Jue in June - continuation of "Due June 2011? please join me!!!" thread

[wonnaywombat]

Hi all - we've very nearly exhausted the 1,000 post limit on our previous thread so here is the new one.

Looking forward to continuing to share the ups, downs, symptoms, queries, worries and joy (fingers tightly crossed!)

So sorry to hear the bad news IamMrsJones and mudandmayhem .

Hi Moog There is pregnancy yoga offered at my gym and I'm planning to go to the classes after my 12 week scan. I'm prepared to try anything that might lead to an easier birth.

I definitely am going to refuse the flu jab. I've never had flu and as a student they made me have it because I had a lot of chest infections but I was soooo ill for 3 days afterward. That's my view but I am sure that there are also some good reasons to have it.

I don't have the insomnia so far.....really hope it stays away cos I love sleeping!

I did pregnancy yoga from about 5 months pg and loved it! I had dabbled with yoga before but was not regularly practising it beforehand.

I found it really relaxing and learnt some good breathing techniques for labour and exercises for later on in pregnancy to do at home, which really helped with my painful back and SPD. I also had physio sessions later on in pregnancy and didn't find these half as useful, and really didn't feel the need to shell out on NCT birthing classes and the like because of the stuff I learnt from my yoga teacher. I'll definitely be taking it back up as soon as I find another class (the one I went to before seems to have disappeared ).

Re flu jab - I am no doctor but I will def refuse it again (I have mild asthma so my GP offers it to me every year and I decline :) This year I won't even think twice about it.

It's just mu gut feelong - vaccinations and pregnancy in my opinion don't mix and I thankfully have a good immune system now that I have worked in childcare for the past 3 years and have been exposed to tons of viruses ;)

On a serious note, I have recently read a thread about the swine flu vaccine on an american "mumsnet" and a lot of people were giving examples of women who miscarried shortly after the jab. Now this is relating to the SWINE flu one in particular and obviously might be atotal coincidence but that just reinforced my own gut feeling of not taking it.

Ive been recommended the flu jab too. I've had it two years in a row and no problems. I had read somewhere that suggested waiting until the first trimester was over first.
I also did pregnancy yoga - from about 20 weeks. It was great fun - I always slept like a log after a class. Plus the breathing techniques and positions helped me during labour.

My DH looked at the data on flu vac (part of his job) and said that if you are going to take it easy and not go out much, especially on public transport, then perhaps don't bother with the vac as risk of catching flu is low.

However, if you'll be working hard for several more months, with frequent travelling in uban hotspots (and you've had a flu vaccine before so risk of allergic reaction is low) then you might want to consider it.

The GSK vaccine has had more thorough testing.

If you are having a good pregnancy and feeling well, the risk of complications with flu are in the 1 in 10,000 to 1 in 100,000 range, making overall risk pretty low.

There is no safety data on these vaccines in pregnant women, but the data on similar flu vaccines in pregnant women and also in animals suggests very, very low risk of harm to baby.

I won't be having it because I'm a SAHM and in good health, but if I was working and commuting, I would probably have it.

Sorry for massive post!

That's really interesting Yarnie - thanks! [hsmile]

Hello everybody, finally feel ready to introduce myself after following you from the previous thread.

Before I start, I just want to say that I am so sorry to those people who have lost their babies on this thread. 'Sorry' seems to be not enough, but it is heartfelt.

I found out completely unexpectedly that I was pregnant just under 3 weeks ago. The first month after having Implanon removed and going back on the pill. It's been quite a rollercoaster few weeks as I don't feel old enough to do this (I am 23, so I should be really!), but reading all of you other level-headed and 'sorted' ladies has really helped me get my mind unravelled, so thank you to all of you.

I had my first MW appointment yesterday, she went to my parent's house as that's where I am registered with the doctor's. To answer the wee query, yes, she wanted me to do a sample, but after 10 minutes on the loo concentrating really hard, I couldn't do it and had to drop one in at the practice later on, slightly embarrassing! It was good to have my Mum there with me as she's on half term and I'm beginning to feel slightly excited, rather than scared today.

I am 8 weeks and 2 days today, due 1st June. Feeling nauseous all day long, banging headache, tired all the time, boobs are HUGE and nipples are constantly erect - nice! I was beginning to feel like I was being punished with all the grotty symptoms but have started to feel that I've just got to deal with it. Grazing all day helps, as well as having a biscuit every time I get up for a wee in the night so that in the morning my tummy isn't completely empty (although DP has found the stash and has been helping himself and leaving the lid off for them to go soft - git).

Sorry for the long, mememe post, now the intro is done I can get down to some proper small talk!

I look forward to getting to know all of you over the next few months :)

moomin re midwife-led compared to consultant-led ante-natal care, 'round here you don't get a choice, it's based on your medical need. You are only referred to consultant-led when there is something out of the ordinary (history, previous medical conditions, gestational diabetes etc).

Even when you are under consultant-led care (as I will be because of my recurrent m/c history) most of the day-to-day care is by midwives.

When it comes to birth, you can usually choose home with midwives, midiwfe-led birthing centre or consultant-led labour ward. Even on the consultant-led labour ward, the majority of births are under midwife care because they are normal and without problem. Often birthing centres are co-loacted in hospitals so if you start there and develop problems you are no distance from the theatres.

It may be different elsewhere in the country but certainly here in Southampton, consultant versus midwife antenatal care is based on need not maternal wishes whereas wher you give birth is entirely dependent on maternal wishes.

Well im back from my widwife appointment......it was very rushed but she was lovely, her first day in the practice today. Basically just had bloods taken today and then she has booked an hours appointment at our house on the 19th November. She says nothing will really happen until the 12 week mark unless any problems. Nothing to worry about on the lack of symptoms......she said i should be greatful. She did need a wee specimen so glad i took one with me......we did discuss where to go so think i will be looking at the midwife led unit which is within the maternity hospital so has both bases covered.
Well loads of questions i wished id asked but they were running 45min late so think i need to write them all down for the 19th November when i will be 10+5, that seems such a long time away. My EDD is now 12th June which is different from lots of sites

Glad it went well Moomin, I also found writing questions down before my appointments helped, as my mind often went blank when i was sat there in front of a midwife!

Welcom daisyfields and congratulations, looking forward to getting to know you as well!

Hello everyone.

I'm so sorry to hear that a couple of people have had such sad news. I'm thinking of you and hoping you have the strength to get through this terrible time.

I had a scan today and everything is looking exactly as it should be! We're both still quite sad about the twin that didn't make it but this time a couple of weeks ago we thought there was no hope at all. It's such a relief. I'm having another scan next week but the Dr doesn't seem nearly as concerned now. Another week off work though but i'm allowed to do a lot more around the house, which I'll have to as it's half term!

Welcome and congratulations daisyfields.

Decided the morning sickness is a case of mind over matter. I WILL go into my kitchen without throwing up!

Good to hear it went well moomin - how lovely to have her for a whole hour to yourself in your own home!

welcome and congrats daisyfields! - not sure level headed and sorted really describes us accurately but you will get loads of helpful info and support here and thank you for the compliment anyway!

Hi, I'm supposed to be having consulatant led care but I haven't had an appointment yet. I spoke to my consulatant's secretary last friday and haven't heard anything so I rang again today to be told she isn't there but they will get back to me on Monday! I've made an appointment with the community midwife but that isn't until the 2nd! Tbh I think its all pretty bad form, I'm a teacher and if I took over a week to get back to a parent I'd expect to be flamed and rightly so!

Consultant not consulatant!

Thanks wonnay, but i did think i would learn abit more today but i guess at 6+5 its still very early. She said she will be with me for at least an hour on the 19th to go through everything so that does sound good and she said its better as there is no interruptions. In my 10 min today she must have got interrupted at least 5 times and people kept wandering in. Im in the nursing profession and it really wasnt an ideal environment to make you feel relaxed it felt utter chaotic LOL. She did give me the NHS pregnancy book to read through and the form for free presciptions and dental care which i heve sent off already as i have a routine checkup in November, might as well get something for free!!!!

Daisyfields think i agree with wonnay.....more like paranoid, anxious,vomiters and imsomniac moaners LOL but i hope we can be of some help and support to you.
23 is very young so its not surprising that you are not sure you feel ready, i still have moments like that at 38, but it sounds as if you have a supportive family which will really make a huge difference in your confidence. You will be fine :)

mummynumber2 great news on your scan, dont try to do too much though even though its half term. Look after yourself and your little bean.
I also think its natural to feel sad about the one that didnt make it and you will always feel like that so don't feel guilty about it, its very sad

Hello everyone, hope you're well today.

I am 8 weeks today [hgrin]. I've only just realsied as I've been so stressed out today, feeling sick (but still not being sick), headachey, tension in my shoulders and friction at uni has not made for a fun day. Moan moan moan! I'm also considering pg yoga, just doing some research.

Glad your appointment went well Moomin, doesn't sound ideal but at least you get an hour with her on your own. What kind of nursing do you do?

Morg How well hydrated are you? Low blood pressure can be due to dehydration so watch your salt consumption and fluid intake :) Also how low? Unless it's massively low I wouldn't worry about it too much, as long as you're feeling ok and are eating and drinking enough and the right sorts of things.

lol @ 'paranoid, anxious vomiters' moomin156

I got a call from mw today to make an appt for tue aft. It's not the booking I'm sure as she just said 'to check a couple of things'.

DD fell asleep about 1.30 so i stuck a film on for DS and lay on the couch for an hour with DD - bliss!

sasamaxx im just considering an hours kip before DH is home, i only see him at weekends so dont want to be asleep by 8pm. I guess your mw appointment will be a bit like mine today then.....

Moomin you forgot to add cake/pie/food/tea/coffee obsessed (either about eating/drinking it or not being able too)

Well it turns out I already have a pubis symphisis problem from some thing (I'm not sure what) I did before TTC. The 2 early miscarriages have only made it worse due to my hormones going up and down. at least i've got a good physio.

How is everyone else today?

Hi Ladies
Sorry for the terrible news suffered by amMrsJones and mudandmayhem , makes me realise how lucky I was to have had 2 pregancies with DD and DS, and no MC's . Crossing everything that this little bean will also be a success story.
I felt so un-pregnant today, all my bloated ness went, no sickness, and boobs actually touchable,! that I went and bought some more tests!
Very strong line came up straight away, so am currently telling myself off for being so neurotic.
Got my appointment through for the midwife, its on the 7th november a sunday!!! , came with some bumf about what blood test they will do and which hospital to choose. Midwife led care is a no no for me as I have had 2 C/S. ^ weeks today :)xxxx

Thats 6 weeks............

ROTFL moomin and nomore. I'm just pleased that I seem to have found group of people who seem to be almost as neurotic as I am!

Thanks moomin. It is sad, and I suppose I will occasionally wonder what it would have been like with 2 of them. But I'm trying to focus on this one as much as I can.

It actually occurs to me that I have no idea when I'm going to see a midwife. I'm seeing the consultant every week but she's not doing things like urine/ blood tests, blood pressure etc. There's been no talk of midwives at all. Is everyone's 1st appointment at about 8 weeks?