April 2011 - back to back sex and other mysteries

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Here we go ladies, a brand new sparkly thread that should see us all into our 2nd trimester

Many thanks for the warm welcomes

I've felt lots of movements this evening, I was sitting in quite a twisted position which is why I think I felt it so much.

Bloody hell Osch, loads of luck and well done for being able to face being pregnant again so soon, that must have been pretty tough.

We're not finding out the sex, decided that I might as well save a nice surprise for after the giving birth part. Apart from actually having a baby, which is also a nice surprise. Mind you, my DH is driving me bonkers by repeating that he KNOWS it's a girl, so I might find out just to shut him up.

Am very pleased with myself as I've just managed to buy two summer dresses for holiday despite the shops being full of winter clothes and me being a funny shape that isn't maternity clothes ready but is bigger than normal. Reckon both will be suitable for next summer when I am still a bit wobbly but not mahoosive. Well, that was my justification for getting them anyway.

Great to hear so many of us are starting to feel the movements :) I started feeling them last week, so exciting! Such a funny fluttering feeling, like something I've never felt before.

I spent 4 1/2 hours at TK Maxx on Sunday, my sister was visiting and we tend to go a a bit mad with the shopping :) Found some really nice long cardies and tops that will look good with the growing bump...

We have the gender scan booked for next Friday, can't wait to find out if its a boy or a girl! I have a feeling it might be a boy but we'll see.

Big changes at work too as I'm being made redundant...everyone at my work is so we're all in the same boat but I've talked to HR and they have promised a very good redundancy package. So, planning to start my maternity leave very early already in January! Have lots of activities planned such as pregnancy yoga, swimming and courses so I won't get too bored...Another pregnant friend is in the same situation too so I'm sure I'll be seeing her a lot!

What an awful thing to have experienced Osch, so sorry for you.

I'm not finding out the sex either. DH doesn't want to know and I wouldn't be able to keep it from him so I'll have to wait! I'm sure I'll be scrutinising every bump, line and shadow at the 20wk scan and seeing if I can take a guess.

Just bought a heap of maternity clothes yesterday and am feeling very comfy today. Strangely they make me look less pregnant now and more like I'm wearing clothes a size too big for me . I just need the bump to catch up with my shopping and fill the gaps a bit better!

Had my 16wk check yesterday too. I got there and it wasn't with a midwife but a consultant who apparently had to talk to me about the birth given I had an instrument delivery with my first. I had no idea I was going to be given an option for a C-section and must have looked a bit daft through most of the appointment as was totally unprepared!

Osch - how awful, wishing you all the best for this pregnancy, glad all's good with you.x

I'm going to be a godmother at the end of November, at which point I'll be nearly 21 weeks . What do you think about this for being a suitable dress to wear for the Christening, I'm finding it a bit hard to find one that I like. suitable dress?? I wouldn't go for the turtleneck underneath, although due to aforementioned mahoosive boobs, I'll probably have to find a cami or something to wear underneath. It's also really hard to work out what it will look like when I'm a totally different shape/size to now!

We're going for the surprise re gender too. I figure it's the only surprise that we'll get (all other surprises after birth that I can think of are bad ones), as we're pretty sure that it's going to be a baby! Even though I do joke to OH that I want it to be a puppy!?! (Just 'cos he's allergic so I had to give my dog to my mum) However, I do a lot of ultrasounds at work, although not of babies, but I find it pretty easy to get my eye in and work out what is what, so will have to ask the sonographer to be very careful to avoid any shots that will give the game away!

sats1977 - sorry to hear about the job, hope you get an absolutely freaking fantastic redundancy package.

Osch Good luck with your pregnancy.
sats Hope they make the redundancy worth your while.

I'm not having a great week, now on top of the catheter and the chest infection, I spent half the night with a coughing/vomiting toddler. DH also did his stint at the sickbed and must be sleep deprived as came downstairs this morning after he'd left for work to find he'd unplugged the freezer to plug in the tumble dryer , luckily it hadn't started defrosting.

Nanny took DS to the Doc's for me and he's got tonsilitis . I now have the unenviable task of trying to get the antibiotics down him 3 times a day, he's not a fan.

Luckily my mum has been an absolute saint and has been coming around whenever she's able to help out and let me get some rest. The catheter is coming out tomorrow so fingers crossed (as opposed to legs hopefully)

I can't say i've noticed any definate baby movements although he's always wiggling well at the scans. I'm 18+3 with DC2. Mind i've got so much going on down there at the moment it's hardly surprising

liv you poor thing.

I dont know how you cope. I feel a bit bad im sat on my bum while my DP is cooking me yet another meal....!

Have another scan tomorrow and for some reason am worried sick something has happened. And I cannot stop thinking the worst..what is wrong with me?? .

sats enjoy the redundancy. And I hope you have a HUGE redundancy package.

Ill let you all know how it goes tomorrw. Although I feel reassured by other peoples comments about no movement.

Hi all,

Hope you don't mind me entering the thread so late, the usual pregnancy anxieties have stayed my hand!

I'm due on the 20th April with my first child, I shall add it to the stats list.

No movement yet and just a small bump at the moment. Still waiting to bloom, perhaps hindered by suffering from the worst viral infection known to man for the past 2 weeks - boo!

Take care

Hippy I feel exactly like that too. I was planning to be so relaxed about this, think positively and enjoy it and instead I spend all my time worrying that something has gone horribly wrong/will go horribly wrong and I can't get past that. I think the news about Lily Allen made me worry even more, poor woman - I live in fear if something like that happening to me.

I found I had less obvious movement for a couple of weeks but it is getting very clear now. A book I have says you don't feel the movement in the womb as it doesn't have the nerves needed but you feel it in the surrounding organs, muscles etc. My theory is that the movement felt less obvious when baby moved upwards to an area with more room until it grew into the space a bit more seems a reasonable theory to me.

Osch so sorry to hear about your baby boy. Glad all is well with you.

Sats Thats pants re redundancy. Well done on keeping positive. Hope you get a BIG pay out.

Kurly I cant wait to hear the hearbeat. My appt is Tue. Very reassuring.

Caramel what a shock. Will you opt for C sec?

Gomers I like that dress ALOT. Def suitable for a christening. What colour? The burgundy one?

Livv Oh no re your poorly DS. Great your mum is so fab tho.

Countscoutula welcome and congrats :)

Karoleann Congrats on DD!!

We are hoping to find out the gender on Dec 14th scan. I am too impatient to wait for the surprise! Lol.
Went to mothercare Saturday. Have gone from a 36B to a 38C. Bras are really comfy heaps better than Bravissimo who put me in a wired 34FF that caused me pain and bruising!
Tube strike in London so had to walk an hour this morning. Not sure Kitten enjoyed it too much as i have a pain. Its to the right of my belly button but higher up. Think its ligaments where they have been under pressure?! Got to do it again tonight :(

Thank you all :) It seems that the company does want to "do the right thing" and compensate for the fact that I'll be losing my well-earned maternity leave (been with the company for over 5 years). So, fingers crossed all will be fine! And hopefully I'll find a new interesting role when I'm ready to start looking again, perhaps the recession will be over by then...?

Baby is making more movements today which makes this all seem more real - I'm still amazed there is a little human being growing inside me, it's just so fantastic :o

Osch so sorry to hear about your baby boy. Hope this pregnancy is as stress-free as possible for you and your family.

sats that's good that your company plan to be generous, and must make things a little easier. Enjoy the early maternity break!

Countscoutula welcome to the thread. Can certainly emphasise with the usual pregnancy anxieties.

Liv77 hope you all start feeling better soon.

I think we are planning on waiting till the birth to find out whether it's a boy or girl. Got my scan quite soon now (13th Nov) but we might give in to temptation on the day.

Gormers that dress looks perfect for a christening .Wrap style maternity clothes look really useful. I was trying (but failed) to find a wrap top to wear to a friend's 30th this saturday as lots of maternity tops seem too baggy at the moment but my normal tops are a bit small now.

Osch so sorry to hear about your baby boy - not surprised you are worry, but big congratulations on your pregnancy :)

Liv sorry to hear you're having more problems and still feeling rubbish. I'm sure it must get better soon!

Dp & I will be seeing if we can find out the sex at the 20 week scan (3 weeks time). That's the plan anyway! DP first of all wanted a suprise but he has two boys from his first marriage and so I think has a (small!) preference for a girl so it would be good to find out early. Obviously either will be much loved but for us it would be good to know.. Saying that I'm already worrying about the 20 week scan (I am sure I'm not the only one - worry seems to be par for the course!) and I cannot believe that all going well we could know the sex in as little as 3 weeks. Would certainly make chosing names a lot easier - we've got nowhere with that at the moment!

Gormers that dress looks lovely! I'm finding baby doll shaped dresses work for me at the moment as they're fitted round my gargantuan breasts and then plenty of growing room for tummy below that :) Feel much more confident dressing more femininely now I'm pregnant - must be the hormones!

Hope everyone is doing well! :)

New to this thread - thanks to those who highlighted it to me.

Does anyone else suffer from waking up in the middle of the night - every night - needing a pee ... I feel like an old lady!
Nearly 16 weeks - wonder if it gets worse or better...

Hello Lovely Ladies! Not been on for a while, all things stressful have kicked up in my life over the last week!

My FIL has had a stroke, quite a bad one. So we've spent the last few days back home, staying with my parents and going back and forth to the hospital. But good news is he is making a really good recovery, every day little improvments.

My Grandma has also been in hospital, gone a bit doolally with a UTI, which was quite funny when we went to visit as she thought the hospital was Marks and Spencer and the doctor worked in the stock room! Although the ward she was on was full of sad wee old ladies who had no visitors and had no idea what was going on. Needless to say this pulled my hormonal tears to the surface again and the next thing I knew i was sitting next to some old lady I'd never met before speaking about the beatles!! I think she thought she was in the sixties!! Bless!

Anyway we are back home now and I can sleep in my own bed tonight! Bliss!!

I had my 16 week MW appointment today. Got to hear the heartbeat! Which is a relief, because I'm not feeling sick anymore, but not feeling the baby move so kinda don't "feel pregnant" IYKWIM.

But baby is there, yay! We think we will find out what we are having at our 20 week scan. Not because of a preference, but I want to have a gender specific nursery and we can't agree on names so will be easier if we half our options!

Sorry to hear about your FIL and grandma Lisa but yay for hearing the heartbeat!

How're you doing today, liv?

sats good to hear your company are planning on doing the right thing by you. That probably makes things a little less stressful - and you won't need to work in your third trimester!

Have my MW 16wk appt later, hope to hear the heartbeat myself :)

Frak - love the name :)

Got a horrid cold, missing my usual Day Nurse

Also got my 16 week appointment later today. Hope I get to hear the heartbeat too - would be nice to know that all is well in there!

Hope things settle down for you LisMcA and also yay for hearing the heartbeat.

Has anyone else been totally freaking out about the idea of giving birth? I am having a bit of a wobble about it at the moment. Watched a couple of videos on You Tube yesterday and I wish I hadn't! The thing that is really bothering me is how undignified it all seems! Oh yes, I am vain and not someone who is comfortable with being naked in public (not that unusual!) and the idea of having all my bits out on display for the world fills me with utter horror. Also quite worried about DH having to witness it all. He is SO squemish, won't go to the cinema to see anything mildly gory. I think he might be scarred for life by this. I know I am being silly, I know there's no way around it but I'm dreading it! I'm not even that bothered about the pain aspect. Anyone else as unhinged as me?!

JoEW - I am about as freaked out as you are ... thinking about it really worries me ... the only way I get through it is looking at new mums - friends, strangers etc and thinking - look, they got through it and are doing it again so I can do it.
I certainly wouldn't advise watching videos -that would be a step too far for me!
I am not sure if it brings any comfort but I am really worried - more the pain that worries me and the size ... if you know what I mean. A friend told me, yeah, it isn't fun but it doesn't take long ... it will be over and forgotten ...
Hope that helps a bit ...

JoEw I keep changing my mind, one minute I'm looking forward to it (to see what all the fuss is about!) and then when I start to think about it more realistically and not just as something that is a looooong way off I get a bit nervous. It's not the pain I'm afraid of so much but the gore, and I'm more worried about damage etc. Having said that, if you think about how crap you feel in pregnancy you'd think it was awful beforehand but somehow it's just not that bad when you're experiencing it one day at a time. (apologies to anyone for who it really has been that bad)

And I think you must go into a kind of shock where you just get through it. The thing I'm nervous about is being all relaxed about it and then getting the shock of my life when it actually starts!

FWIW my sister is very dignified, and she was so worried about looking messy in labour she bought lovely new nighties and was terrified about poohing because she'd be so embarassed. When the time came she really didn't care and now enjoys teasing me about what's to come instead :)

I'm kind of looking forward to it but I'm more worried about the intervention and whether I'll freak :(

If I was allowed to take myself off to a cave and get on with it I wouldn't be worrying at all!

firefrakkers that's why I'm currently contemplating a homebirth.. !

Hi Ladies,

Don't stress about the birth.

Here's what I remember from my birthplan for DS in April '08.
It was basically would like to use tens machine at home and then go in the big bath at the hospital for a while (not a water birth) then come out for labour as wanted to be free to move around if I wanted and look out the window for a bit of distraction. The waterbirth room had no windows, was quite small and I found it quite claustrophobic when we had the tour which put me off. I put down I was happy to have drugs etc if needed/wanted.

How it actually went:
I went into hospital at 3am at 4cms dilated, after a 2nd slight show. My waters didn't break and my contractions were never less than 5/6 minutes apart so if I had waited until the 3 mins they suggest you go in I never would have got there) I had the bath while DH fell asleep in a chair in the corner but to be honest I was fine with that and remember becoming quite insular and finding the massage etc he'd been taught at AN class rather annoying when he did it and politely told him not to touch me did use him for the hand squeezing though

After a couple of hours got out the bath, had gas and air which I absolutely hated as it made me vomit (but they still wanted me to use it }. Most comfortable positions were on all fours holding onto the bed rail or sitting on the loo. At 9am I had a shot of morphine which was .

At lunchtime saw obs. as DS head was at the wrong angle, had to wait to go down to theatre in case they had to do C section. This was the most painful bit for me as the morphine had worn off and DS was not budging. I also remember getting the shakes a lot. Had epidural at about 3pm and they then managed to get DS out with forceps and ventouse. Threw up as son was delivered , but was all forgotton when handed DS

I was also worried about the nakedness etc but on the day couldn't have cared a jot, instinct kicks in and you just get on with it. Despite all I also remember thinking it wasn't as bad as I expected, I didn't scream the place down although certainly came out with a few choice words

I remember being upset I hadn't managed to deliver him on my own, but just thought that if it was 100 years ago we'd probably both have died so told myself to "get over it". I hope it goes more naturally with DC2 but as long as he/she is healthy I don't mind how they come out.