Feb 2011 - The turkeys are getting fat...so are we!!!

[WanderingSheep]

Tell him you miss the intimacy and would like him to give you shoulder rubs/foot rubs/whatever makes you feel closer instead. Tell him that 'back to normal' might take quite some time as you could be sore or bleeding for a while and you may be put off by the little one snoring at the side of your bed. I know how you feel knitta.

knitta - even if he doesn't fancy you, he shouldn't have said as much. IMO, he needs to suck it up and make an effort at some form of intimacy, even if it's not sex. Obv you can't force him but does he know it's putting a strain on your relationship?

Im not sure,cos dh says he still fancies me but seems reluctant to come any where near me,i think id rather he was honest!I have to say that even my ridiculous libido has finally calmed down,i can hardly move let alone shag Not that i want to at the moment,i have been on my own with dd for days now even tho i have felt terrrible today myself.He went to play footy last night after work and today is watching it.I said it was ok but could he please be home on time or early as i needed some supplies such as paracetamol and a magazine and something for tea like soup.He came back an hour late!i told him that i hoped he got ill and that when i have had the baby i will be frequently leaving him alone with the kids while i go out.Rational eh?So i for one wonmt be losing any sleep if he doesnt touch me when he returns haha

Thanks tad you make it sound much more civilized, I was planning on raping him tbh...
amer, he's just unbelievable honest and can't help it, even if that means saying yes your bumm does look big on that, but he does it with the best of intentions, such as, getting changed and wearing something more flattering... I'm used to it now and like that, I know where i stand! but you are right I will talk to him about why I've been so horribly moody lately with him.
ledkr am behind you a few weeks so perhaps all this will be highly irrelevant very soon, but I already share your irrationality!

sorry about spelling, but if i correct it it might get reported or used as proof in court.

knitta - I'm probably being overly sensitive about it. I feel like an absolute whale and ended up in tears last week when DH made an innocent comment about how big I'm getting.

hi all , not been on for a few days as DD has a very similar illness to PDR's DS and I have such terrible pile pain that it is waking me up every hour, so have been too knackered to put my computer on .

I had a great result from my placental localisation scan yesterday though - my low lying placenta from 20 weeks is now far enough away from the exit to mean that I am fine for a vaginal birth. Keeping my fingers crossed that wiggles has the same result next month.

Off to the GP for my flu jab tomorrow - I only found out that I should be having it from an article on the local news on Friday evening. I phoned the GP yesterday to ask about it and they weren't sure if I should be given it, so had to look into it and get back to me , as they thought I might be too far along in my pregnancy. The local news tonight was saying that only 28% of the high risk group that includes pregnant ladies had taken up the jab. No great surprise there as no one was told that they needed it!

Am thinking of seeing the GP tomorrow about the piles situation too, as the pain is searingly bad, walking hurts, sitting hurts etc etc

americanexpat A daddy from dd1 school told me I'd gotten really big a few days ago, I nearly whacked him over the head with a High School Musical lunchbox, instead I went home and had a weep hurumph!!

Well dd1 nativity play was a great success, she did really well, even if you could see her mouthing everyone elses lines and miracle of miracles dd2 managed to sit on my knee and not do any "shout outs"!! Only another 2 performances to sit through, even I'll be yawning at the end of it!!

snowangels re flu jab - I got a leaflet with all my bits & pieces at booking appt, but it wasn't mentioned to me since, I asked the midwife about it at 26 week appt and she told me where to get it. At that point I was wavering and asked her for advice, but she couldn't give me any. Had sort of forgotten about it, then had the whole hoo ha yesterday so have booked it for the morning.

To be honest the problem with NI is that the hospitals here don't have the facilities to treat the severe cases so pregnant women or those recently given birth are shipped off to Scotland/Liverpool etc, separated from new baby, family etc, very stressful. At least that's what happened last year. Both dds got the swine flu jab last year as they were under 5 and I didn't give it a second thought. Mr Wiggles was supposed to get it last year as he is front line staff but it never happened!!!

I think we are all incredibly oversensitive at the mo amer, I'm still crying due to the smallest thing, and arguing about the silliest stuff... and re getting big, well, we are (at least i am big time), so stuff them all!

Sbf, sounds terrible! Hope It feels better soon!

Wiggles glad your DD1's play was a success! She sounds really sweet mouthing everyone else's words . I bet you were bursting with pride! It's so lovely to watch them.

I think one way to stop people commenting on your size is to get in there first, iyswim! People will say to me, "oh, when are you due?" and I'll say, "February, yes I know I'm massive!" they don't say anything else then because I think that A. I've said it for them or B. I think they assume that I'm already feeling self-conscious about it so they'll say something complimentary instead, like "oh well, you're looking well!" or "well it's nice and round!"

A Grandma at the school gates told me I was "getting nice and big!" today. I've never spoken to her before apart from the odd "hello" so I think she was just making conversation. She said she didn't realise I was pg! I'm not sure whether that means that she thought I was small or whether she thought I was just fat. I'm hoping the former!

And remember ladies - you are pregnant! You are allowed to be big! You are all doing the most amazing thing that a human can do (IMVHO), you are nurturing a being that is so so precious inside you!

Have a huge slice of cake is what I say!

sbff Sorry missed your earlier post, great news about the moving placenta!!! Fingers crossed for a fellow mover DD1 was fab in her play but while sitting there, trying not to cry, I realised that when new baby goes to school (P1/reception) I will have 3 children at the same school and three different nativity plays to endure enjoy all in the same afternoon, oh methinks wine may be needed

Well done Wiggles dd and sbf's placenta! My gym clothes are leaving a little gap now and it's a little cold for that. Here's hoping I can still get to the gym for the next 4 weeks at least!

Congrats on the placenta!
I got given a car seat last weekend (relieved at not having to choose one and pay for it!) so I think new mattress and some more clothes... nappies..... etc?!?!
knitta thanks for the sling idea - am looking into it right now :) why are they so expensive though?
Also, on the marital relations topic - my DP felt a bit wierd about the whole 'baby inside' thing too, especially earlier on. I can only suggest communicating how you feel (and - TMI alert - remember that sex doesn't have to be penetrative!!). Good luck, am not thinking f you but wishing you all the best

morning all.still feel like shit,been up since 6am but dd did go back to school so its nice to have acouple of childless days before xmas break up friday.
Wiggles dd sounds like she enjoys performing,and thanks for your good wishes the other day.DH is off for 4 days and i ahve been looking forward to getting him to do a few things i havent mangaged over last few days so far tho he hasnt moved off the sofa and is watching tv and reading womens mags,he told me all i ever do is tell him what to do the other day so i am not going to say anything,the lucozade which dd spilt under the sofa 3 days ago can just bloody stay there!!!

I've booked in with the nurse tomorrow to get my flu jab

Santas, get a second hand sling off ebay, there are loads on there for about £20. My ring sling was a present from MiL and when I looked on the website for the instructions I found out it cost $129 . I've no idea why they are so expensive. They are meant to be quite easy to make if you're handy with a sewing machine.

placentas moving? sorry missed that! well done!
I also meant to send good wishes to jack with her twins.
Yay cake! thank you wandering! I deffinetly agree, this the time we should be big and be proud of it.
santas that sling is the (was going to make car comparisons but know nothing about cars...) a very expensive one, but apparently is very very good and since we are only having a sling and not a pram (at least thats our hope...) it has to be good for quite a while, accomodate larger babies later on, etc. If this was not the case I'd go for something much cheaper which you can easily find. MN has a sling comparison page that is quite good.
Finally clicked on 'place order' last night: 5 nappies, 12 reusable wipes and a matress cover... can't believe I'm buying nappies!!!

ear jab was in a very small thing, with tiny needle, i actually didn't feel it.

i have had jack from my pil's i am so shocked and pissed off,it is their first gc to and they are quick enough to be inviting themselves down to stay a few days after my section
At my baby shower she must have felt a tool cos i was getting lovely gifts and a nice sum of money from my mum,she asked me later if there was anything i needed,of course we had it all so i just muttered "baby gros from next" ill get those she said,They are 11 pounds!!! I bouight them myself out of spite and told her.
Any way for all of you who know the story so far-my ds is sadly splitting with his gf so will be coming home-cue x factor music-so i have no spare room.Hallelujah!!!

knitta - what brand of nappies did you buy (washable, I'm assuming)? I'm planning to buy a trial kit from the council (£15) with 5 different nappies, see how it goes and which type works best, then switch to washables once we get the new baby situation under control.

I'm usually quite confident about my pregnant body - I love my bump and feel much less self-conscious than when not pregnant. I had a moment of feeling unattractive and was dwelling on not having had sex in a while (not even any effort on his part). He's been very careful since then to tell me how beautiful I am.

ohhhh ledkr does that mean there's no room at the inn for PIL? . Bad news for your DS though.

I don't mind having a bump (although don't like it when people stare at my tummy and not my face ITKWIM, but I do mind the mahosive double chin that greets me in the mirror every day

TPT (or wednesday as I forgot) is now 10 and 1/3.

We're totally disorganised with baby stuff due to moving in less than 2 weeks - cripes, still haven't really packed for the move . I know we have a fair few packs of nappies which we got on offer and various bits and pieces, but it's all a bit higgldy piggldy. My Mum went through her loft and found loads of my old dresses from when I was a baby/toddler, so my poor little DD will be forced by me to wear all my old pretty dresses (lovely and senitmental for me but probably for DD to have lots of old fashioned stuff!).

Baby/bump doesn't seem to have put my DH off at all yet....but then, he's probably so desperate he doesn't care!

Had combined flu jab this morning, no bother at all, you can all insert your own "you'll just feel a little prick going in" jokes here Although maybe with all the lack of sexual relations going on it mightn't be that funny!!!

Right off to watch "Bethlehem is buzzin'" again this afternoon and again tonight!! Bloody children, anyone would think Christmas is about them

Angels I think that's so lovely that your mum has kept some of your old baby clothes! I'm sure your DD would look lovely in them as I imagine that baby clothes don't change too much.

Does anyone else's baby feel really low? I feel like when I'm walking, my baby could just slip out! It feels weird. I don't know whether she's lying on my bladder, or what, but every so often she'll move while I'm standing and it feels like something's going to go "pop" and it hurts a bit - well not hurts, just like an "ooh that was weird" twinge. Today I felt like I was waddling on the school run. I don't think I was but my hips feel really heavy - not painful as such, just...strange! Sorry, I feel awful talking about it knowing what some of you are going through with SPD and vomiting etc. It just feels odd!

Sbf, I missed the bit about your placenta! That's brilliant news!

Wandering I have the opposite 'problem' - he's so high! Right up behind my ribs and tickling them! Occasionally kicking. He's so high that some of my, admittedly huge, hipster jeans still did up at 6 months - under the giant bump! (not any more tho)
It's uncomfortable and gets worse at night, and i'm sure it's the reason behind this heartburn I keep getting.
I did hear that they 'drop' in the 36th week or so, so that's good news for me - but where will yours go?
I think that all women, and indeed all babies are so different, that we will all look different carrying [hopeful emoticon]
On another note, my midwife has already warned me about my weight and I've got a big family christmas coming up. What do I do? Dieting is not an option, what exercise can I start now? I have done some yoga and I walk a bit, but that's it (same as pre-pregnancy)

Santa, the only thing I could suggest is not to diet but just try to eat healthily. Plenty of veggies etc...pfft, I need to practice what I preach. Today I have had crisps, 2 wispas and a chippy lunch ! I've been so crap with food lately, I just haven't bothered about being healthy at all!

I've been feeling kicks in the ribs and my bump doesn't seem particularly low. At my last MW appt she was head down but not engaged and I'm hoping to god that that's still the case because I'm not quite 30 weeks yet and I'm terrified of early labour! I know that they can engage and be engaged for weeks before anything happens though.

Oh well, I have a MW appt tomorrow so I can voice any concerns then. It's probably just ligaments and muscles relaxing and stretching and me feeling heavy, which is bound to be the case isn't it! I don't know why I'm panicking - I've had a much better pregnancy than I did with DD. I had constant stomach cramps with her and couldn't walk very far without being in pain, this time has been fine!

If you try a low-GI eating plan (which is effectively what those of us with GD have to do) you will probably find that the weight gain tails off. I only gained about 5lb in the third trimester last time. But overall try not to worry too much. I'm surprised they are even monitoring your weight gain -- no one has ever shown the slightest interest in mine (and indeed the only time I've been weighed was at booking-in with this pregnancy when the mw couldn't believe that I weighed nearly as much as I told her I did).

Had a 3D scan today but she was squidged up next to the placenta so they couldn't get any good shots -- am booked in for a rescan on Sunday morning so will see if she's moved by then. She is measuring just on the small side of average which is a novel experience for me as the other two were 90th centile or above.