Due June 2011? please join me!!!

[BarbieLovesKen]

Anyone??? or am I on my own for a little while yet?? Due the 1st. Received a strong BFP today, 11dpo and AF due next Wednesday.

How long are people waiting to tell family? I am feeling like I want the privacy so we're leaning towards 10 or 12 weeks with our parents and siblings. Right now we have each told one friend. Of course, that puts it right around Thanksgiving (here in the States) which I'm undecided on...

We're planning on telling our immediate families in a couple of weeks because if anything goes wrong they're the people we'll need to rely on for help.

As for friends etc I think, like you, we'll each pick one person to tell straight away and then everyone else will be told after the 12 week scan, again all being well.

Hi everyone, sorry not posted in a while, have got a terrible stomach bug so not been out of bed since Monday. Am on re-hydration powder (yuk) as I've lost a lot of fluids.

Rosie I am so so sorry to hear your news. How awful for you. I hope you are feeling ok. Its been lovely speaking to you so let us know how you get on on the July bus

Congratulations to all the newcomers - Janice I know you didn't want a list of names but I'm losing track so is it ok just to have a bit of a round up?? (sorry bit dull I know!)

GoodVibrations EDD 25th May (DD1 21 months)

Forgot to say, I've already told family (parents & brother) plus a couple of friends and work (boss, HR and couple of others), but only because of all my problems at work really. With DD1 we told parents at 10 weeks and then everyone else at 14 weeks. For me first time around I couldn't bear anyone knowing if something went wrong. This time around I feel that I would need their support.

Oh and my appetite has come back with a vengeance . I am craving fatty food so much have just send DH to McDonalds!!!

I've got nothing against a list of names GV - what I meant about that thread was that it was just a series of names lists with minor alterations. Really dull, but maybe they had a chat thread somewhere else!!

GoodVibrations EDD 25th May (DD1 21 months)
CuppaTeaJanice EDD 29th May (DS 29 months)

We don't have to put our ages, do we?

Ha ha Janice no, I did remember seeing ages on another thread but decided against it :) Not that I'm ashamed of my age but don't really want reminding of it too often (and I think there are a few young 'uns on this thread!)

Hi all,

Sorry I havent been on for a while!. Although am still on maternity leave from work, Im back at college 2 nights a week and DDs scor club for music has started back up 2 nights a week (and meetings have went on until 12!! Grr.. ) plus internet was down for 3 days for some completely unexplained reason.

A huge welcome and congratulations to all the newcomers. So sorry Rosieposey to hear your news

Im going to be really lazy and not answer everyone personally, which I did intend on doing but theres been so many posts, Im going to be half the night clicking back and forward.

Sorry for being so rude, as I dont know names but someone asked about not being offered a job because your pregnant - definately not. This would be discrimination and completely illegal (and studying law) however, as someone else pointed out, they more than likely will find a different reason not to, should they know your pregnant, ifkwim.

So sorry to hear so many are having such awful times in work.

We wont be telling dd about baby until 12 week scan. I couldnt bear to explain it to her if something was to go wrong plus it shortens the wait for her - 9 months is waaaay to long for little people to wait!.

Hows everyone feeling?

(great idea goodvibrations:)

GoodVibrations EDD 25th May (DD1 21 months)
CuppaTeaJanice EDD 29th May (DS 29 months)
BarbieLovesKen EDD 1st June (DD 4.11 & DS 8months)

Hi all,hope you are fully recovered soon Goodvibrations.
I have told a few people about pg as will need their support if it goes wrong.I shall tell my eldest 2 after my first scan 6wks( have had previous ectopic) and will tell my youngest after my CVS. She wont understand the long wait so the longer we hold out the better
Still not made an apt to see the Dr yet but i did do another pg test, just to make sure (again) it said pg 2-3wks so am calm now...well for a few more days.

GoodVibrations EDD 25th May (DD1 21 months)
CuppaTeaJanice EDD 29th May (DS 29 months)
BarbieLovesKen EDD 1st June (DD 4.11 & DS 8months)
Totallyfloaty35 EDD 3rd June (DD 15,DD12.9 & DD 3.11)

I've only done one test but ordered some cheapies on ebay so when they arrive, I'll do another one...and try to resist doing one every single day
I've told 2 of my sisters, two friends and the girls at horseriding - had to explain why I was suddenly sitting in the middle instead of riding.

GoodVibrations EDD 25th May (DD1 21 months)
CuppaTeaJanice EDD 29th May (DS 29 months)
BarbieLovesKen EDD 1st June (DD 4.11 & DS 8months)
Totallyfloaty35 EDD 3rd June (DD 15,DD12.9 & DD 3.11)
Sasamaxx EDD 5th June (DS 4.9, DD 2.4)

Hi

I've told my dentist! We do plan on telling our folks at the weekend but I feel a bit nervous about it. It's our first and will also be their first grandchild - I so want everything to go smoothly. I of course, want this for everyone here too :)

GoodVibrations EDD 25th May (DD1 21 months)
CuppaTeaJanice EDD 29th May (DS 29 months)
BarbieLovesKen EDD 1st June (DD 4.11 & DS 8months)
Totallyfloaty35 EDD 3rd June (DD 15,DD12.9 & DD 3.11)
Imarriedafrog EDD 4th June [DD 6,DD 5, DD 4, DS 2]
Sasamaxx EDD 5th June (DS 4.9, DD 2.4)
melltobe EDD 1st June (first timer!)

GoodVibrations EDD 25th May (DD1 21 months)
CuppaTeaJanice EDD 29th May (DS 29 months)
BarbieLovesKen EDD 1st June (DD 4.11 & DS 8months)
Totallyfloaty35 EDD 3rd June (DD 15,DD12.9 & DD 3.11)
Imarriedafrog EDD 4th June [DD 6,DD 5, DD 4, DS 2]
melltobe EDD 1st June (first timer!)
Sasamaxx EDD 5th June (DS 4.9, DD 2.4)
OverThePond EDD mid-June (first timer)

The damn doctor did not call before closing with my hcg levels so I've not a clue if I'm up down or sideways and am still spotting. She did send in the mail three more days of lab slips so I am to go in every other day for a blood draw until my arm is black and blue apparently. On the up side, I'm clearing all sorts of projects off my to do list as I'm so anxious and in need of distraction.

GoodVibrations EDD 25th May (DD1 21 months)
CuppaTeaJanice EDD 29th May (DS 29 months)
BarbieLovesKen EDD 1st June (DD 4.11 & DS 8months)
Totallyfloaty35 EDD 3rd June (DD 15,DD12.9 & DD 3.11)
Imarriedafrog EDD 4th June [DD 6,DD 5, DD 4, DS 2]
melltobe EDD 1st June (first timer!)
Sasamaxx EDD 5th June (DS 4.9, DD 2.4)
OverThePond EDD mid-June (first timer)
Igglybuff EDD 29 May (DS 1)

I've told work as have to and one friend. It doesn't seem real at all though.

Did another test today - still positive
Bought some of those cheapy ebay test strips - need to lock them away or something or I'll accidentally do them all...

Me too sasa bought one from tescos. Also ordered some from eBay

lol iggly - we'll be at it every day

Ladies I need some help, I am completely paranoid that something will go wrong with this pg. My friend recently had a MMC at 12 weeks, no pain or bleeding at all, she had no idea. We were pg together last time aswell :(

I know there is always a risk, but I think I am becoming neurotic. I have been so ill with this stomach bug, that I am convinced I have no symptoms at all and that everything I thought I had was just the stomach bug/ stress related. I keep comparing to my last pg, which I know is silly. I am also stopping myself taking any more tests, otherwise I would be seriously obsessed. I last tested on day on day 39 (now on day 44) and it was a strong bfp. Cycle was very irregular (39 days was the longest ever, was more around day 30), so do you think I should test again?. DH says no and is starting to get annoyed with me (not suprisingly).

Please can someone send me some positive vibes :)

GV here are some positive vibes coming your way. It's bloody hard not to worry - I'm worrying as I've told people at work (hence doing another test). It's almost like I think if I tell people too early then it'll go wrong! I'm doing my best not to think about it, to eat healthy, rest when I can and get plenty of sleep if DS lets me. to you. If I were you, I'd step away from the tests and distract yourself for a week or so then see how you feel.

GV it's totally understandable to be feeling a bit paranoid given your friend's sad news. It's the same as if anything bad happens to someone close to us - if someone's had a car crash we're nervous about driving for a while, if someone loses their job then we work extra hard to make sure we don't lose ours. It's human nature. And being laid low with this lurgy doesn't help you gain a positive light on the world at the moment.

I don't think you'll gain anything from testing again. You know you're pregnant. Better to focus on getting yourself healthy and happy. Do things and spend time with people who make you feel good. And remember MMCs are relatively rare (although they seem more common, and much closer to home when someone you know has recently had one) and there is no reason why your pregnancy shouldn't have a happy ending!

Thanks so much Iggly and Janice - just the reassurance I needed :) I won't test, I will try very hard to relax and get rid of this awful bug. Sorry to be so miserable, I'm not normally like this, honest!

Aw GoodVibrations, you poor thing. You are completely normal to have worries like this, since my MC last year Im completely neurotic over every little thing so I really understand how you feel.

Think cuppateajanice has put it perfectly and dont think I could add anything else other than to echo everything. I too dont think you have anything at all to gain from repeat testing. I hope you feel better soon m'love.

Goodvibrations I sympathize completely, keep your chin up. I'm sending you positive thoughts.

GoodVibrations lots of well wishes coming from me too. A yucky stomach bug is enough to make anyone feel awful, let alone having to cope with the "am I, am I not?" worry. I'd try to avoid tests now though. You've had your BFP so try to have faith in that. Do you have a kind doctor? They might be able to reassure you too, I do hope so. I think there are plenty of us who don't have pg symptoms yet (me included) so I'd say it's still completely normal - that's what my book says too. Lots of rest, lots of water and get rid of this bug :)

GoodVibrations I too sympathise completely. It's understandable to worry when you're close to someone who's had a miscarriage and think it'll happen to you too. All I can do is ditto what everyone else has said. I know it's hard but try to focus on the positives. I'm not having any what I would call "proper pregnancy symptoms" either but it's early days. I'm just enjoying the moment because no doubt morning sickness etc is waiting just around the corner!

Goodvibrations,

try not to work yourself up.Sorry you're feeling yucky as well, ugh.

Your pregnancy is not your friend's pregnancy; yes, it can happen (it's happened to me the same way), but the odds are very good that it won't happen to you, so try to enjoy the idea of your pregnancy. First, it's normal to have that feeling of ''Am I really pregnant?'' because you may not feel like it, but that's because we often want something tangible to reassure us. You'll soon have something tangible, sure enough ( a big, fat belly, lol).

Hope you have a good day today

x

Yvonne