I wandered lonely as a PESH

[Muser]

That floats on high o'er vales and hills
When all at once I saw a crowd
Of cackling, quaffing, ne-er-do-wells

Pull up a seat, grap a glass of vino and a piece of sushi, it's Delitime again.

BESH BAYBEES
dontrythisathome, girl born March 25.
Cheggers, twinz girlz, born April.
FannyPriceless, boy, born June 8.
CurlyCasper, girl, born June 24.
CUNextTuesday, boy, born June 29.
AlpinePony, boy, born 1 July.
Carrots, boy, born July.
IggyPiggy, girl, born July.
Cosmosis, boy, born Sept 5.
Backinthebox, boy, born Sept 7.
Skatergrrrl, girl, born Sept 10.
VAG, boy, born Oct 2.
Silversky, boy, born Nov 1
SomethingSuitablyWitty, awaiting update

UPDIFFED
Honeymoo, 3 wees a night, due October 31 (boy)
okiecokie, self-confessed control freak, due November 6
SomethingSuitablyWitty, benelux babe, due November 14
ReginaMonologue, knows when all the sales are, due November 20 (boy)
maswera, jungle hottie, due December 11
PollyPoo, wants to name her baybee after the dog, The New Messiah is due December 25
MrsFC, joining whether she wants to or not, due 22 Jan
ChoChoSan, "and Lo! The lord did resurrect her petrified womb", due 31 Jan
CluckyKate, hatching an egg, due February 2
Perfect Dromedary, defied medical science, due February 24
Muser, will she ever stop puking?, due February 27
Ginhag, reckless cake-carrier, due 28th Feb
Medee, finally over the Haribo craving, due March 12
Casserole, completely out of witty things to add, due April 8
Scorpette, now carrying a RL baby in addition to Clothilda and the squid, due 21 May.
Laurielou, the unmarried hussy with the "surprise" diff, due 31 May (ish)
Rocketleaf, no longer jealous of morning sickness, due 1 June.
Twinkle Toes, supergluing her fanjo shut, due 23 June.

Like Aries, I feel "a bit of weed" is not OK - I do had a drug-induced psychotic episode which lasted several weeks with weed - so despite living in a culture where it's readily available I've not touched the stuff in nearly a decade. Those in favour of the legalisation of cannabis always say "no proven link", however, there is evidence to suggest those most susceptible to such psychosis etc. are those most likely to use it as a crutch. N.b., am not suggesting TG is a nut-nut (like me).

(and now I can't string a coherent sentence together)

Thanks Rie and Pone. I didn't realise that Pone and thank you for sharing it. I'm glad you managed to recover and realise what it was doing. I wouldn't actually mind the odd joint if he could just do it socially (seeing as he would be doing that 3 or maybe 4 weekends a year). It is the fact he can't get through a day without having a smoke at the end of it. It is not that he is using a lot, it is the every day crutch thing that I object to. He seems incapable of doing anything in moderation. Mind you, you could say the same about me and cookies. Or booze when I am not duffed. I have a friend whose little bro is the same age as my youngest sis. When he was 14 he started smoking da weed and drinking. That changed to whatever he could get his hands on, crack, LSD etc. By the time he was in his early twenties he was diagnosed with schizophrenia and has been living in institutions ever since as he is too violent and unstable for his family to cope with him. He is now 32 and has never had a girlfriend, never lived by himself, held down a job. So sad.

Help is booked and mum is coming down for the day tomorrow. Hooray, I will have a clean house!

You could be talking about by own dear brother there Pol. Except he's 37 and surprisingly has managed to hold down a couple of relationships :) and even father a child, who is a dear little thing. But now he can never see her :(

I didn't want to sound all judgemental and square there by the way. Far be it from me to talk, as someone who drank too much for too long in the mistaken belief she was still in her early twenties. Have tried weed in various forms, but to be honest I wouldn't know where to get any nowadays. And I suspect I was very tiresome stoned.

I have just seen the Boots cold remedy ad. "When he's ill and you don't have time to be". Who can I punish for this ad? Someone deserves to be punished.

Trouble is, Muse, who ever came up with that ad has probably returned to the 1950s in their time machine...

Rie, thanks for sharing v sad & personal experiences about your brother. V brave of you and my heart goes out to you and your family. Pone, hope you've not had any repercussions since, that sounded awful.

Pol, am glad your family has helped today and that you're getting more help in tomorrow. I think you're also being brave deciding to tackle TG about this, because it's hard getting someone who needs their 'fix' to see it's a problem and it's hard getting a depressed person to take action to help themselves, so good luck. I can't help worrying about you and Boo if he's getting stoned every night, not only because the baby could come any minute now. Not because I think he'd be dangerous, but because it's not responsible parenting (I have Strong Views on children being around smoking, even when it's outside and also parents being intoxicated/stoned around their kids) and because it's certainly not fair on either of you to have him absenting himself away via the dope.

Bleeurgh, am getting a cold. I didn't actually know it was possible for me to feel iller than I did already

PS Re: wot MrsFC said about being a rock earlier - am only a rock 50% to TYF. The other 50% of the time, he's my rock.

The FC is fully aware that there will be no drinking (to excess) in Dec - in case he needs to drive me to hospital. Eeek!

However tiresome you were stoned rierie, I can assure you I was undoubtedly a total bore and self opinionated twat through my coke years... Drugs start off fun and then they all end up putting us on a slippery path to loserville.....

Alpine and Aries are probably right. Given his problems the drugs won't be helping at all and he should cut them out. If it was the odd social joint every now and then maybe it would be different. But constant use can't be helping. I also agree that it's really not on when he has you and Boo to look after. He needs to quit.

The PESH have spoken!

Morning ladeez.

PrettyPolly am so & to read about your weekend. Mr P needs to step up to the mark now. But you know that. And so does he by the sound of it. Did you manage to talk last night? I hope so. And I really hope he acknowledges this & tackles it. Didn't want a second baby indeed. He does know what caused it I presume? And that he's as responsible as you were?

I know exactly how you feel about accepting help etc. Try to think past that bit & just imagine your tidy, sparkling home. Then sit down & enjoy a mince pie whilst admiring your mum's handiwork.

Hope everyone else is OK & wrapped up toasty warm. Frozen kipper slaps all round.

As usual, another quick post from me because I have to get off the computer so dp can do some work. I have been reading posts from the weekend and Polly I'm so sorry to see you had a bad time. I hope you are feeling a bit more supported now you are getting a bit of help and, of course, I hope you can sort Mr Poo out. Will be thinking of you.

Frigging boiler has broken down . Was pissing water everywhere in middle of night. And MrG was away last night. And the stopcock has seized. Has stopped now but I daren't put it back on. So glad to be going to work where is warm. Have a man coming this afternoon I hope but it sounds like the whole of Leamington Spa's boilers broke last night [ angry] . Am so cross with myself as known it was dodgy for ages now but ever the optimist put it off as usual! Meh.

googoo water all over the kitchen floor here too. Our outside pipe connecting to our boiler froze. Say no more.

I WANT TO MOVE HOUSE. NOW.

Bugger, Silver. Last thing you need with a newborn. Do you have any electric heaters etc?

My lovely boiler man has been and repaired it. New valve so shouldn't be too eye wateringly expensive. I may bite the bullet and have the frigging thing serviced too at some point. I would get a new one but we hope to move next year and I don't really want to spend best part of 2 grand on a nice housewarming present for the next people.

Going to see my needle woman this afternoon so she can warm my womble or some such stuff and nonsense. But it makes me feel nice and relaxed so is a good thing. Gone are the days when a nice glass of red had the same effect. We had faux mulled wine at work (grape juice and stuff all mulled, non-alcoholic) and almost made me vom.

Hello ladies, just catching up from the weekend's posts. Polly I'm so sorry to hear all that you are going through, and echo what everyone else has said. Don't fret about the help you are getting - you need it, and it is the right thing to do to admit you need it.

silver hope your woes also balance out.

And to keep up the balance, hurrah for other halves who don't quite get it right and at least are trying, and also for Scorps ILs being excited.

And I have had a lovely weekend in ThatLondon, travel woes aside. I think I might well have overdone it though - lots of walking on Saturday and again on Sunday, and I think I pulled a muscle near my bump, just as I got out my seat on the plane when we arrived home. Thankfully has eased off today.

We went to the Science Museum yesterday, and in the interactive bit they have a thermo-imaging camera (Haz I damaged my baby?) Anyway, it was rather cool to see the extra heat around boobs and bump!

Medee, your baby will probably now suffer from Incredible Hulkism, but I believe it's containable with medication Glad you've had a lovely weekend, boo about the pulled muscle.

for the PESHes with boiler problems (sounds a bit euphemistic, hemhem). Glad you've got it sorted now, LadyGG - hope you get yours done soon, Silver.

I was sooo ill yesterday with a horrendous cold and now today... it already seems to have dried up. No sneezing (I sneezed non-stop for 20 mins yesterday at one point - I had nothing to do but stare at the clock in front of me!), no snuffling, just feeling a bit bleeurgh in my sinuses and throat. V odd; is like the pregnancy has flushed it out of my system super-quick. Clever baybee!

PS Have reached the ravenous stage now. Am even getting hungry again whilst I'm eating!

Hope all boilers and things get fixed soon. Glad you had fun in London Medee, I quite like the idea of an Incredible Hulk baybee. Or maybe you'll get one like Jack Jack in The Incredibles?

Scorps congestion can be a pregnancy thing, rather than colds. Weirdly.

TBG has just heard about lochia. Hahaha.

No, was defo a cold, Muse. I suffer from rhinitis anyway and my pg congestion has been appalling - sneezing and snuffling all the time - and this was 100% a cold (everything feeling feverish, etc.). I have had colds that only last @48 hours before now, so am hoping it was just one of those. I also know it was a cold because my nose is really dried up and for me, that only happens after a cold.

I didn't know what lochia was until I read pg books (and wish I hadn't - final stage goes on for up to 6 weeks after birth? FFS!). Bleeurgh.

Boo to plumbing problems, (that does sound wrong) hope yours gets sorted as well silver Lucky yours could be fixed gaga at relatively low impact. We put off getting ours fixed and managed to get it to limp through the winter a few years ago, then got a combi in spring, its SO much better I wish we had bitten the bullet years ago.

Meds your weekend sounds lovely. glad you had a good time in that there london. Not so good about the muscle pulling, be extra careful with all this white stuff about.

Helloooo to lozzer hope all is well with you lady. Do you have a bump yet?

Mid wife rang me back today, she doesn't seem too worried about the gallstones. said it is quite common and my symptoms are relatively mild compared to some she has seen, while being very sympathetic. She said by all means come in earlier if I want to but she's happy to wait til the 16th. I have made another GP appointment for Thursday to see if I can get a scan earlier just in case. I've been feeling really well but thats obviously due to diet as went out for Sunday roast yesterday, and that kicked it off again, seriously all i had was 2 roasties and some gravy :( I am now seriously considering bailing on the Xmas works do in Manc on Friday. I won't be able to eat the food and can't drink. Am I being a real scrooge for not wanting to go and watch everyone else stuff their faces and get pissed when this might be the last social occasion I get with them? Esp as it's a 2 hr round trip?

score TB had a weird sneezing day yesterday, his poor nose is a mess from blowing it. I take it I don't want to google lochia then as have no idea what it is.

Don't google it, rocket, I implore you. Ignorance truly is bliss!

PS Am glad the MW was reassuring about your gallstones, but if they're set off by a coupla roasties, then it's not something you can just do nuffink abaaht (not with Xmas coming up). It's perfectly natural to want to cancel the works do if you're going to be miz and unable to join in. Being a teetotal allergy sufferer has turned me into a hermit over the years, mind, so don't go down that route

I think yesterday must've been 'Weird Nasal WTF-ness Day' :)