dec '05- xmas babies! arent they great!!

[ei23mummy]

hey girlies!!
new thread for a new week!!
with our heads held high and our bumps pushed out we can happily say sod 'em to all those grumps who think crimbo is a bad time for new babies!!
whaddya say??
yay to our xmas bubs!!

expat can you call your midwife and speak to her? sounds like a home birth might be your very thing, and also during that conversation you could tell her your no coming into the surgery anymore. maybe she can see you less but at home? mine can I know.

actually despite it all I feel fighting fit! it has its lonely moments but I have good friends rl and you guys and to be honest it's a lot less hard work concentrating on just ds and me! he has stopped reimbursing me half nursery fees though, so that cd be quite a bummer, don't doubt for one minute I'll copy one way or another even if I have to ask them to send him an invoice direct. Bring it on!
dq if you think you're the one flying off the handle can you do an olive branch? the thought of one would choke me atm!
the reason I showed up to docs y'day was really cos I felt I'd been giving so little thought to Goldilocks over the past weeks and I owed him/her a checkup! so not for any logical/medical reason, and I still 'need' blood test for aneamia and wee test for god knows what. I am the least aneamic person you KNOW, so hanging on to all my blood cells thanks!

gosh - expat, that is awful that your empolyers have put you in this situation where you fel you have to argue for time off. I'm not 100% certain on the law in Scotland but in England what they are doing is higly illegal - it's discrimination agaist you.

I know it's not important to some people, especially as your not fussed about the appointments anyway but if I was being treated like that at work I'd be incredibly outspoken about the fact they were breaking the law.

hard to do an olive branch ninah, tho i always over react I did have a point -even tho dh thinks its a ridiculous one. and he has a cooling off period....when he comes home tomight he will either be in a come here give me a hug mood or am still cross mood and i can take it from there.

s/h thankyou. I am always on here moaning about something tho. I'm actually quite nice in rl!!!

have just discovered bloody dd1's lunch box on fridge still. that girl is driving me NUTS shes so ditzy. so now will drive 15minutes to drop it off!!!!! speak to you all later.

lol DQ - your quite nice in un-rl too you know! I don't think your always moaning and I'm sure no one else does either.

Could you perhaps say to your dh something like
"I know I flew off the handle and lost my temper and I'm sorry but I am still concerned about the point I raised and I'd like to try talking about it more calmly"

That way you have sort of appologised for being over hormonal but he knows your still serious about the point your argued over?

Thanks girls! You lot are amazing!
I came on here this morning to moan about how damn angry and annoyed i am feeling all the time at the moment with absolutely everyone AND have realised i am normal! Agree that these pregnancy hormones are horrid! Cant cope with anything at the moment. Have just cried down the phone to tuble dryer service people cos have had a phonecall saying they cant come today as arranged! They have already tried to fix my machine 5 times and im fed up! Now have wet washing everywhere and heating on and am getting a cold! THANKS INDESIT!! After sobbing to them they have agreed to go away and ring me as i am now priority!!
Have put mindees to bed cos i feel very close to losing it and need to calm down for an hour so am off to rest!!Mind is racing with issues that would normally be small but to me are huge mountains and i dont have the energy or patience to deal with them and i also cant stop thinking about them! Need to scream!!
Slept in spare bed last night again but DH came and gave me a hug goodnight and i started another row by asking if the only reason he was hugging me was because he felt guilty and hugging me dont make things ok! I know im being unreasonable but cant stop myself!

Oh no, not you too Bonkerz. Sounds like you need a break from things, it's a good job it's the weekend coming up.

DQ, I hope he comes in & gives you a hug so you are OK for the weekend.
You are so not always on here moaning, that position belong to me!

oi, george it's MINE! wanna fight

PMSL Ninah,

Only a few months to go and the Dec ladies finally snap!!

ohhh I like a good fight - can you wait whilst I grab a cuppa so I can put my feet up and watch

Now come on girls, lets not fight with each other! Who knows of any double glazing salesmen/ Inland Revenue Bosses/ Tax Credit Auiditors we can ring and gather for our meet? Now that will be great for stress relief!

Have managed an hours sleep and feel calmer. Am gonna go cook something nice for lunch and put TV and let mindees have FREEPLAY!!!! Thank goodness for the weekend but DH is home so will either argue all weekend or he may come home tonight with flowers and offer me a relaxing massage!! LMAO!!!!!!!!

OH and second the bit about doctors and midwives being useless most of the time! Rang today to get results of GTT and full blood count. Blood count is ACCEPTABLE (WTF??) and GTT results not back yet, have one result and not other so i pointed out that i am obviously OK and receptionist said not necessarily! So pointed out that if i have gestational diabetes then really waiting 10 days for results isnt too good is it! Have to ring monday to find out 2nd results!!

Ok, Ok, Ninah, I'll share the top moaning spot with you.

Flowers, what are flowers Bonkerz Haven't seen any of those for ages.
I didn't realise you had to wait for the results of the GTT test, thought they were instant - Duh!!

Bonkerz - not sure I should say this but I had my GTT test a couple of weeks ago and I had to wait 1 hour for the results. 10 days is really bad!!!!!

OMG YOU LOT CAN TALK..LOL

Ninah your P sounds like hes being an arse,get the nursery to invoice him hun

Expat agree with SH that its illegal here for your work to penalise you so try and look into it. I know you cant afford to upset boss but at same time they cant take the p*ss and you would have a good case for tribunal.

DQ hope things are ok with dh tonight hun. Same to bonkerz too.

It is definetly hormones with the anger etc I was having a good sob last night down the phone to someone from the bank who phoned to ask if I had £300 to put my account back in the limit..errr if I did mate I wouldnt have gone over..sigh So of course by time Dh came home I had Adam in the bath and I was cleaning the bathroom absolutely whinging..lol Felt better after tea and a couple of browniesAlso getting annoyed at lack of response from tax credits as our finances are soo sh*t at the min...lol

hey ladies. thanks for being so lovely, I KNOW i moan alot tho, i sometimes re-read my posts and think oh brilliant I'm grumbling again!
I hope dh comes home happy to george. obviously I still love the bloke heaps because I'm quite miserable today without my daily phone calls and morning cuddle.
s/h if i went to appologise like that he would say (andI know this from experience!!) 'you cant just appologise for one time, you are always unreasonable............' and off he would go.
maybe he has a point, but maybe so do i sometimes.

bonkerz I'm sending you cyber hugs, because it sounds sad in your world too. thats exactly how i feel btw -every little thing is suddenly HUGE to me, such a big deal.
also, if I'm really honest, i find this time in pg quite restrictive........like its closing in somewhat? I cant sign up for a college course (like i often do) I cant make plans far ahead, i cant do everything i want....does that make sense? or do I sound totally buggered. of course i want the baby, and catn wait for him/her to be here, but its also abit scary.

dh has just rung me........he was very curt but i guess that he rang at all was a start.
thing is I KNOW i say it all wrong and I know I'm a bloody nightmare, but somewhere along the line it all comes down to me saying sorry, him 'forgiving me' and my point getting lost.
do they do course on how to say what you mean without flipping your lid? (and if they dont could they?!)

courseS I mean

ok its is soooooooooo hormones...am sitting here crying becuase MIL who is very lovely and knows we are skint has just told me she has bought balloons and birthday cake to do a tea at hers next sunday...feel rubbish cos I cant afford to to buy that for adam. Also we are supposed to be taking him to see thomas tank on sunday as his present but I dont know if we can and now dhs parents want to come and mil is talking about eating meal there etc when I am thinking can throw together ham sandwich and crisps so dya out would only cost £20...just hate the fact our money is soo rubbish and its thanks to the bloody inland revenue

Dq yes that course is called anger management..lol

to having to need anger management course! thought they were for terrible violent men? oh fabulous. how awful.
nemo, I have lots of cheap recipes for cakes, would that help? I'm so sorry money is tight and being such a nightmare right now. here too, if thats any consolation.
its a massive build up of pressure christmas/baby countdown, not wonder we are all falling apart.

DQ - I know what you mean about pregnancy closing in on you. I'm so fed up of being pregnant atm! Coupled together with the last pregnancy I have been at this "bean cooking" for a year now and I'm fed up of it and ashamed though I am to admit it - what I really want at the moment is a Vodka and a ciggie

Could you spend the afternoon writting down what you want to say to your dh. It might help you order your thoughts so you can put across a well thought out argument without loosing your temper.

Nemo - hugs hun, sorry your money is so tight atm. Can you either tell mil she can't come to Thomas or tell her you were planning on doing a picnic type thing. After all it is your sons b'day, don't let her take over.

The fact she has done a cake and that is good for you - it means less stress for you right now. If you want to do a cake could you not bake one - you seem to have enjoyed cooking the brownies

lol its not the cake I am glad she has got him one as she has got a thomas tank one but its the fact im gutted it wasnt me who was able to buy it...probably sounds like a silly moan.

She isnt taking over wiht thomas day out either just wants to be part of it. As dh said she will probably end up paying for us as she is like that.

Think the other reason I find it all sad is that my family [apart from my little sis] are not interested. Obviously a lot has gone on put he is the only grandchild and they havent even phoned to see if we are doing anything or shown any interest...again stupid as out of choice I wouldnt have them involved but still annoys me that they dont bother..grrrrrrrrr

I also agree that the xmas build up with baby is putting a lot of pressure on. I am ashamed to say that a couple of weeks ago I was fretting so much over money I asked dh if we should put the baby up for adoption as I dont know if we can physically afford to look after it