July 2011 babies - second trimester here we come!

[MadAboutTheBoys]

I was just about to post to say sorry for starting the July thread and then disappearing, then saw that it was all full up! So I thought I would start us a new one.

Hello to all the many many ladies that have joined the July club - it's lovely to see so many of us here. I've been trying to read back through all the old posts, but there are so many, that's partly why it's taken me so long to get back! Have also been having some personal troubles, but that's another story.

Anyway, I'm 12 weeks today and slightly looking forward to my scan on Christmas Eve, but also nervous in case it's not good news. I'm looking forward to catching up with you all again and hearing how you and your bumps are going.

Fab you will have times like this its such a sad situation to be in. Don't feel hard on yourself. Make sure you have good network of people you can speak to who can bring you back up again. I think its very sensible to have an intermediary atm too.

re the milk situation from a cup..none of mine were keen on cups for milk, strange as would drink water and juice from them, so i just let them have it in a bottle for a while.

am feeling rough again, sick and migraines returned. just when i thought i was entertering some form of normality.

Hello all,
I havent been on for ages, not since I was suffering with constant bloody nausea but am pleased to report thats a distant memory now ...well most days lol.

I am 16+6 today and have had an interesting week so far !I had quite a bit of spotting all over the weekend so mentioned it at my 16 weeks MW appt yesterday.
The next thing I know she referred me for an internal scan ( nice )to get it checked. She was really quite lovely actually and has suggested I have another appt in 2 weeks as my blood pressure is slowly creeping up too.
Anyway at the scan the Radiographer asked me if I knew what it was and the temptation was HUGE to say no tell me tell me !! But I had promised DH I wouldnt so told him not to tell me. So he turned the screen away !!!!!!!!!! Aghhhhhhhhhh it killed me lol !!!
Anyway, it turns out I have a low lying placenta that is causing the bleeding. It should hopefully move by my next scan in march ( at 21 weeks ) but if it doesnt I will need another scan at 34 weeks and if it still hasnt moved I will have to have an elcs. I am gutted by that. My first 2 births were fairly quick and DD2 was born in about 2 hours and then I went home lol !!So i was kind of hoping for similar. Fingers crossed it will move.

I havent felt too much yet but def have a bump. Alhtough it isnt solid so i sometimes wonder how much of it is just flab thats been pushed out lol. I mean look at Posh ! She is due July and you would never know

Hi all :)

Fab - I have no idea when it all starts getting through to baby but actually I think its quite common if not normal for pg mums to be quite stressed, even with nothing big going on you have hormones going crazy and worries about the baby and becoming a mother and everything else. WIth DS1 I had an absolute nightmare time, relationship with dp was very on/off at the time (I got pg 3 months after meeting him, we're still together now nearly 9 years later but the first couple of years were very hard work), I ended up in B&B with 2yo dd for the last 4.5 months which was hell on earth and ended up in hospital from the stress. I was diagnosed with Ante natal depression and the MW in the hospital said that actually AND is more common than PND. Not quite sure where I'm going with this now TBH but I think my point was that it must be incredibly common for babies to be exposed to stress hormones in the womb. But listening to feel good music definitely sounds like a good idea. These days I'm mostly listening to Peppa pig, Ben 10 and children arguing

Had my scan, went well, no problems picked up at all The sonographer doing it was training a dr how to do it so was explaining everything in lots of detail and taking a long time over it all which was really nice and very interesting. Couldn't believe how high up my tummy he had to come to look at spine and things, just proves to me that my bump is indeed baby and not all fat and bloating like I was worrying!! And for the first time ever I have a baby that is actually measuring right for dates and doesn't have a disproportionately huge head which is a big relief!! We did find out the sex but I have promised to wait till after school so I can tell the dc before we tell anyone else! Have been getting texts all morning from people asking!

Was wondering if you could give me your opinions on something? I am due on my MIL's 60th birthday. MIL is lovely, we're not especially close or anything but her and dp and the dc are and she is a genuinely nice and very reasonable person. She wants to take us all to centre parcs for a long weekend for her birthday (so me, dp and dc and dp's brother and wife and their dc, I can't stand SIL but thats another story! They have 2 boys the same age as my boys and a little girl due end of April).
I was expecting her to choose the weekend before but no she has proposed we go on the 1st July and come back the 4th. By my 12 wk scan I am due on 30th June and by my dates and 8 wk scan I am due 2nd July. DD was born 6 days late, ds1 was born at 5 to midnight the day before his due date so was 5 mins early and ds2 was born 7 days late.
Centre parcs is only about a 45 minute drive from here so if I've not had the baby it would hopefully be possible to drive back to have it and the plus side would be not having to worry about taking the dc to someone to be looked after! However I have been thinking about a homebirth and not sure how that would work.
If I haven't and don't have the baby till ater then I suppose it could be quite nice being away with lots of family on hand to help with dc and not having housework, cooking etc to worry about for a few days. But I've never been to centre parcs and don't know what its like, is it quite activity driven? Is it possible to go and do very little?!
And if I have already had the baby I don't know if I want to go away and have to be out and about lots and with other people when I still have very sore 'below bits' and probably nipples! But then again with all 3 of mine I have wanted to get out the house and go somewhere and do something pretty much every day. I also got very good at bfing in the sling although didn't try it with a newborn I don't think so not sure how easy that would be. But on the other hand again it would be nice to have dc being entertained by family and not have to worry about normal day to day things and it is only for a few days.

WWYD?!

Pesha, CP Is lovely, obviously very very child and family orientated we have been there 2 o3 times and loved it very much, been when pg and with a baby as well.

however i couldn't plan to go anywhere at all over my due date tbh, im quite surprised mil has suggested it? what does dh think?

i have date history like yourself ds1 8 days late, ds2 3 days early and ds3 6days late, so have no idea whatsover when this one will arrive.

The facebook group sounds like a really good idea!

Went to see my midwife today for the results of my Down's screening bloods - 1 in 29000, which I'm pretty pleased about.

I haven't got to see her again until 30th March (25 weeks) - is this normal? I need to get a Mat B1 for work asap which I believe we can get from 20 weeks, does it have to be the midwife who completes this?

We're in the process of buying a house so I hope the baby isn't too aware of how stressed I've been - luckily most of it is done now so I've just got the move to worry about.

Hope you're feeling better Nicola - migraines are miserable at the best of times but must be even worse if all you can take is paracetamol!

Glad your scan went well Pesha, looking forward to hearing what flavour you're expecting once you've told the DC's!

That must be a bit scary Inbetweener, has the spotting settled now? Fingers crossed the placenta moves up.

Fab sending you lots of love and strength to deal with the prize dickhead that is your ex!

Hi everyone

heard the baby's heartbeat at my ob appointment today. Somehow made it feel even more real than the scans! Very reassuring to hear it pounding away.

pesha would your mil consider moving it back even a week?

Hi all,
Havent been on for a while as been so busy with work just not had time
Had my consultant app y;day which was lovely, heard heartbeat and was told that as long as no probs I should be able to have a natural birth, I am just hoping my SPD doesnt come back as if it does I will have to have c-section again.
I was very stressed whilst pregnant with dd who is now 4 as my mum was diagnosed with cancer and had to have all her treatment througout my pregnancy and eventually a 10 hour op the week before due date so am hoping this pregnancy will go smoothly.
xxxx

Quick pop in just to say its a BOY!!
Am now coming to terms with the fact that I am going to be the mother of 3 boys!! Very excited though, little boys are adorable

yes pesha they are!! I am a mum to three boys myself and they are a joy (when they aren't killing each other of course!!) have never wanted it any other way, and im fully expecting this to be another.

Just ordered some more maternity clothes, have two pairs of maternity jeans and living in them and loose tops but feeling very frumpy. Want some maternity skinnies but struggling to get some to fit my short legs.

confuddledDOTcom he's actually 2 and 2 months, when most kids want to walk everywhere, but he is so happy chilling out in his pushchair! He walked for the first 10 mins today and I've found a lovely flat route. So I managed to do a 1 hour walk with virtually no backpain....bliss!

Hypnobirthing sounds really interesting. I had a quick/drug free first labour but I am worried the next one won't be so 'easy' (hmm, OK it wasn't easy, but it was relatively quick). I'll check out those websites. Has anyone done a course? Worth doing? I am interested, but skint :(

Pesha that's a tough one. Personally, I wouldn't plan anything away from home after 37 weeks. I had to visit my grandad last time at 37 weeks as he was taken ill and sent to hopsital, but I came straight back that day.

Nicola I was pleasantly surprised by the maternity range in H+M yesterday! I bought a few bits, including a summer dress for £7.

Fraochsmum feeling flutters is very exciting :) Mine have got more obvious going from 17-18 weeks!

Fab the intermediary is a great idea, right now you should only have to worry about yourself and the baby.

pesha I am wondering something similar - whether to go to a friend's wedding 5 days before my EDD. I think I might try and go, provided nothing has happened by then :) But then this is my first, so I'm clueless!

nicola I'm short too and bought maternity skinnies from DP's last week. Might be worth a look?

Hi ladies, glad we are all well! So much to catch up on!

Fab, I am so sorry to hear about your partner. It is awful behaviour and completely unacceptable. My dh has had some pretty impressive freaking out moments ? he has a child from a previous relationship who he unfortunately has had no contact with for over 2 years and he turned to me one evening over something really minor (pointless argument about washing up or something) and said, ?I?ve left one wife and child already so I know how easy it is.? Curiously I think this was the day after we found out the sex. He calmed down later and apologised and said he didn?t mean it and that he had freaked out and panicked big style. DH has bi-polar so I have a pretty high tolerance for his ?behaviour?. He has been messing with his meds, there is a job ?situation?, the baby on the way and we only recently moved house so I put it down to a major stress trigger but it has seriously shaken me. However, friends have told stories that make me think partners freaking out might be relatively common ? albeit not quite as extreme as some. Clinging to positives...?!

I don?t know the details of your situation and I know that every situation is different. I really hope I don?t sound patronising ? it really isn?t my intention! Anyway, regardless, everything will work out and I?m sending you massive hugs. PM if you ever want a chat or to talk about craft! :)

It?s lovely to read about all the fluttering ? Button you made me laugh! I?ve still not had anything discernable and I?m now 19 weeks :( Damn placenta. Inbetweener I hope your placenta is behaving?? It must be so scary.

Confuddled I hope you and your family is feeling better? ? you sound like you?ve been having a rotten time. I?m definitely up for Facebook but could someone tell me if it's possible to join groups without it showing? I?m not ?out? on FB yet so wouldn?t want a notice on my profile if I can help it.

Pesha congratulations on a boy! Center Parcs is great for children and you don?t have to do anything if you don?t want to but I went a couple of years ago (to CP Longleat) for a long weekend and had to leave early unexpectedly and it was really difficult! You park your car a long way from the accommodation in a secure area and you can drive to the chalet and then they run a shuttle service on arrival/departure day but on other days there is no way of getting to the car park except on foot (and it was miles!) and even when I got there I had to get ?permission? to have the gate unlocked to get my car out! I am sure that if you were in labour they would be very helpful but it has been a long standing joke amongst the friends that were there that weekend and we refer to it as Coldizt!

Hi to everyone else I?ve not name-checked ? stay healthy xxx

Hi again everyone! Thanks again for your messages, they do really cheer me up. Funny how people I've never met before can help!

We might be finally getting somewhere, albeit haltingly. It seems he wants to be around for the birth and will be telling his work (finally!) so that he can get 2 weeks leave. I've explained I don't think him staying in my house will be very relaxing for me so he'll have to get a hotel room

Went to my first pregnancy Yoga tonight. Anyone else doing that? I've never done yoga before but it wasn't strenuous at all! We also got a talk from an Osteopath which was very interesting. I've never even thought of seeing one and was a bit unsure what they do tbh. He said that he realigns babies' skull if needed, especially after a difficult birth. I didn't realise that in a normal birth babies have enough adrenaline running in their system to kill an adult! Just goes to show how stressfull it is on the baby I suppose. Anyway he said sometimes baby is born with a massive headache if it's a hard birth and he can step in to stop any intensive crying or just to check if the mother is at all concerned. I thought I should mention it as I saw someone (sorry not to name you!) had mentioned SPD - he said they can treat that too. Apparently they are accredited and so are controlled by the same board as Doctors for malpractice etc, which I also didn't realise.

Anyway - 'nuff of me rambling on! Hope that has enlightened some of you without being preachy. Thought it was nice to know there is an alternative if the baby cries continously after birth and the GP does the usual shrug

I'm feeling quite positive at the moment. Hope everyone else is too :)

Pesha I'm in a similar situation where my mum is trying to arrange a date to get married a month before or a month after I'm due. Both ways I think it's complicated with a 4 hour drive to get to her house! I'm trying to persuade her otherwise, but she is in her own mindset really! However Centre Parcs is good fun for the children, we've been loads with my husband's 3 children. There is also the opportunity for you to just wander around the forest if you want to relax and normally a nice spa and pool relaxation area. If it's only 45mins away you should be fine.
spannerPants I don't have another appointment now with MW until 25 weeks either, it does seem like a long time doesn't it, but I guess we have our 20week-ish scans in the middle so I'm trying to be reassured that at least I'm going to see baby again!

So glad you are feeling so well Fab! We don't have yoga down here, but does sound lovely. I'll go to aquanatal today - loved it first time round!

If I was in your situation Pesha I think I would be saying that I couldn't go. I also think it a wee bit selfish of her to expect that you would go, although it is a nice idea for everyone to be away together. Could they possibly take your dc with them and if you are feeling up to it, join them? I have never been to CP btw, but know how it feels to be full term Congrats on the boy btw!
Firstbaby that's another dilema! I was a bridesmaid at 20 weeks and just made sure I sat down often (still got lovely swollen ankles tho!), but chose not to attend a wedding at 35 weeks - the church was 4 hour drive from us, then the reception venue a further 1 hour away. If she takes that into consideration it might not be too bad. Still, I was doing 600 miles a week driving with DD a month before due date!

MissL that is an incredibly nasty thing to say and I hope you're not too shaken by it

Cara I did the course, which only cost us £20 and would have been refunded if we returned the materials. I didn't really use it I have to admit I wasn't sure I was in proper labour or not, so just had a bath and went to hospital when I felt I was 'established' - apparently this is how it feels when you are fully dilated...anyhoo the mw got a good laugh at my tens machine etc packed in the case. However, I'm sure it would work for many people, particularly in the early stages.

Fingers crossed for you inbetweener!

That sounds very stressful emmy, hope this one is much more peaceful for you xxx

Pesha Firstly congratulations on your 3rd boy. I'm fully expecting to come on here on Tuesday night and say the same thing I love my boys and would be very happy to have another. As for going to CP, I personally wouldn't but then I have quick labours and also not sure about being around so many people when ready to pop. I'm sure you'll find the best solution for you though.

Hi
Thanks fraochsmum, fingers crossed it will be less stressful this time although getting stressed as still cant feel this one move. On the other baby websites 2nd time mums keep going on about how they have been able to feel baby move from about 15 weeks and I have nothing yet, just wish it would give me a huge kick so I knew everything was ok.

Fingers and Toes crossed for you Inbetweener.
xxxx

im all excited i've ordered my pram!

well not strictly my pram, as im getting a carrycot to use on my micralite superlite but once outgrown wanted a bug bee...just ordered one!

Oooh yay! Go nicola! I ordered some new fabric covers for mine today so I can cheer it up a bit for the summer. Am resisting playing with it until then so I can spend hours changing the materials all around and get used to the kung-foo opening kick

How was aquanatal fraochsmum? The nearest one to me is a town away and I can't be buggered to go...it probably would be worth it seeing as I appear to do the yoga positions lounging around the house, so they aren't really what I was expecting as exercise!

Looking at names today. Ex has issues with most of the ones I like because they remind him of strippers he has known. Nice. Now I'm paranoid I'm going to give her a name that reminds him of baby oil and latex Anyone out there doing similar already, or already have a name set? Not asking to share if it's secret but just wondering if I'm in over drive!

Got a birthing ball yesterday....bliss! I felt so heavy when I got off. I already have the sense of heaviness, maybe the body remembers from first time round? Lolita my OH had major freakouts both before and after our son was born. He wouldn't look after him on his own until he was well over one as he said he couldn't handle the crying! It was tough but at least I know what to expect from him this time round.

i couldn't have gone for a fourth if my dh wasn't hands on with the dcs he's great with them, gets up in the night and does everythign that i do without blinking an eye. I guess im really like my first husband wasn't like that at all!!

I'm also well on my way with our pram. Our Creatis from last time is still fine and I won a Windoo carry cot last night on Ebay - only used twice for 29.99! Bargain. Just need the wheels and seat now.

Re names, I'm getting lots of 'useful' ideas from the children... And then ignoring them!

So far for a boy we're quite liking Levi. Not everyone's cup of tea I'm sure but I like it and that's what counts! As for girls... I'm currently stumped.

The urge to find out the sex is getting stronger. At least then I'd be able to discard one lot of names. But it'd be the first of 4 that I'd have found out for so I'm reluctant!

Buttonmoon I'm jealous you got a windoo carrycot that chep. I have a loola already and just need the carrycot for it.

I must admit I was a bit ! I kept expecting someone else to bid so I had upped my max bid by quite a lot but nobody did!

I loved my Loola last time but I didn't have a windoo then. I had a borrowed basket but I'm thinking a windoo would be worth it as I walk to school a lot and babies sleep so much better when cosy.

I'm also thinking that it will be worth it in the winter - can just layer cardis and blankets rather than using snowsuits etc so much easier to deal with when in hot shops then out in the cold again...

Picking it up on Monday night - am so excited!

Hi ladies, 20 weeks so halfway today, yay!!! Ive got my scan on Tuesday and i am so torn as to whether or not to find out the sex I cannot think of a single boys name that i like and only one girls.

As i have posted before i was having a hard time coming to terms with the pg (its my first and unexpected) but now im most definately feeling movement i feel the complete opposite and am very excited. Yesterday i was in a lecture (mature student retraining) and baby was dancing around for an entire hour. I was smiling from ear to ear, a nice little private joke between me and baby.

My OH is still a bit jittery and we dont talk about baby much but hes coming round to it. It must be difficult for the men at our stage as they cant feel the moving yet and i personally still have absolutely no bump whatsover so i still look the same as before. I have a feeling i am going to have a bump explosion in the next few weeks, best get buying some baggy tops.

I hope everybodies ok and has as much energy as i do, i feel like i could run a marathon!