventilating (spelt so badly wrong!! )

I'm sure in a few days I will have pushed this all to the back of my mind and have a clearer head - you know what its like when you go into panic mode!!

Nemo666 · 13/10/2005 10:44

kabgle thats mad..it helped me soooooooooo much to do controlled breathing..maybe buy a relaxation tape as its pretty much the same thing.

Also heard they dont use diamorphine anymore which i had with Adam and it was fab..lol

scully · 13/10/2005 10:49

Shame your classes aren't more helpful Kangel, but don't panic too much. At least with our classes, the first one last week started off with straight forward births, tonight's is about if things go wrong. This is my 2nd baby and I still have no idea of what to expect as dd was a caesarian after my waters breaking and 2hrs of labour. Probably why at last week's class I was asking loads of questions and everyone else was quiet, as it's their first
I'd rather have too much information than too little, but I know that some people can be freaked out by that and would rather find out as it happens. Just remember, you don't want to stay pregnant forever do you
Still feeling shattered today, but not as nauseas at least. Went to bed at 8.15pm last night but was woken up by the phone at 10pm (angry) and then by dd at 4.15am.....Had a nice doze in 1st class on the train this morning though - love my 1st class upgrade
Anyone else closer to deciding on names? We still have no idea......& helpfully my friend who I lent my name books to last year, has lent them on to someone else so I still haven't got them back - I've only been pregnant 30wks now!