Jue in June part 3

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We have now reached 2000 posts so need to start another thread.

Barbie i really think that you can make a formal complaint via HR for breach of confidentiality. As a manager i would never dream of disclosing information that was on a medical certificate. It is totally unprofessional and irresponsible. This needs to be dealt with as next time it could have even worse consequences for someone else.......
Please seriously think about writing a formal complaint

Oh moomin, I cant thank you enough. To be honest I am in the process of writing a very long and formal letter of complaint under the grievance procedure because of 4 years of bullying but I think I needed futher verification that I was right to add this - with you being management too, I feel better and more validated now. This was the last thing I ever wanted to do, am terribly unassertive and afraid about whats going to happen but feel Ive no choice.

She wrote to be on my 2nd day of sick leave, referring me to occupational health which is fine but its a custom where I work to be referred after 20 days sick leave. Never, ever, ever 2.

She is also demanding my expected due date letter from my GP which I dont have to supply until 4 weeks before I commence maternity leave.

Oh sorry for ranting but really. Thanks again Moomin. Sometimes I am unreasonble with all these pregnancy hormones and need to check myself.

Can someone please explain to my husband that if I want to go back to sleep at 9 o'clock in the morning he should let me, rather than try sticking his cold fingers in my nose. After all I am carrying his bean in my belly!

Now all I need is to get my hands on some bacon and egg pie and hash brownie type things and I'll be a happy little camper.

Sorry haven't managed to read through all posts I've missed recently so sorry if I miss something important.

Barbie I think with the scans the figures they use to determine the dates are average lengths. Which is the only way I can explain DS's dates because his scans put him as being an imaculate conception! (and he is taller than average)

barbie sent you a private message

Hi ladies, can't believe we're on page 21 already!

Is anyone else being extra snappy with DP/DH's or is it just me or are they being extra annoying!!

I had to go to college last night so I had my dinner early and DP cooked his own (like he said he wanted to) as soon as he got in from work. He went straight into the kitchen and started cooking, without taking his shoes off, his big smart work shoes with the big heavy heel. Our one year old had made her way into the kitchen and he trod, with his big heavy heel, on her hand. She screamed etc but was ok. A few minutes later I asked him to please take his shoes off as he shouldnt have them on anyway and what if he stands on her again and he got annoyed because I was 'nagging'!

I'm not sure if it's me or him but he seems to be so unconsiderate of others lately. He stinks the toilet out then just shuts the door, doesnt open a window or use air freshener and then when I remind him to please open a window he says he wasn't expecting me to go in there!

Sorry for the rant but I can't say anything to him because i'm just 'nagging'! I spend my days running around after 2 toddlers teaching them how to be clean etc and then I have to teach him aswell? Any tips anyone??

Moomin, sent you one back. thank you so much.

Oh girls, what am I going to do? my DH is a bastard, Im just after stumbling across another one of his stupid fucking antics. Im so sick of his crap. I dont know what to do and just dont want to get into it again on here because, really, its just humiliating at this stage.

Oh barbie, you sound really upset. Really hope everything works out well. It's such a difficult time for you to be having problems with your dh. Not sure I can help much but do you have someone in rl you're able to talk to in more detail about what's happened?

Millie I'm also being a bit snappy with dp but luckily he knows to just ignore me or keep out of my way!

Congratulations on the scan results! Let's keep the good news coming in!

balletpink I love the link! I'm apparently going to have a girl who looks like dp's mum, is very quick to talk and loves reading when she's older. Think they may have been getting mixed up with dsd2 though, that's an exact description of her!

Oh goodness barbie what a day you're having. I 100% agree with moomin. Disclosing confidential information from somebody else's medical certificate is an absolute disgrace. If that's any indication of what this woman is like then you are 100% right to be lodging a formal complaint - be brave! You can do it.

I'm really sorry you're having trouble with your DH too. Hopefully he's not sticking his fingers up your nose like nmcb's DH ( ). It sounds more serious than that, though. It also sounds like you've got a lot of difficult tasks ahead. I can't offer much advice but if it's any consolation I'm sure that everybody on here is happy to listen to rants/offer support/do anything they can.

Hey ladies :)

Just back from the EPU. They gave me an early scan due to my bloody discharge over this past week.
The relief of seeing an extremely active baby with good heartbeat was immense. I've measured in at 10+1 & am due to be scanned again on 24th.
The hospital said the bleeding may be due to my thrush infection, could be because it would gave been when af was due or could possibly be due to the LLETZ procedure I had a few years back for CIN3.

Now if I can just stop with the 24/7 sicky sicky :)

Had a good catch up on here & am interested to read about your snappiness with dh's!
I wouldn't exactly say I was snappy but burst into tears when dh told me he couldn't make my EPU scan due to work commitments. I just didn't want to go alone :/
As it happened, my app was earlier than expected & he came with :)

yellow I am keeping you in my thoughts :(
Much love xx

It seems the quiz only has a few babies to go round, what a swizzle! Still, if it gets us smiling for a few minutes it's worth it

Just wanted to say I find it really hard to comment personally to you all because by the time I've got something worth saying it's all moved on again! and there's so many of us! but anyway, I do know roughly where all of you are all up to even if I'm crap at doing the personal mentions ....

Can I just ask a quickie about paracetamol? I've had v bad headache since last night and it's showing no signs of going. I know you can take paracetamol in pregnancy but how safe is it really? It's also got caffeine in it, which I'm not having at all so I'm a bit concerned about that. If I google I'm bound to find a variety of different views on it! Thanks, and appols for my complete neuroticism!

mummy I don't know but both my doctor and the pharmacist said it was safe and I took two the other week when I had terrible backache. Considering how ridiculous it is that they tell you not to eat blue cheese for fear you'll get a disease only a handful of people have had in the last ten years in Britain, I'm reckoning they err way on the side of caution over these things.

Don't have any links to any studies though.

PS - moufflon, sorry! Didn't mean to forget you. CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Well lots to catch up on.

Firstly, yellowtomato I'm very sad to see you leave this thread, it's been lovely chatting to you. Best of luck for your future pg x

Barbie your boss sounds like a complete cow, definitely a breach of confidentiality. Not sure what's happening with your DH, but hope you have someone in RL to talk to if you don't want to on here (though of course we are always here for you)

mrsbigw, mainlymaynie and mouffloncake CONGRATULATIONS!! great news on the scans!!

mummynumber2 I have taken paracetamol in both pg's. Every single doctor/ consultant I've met have said they are fine (as long as they are 'normal' ones, not extra strength). I wouldn't have thought taking them regularly is recommended, but for the odd headache I wouldn't worry.

I would like to add to the good news. My scan today was fine and I'm dated at 12+4. So excited and happy. I'm very of those thinking of home births. I would love to have a home birth but have to be in hospital as DD was premature and low birthweight.

Lots of positive vibes to everyone today :)

Sorry but I've missed the link about the quiz and don't have time to go back and find it so could someone repost it please if you don't mind?

I just took the quiz, seem to be having the same very light banana-loving baby boy as everyone else . DD will be shocked, she is adamant that the baby in mummy's tummy is a little girl. If I even tentatively raise the possibility it could be a little brother, she shouts "NO! It's a SISTER!"
I think it's a boy though. Are people planning on finding out the sex, or waiting for the surprise? I am far too impatient to wait, I want to know asap.

moufflon that's great news.

barbie we're here for you if you want to chat. I know what it's like having the bastard DH, we've had a bit of a bad patch lately and have been constantly arguing. Came to a bit of a head yesterday when i told him that suprisingly i didn't think that constant criticisms and insults were very funny, just because he did.

He has been trying a bit harder last night and today. I hope things pick up a bit for you both at home and work.

Am feeling so ill today, am absolutely shattered ds was up from 1:40 this morning and didn't go back to sleep for hours. Then because i ended up staying in bed late didn't have breakfast before, oh did i regret that, felt so sick ended up coming home.

mummyno2 wouldn't worry so much about paracetamol, i took some in pregnancy#1 and have had to this time cause of a v bad headache. it's aspirin and neurofen you have to be careful with if i remember correctly.

Here you go Millie, sorry cross post!
quiz

yippee! found you all again . Been busy, not been on mumsnet for a while then didn't know where to look. Back in a week once I've tried to get everyone's updates. Hope everyone is well. I have my first midwife appt next week then not long til 12 week scan...can't wait :)

Wish me luck. I'm off to play, which supermarket aisle am I going to retch in today?!

Hi ladies, need to ask your opinions.

On a Saturday i work in a gynae unit at a local hospital, i told the sister in charge when i found out i was pg and she said 'whenever you want a scan just let us know.' At the time i just laughed it off thinking she might be joking but the manager also said the same thing when i told her and seemed serious.

What i want to know is that if you had this opportunity would you take it and have a sneaky scan? I just think that if there is something wrong, firstly im at work and secondly it puts my work mates in a difficult position. Im only 7+6 tomorrow, will they be able to see anything?? My OH thinks we should just wait until the 12 week scan but hes being a miserable git lately and he doesnt really have to know........does he?

Crikey, I'm offline for a few hours and look what happens!

Barbie sounds like you're having a crap time of it. What your boss has done is not only downright outrageously bitchy, but, she has also breached data protection and privacy laws. Make sure you complain, as this woman needs to be stopped in her tracks! Sorry about the problems you are having with your "d"p, again, if you don't want to vent to us, I hope you have someone you can talk to in RL. Men are crap sometimes, whether pg or not, whether they are sticking their cold fingers up our noses or doing even worse things .

I am being very unfair on dp at the moment, just because things that have annoyed me about him in the past are now all coming to a head coupled with the hormones, so I keep having a go at him about things that he has done for ages without knowing they niggle me! I am officially a cow, but he is officially a small child still it seems .

Okay, here's my boy:

You'll give birth to a baby boy, weighing 6lb 11oz, after just four hours of labour. He'll be born a few days after his due date on a day that a big storm hits the area you live in. The first visitors you have will say he looks just like your partner. He'll be a very happy baby and will learn to smile and laugh quickly, which will entertain anyone who comes to visit him. When he's older he'll love to swim and his favourite food will be pickled onions.

Sounds very similar to ds1, I will try him on a pickled onion for the first time later and let you know the results...

Moufflon so, so chuffed about your scan!!! Hurray!

Mummy I'm sure a couple of paracetomol will do no harm. I'm considering not listening to any new research regarding what pregnant women should and should not do; all bets are on us being told at some point in the next two years that paracetomol, taken in moderation, are good for the unborn baby.

Wolfcub take the scan, take the scan! They should be able to see something as far as my limited knowledge goes. If you're worried about it being bad news, make sure you tell the perosn who is going to do the scan that beforehand, so they can then decide if they are comfortable doing it still or not, or get your closest work friend to do it.