Jue in June - part 4

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And heres another ladies!!!!

Congrats on great scans mrsbigw and banana

Sounded really tough at that birth barbie - it may have been only a few minutes but I'll bet it felt like hours

Moomin sorry, have just spotted your previous post - oooh next Monday? bet you cant wait!!! I think Im 13 +3 today.

Wow 13+3 that is exciting. Yes mine is next Monday at 10:30. I have taken an AL day at work as i just want to be sooooo excited,or i know i wont be able to face going in if my worst fear occurs. DH has also taken the day off so we get an extra night together too that week :)
i know i will feel so sick with nerves. Already starting to feel anxious

hello all. have no chance of catching up so just a general YAY to everyone who has had good scans and WOWEEEEEEEEEE to the news of twins!
I've been getting a bit stressed out with work and convincing myself that something has gone wrong with this pg so decided to have a bit of a break.
Have finally got my scan date after phoning the hospital to chase (mw had already sent 2 forms and said she would call to check but I am now 11wks and still hadn't heard anything). Anyway, tuns out they misread the forms and thought I was 4 weeks behind so when I phoned up they said they had me booked in for 26th Dec! Am now booked in for 6th when I'll be 13 weeks but am feeling more relaxed just knowing there's an end in sight to the not knowing!
Take care all.

Evening everyone.

Had my nuchal scan yesterday which was 'eventful'. Eventually measurements were taken and my baby is 7.3 cm with the nuchal measurement 1.8mm which i believe is ok for 13+2. Had bloods taken so now waiting for results. As i'm 35 years young next week i'm a little worried but thats nothing new with me seeing as i'm the worlds biggest pessamist.

EDD was moved forward at my last scan from 2 June to 28 May but my ds was born at 31+2 14 years ago and with all my complications its looking like another prem baby for me although not sure how prem.

I'm finding reading this thread easier now as there seems to be more good news than bad - i found it too hard before as there was so much uncertainty.

Although i'm 13+3 i am still very nervous but hoping things will get easier.

I have my first appointment with a consultant on the 1st Dec when I will be 14+4.

Dp & I have decided to pay for a private sexing scan at 16-17 weeks so i will know from 11th Dec if my bean if male or female :o

I've already had 5 scans and cannot possibly wait until my anomaly scan...

Very happy for all you ladies who are feeling better & have had great scan.

Glad you saw your baby & are feeling positive cameli

Is it normal for them to find sex of baby at 16 weeks? Wouldn't mind knowing before Christmas & I could look for bargains in the sales too.

Have a look at this link - www.insightmedicalultrasound.co.uk/m-Pregnancy-Scan-44.html

Oh I think I am going to have to book, especially as DP is away on the day of my 20wk NHS scan, thanks cameli!

I have to ring on Thursday for my 20 week scan date but it will be about 8 January i reckon - i'm just too impatient to wait until then and i will be paranoid again by then so will need some reassurance

It's money well spent if it helps you relax.

I was always told 20 weeks was the norm to determine sex mrsbig

Think my impatience will get the better of me before 20 weeks, the website says they can be 99% sure at 16 weeks, perhaps they have a super scanner or something

Evening ladies! Congratulations to everyone on having nice scans. cameli 5 scans already!!! I detest going to hospital, but feel scans are kind of useful, so go with good grace (and leave smiling inanely at the little photo). AND you are younger than me. I just did an online survey and had to tick the 35-44 box (I felt a bit queasy).

mrsbigw I don't need anything, which is a bit disappointing. I suppose though if I have a summer boy baby I might have to purchase a few little bits (although most of DS's stuff was inherited from May babies...). Yup, I even have 2 cots.

I can't even justify buying any maternity clothes, except maybe because I've worn them out. I have hardly been out of them in the last 5 1/2 years.....

barbie my first birth was utterly horrid. I remember lying there wondering when/if my baby would cry. When she eventually did, I was too ill to hold her, so DH got all the first cuddles. I have to say that the other two births were utterly amazing and lovely and I can hardly wait to do it again.

ooo oooo oooo and I just have to tell someone that my very best friend popped over with his wife of 5 months on Sunday and they are expecting a baby too!!!! (I'm not allowed to tell anyone in RL)

Millie on the other children thing, I'm finding I'm being a bit less patient with DD (3) because I'm in a bit of pain and feeling sick so can't be doing with her going on and on and on, but I tell myself that she's going to need to start getting used to not being the centre of the universe round here, so maybe a slightly tougher stance now will be less hurtful than if it starts when the baby arrives, and she links those 2 changes.

(Just to reassure you, I'm not locking her in the cupboard or anything - it's just that now she gets one calm, rational explanation of why she can't do something and then I snap, whereas before I'd normally try to patiently explain things 2 or 3 times. The biggie is wanting to go and play with her friend next door at 8pm, when we mention bed time. Every bloody evening!)

Oh and as for FB, I am completely planning to announce it to the world after telling the nearest and dearest. It's my main method of communication. I've never been one for having FB friends who I barely know in real life - every time I add someone, I think "would I be happy with this person reading a slightly personal status update", and if yes, they pass. So it's a smaller group and people have heard equally big news from me the same way.

The other way I cull my American FB friends is making offensive comments about Palin. As long as people agree, they stay. I'm not having any daft Republicans in my friend list - how dare they talk about our NHS like that!

Congrats cameli on the scan

I'm not announcing it on FB. I think I'd rather tell the people I really want to know in person/on the phone/by email etc, and everyone else can just find out when they find out.

Did have a slight incident when I had an early mc in August though - my stepbrother (24) went on FB a couple of days after the mc and wrote 'Congratulations to you and DH on the baby news' on my wall. We hadn't told anyone but close family about the pregnancy and wouldn't have wanted it broadcast even if we hadn't had the mc! I ignored it because I knew he would be mortified when he realised, and it was taken down a couple of days later. I brought it up with my dad when I told him I was preggo this time and apparently they'd had a big argument about it and he's under strict instructions to keep shtum this time. Anyway - that's a word of warning about walls! That said, I'm leaving mine open this time - once friends and family know I don't care. No-one from work is on there as I'm pretty new at work and have so far kept it at bay.

Haven't kept any food down for 36 hours now. Breakfast puked, lunch vomited, afternoon bowl of cereals expelled, dinner sicked up, bedtime drink ejected, and today's breakfast is already making me queasy. I am STARVING! Serves me right for having been smug that I'm not a sicky person and wasn't getting bad ms.

That's awful takethatlady

Morning all. Still no bleeding - yay. Feeling rubbish again too yay (?) No projectiles though, sorry to hear about that takethat

Can I have some ideas how to manage a situation? My lovely cousin (meant genuinely not ironically) had a mc this year at 11 wks. Shes my age ie old and wants a family so much, so was heartbroken. It was the first time she had conceived and hasnt managed it since. I am seeing her at christmas at a family gathering and wanted to tell her about my pg beforehand in a sensitive way so was about to email her, even before I'm telling my own mother. However I had a fb message saying how much she was looking forward to the party but was having trouble coming to terms with the fact that her father wouldnt be there (he died about the time she mc) and also that she would have been 8mths by then.
I really should have an idea how to deal with this situation having had so many experiences of mc but I just dont know how to handle it. How would it be best to support her yet warn her about my situation? Also should I tell the rest of the family not to make a fuss of me on the day in front of her? Please give me some of your wisdom xx

Oh jasmine that's so tricky and so awful for your cousin.

I definitely think you should tell family not to make too much of a fuss of you on the day, and I definitely think you need to warn your cousin somehow, but I don't have much wisdom on how.

I think I would go with a simple email because it means there's no pressure on her to react. Could you just say that you're expecting a baby, you wanted her to know first so that she didn't hear it from anyone else, and that you're thinking of her and praying it works out for her too very soon?

Can't remember your history jasmine but am I right in thinking you have had more than one mc? Does she know about that? Perhaps it will give her some hope that things can work out in the end?

I don't know - it's so hard. It sounds like you're lovely and sensitive though so I'm sure you'll handle it the best way. So tricky.

takethat breakfast still in stomach?
Yes I've had 4mcs and she knows that..and again is the only one in the family who does. I think a 'non flowery' email might be the best way - facts and best wishes and leave it at that. TBH I'm pretty sure my mum already knows and if she has guessed then the family grapevine will move very fast. It might seem strange that we havent told anyone yet (apart from all you lot on MN) but with DH away most of the time, its hard to form a plan of communication - we also have to negotiate telling his sister who is also my age and has no kids...but is the bitterest angriest person about that ever and he wants to tell her himself..then there's my MIL who told me I'd never be his wife! - sounds like a nightmare family...it isnt really, just full of 'challenging' ladies! Right, thats given me an idea, I'm actually going to put together a formal plan, spreadsheet style...he he, I'm a geek!

Just read the funniest Tweet ever....'Gillian McKeith claims she is pregnant'...oh gawd, god help us all!

Jasmine I think the idea of telling your cousin first is good. It may be difficult for her at first but she will, I'm sure, be really happy for you.

Have you tried sparkling water for the sickness?? I have found it great... It does sound like you are suffering more than me though ttl

Ps Jasmine my dh would love the speadsheet. He is such a geek!!! :)

takethat Agree with sparkling water - seemed to help, as did tonic water. I mixed it half and half with an Innocent Smoothie....yum

supersunny that sounds like really good advice to me.

Sparkling water - will try to get some. I think DH has gone to work with my purse in his bag, though, so I can't buy anything until he gets home (skiving off today). Thanks neenewps!

Am feeling sorry for myself but actually I've had it pretty easy until now. It's only in the last week I've really had full-on ms and yesterday was by far the worst day. I'm 9+3 so I've got pretty far without anything terrible. This time a week ago I was worrying about having no symptoms!