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dec '05- xmas babies! arent they great!!

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ei23mummy · 19/09/2005 16:13

hey girlies!!
new thread for a new week!!
with our heads held high and our bumps pushed out we can happily say sod 'em to all those grumps who think crimbo is a bad time for new babies!!
whaddya say??
yay to our xmas bubs!!

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dramaqueen72 · 29/09/2005 23:00

my dh is a stupid bast*d really. he just wouldnt stop it tonight -being a bast*d tonight and I could feel this rage inside me. I have just ranted and raged for hours. and finally told him to leave tomorrow.

Nemo1977 · 29/09/2005 23:01

whats happened hun

dramaqueen72 · 29/09/2005 23:03

maybe I should email you, or start another thread.....really not very well mannered to go on on the lovely due in dec thread.

Nemo1977 · 29/09/2005 23:04

ok

dramaqueen72 · 29/09/2005 23:06

thanks nemo, crappy ranting email coming at you, sorry sorry.

Nemo1977 · 29/09/2005 23:12

aww a waiting for it DQ

expatinscotland · 29/09/2005 23:19

I sat waiting for my midwife appointment. She said she was running late. So I sat. For one hour. There were still 2 patients in front of me. So I left and went back to work. I honestly don't have time to hang round.

Can anyone tell me the point of these antenatal checks? B/c they always seem like a collossal waste of time to me. I'd just as soon not be bothered. They don't weigh you, they don't test for Group B or gestational diabetes, etc. If you have any sort of problem they just fob you off. I always walk out thinking, 'Hmm, I could have told myself that and spared myself 40 minutes on a bus and at least an hour in the waiting room.'

I'm honestly considering just not bothering again till it's time to go into labour, cuz I'm sick of hte attitude at my surgery as well. Getting a MATB1 form outta them is like getting blood out of a rock. I'm coming up on 29 weeks and STILL don't have it!

Nemo1977 · 29/09/2005 23:36

DQ you still up???????? Wondered if you got my reply?

dramaqueen72 · 29/09/2005 23:57

yes thanks nemo, got your reply and am digesting it I dont know quite what i think right now, aside from my pg hormones maybe something they should learn how to bottle and threaten people with...........
expat youre very right, -i get almost excited about my midwife appointments, think what am I going to learn etc, this is important, this time. and i get 'urines fine, blood pressure fine, theres the heartbeat, ....you can go now'
gee thanks!!!! sorry you had to wait so long. thats just plain crap.

expatinscotland · 30/09/2005 08:25

I'm supposed to phone them back today. What, to get another appointment? I don't like waiting that long in my doctor's surgery, either, b/c it's full of people carrying all manner of autumn viruses. Not to mention the hateful receptionists who can't understand how someone doesn't have an hour or two to wait for their two minute appointment.

george32 · 30/09/2005 08:36

DQ, are you ok? Sounds like a rough evening for you. I do hope things are OK for you & your DH. I know I've had some tough times with mine over the last 6 months. Let me know if there is anything I can do. {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}

Expat, I think they just make you have these appointments to check you aren't getting high blood pressure. That's all they test me for too. Can you get an appointment with your GP instead of midwife as they might run to better time?

ebbie22 · 30/09/2005 08:52

Dq,sorry your having a bad time with ur dh,i know how you feelaswas in a real bad way with my dh before i found out i was pregnant..
How is everyone else?pls emailme the recipes they sound yummy,will put mail address on here [email protected] feelfreeto email me any of you if you just want to chat...I loved the ss idea,and hope my ss loved her presents too,will be more than happy to send a card and little something when lo arrives...glad to hear got ur car bk....
How is everyone today?

sweetheart · 30/09/2005 09:11

DQ - sorry to hear your having a tough time hun. If you feel like you need to vent then don't worry about doing it on here. I'm sure all us big fat pregnant ladies would love a "bitch about the men" session

Seriously though - if you need to talk I'm usually around to listen.

Expat, sorry to hear your so unhappy with your surgery. I have to admit I quite like it when my surgery is running late - it means I get some extra time away from the office and I can sit quietly in the waiting room and treat myself to a magazine. Thats my idea of luxury time - sitting reading a trashy gossip mag, because I just never get the time to do it.

dramaqueen72 · 30/09/2005 09:14

sorry ladies, this wasnt the time or place. thanks nemo for even listening to mad crazy women.
I am fine, I'm sure everything will be fine. its just me and these hormones I think. I get a bee in my bonnet and just cant let go, and we end up fighting. dh isnt speaking to me right now, (and its a very lonely feeling when he says goodbye to everyone except me. ) I dont know if what we argued about is important in the grand scale of things, but it felt like it at the time. he thinks I'm horrible and cranky lately. I dont know where my temper suddenly comes from but I am beyond irrate lately.
never mind. todays a new day right?

ninah · 30/09/2005 09:17

dq I am so sorry, I am in a bad way with dp so there you go, sh has been mopping up my tears and supplying a chocolate postal service! westc @essex.ac.uk if you need anything. your dh sounds fundamentally OK so hope it is a patch that will pass. What are they thinking of with so much we should be lookng forward to?
Totally agree about midwife appts, waste of time unless you have a prob why go.
Love the idea of continuing the ss theme with cards and I have my ss due date in the diary

ninah · 30/09/2005 09:20

dp hasn't spoken to me for a fortnight dq! so know how you feel.

expatinscotland · 30/09/2005 09:20

The GPs in my surgery are just as useless.

I think I'm just gonna sit tight for a whileand let this pregnancy take its course how it will. The stress of sitting in some dinky room waiting for God knows how long and hoping I don't catch anything can't be good for the baby.

ninah · 30/09/2005 09:21

me too expat
I feel fine! went in yesterday for 9.10 appt to be told no antenatal didn't start til 11, they 'might' see me, waited and waited, took about 2 secs to say fine, come back 34 weeks

expatinscotland · 30/09/2005 09:27

See what I mean, ninah? What is the point of that? I have to make up the time at work, and that means no lunch break for me, b/c I can't stay late as DH works evenings. And all the parentcraft classes are from 10am-noon on Wednesdays. WTF? What if you can't afford childcare for your other kids? What if - shocker! - you actually have to work? No parentcraft classes then.

I'm through with going to these stupid check-ups. They do nothing but stress me out.

dramaqueen72 · 30/09/2005 09:27

I'm sorry ninah, that must be 'lonely' -if thats the right word- for your other half not ot be speaking to you. and HE sounds like the problem not you. whereas quite scarily I think I might be the problem here. I seem to have unrealistic ideals on relationships.

same here on miwifes. I love my midwife but am almost offended when shes not interested in my pg because its 'normal'. I dont mind the waiting room -its very rare I'm child free so fabulous when i get a moment to just sit. but am aware of the bugs flying about.......try and organise any appointments for lunch time so the medical side -drs etc- is empty. usually just three pg ladies waiting.and waiting.....

sweetheart · 30/09/2005 09:28

DQ - it's always the right time and place on here. Like we all agreed a while ago - it's not just about the bumps anymore, we all have lives (aside from the pregnancy's) and sometimes need some support on other stuff to.

Sorry to hear things are still bad this morning - do you feel you were justified in your argument last night or are you wishing you hadn't lost your temper? I know some times, in the heat of an argument, I can say some awful things that I really don't mean. I just like to provoke a reaction from my dh.

expat, ninah - can we swap mw appt's. Every time I go I get needles stuck in me - if it's not for normal blood tests it's diabetes or bloody Anti D!!! Just call me the human pin cushion

sweetheart · 30/09/2005 09:30

expat - that is terrible that you have to make the time up at work - I'm pretty sure that is illegal.

You are entitled to paid time off to attend your mw, hospital and parent class appointments!

george32 · 30/09/2005 09:30

These pregnancy hormones sure are a trouble maker aren't they.
Ninah sorry you are still having problems too.

Neither of you are alone in this though. It seems like a few of us have been through some rough times with our DPs / DHs.

expatinscotland · 30/09/2005 09:32

I only had bloods done once, sweetheart. And for real I am done w/these damn appointments. I know the baby is head down, I can feel the kicks way up. I can also feel the head still nice and high. When/if it engages, I'll know it, too, b/c I distinctly remember when DD's head engaged.

In my area, if you have a problem, they send you along to the Infirmary, anyhow, so I don't see the point in wasting my time in some surgery w/hateful staff and virus-du-jour floating around and old people giving you ugly looks for sitting down when the place is crowded.

I had such a poor birth experience the first time, too, I'm wondering if doing it at home might not be a good idea, too. 5 babies have MRSA at a hospital in Glasgow. Our flat is cleaner than most hospitals - I'm a clean freak.

expatinscotland · 30/09/2005 09:35

I'm not in a position to argue w/my employer. We desperately need the money. Our tax credits have been cut off b/c they say they overpaid us. I have two jobs, lectures starting in October two nights a week, and I'll be ghost writing as well. I have to work till I reach my due date if possible, b/c I can only afford to take 4 months off.

Such is life. I feel lucky I'm not back in America, where most people don't get fully paid maternity leave at all and many mums are working again just a month after they give birth if not sooner.